Have to add a few other things. I made the mistake of contacting a 'dom' whom I'd contacted before. And lo and behold, what do I get? When I ask him what he's into, he can't give me any details about it, but rather just an, 'I can get into anything you want !  Real time and being there is the more important thing!'Sorry, but I'm a submissive and KNOW this, and HAVE KNOWN it for many years. I can't switch. It's not in me. I can't even understand THAT SIDE of this complicated coin we're dealing with here. So I'm contacting a 'dom,' and he won't tell me really what he's into in any detail. Just a bunch of generalities. And once again, 'Anything you want to get into and try.' When I throw out of few of my own interests or needs here, which are basically in my own profile here, well, things change. Now his own preferences leak out, little by little. It's just a FUN GAME to try to figure out what someone is into by mentioning a dozen things and seeing what takes or doesn't take with him (or her), right? I've met doms or guys into bdsm for over 19 years now, and the best, most lasting situations were those with guys who told you right up front what they were into, and what you could mostly expect. The ones who could not give you concrete answers were the ones who you wasted your time with, and who you did not meet again. So a couple of hours with back and forth texts, and what does the 'dom' with no real interests expressed on his profile other than very basic, unchanging generalities say? 'I want to find someone to SWITCH.' And, 'What are your thoughts now?' His profile says 'DOMINANT,' and his email even has 'master' in it!!! So who's LYING to who? He's not on the site daily, like this other more recent one who's too lazy to update or work on his profile, but complains of not meeting anyone for this type of 'fun,' but he's on it every week. Yet, why is it that you come here regularly for YEARS, and can't update your profile to now reflect your NEW INTERESTS, and to state clearly that you are NO LONGER A DOM, but that you are now a SWITCH!!! Why waste others' time??? Why the games, until that final, inevitable remark, 'So what do you think now?'How much success do you expect when you can't just state in your profile what your INTO NOW, RIGHT THIS SECOND, and insist on playing this game of Q&A until at least part of the real truth comes out, and you have to ask, 'What do you think now?' People like this are either lazy, desperate, or both. They MIGHT admit to the laziness, because you have them on that one cold. But 'desperate,' they will most likely not admit to. Why? Because they could take or leave all of this. They don't have to meet anyone or try to work something out to establish a mutually fulfilling connection that could last years. Why do that? There's something on the freaking TV to watch and entertain them!!! In ancient Rome, before the greatest empire in this world fell, Caesar was worried about the subjaspects becoming restless, and him losing his power, which obviously gave him a life of ease and luxury. So what did he do? He gave them 'bread and circuses.' They did not demand this. He just offered it, and they became lazy and distracted, and made no further effort to reach for something better. This is what I've found here. The only effort made is logging in, and an attitude of, 'I'm just here to be entertained.' And calling everyone else 'time-wasters' and 'game players.' Where's the mirror? Do you have the strength and courage to look into it and face the truth? Five years from now, these people will have the SAME PROFILE, and the SAME REASONS for why they've still not met anyone 'real time...the important thing.'

Good grief. Is anyone REAL on this or other internet sites???I just emailed one of those 'doms' who logs into this site EVERY SINGLE DAY. I asked him if he's met anyone for any bdsm fun lately. His reply? Nope...'Too many game players and time wasters out there.' This comes from a guy who told me all sorts of things to keep me strung along as if there was a chance at meeting, and who never actually got around to telling the truth. That all of this is just a fantasy for him and he's freaking LAZY! He won't level with you or anything, or even just tell you that you're not a fit for him or what he's supposedly into (which is NOT listed on his own profile, which has not been updated in something like 8-10 years!), or that he's even just not interested in you. Instead, he's just here for THIS: Me: 'So are you interested in meeting and seeing how it goes?' The 'dom': (list here any number of excuses you can think of, including how much work your house needs done...that's the same last as it was a year or two ago)Me: 'Hmmm. Well, did you at least get turned on by what I said I would be into?'The 'dom': (nothing)Me: 'Well, did it get you hot? Did you JERK OFF?' The 'dom': 'Of course!'This is what MOST are here for, and what FEW will just be honest about!!! There is very little hope for some of these clowns. And they have the audacity to put anything like this in an email reply or on their own profiles: 'Too many game players and time wasters out there.' If anyone ever wasted his, or worse, another's time, it's HIM!This one is in Madison and his profile has not been updated or changed in something like 10 years. Same few lines of intro, and doesn't even bother to correct his misspelled word in that 'profile.' Logs into the site almost every single day, yet can't seem to muster up the effort to improve or change his profile.