BlkMaster4whit

What I am looking for is women who are willing to chat via email and POSSIBLY phone who can help Me develop My female characters. I am currently working on a book and am finding My ladies sound and act more like men.

I am also working on a few scenes that can use a woman's touch/ input: a love making scene between man and woman, a cat fight between two women, various scenes where the women are trying to find out what the men are doing, the same women receiving a very special gift from their men, as well as other scene that needs to be worked on.

Are you interested? If so, please email Me directly and lets chat a bit to see if we are a good fit for this project.

Thanks

My newest toy for My toy bag has arrived.  You can see the new pictures of it.   I chose the royal red color.   I am trying to decide if I should also get a purple one as well.  What do you think?  Or should I wait till My future lady tries it and decides that she "like it"?

Maybe My prays have been answered.  I will not rush it...I till take My time and see what develops slowly.  But I am really liking this!!!!

I found a few places of land that I think would make a great location for My home/ castle.  I need to drive by in the evenings and late night to see what I see and hear.

Not sure if anyone on here read the journal entries, but if you have a medical background, I would like to pick your brains on books that I am currently writing.   Email Me for details.   Thank you

Well dinner plans with a sick friend end when she decided that we can ONLY be friends and that she is too tired AGAIN to see Me. This is the SECOND time she canceled so that she could rest or as she put it "Something came up". This is why I find it very hard to trust women today. Be HONEST.  If the guy is honest, be honest back. Oh well BACK TO THE drawing board!

(1)Time for Me to head out and start dating again.  Maybe this time I will find one who will pass the test and not call Me an ass because I am not going to wait for her beckon call.

(2)For the record ladies, if you are going to be rude and mean to a guy, do not expect a Man to stand by and take it.  If you are sick or injured, and the Man tells you that he will wait for you and that he Loves you, do not tell Him that you love Him.  Those three words will steel a Man and He will wait for you.  He will stand by you.  He will respect you and your Doctors wishes and wait till you are healed and free from Doctor care.  A REAL Man will not care how horny He is.  He does care how hot and wet you are.  If the Doctor says "No Sex."  He will accept that and live with it.  He will go with out, no masturbating, nothing while you heal.  Why?  Because you both said to each other "I Love You".

I do like reading various profiles and a few do catch My eye.  Since I date ONLY interracial, I have written quite a few.  However very few will write back and say anything one way or another.   

That is why I do like women who have a backbone AND who place in their profile that they are not interested in Black men.  At least they have the courage to speak up and save Me the trouble of writing.

So ladies, if you are so strong, then stand up and be honest in your profile.  If you are open to any race, then SAY SO.  If you like black men only, then SAY SO.  If you are only into white guys, then SAY SO.  I am sure it would be better than clicking DELETE all the time.

Once again, I have fallen prey to the double standard:

What is good for the goose is NOT good for the gander.

I think I am just better off with being single, have my cat, build My house, write My books and live My life in peace and silence.   

I do not mind a woman having someone that she is interested in when I first contact her, be honest and upfront and tell Me.  Do not start talking to Me and then the next time I log on, I find you are now under consideration by someone that you have been talking to.  Ladies call guys that do that: PLAYERS, FAKES, ETC, ETC.  Ladies call themselves:  exploring their options. 

Personally, I avoid anyone who is under consideration or who is collared out of respect.  I do not need to be in the middle of any kind of drama.  Where is the respect that you are demanding a guy gives you?

I am tired of being an option, when I make them a priority.  It seems the only ones who are interested in Me are those who want My cock and only My cock.   They are not interested in the rest of the man.  I can write them a few hundred times, but if I wait for them to write Me, I will be a sack of bones before I hear anything.

I think My problem is that I was raised By My mother and the nuns to speak proper English and not to talk like a street thug.  I was raised to be very respectful and talk to a woman as a person and not as an object.  Today's women think that a black man as to act like a gangsta or a drug dealer.  They buy into the movies and stereotypes that they see and read and think that a real man has to act like that.  The sad fact is that there are MANY black males who play that game because it WORKS!  It get them between her legs and that is all that matters. 

One day, My ship will come in:  My books will be published, I will land that killer job, hit the winning lotto numbers....LOL.  I just hope to be able to find someone that can see that there is more to a man than just getto talk, a black cock and trying to look all evil and bad ass.  I am just learning not to hold My breath

Hmm, I wrote you several times and asked you various questions to start  conversation.  Instead you choose to ignore Me /  write 3 to 5 words at most. 

Oh well, I am tool old for this kind of game.  Best wishes to you in your journeys.  Perhaps one day you will be treated the same way you treated Me.  One cannot demand respect if you are not willing to give it.

What am I seeking from the Universe?

I am seeking a partner who is ready.  Not someone who is out to play games or acts like she is so good looking that she does not have to respect anyone.  I want someone who is for real.  who can open up and respect Me as much as I can open up and respect her.  I want someone who is honest in her needs and desires.  Someone who is not afraid to share her thoughts, feelings and her fears.  Someone who like Me, will put it all on the line and will bear her heart and soul willingly.  That is what I want from the Universe. 

Why do I want that from the Universe?

Because I am ready and willing to do all of the above.  I keep doing it in hopes that someone will see Me for what I have to give.  That I am not perfect, nor do I want to be.  Someone who will see Me for the Man that I am and the Man that I can become with them.  Someone who can see beyond the faults and gray hair and see the fire and passion that dwells within Me.    Someone who sees a Man who strives each day to be better and better.

What I seek is a balance and harmony that comes from a perfect union that develops over time.  What I seek is a star that will burn beyond O(our) lives and not the lust that winks out in a matter of seconds.  I have not touched another woman because I want that every lasting fire.  I wait for her.  I prepare Myself for her.  I travel the Universe in search of her.


Does she search for Me?

I am seeing more and more slaves and submissives requesting that they be a in house slave /submissive or a "stay at home" and that the Master /Daddy be "financially secure (able to provide for a slave/submissive)"...etc.

I do not have anything against a 50's wife so to speak, but there is no way I will trust someone to do with right off the bat.  They will have to earn that right, just like I would have to ear the right to collar them.  It is a give and take.

I do believe that a Master should be able to take care of His sub / slave.  However, after the crash and the massive country wide lay offs and people who are STILL on unemployment lines, I think it is better for BOTH to work and BOTH have a solid income to bring to the table.

There is nothing more annoying that writing someone and starting a conversation with them AND they only use three or six word sentences.  If you are going to talk to someone, TALK TO THEM or at least be nice and say "Thanks, but no thanks."

This is the time of year for family and friends. This is the time of year to share love and happiness. This is also the time of year where people are at their weakest. This is the time of year when suicide rises among a core group of people. I am referring to Vets and single people.

Singles are generally left out of the conversation. They are left out of family activities, because they may have no family of their own. They may not have children to share the holidays with. No children to brag about, let alone talk about. They may not have family that is either still alive or that they can reach. They may have recently had a break up and no find themselves alone for the holidays. Do remember them.

Vets also suffer in silence. Male Vets are the one most likely to commit suicide. Why? because they are considered less a man if they reach out. Tey are considered weak for saying "I am afraid". They come back to a country that will celebrate a select few, will help even fewer and who brushes aside the rest. I can only talk about the male side, but I am sure that the female Vets are suffering just as much.

If you can not understand where I am coming from with this, just imagine this:

you are single
you have no children
your family is either dead or vanished without a trace
you live alone
you may or may not even have friends. Once a single becomes a couple, they often pull away from single people and start doing couple things
now imagine this 24 / 7, 7 days a week and doing this for MONTHS if not YEARS.

This holiday, I ask that you think about your single friends ( male or female) and think about those Vets( again both male and female) who are alone this coming holiday season. Call them. Talk to them. Share some good quality time with them. Let them know that they are not alone in this time of year.

from a single Vet

If you want a relationship to work then you have to work at it.  Both men AND women must work at it.  Make time to meet, make time to share, talk to one another, support one another, It is not just about the sex.  It is about the connection.

To make a relationship work, it takes trust.  Trust and commitment on both sides. 

Very boring today.    At home playing online poker.  

The BEST way to ask a woman to marry you......make a movie trailer!

http://comedy.video.yahoo.com/?lid=24038709&vid=25260839

I am so glad that I have a new woman in My life.   She does make Me smile and makes each day worth living.  Each day I grow closer and closer to her.

We are trying to reach out to make new friends and enjoy life more.  It is a pity that we have not been able to find people who want to be friends and who do not think of friendship as something sexual.

At least W/we have each other.

it is amazing how many on here who are not real and who are not open to friendship.  So many when you say to them that you are just looking to make friends that they run off screaming, yet in their profile they state that they want someone to respect them, be honest with them and treat them like a person.  Kinda hard to do that when you are only interested in one thing and one thing only.  Just makes you go Hmmmm

I turned down a woman who wanted to fuck on the first date.  She claimed to be looking for something long term and in the end it was just her desire to get naked that went against what I am looking for.  SHe was freaking hot and I could seriously see some real hot and wild times with her.

Seriously, I am NOT against getting laid.   But if you are looking for a long term relationship and you start it off around sex, then what do you think and where do you think the relationship is going?  I just want something for real and someone who is attracted to Me for something more than just the size of My cock or the like.

Truth of the matter is that I am FREAKING HORNY and to stay this path is down right difficult!   LOL

Break time from My studies....Need to get out and clear My mind.

Happy Thanksgiving to All My Friends and Lifestylers  

This is the time of year to reflect, share, grow and love. This is the time of year to remember what is important in life. All the fancy toys, gadgets, and expensive little things mean nothing in this world. All they are is a waste of time and money. When a fire or hurricane or flood comes through, they are washed away or destroyed.

What matters is that you have the love and support of your family or loved one.

Remember those who have lost loved ones, do reach out to them on this day and let them know they are loved.

Remember those who have no family, open your heart to them. Show them that they are part of the human family

Remember those who are down on their luck and help them stand and function again.

Above all, remember to love yourself. There is no greater gift you can give Yourself.

Happy Thanksgiving

Helping a friend deal with a life changing issue: genital warts, herpes

This person made a mistake and is no paying for it. As more time goes by, she has revealed more and more of what she can remember. If you do not agree with what I am saying or HOW I am saying it, take it off line with Me. Please do not take away from the primary reason why I am posting it here: To get newbies to THINK BEFORE THE ACT. Or as another person who wrote Me in private said:

"Sometimes when a person is starving for something, hunger clouds that person's judgment. And being fresh meat makes her a target for trolls/men who use this for selfish sex on demand and not for the love of the power exchange."

With that said, here is a copy of My journal entry (with the Owner's permission):

A person who was fast becoming a friend received some very bad news. After sitting down with her and talking about everything that has happened, she has come to a very tough decision. I am rtying very hard to keep her together and sane. I did ask her for permission to write about it in My Journal. She agreed as long as I did not mention her name or where she lived.

She entered the lifestyle after a rough and painful marriage. She wanted to live and enjoy the things that she was not able to enjoy while married. When our paths crossed, she was very eager to explore. I tried to help her learn and grow. I tried to guide her and slow her down so she make sound decision. She wanted to play and be sexual. I had refused pending a test to show that she is clean (since I have to look out for My precious and O/our health and safety). She agreed saying she understood. I even suggested that I would gladly help her play with others as safely as possible

She decided to go to several parties and play with guys without protection. She was invited to and went to several private parties without Me there to help with her protection.

After a week of going to several parties on Friday thru Sun, she noticed a discharge with burning. Going to the doctor, she was told that additional testing needs to be done, but it looked like HPV or genital warts / herpes. She is waiting for the results, but there is a good chance she may have one or both.

I have to ask those who are entering the lifestyle, please, please slow down and learn more about the lifestyle and understand that being sexual is only a SMALL Part of the BDSM lifestyle. If you are going to be sexual, please get to know who you are playing with and make sure that you have accurate information. If you are a single lady, NEVER NEVER go to a party by yourself. Have someone go there with you. Someone who you can trust with YOUR MOTHER'S LIFE. I have taken submissive to gang bangs/ playing with several men. I watched them to make sure the guys wore condoms and even made sure I had as much information as I could get. I never left them alone and brought in bottled water for her to drink.

If you are talking to someone who claims to have experience in the lifestyle, then I ask that you listen to them as well as use common sense.

What is done is done. Now, I have to help a woman pull her life back together and help her move forward. I will be honest, this will be one of the hardest things that I will have ever have to do.

I am looking for a roommate who is lifestyle friendly. Major plus if you are submissive and open to possible relationship with Myself and My precious.

I am on the North side of Las Vegas and am looking for someone to share expenses at My residence. Your own room and parking space.

You are expected to be serious, prefer single and committed to the lifestyle. Please look over O/our profile and contact Me with any questions.

Three icons from My youth have died in the span of a single week. I still remember the poster of Farrah on the back of My bedroom door (My mother was not one for posters all over the room.) I remember watching the Price is Right every summer and on days when it was vacation, sick day from school. Now Michael Jackson, regardless of what some would called him, died at the young age of 50.

Life is too short. If you waste it, there is no undo or re-wind button. It is simply game over.

To all that read this, know that life is precious. DO not waste it with games, fakes, pushing things off till tomorrow, and the like. Do not waste the time. Deal with it now. Do it now. Hug them now. Regardless of all the money that you earn, no matter how big a burial, the results are the same. You came into this would with nothing and you will leave with nothing.

Leave some good memories. For that is the only real way that you will live forever

I am looking for a kinky friendly person who is willing to share an apartment. Your own room and 1/2 all the bills. Must be able to provide references and security deposit.

Room for rent...... you need to be kinky or kink friendly. I mean seriously kinky.  $375 monthly plus 1/2 utilities. I have include wireless internet.

If you would like more information drop Me a private email.

There are times that I have to yield to a much more powerful force.

Mother Nature kicked My butt today! I also understand how people can burn down their houses.

I was going to deep fry a turkey for the first time. I thawed the turkey for two days, injected it with a onion, butter and herb mix, let it sit for about an hour. I scoped out the area that I was going to set up the fryer. Other than land mines from someone's dog, the area was perfect, the wind were low and I was ready.

About an hour later I go out to set up and fire up the fryer and the winds were HOWLING! I guess Mother Nature wanted no part of Me and any type of outdoor flame. I tried, but the winds were too strong and it was clear that it would be a losing battle. SO in the oven the bird goes for about 4 hours.

GRRRRRR!

I demand a re-match

Words for thought:I read this article today on yahoo and have to agree with it.

Have you suffered from hearing the words, "You're a really nice guy, but I only like you as a friend," from a woman who you would do (or may, in fact, have already done) just about anything and everything for -- only to turn around and watch her date (or even chase) a guy who treats her like she's nothing special? And are you stumped wondering why she would date a guy who treats her like that when she could have you who would treat her like a princess and give her everything she wants? Well, you better brace yourself because I'm going to tell you a couple of secrets that you might not want to hear.

First, "nice" equates with boring and predictable. Look up "nice" in the dictionary and you find: pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory. In other words, average -- not exceptional, not exciting, and not sexy.I'll bet you've never heard a woman say she didn't want to date a guy because he was too confident, too passionate, or too exciting -- have you? But, I'll bet you have heard women say things like, "He's such a nice guy. He's so sweet and he's always there for me, but I only like him as a friend." Or, "He's such a good guy -- kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal -- but there's no chemistry. He just doesn't turn me on." Sadly, I hear it all the time. The fact is, Mr. Nice Guy, you cannot bore a woman into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you. And as obvious as that sounds, if you are one of those guys I described that is exactly what you are trying to do. And it won't work.

Please understand that I am not suggesting that you mistreat women or disrespect them in any way. What I suggesting is that you value and respect yourself more.

To illustrate what I mean: The answer to the question, "Why does the guy who doesn't appear to care as much about the girl get the girl?" is simple: The nice guy cares too much, too soon. He has made the woman too important and too valuable and it shows in everything he says and does. He is too available, too eager to please, too accommodating, and he gives too much -- all without getting anything in return. By doing so, he has made himself appear desperate, insecure, needy of this woman's attention, affection, and approval -- and he has stripped himself of any value in her eyes. After all, if he's already doing and giving everything, without her doing or giving anything - why would she value him? She won't. She is not going to value him any more than he values himself. What she is going to do is look for someone else, someone who she perceives as being more worthy, more confident, and more valuable.

It works like this: Once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiation. You are in a position of weakness and you are perceived as weak. Someone (or something) else is in control of you, the situation, and it's outcome. Men in this situation appear to be anything but confident, strong, and exciting. More, they are perceived as being unworthy and as lacking value.

Translation: Things that are easily acquired, obtained, or maintained, without any effort or sacrifice, lack value... it's human nature.

What does this mean to the average guy. It just repeats what we already knew: woman want a guy with a little bad attitude to him. Someone who is cocky, a bit of an ego and someone who "they" have to chase. The sad part is that when a nice guy learns of this, He is quick to develop an bad attitude and even learns not to be there for her all the time. It is only then that woman learns that some games are not worth pain and effort.

Good thing I learned My lesson before this report. I can think of a few that I washed My hands of becuase of the running back to Me when they needed a savior, friend, lover, buddy or the like. I learned to close that door a LONG TIME AGO

I received this from a female who read My journal entry:


I am curious why any woman would be proud to be high maintenance.  Well, unless she is high maintenance and maintains herself.  High maintenance, is that the same as a gold digger?  Isnt a gold digger the same as a prostitute in a sense.  I mean they pick men with money, sleep with them, date them, all for the sake of money.

I like to think of it like this.....  if we were homeless and had to live in our car, or under some bridge somewhere, would be still be okay with that, if we still had our loved one by our side, would our loved one love us enuff to be by our side if things got that bad.  Would our loved one stay with us if we became (God forbid) a quadrapalegic, and they had to do everything for us and never have sex?

ALOT to think about when making serious decisions about a person.

EXCELLENT THOUGHT PROVOKING JOURNAL ENTRY.

I logged on and a random person profile popped up.  I was struck by the journal entry and something that she said in her profile. 

She said that she was a down to earth woman    Later in one of her journal entries, she stated that she was a “high maintenance” woman and that men should just think about why they are complaining when they say that they do not want a high mantenance woman.   I for one am one of those who does not like that in a woman

If she has to have the latest in everything, nails perfect, the hottest / sexiest car and the like, does that really show that a relationship is solid and long lasting?   Or does it scream that she is there for as long as the $$$ hold out?   What happen to the lifestyle?  What happen to love?   I open the paper and I see dozens of homes being foreclosed on due to people living well over their means.  What good is it if you lose the house but have that 70" flat screen?

Too many guys I know, both in and out of the lifestyle have watched their “loves” walk out the door when times are tough.   Show Me a woman who can can dirty with the best, do backing breaking work and who cleans up real good and she is more of a prize than any of the ones who look like a super model and who have not eaten a real meal in over 20 years. 

One guy I  know, was laid off from his job, came home and told his girlfriend of 2 year what happened.  What he did not tell her was that he had saved up enough cash in his savings to pay the bills for the rest of the year and then some( he was saving for a truck).  He went to the bank to verify the savings and when he came back, she had packed up her things and was out the door.  He had the last laugh when she came back (after running to her other boyfriend and he kicked her out ) and he was back working (in under 2 months).

Do not get Me wrong when I say that I want a woman to look nice and to be a woman.   I would like for her to have a nice car, a nice career and have nice things.   But if that means that I have to spend more on her than on My house, there is an issue.   If she was to get all these things for herself, great.  But if she is focused on having the latest and is living on the edge of financial ruin, then I would certainly not want her around.  But in the end, does it really matter if you have a  $45,000 car, two homes,  $1,000 Gucci sunglasses, and manicures / pedicures, if you can not pay your bills or you kick the bucket?    Unless someone knows something that I do not know, you can not take it with you.  All the fancy clothes in the world mean nothing.   In fact there is a man  from London, England,  who is willing to give away $38 million  from the Lottery winnings there, for one simple wish:  He is dying and would want to spend  a few more years living with his wife, Ida.  


To Me, he clearly understands what is important.  

Someone had placed an journal entry that touched very deeply. So deeply that I had to respond via My own journal entry. This versions address what I see wrong in current American women and the lifestyle. My next entry will be more on what is wrong with American Men from a Man's point of view. These are thoughts and feelings based on what I have seen over the years. They are not directed at any one person and to take this as such is a sign that you may have more personal issues that you have to deal with.

Women are attracted and drawn to many of the same characteristics in men. It does not matter if they are submissive or a Domme, they want a man who takes charge and who is able to make decisions, strong, aggressive, romantic and a clear communicator. If a man waffles a bit, he is walked on by woman and used just as fast. Women can respect a strong man as mentioned before, but quickly lose respect for a man who they can step on and mold into what they want. But once a woman has a strong man, what is it that they do? They work on changing him.

A submissive said:  

"So what do most American woman do? They have tried to neuter men. They all talk about fifty/fifty relationship but are not willing to meet a man half way in the mental area. Men are different then women. They do not talk about feelings all that much, they are visual creatures, they are geared to get what they want in an aggressive manner. American women though pound into their heads that they should defer to their wishes, their natural desires and interest are wrong and that the things that woman are drawn to and make them successful in other parts in their life are now wrong and selfish in their relationship."

I have said it over and over again. Men and Women are different. While a man needs to be able to meet a woman on her needs, desires, passions, etc, what I see is women not wanting to meet a man on the very same points.

Men are visual. That is the way Mother Nature designed us. What is sexy about a woman who dresses sloppy around the house? She does not have to dress sexy, but from a man’s point of view, why would he look her and think that she is sexy and attractive when she does not even take time to do clean herself up a bit. If you want to go out with her, it takes her about an hour or two to get ready. Why? Because she has to do all the things that she did not do so that she looks good in public. What about in private? Makeup is not always needed, but do not look like you are just rolling out of bed when it is 3 PM. A nice blouse and jeans is fine. Heck even a house dress is cool. Lipstick is fine or some touch up with "LIGHT" make is very nice. When you walk around in your worn out pajamas or worn out clothes all the time, what does that tell Him? That you do not care about your appearance let alone that you do not care about the relationship.

So what happens when an American woman captures their man? The desires to be spontaneous vanishes. They want to do only what they want and not what he wants. They can not handle it if He speaks his mind and only want to hear what they , the woman want to hear. Be strong and macho, but only in the bedroom and only when they want it. They want a man to be romantic, but only if it is like what is in romance novels or what they see on Oparh. They change the man so that he is no longer what he was and has become what they can control and what no other woman would want. Why do you see many married men wearing clothes that no single man would ever buy? Because, their wives bought it for them and it clearly says to other women that they are spoken for.

 Sex is another area that is very touchy with American women. They are quick to tell you that they desire a man who mets all their sexual needs and desires. Most will tell you that they want a man to preform oral sex on them. Ask them to do the same for a man and you will hear something like: "Is that all you want? " Why is that? On a side nte, if a woman wants a man to go down on her, then make sure it is clean down there. Take a few minutes to freshen up before hoping in to bed or on to the sofa or whereever. Nothing is more of a turn off then finding pieces of toilet paper there, or her smelling like she has not washed in a few days. Is not a good sexual relationship one based on both a give and take? Is it moe about pleasing each other verses pleasing only yourself? I am amazed at how many women complain when their man want to get them some sexy outfit that turns them on. They will complain about how they feel or what it looks like on them. Perhaps they should also think about what kind of effect that it has on their man. As long as it turns them on, what does it matter. Granted if it was being done in a degrading manner, that is one thing, but as long as your man is pleased and turned on and you both in the end enjoy yourselves that is what counts. Heck, I am even looking for a nice pair of chaps so that I have something sexy to wear in the bedroom....LOL

It is hard to be the Man when the woman does not seem to respond. It is hard to get flowers for someone who does not get you flowers. HINT Ladies, real men can wear pink and do like receiving flowers and stuff like that. When you make a big production over it, it is a turn off. But, us Men like it as well. It is very upsetting when a woman can not make something for her Man that is not from a box. Cooking from scratch is a lost art. But if a man can cook, look out, then all you want is is him in the kitchen. If a guy was to buy all the gifts that "most" women expect and want, he would be broke. How many times has I heard as a man that you need to buy Me a ring, or an necklace or soe other form of gold/ sliver/ or whatever she likes? When was the last time a woman has brought a man something other than just power tools? I dj , when was the last time a woman has brought Me something that I can use for My business?

I have been told time and time again that what I see as attactive is wrong. Excuse Me, but has a Man, that is what I like and I can not control that any more than I can control the color of My skin. Just accept it and move on. Women will dress up in something sexy for some major event, bu what about a Friday night out? I was talking with some guys at work and one of biggest complaint is that women will not wear a skirt or heels any more. Sadly, they will dress like the guys: sweat shirt and pants. If you take them someplace special, dress pants and a blouse. What ever happen to a woman wearing a dress? What happen to a woman looking like a woman and wearing a skirt with a nice blouse? As a guy, I am expected to dress up when I go out, but I can not get the same in a woman? Or they will take it to the extreme and wonder why a guy reacts the way he does? Here is a good hint: wear a skirt or dress more than once a year and you may even get the guy to wear a suit or a tie more than once a year as well. Do that and you will discover that your man will even react in a much more positive way. Give a little to get a little.

A woman wrote "American woman are selfish and confused. They dress with barely there outfits and complain when men stare at them. They want their man to be considerate like notice when they are tired and take them out to dinner but then they always act like they want to be taken out to dinner so what difference does their man care." This is a very touchy area in that I know it all too well. I like My woman to dress in something sexy and even slutty. Who cares what others think as long as she is with Me. As long as I am pleased then, should it matter? So as an American man, I have to wonder what it would be like to have My woman dress in an outfit that I may see another woman wearing. A woman will dress sexy and even slutty when she is trying to catch a man. What happens after she catches him? The outfits vanish and she dresses more like a mother or an old lady. If you want a man to keep the spark in a relationship, then perhaps you should also work at it as well. Go and break out that skirt with the daring slit or the dress with the killer neck line. I believe that a man should constantly work at wearing what turns his woman on or find the scent that drives her wild. If all I wanted as a warm bed, I can get an electric blanket.

If you want a man to take care of you, then you need to work at taking care of him as well. If I work 6 days 12 hours a week and all I hear is how tired you are after working 30 or 40 hours, it quickly gets old. And if you are not working at all and you are complaining then, it will surely get My goat up. Be has hard working as your man. Why would I want to get all the nice toys and listen to that selfish line" What is yours is Mine and what is Mine is Mine."? To Me that just tells Me that you are too lazy to get it for yourself and that you will use a person. BOTH sides need to give equally. There is no excuse there. That is why so many guys are more interested in protecting their retirements and assets when they get involved or married. There are too many gold diggers out there and I am sorry, but I am a guy who has spent My life busting My ass to get what I got, I will not give it up or lose it to someone who is only in it for a free ride.

I see so many women who want their guy to work and yet cannot meet even the basic needs on the homefront. Dirt work clothes for Him. A dinner that is brought from a fast food place or one that he has to cook once he gets home. You looking like you have been in bed all day while he ran his ass into the ground for you. When I was out of work and My ex was working, I had dinner on the table for her and a bath ready for her when she got home ( something that I did for her that was special). I made sure that her clothes were clean and even made sure that I looked good for her when she walked in the door.

So what do I see attracts American women? The romance novel kind of guy. The tough Cowboy kind of guy. The hard motorcycle kind of guy. Give an American woman a nice guy and she can not handle it. She wants the wild bad boy. The problem is that when the wild bad boy mis-treats her, she comes running to the nice guy for a should to lean on and to cry to. If a woman was to really think about it, nice guys are just as wild and crazy as the bad boy. Give them a chance and you would be surpised. BUT if you tell a nice guy who likes to get wild and freaky that he is sick and wierd, then why did you get together with him in the first place? Clearly you were attacted to his wild side and now you want to beat it out of him? And when it is gone, complain that you want that wild, freaky side?

A good example of this is the number of women who say that they are bi. They are looking for a good solid relationship with a Dominant man, but once in that relationship, their bi side vanishes. If He says that he would like to play with her and another woman ( nothing sexually) or that he has a desire to be with two bi women at the same time, she is against it. Either she has done that with others and no longer interested. Or she can not handle the thought of him with another woman. Or she states that she is no longer bi. Or she states that no women is really attractive to her any more. If that is the case, then WHY HAVE IT IN YOUR PROFILE? That is like a guy saying that he has a 12" dick and he was using AOL inches and only has a 4" pecker. That is misleading. If that is one area that you both agreed on when you got together and you later change the rules, then why should a guy not be upset? If a guy says he likes going down on a woman and then stops all together once you two are together, that is wrong. Did he do that just to get you?

So what is an American guy to do? If he wants a woman who is a woman, does he look overseas for such? Does he look for someone who is 20 years younger so that he can build a BDSM relationship that is more of what they may BOTH want? Does He give up on finding a woman who is closer to his age and who is ready for a long term BDSM relationship becuase she has so much baggage that it drags the relationship down? Not sure, but I do know that it needs to change, for there is no reason why it has to be this way. There is no reason why an American woman can not be just as loving, caring, wild, outgoing, sexy, slutty and even a lady without the games. Ladies, please remember that it is a two way street and a good relationship requires BOTH parties to work at it.

Now I will stop here and My next entry will be what is wrong with Men from a MAN's point of view. It will be for sure just as long, if not longer...*S*

Hello possible Owner for this cuntslave!!! …..pls read carefully and answer me with a letter I deserve! pleas read my letter carefully and answer me with a letter I deserve! i know that i will only be a thing, meat or property that will goes with my  100% commitment.

.....I will leave the rest of the dribble out......

Bottom Line is that this is the LAST person I would want as a freind or as a partner.  Do not get Me wrong, I am very sadistic and evil and have nothing against a woman wanting that for themselves.    Even if she was My submissive or slave, I would be willing to do it.   

HOWEVER, it would be better to start off getting to know someone before you demand that they wrote you in the way you demand.   You should get to know them and let them get to know you BEFORE you go into a 3 page discussion on how great you enjoy being used as a fuck toy.   Someone like that would vanish at the first sign of something greener on the other side.

Not for Me

 "Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value."


 "We must learn to live together as brothers, or we are going to perish together as fools."


 "Non-violence is not inaction. It is not discussion. It is not for the timid or weak … Non-violence is hard work. It is the willingness to sacrifice. It is the patience to win."

I have just a few thoughts about the people in the lifestyle.   First directed to the Dominants / Dommes in the lifestyle and then the submissives / slaves

Would you as a male go to a woman in a bar to get on her knees and suck your cock?   Would you tell her to bend over and spread her ass cheeks?  Then why would you write a submissive and issue her commands?   I have talked to several submissives over the years and it is amazing that there are so many males on here that bring down the lifestyle with their large collection of toys and very little idea of what the lifestyle is all about.

Just because you place a Sir, Master or Lord in front of your name, that does give you the right to demand anything of a submissive that you have no contact or prior knowledge with.  I can understand if you have several months and even years of knowing that person.   I can understand even if you both have an interest in each other and you both decide to explore things together.   But, how can you expect someone to be submissive to you that neither of you have know prior knowledge of each other.

How can you demonstrate that you are in the lifestyle, if you have various photos of your penis and you in various nude positions?  Now I can understand if you are willing to tease and try to be a bit sexy, but why when a submissive asks for a photo, do you honestly thinks she wants to see your dick ( limp or hard).

I am surprised in the number of Dominants that feel that this is okay to act this way.   If you are one of those, then you need to grow up.   You need to rethink why you are in this lifestyle.   If you are only here for nothing but sexual release, then you are no better than the married guy who visits a hooker just to get a BJ. 

Now, Dommes are just as bad.  If you are going to demand that a submissive pay you homage and flood you with gifts, then you are no better than the males on here who try to command the submissives/slaves.

Now submissives /slaves, I have to ask the same of you.  If you are serious about the lifetyle, then why create a profile that doesn’t express what you are looking for beyond just the willingness to explore.   As a Dominant, I have to read and learn about the lifestyle over the years, I would expect you to do the same.  There are various books out there that you can read to help you become a but more aware of the lifestyle.   Not just the various romance novels, that only provides the wrong view of the lifestyle.   When I say the “wrong view”, I am referring to the highly romantic or overly sadistic view of the lifestyle.   What I am suggesting that you read books like “SM 101” or “Screw the Roses and Give Me The Thorns.”  At least you can collect some level of knowledge and that will help you in selecting a Dominant as well as protecting yourself.

If you do not try to learn on your own before hand, then you open yourself to being used and abuse by those who are fake /players.  Why place in your profile that you are a pain slut and that you have no limit, when you know that you are setting yourself up again to being abused. Perhaps you are a pain slut, but then again if you claiming to be such, then clearly state your experience.

Why would you expect a Dominant/Domme to treat you with respect when you also place nothing but various nude or sexual explicit pics on your profile as well?    If you are a person of class, then should you not have photos that display that?   There is nothing wrong with photos that tease, but there is a difference.   Carry yourself with respect and you can and should demand the same in return.

We all should show each other the same respect that we should each other in the work place and in life.   If we do that and demand that, we can enjoy the lifestyle.