Experienced Meaning that all my relationships are now based upon Ds. Unmarried.
It is not ONLY about sex. A wise woman friend put her finger on it when she said it was the power that is my central pleasure. To that end I have used hypnosis and Pavlovian Conditioning in the past to reach the point of being able to order my submissives to O on voice command alone, a VERY effective training device.
I believe that the urge to submission for women and to Dominate for Men is entirely natural and something that has been neglected over the last one hundred years.
Unfortunately, though Mills and Boon romances and much of popular fiction kept the flame of traditional values alive in women, Men seemed to entirely lose the plot round about the 70s ( not an unfamiliar thing for My gender to doas theydo tend to keep stumbling from one disaster to the next.) As a result many confuse brutality, shouting loud and losing their tempers in traffic queues with Dominance..............tut tut boys
I am gratified to see that the internet has allowed so many to recognise and integrate their feelings into their lives more easily, discovering they are not alone in their desires and even finding a way to express it in relationships.For Me this is not play - that demeans the relationships, it is not akin to dogging or thrill seeking but something far deeper and more primal. If this dynamic worked in the majority of societies for around 10,000 years there cannot be much wrong with it. Yes I know, religious and racial bigotry, cholera and impetigoalso thrived but you know what I mean.I worked at Atomage in London in the 70s and 80s ( for some of the older perves )have a tremendous enjoyment of the visual aesthetics of leather, bondage, , Victorian and 50s clothing and corsetting...............a yes corsetting.
It is the brain that must be engaged BEFORE the organs will totally engorged..............