bariuke

Meditations on kink: A wise, caring, knowledgeable dominant is truly a gift and a blessing. Domination done right is a lot of work, and we should consider ourselves fortunate if someone deigns to put that work into us! There seem to be a lot of lazy subs who assume it's enough to show up and hand over a list of wants and don't-wants, as if their dominant was indebted to them right off the bat. That's an immature and ungrateful attitude that fails to respect just how much discernment and restraint, among other things, goes into properly handling a submissive/slave. In my opinion, the sub begins in debt and must constantly prove their worth. And I do mean 'constantly', since submission ought to be a commitment to defer to our superior at all times, to keep their wishes and needs always in our minds. Any dominant worth their salt will put serious effort into their charge; a wise sub works hard to justify every bit of effort spent on them, even if that effort hurts. They should be especially thankful, in fact, for painful efforts since it takes planning and experience to mete out pain without causing injury.  For me, the most valuable gift dominants give me is freedom from responsibility. The lightness of giving myself over to another whom I trust to respect me as a person is sublime. It's worth all the punishments and chores and other costs of serving a dominant. It takes real intelligence, wisdom, and maturity to fully and honestly take responsibility for another person. Those qualities bring me to my knees and keep me there.