Online interaction is where this starts. However, I am not interested in online only. 

I will pose the question from the submissive side. It is the reverse of the question I have seen from dominants. Are there any true dominants around? I am interested in those who do not have a need or desire to abuse physically and verbally. Are there any who seek a relationship which involves the power exchange nuanced specifically for the two individuals involved? Maybe I am looking for a needle in a haystack.

I am interested in a relationship which merges the vanilla life we all live daily with the BDSM elements of kink and power exchange. This lifestyle became known to me around 2009 or 2010. It is the something which had been missing in marriage and relationships prior to that. I am more focused when in such a relationship. I am not a fan of labels or being stuck in one particular role. Am I a submissive? A slave? A girl? Maybe I move along the continuum depending on the situation. 

If you want to know what areas and activities of this lifestyle interest me, ask. There needs to be some common ground there as much as there needs to be in the vanilla world. 

I have been fortunate to have had some spiritual, transcendental type sexual experiences in the past as a result of some of these alternative activities we enjoy (not including subspace, which is a completely different phenomenon). I believe those can occur when a very close, intimate connection exists. I would welcome a partner who has experienced that and seeks it, too. 

I have much to offer the right person and I am seeking the right person for me. The right person will want and need to understand me fully and be willing to take the time and put in the effort to do that. I will do the same.

Things to note

I live in the Dallas metro area. I am 63 (as of 2024). Unless it has changed, the site does not automatically update age on profiles. I make it a point to change mine. How old are you?

If you are married or otherwise attached, we are not going to be a good fit unless you only want a platonic friendship or to act as a mentor, of sorts. 

I am not a Domme or a switch. Nor am I a doormat. I am also not a punching bag in physical, verbal, or emotional ways. 

Cigarette smoke is a hard limit for me as I have a high sensitivity to it. Cigar and pipe smoke are more tolerable in limited amounts.

Thank you for reading and good luck with your search.