So...I guess the goal here is to find someone who wants to get married, be monogamous, do normal people stuff, like have a family, and be best friends, but also wants to have freaky sex, and unleash her inner domme more often than not...I guess that's not such an easy thing to find.

I will be honest up front and say I don't entirely know this part of myself.  I know what I fantasize about...how that turns out in real life, I don't know.  I fantasize mostly about femdom activities....I think bottom would be the safest way to describe myself.  I don't desire to give up normal sexual activity for femdom all the time...but it is where my mind spends most of its time....and I would like an outlet for it.  So I guess we'll see how far the rabbit hole goes for me if I ever get to experience it real time.

So what do I fantasize about?  Well....

-I fantasize coming home, opening the door to see my wife sitting in a chair, wearing nothing but her thigh high boots, and her elbow length gloves, stroking her huge strapon.  With an expressionless face, she simply says "follow me", and leads me to our bedroom, where she orders me to undress, straps me to the fucking bench, gags me, and proceeds to turn my asshole inside out....

-I fantasize about my wife tying me to a chair in our workout room...she turns the heat up to 85, and proceeds to run on the treadmill.  I watch as the sweat starts to form on her back, and I see it start to soak through her leggings near the asscrack.  When she is finished, she pulls down her pants, bends over in front of me, spreads her asscheeks apart, and says "you will clean my asshole up, right now."  And I savor every musky tasty minute of it....

-I fantasize about going out with my wife where she indulges in much wine.  When we get home she pushes me down, hikes up her skirt,  removes her panties, straddles my face, and she tells me "you will swallow every drop I give you," and she proceeds to flood my mouth with her lady wine....

-I fantasize about being tied up in the chair again...my passionately kissing me, sucking my tongue, and I hers.  She looks at me in the eyes and says "you know I love you very much, but you must know that my word right now is law.  And I have to show you, otherwise you won't believe me...."  She removes my bindings, leads me to the St. Andrews Cross,  makes me face it, and binds me to it.  She then proceeds to unleash her law on my backside with her whip....

So yeah....strapon/anal training, ass and pussy worship/rimming, golden showers/watersports, corporal punishment, teasing, bondage.  They all seem great to me.

When I think of being dominated, I think of someone who uses her feminine energy to make me want to submit to her, and do what she wants.  She maintains a firm, matter-of-fact, sometimes stern demeanor, but is happy and playful too.  not some uber-bitch who can only throw out insults.....

The 2 women I'm looking for here are:

1.  My unicorn.  A fit , attractive, woman who has some dominant, pervy, tendencies.  She want s to have kids, and a normal family life....but would also like a dungeon to express herself in.  I think you aren't here, but you are who I'm looking for.

2.  A mistress to maybe play with when I've reached my end looking for the unicorn.  Fit, attractive, shares my kinks.

I have no idea how far into "the lifestyle" I could go.  Again, I want a best friend and lover (as cliche' as that is) out of this too.  Build a life, have kids, and grow old...

Some things I'll never be into: cuckolding, ballbusting (kids, remember), sissy play, and playing with other men.  I won't participate in any of those things...no judgement to those who do.

So yeah.  Whatever else you want to know, give me a shout.