Delsco

I try to avoid the trend of negativity that pervades this site, but alas - here I go...

I see submissive women write in their profiles that they do not want to see pictures of guys cocks.  They mention that it is tasteless, classless and vulgar.  I happen to agree with them.  If all you have to offer (in your own mind) is a picture of your dick - you lack allure, to say the least. 

Does this not include pictures of women sucking on cocks?  To see someone with a dick stuffed into their face is revolting.  Personally, in my search for a counterpart, seeing this does nothing to increase the woman's worth.  It shows a lack of class the same way a guy shooting off jpegs of his unit does.  Leave something to the imagination would you? 

Is it that you are demonstrating you are willing to suck a cock?  Trust me, I KNOW you would be sucking cock, baby. 

And while I am at it.  GUYS - if you are trans, there is a tab for that.  If you have a pair swinging between your legs, or were born a male, you are not a female and never will be.  I don't care if you identify with being a woman and have the gnarliest panty collection ever.   

"Better is bread with a happy heart than wealth with vexation."

I made an acquaintance with a young lady here who was looking for a "daddy".  She was not up to the task of giving me what I needed, but did spark an interest in this area. 

I am now interested in exploring this with a young lady who is able and willing to explore it with me.  This type of D/s relationship is new to me, but I look forward to learning more. 

It seems to me that those who make a point of complaining about grammar, spelling and the use of shorthand say some of the dumbest things I've seen on Collarme. 

It is projection at its finest. 

There is a concept I run across on this site that gives me pause - the idea of submission being a "gift".  I disagree with this notion whole-heartedly.  This is not to say someone's submission is not worthy of appreciation - but a gift?  I think not.  Being submissive or dominant is simply the orientation of a person practicing this lifestyle.  They would not be doing it otherwise.   

Is my dominance a gift?  No, it is simply who I am and I comfortable in my own skin.  I have a certain amount of respect for someone who is not ashamed of who they are - submissive, dominant or switch.  It seems to me those who insist that their role is a gift are simply ashamed (or at the very least uncomfortable) of who they are.  In those cases, keep your "gift" - who would want it?

I compare my dominance to the action of a choke collar.  If you follow my lead and guidance, it is almost as if there is no restriction at all.  However, if you decide to pull and fight - the grip tightens and you will surely suffocate.

I think to have a successful run in the world of BDSM, one has to be able to differentiate between fantasy and reality.  Misunderstanding and even danger will occur, if we are not able to make this distinction. 

One of the things I notice quite a bit in this lifestyle are those who are seeking "the one".  As if, in this entire world of BDSM (never mind the world at large), there is one sole person who will be able to compliment you fully.  It shows lack of foresight and will ultimately be a set up for disappointment.  With that attitude you put undue pressure on both you and the person who you are interested in making a connection with.  It forces both partners to subconsciously uphold some level that is simply fantasy.  

What many do not know is that the concept of "romance" as we know it - the riding off into the sunset with the "one" was introduced by arabic troubadours in the 10th century.  Before that, no such ideas existed.  Even more, our culture is the ONLY one that has or ever has used this model for mating pairs (marriage, etc).  We base intimacy off of the creative workings of travelling musicians!  No wonder why things are so off balance and divorce rates are where they are.  Vanilla or S&M, we are influenced by this culture - each and every one of us.  

Therefore, "know thyself" and do not look to another to make yourself complete.  Stop having unrealistic expectations for a person to fulfil your every need.  Take each moment and situation as they are, and you just might find that all elusive "one".

I have additional photos available.  I cannot seem to upload them though.  If you want to see them, just ask.

If you send one dime to these cyber-hookers, the term LOSER does not do your sad nature justice.  Have some respect for yourselves. 

L'enfer c'est les autres.

- Jean-Paul Sartre