Collarspace

My handle comes from the concept that a mans home is his castle. I would like to find a Master who feels that way- that his home is his castle and those in it are his subjects and that his word is law and he rules there unquestioned. I do not seek a Master they are a dime a dozen. I am seeking someone who is Lord of his home and can be mi Lord. I love history and the protocol of old social hierarchies.

I have never been in a relationship or had a sexual encounter with a man. However, since puberty I have had very strong attractions and desires toward BDSM and this included a very strong desire to submit to a strong older masculine male. I have been in BDSM relationships with woman and have always been a Dom in those hetrorelationships.

I have explored, read and lurked around the BDSM world and when I was in my 20s actually pursued it and established a rapport with a Dom male that fit almost exactly what I was looking for. We never had a play or sexual encounter and we were discussing 247 MS. He was in his late 50s then and was very experienced in the lifestyle. However, because of youth, immaturity or just out right stupidity I got cold feet and broke it off at the last moment. It was just such a huge life changing decision to both become a slave and enter a sexual relationship with a man. What would my family think? what about..., etc. I regret that decision very much.

What has changed? Well a couple years ago both my parents passed away (I only have a sibling left) and a very LTR with a woman I was engaged to marry ended. I also turned 40 and realized I had fewer years ahead of me than behind me. After the losses a few years ago I have come to realize time is fleeting and short and just how valuable it is when gone. I have known for a long time that at some point I was going to have to find a Master and experience being slave at minimum on a long term tempory level (possibly permanent with the right person). It is almost spiritual to me. Like a rite of passage or journey I have to take.

What I am seeking is an owner(s) not a lover. I want to be a slave, to have as little control as possible, to be completely open and vulnerable and have little to no control for the first time in my life. I am looking for a Master between 40-70 who is a bear type and a on the heavy set side. Who is very masculine and honorable. He should be strong of character, honest, moderately to moderately heavy sadistic, very strict and stern and want a slave. I will also consider a male-male couple or Male- female couple where both are dom and male is very bi.

About me

I am drug and disease free, dont smoke. Very seldom drinks. I am overweight and working on sliming down. I am looking to be a slave and I dont just mean sex. The best deion I can give is a houseboy...sexual service, domestic services (like house cleaning) and personal services (like assisting Master with his bath). I have no delusion that it is all fun and games. I am well aware that being a slave is hard and often monotonous with day to day activities like laundry. I am looking for ownership. I am completely honest and not a SAM or try to top from bottom. I have lost some focus over the last couple years with all the life changing events and very much need structure and some discipline to motivate me. I am honest and sincere and believe communication is critical.

I cannot do full time 247. But am offering, that outside of work obligations and the very rare time I have a family obligation, that Master would have total ownership of my free time. I also work in a professional field with a state license that has a morals clause so privacy is a must (even just being associated with FL could cause major problems) and is why I have no face pics here. I will send a face pic (clothed) after a couple conversations and if requested.

My hard limits. No injury (anything that requires a medical professional to fix), No noticeable bruises or injury I might have to explain to my employer. No outing me I am very private and want to keep my privacy out of the public. No scat (clean anal play of all sorts welcome but no actual scat), no children, no drugs. No risking my employment or cutting me off from family. Nothing illegal and no blood. No cross dressing or TG

Until I find my Lord I am very open to making new friends and taking suggestions and exploring a little more openly this new world. I would love help, hints and comments from more experienced people in the community as well as new friends and contacts. I welcome friends of any age or orientation.

I just ask the following of anyone contacting me.

This is very important to me and not a game. So please respect that and me and I will respect you.