The last few months have taught me something. I am ok being alone, I am a strong person and able to take care of myself. Sure, I get lonely, but rather have that then to settle for something just to be with someone. I have found, that no matter how much you stimulate a body, if you can't do the same with the brain, there is nothing to substain a relationship. I need more than to sit in front of the tv before play with no conversation. I need someone that is strong enough to be alone if we can't be together, and won't go sniffing elsewhere. Am still learning.....

Two things I have noticed since my return back to this website. One am told they are different than the rest, and that they respect boundaries. Truth is you aren't different, because you don't have that respect. Let me explain, boundaries are not just for the kink in the bedroom. They are when someone says email communication only for awhile, or that when they will meet you, no play and meet in a public place. I have been disrepected by many on here already, bashing me per say for not giving out my yahoo and one has stopped talking to me because I wouldn't play at a first meeting, heck he won't even meet now. When you refuse to respect these simple things, how in the heck do you expect someone to trust that you will respect the boundaries in the kink? Why does it bother you that someone values safety? Here if one is threaten, you have the administrators to contact, you dont' have that in yahoo. And first meetings, I am not going to know you well enough to go somewhere private, it is my life on the line. You can say you are safe all you want, but I don't know you. And if you can't respect that, then you won't be someone i can trust to tie me up.

I really do believe that conversation is a dying art. So many here just want to talk about kink, lifestyle and sex and I am begining to wonder if they have any interests outside in the vanilla world. Although, don't get me wrong, I am a very kinky person, but at the end of the day there is so much more to talk about than such kink. I like to learn new things out in the world, read the news and debate over subjects like politics and religion.