"Don't try to understand 'em
Just rope and throw and brand 'em"
(Rawhide, Washington & Tiomkin)

As much as I would like this to be a philosophy to live by, I do recognize we have to live in the real world (unfortunately).  And in spite of the quote I'm not a great fan of country music or spend much of my time branding livestock.

I will say I'm tertiary educated, self employed (and semi-retired) and have some experience with a poly situation.

The rest you will have to ask about.