I love how a person calls themself Dom and think everyone must obey.  I don't owe anyone anything until we establish that I am serving them.  Nor do I have to send photo after photo at ones request.  I look the same in 2 photos and I do in 10.  Refusing does not make me rude or disobeidant for not thinking a D/s relationship is about sending photos out repeatly.    Nor does calling me a flake make you any more of a Dom. 

Besides if you live 20 minutes away way don't you just  ask to meet for coffee in person and not waste my time asking for photos.  

I hope to be at the Bazaar in LA next Saturday! 

I do find it interesting the amount of Married men looking for subs.  They state they expect honesty and trust.  though how do you put your trust in a man that will not leave their wives and are not honest with the wife about their kinks.  Or in most cases the wives has no idea they are cheating.      So, how does that instill trust/honesty/ or respect on my part?    

Keeping meaning to fix the date on my photo.. was 2011.  Oh well.  Had a wonderful time at the MAsT meeting.  Likely going to the rope social on Tuesday night.  Maybe I will meet some new folk to chat with.   My goal this year it so get out and be more social this year.  I am off to a good start!  boxing classes, bdsm events and a few other things.  Even doing things outside my standard circle of friends!  

Boxing to get all hot and sweaty with my trainer then off to Bash n Dash to see the gang.   woo hoo.. Hope you all have a great day!

Was away for 6 weeks handling family issues.  Home now and enjoyed my first real weekend with friends on Turkeyday.  Ready to get out there and do more fun stuff. 

So I have to clean the .22 and the 20 gauge so I can go shooting.   they have been in my fathers gun safe for a good 15 years unused.. such a shame.  I think he will smile to see them being fired again.  Though, I won't be killing any deer or rabbit anytime soon.  I personally love eating but can't seem to gut one properly.  Lack of skill in that department.  

Off to see what type of torture my PT has in store for me.  Last session for a bit.  

Guess now I need to get back to finding the right Dom type for me so I can't get "abused" in more fun ways! 

4 boxing classes in one week! I can do it.. I can do it.. one more to go!  never thought I would be the type to love working out and sweating (specially since I am allergic to my own sweat) but there you go.    Guess that means I will have more stamina for other things too*wink wink*

MASTER9988 claims he works for LAPD and knows what fakes are from work.  Makes me wonder if he is a Dom or just looking at profiles for LAPD.  Then again half the folk here lie but you think he'd be more creative. 

FYI, I am a fake because I won't take orders from a Dom I do not know.  If you don't own me I am not yours to give order.  Kind of BDSM 101 in general respect. 

Decided I don't need a Dom*laughing* My boxing instructor is kicking my ass and hurting me just fine!

Great evening..   coffee at Bash and Dash in the morning.  Come say Howdy!

survived boxing class but could use some rope bondage and breathing exercise to help me relax a little now.  All wound up and  too sore in the shoulders to do much. 

Those local to San Diego, going be at Bash and Dash 8/11 for a bit.  then head off to my first bootcamp for fitness.  Lets hope I survive.  Maybe I should have someone along with me in case i need CPR or something*giggling**

i feel bad because over the months i had a lot of nice people contacted me.  i somewhat blew them off since i was hoping i met a good one.   i tend to focus on one person thinking i provide better service if i am not distracting myself  with others.   

lets hope all the good ones were not snapped up while i was learning a lesson in life.. 

Really just one Dom .. (just venting a moment) because a girl can dream.  

one that does not think service means "you iron so you can earn a fucking", "free maid service", or that service is you do what your told as you are told.  Granted the later is some of the D/s dynamic but to me service is learning what you need to do and simply doing it without the Dom watching over or having to check up on you consistantly.  To me one is service is one is being a submissive following orders.   nothing wrong with either but call it what it is.   such as kinky sex is kinky sex does not mean it is D/s.   

Is open/honest and will communicate with you not just about issues with other people but honest to you about you.  Not make you ask 20 questions to boil it it down to a  honest answer. 

That claims to be poly but treats the women completely different.  Gives in to a complaint because they simply "don't wanna mess with talking it over".   Bad mouths one girl to the other.  makes comments to get the girls to compete for his attention like it is a contest.  That breeds dislike not harmony.   And for me, when it comes to Poly, understand..when i type/say I am not into poly to understand I am not into poly.  Sadly, I keep trying and they keep making me hate it more and more. 

I do not like the gym... and the gym does not seem to be very kind to me either!

Always wondered why so many people think D/s is about the sex and how they prefer it? One of those things that make me go... mmmmmmm

Made a delish gnocci in garlic butter sauce with Gorgonzola cheese today.. and no one to feed it too.. how sad.  Well, a friend is willing to come eat it but she is just not the same*smile*.  

Hope everyone has a wonderful new year and may you find what you are looking for!

I received a new SRL camera for xmas.  Need someone to model for me so I can get some practice in*smile*

If you bake they will come.. ***Right***

Peanut butter, sugar, and chocolate mint cookies done.  Turtles are done.  Just need a Dom type to feed*smile*   

anyway.. if your reading this I hope your holidays are wonderful

Been busy baking.  Sugar cookies cut and baked.  Still need to decorate.  Peanut butter cookies complete.  All the fixings for turtles bought.  I think I am about finished, LOL

was at the bizare last weekend.  got to see some old friends, bunnyflogger.com, and meet a few new ones.  Had a very nice man come up and start chatting by the single tail booth but  I, sadly, never asked his name.   He loved single tails and it was fun to hear him talk about it.  One of those types that enjoys it soo much it makes you interested in it?   Went with L and his friend meet us there who was very new to the whole concept.  Was nice to see the two of them playing/trying things at the booths.  I think L has decided he would enjoy a single tail.  I haven't played with one in a long time but it was one of those things, no i don't think I use it on someone, that let me concentrate on the the whip and me which gave a nice feel like meditation gives to me. I think that may be L's appeal to the single tail as well. 

LOL send me a one word email and then be pissed you get a sarcastic response.. LOL how does one respond to D's? what does D's actually mean? LOL I figured D was for Dumbass but seems I guessed wrong.  

Would like a Dom that can read.  My profile says I don't do webcam and I don't plan to move.  So why are people from NY or UK asking to "train me" but won't be near San Diego?   

to the opposite of that they state they will move here to train me? I can't support someone and have no clue how they would play to support themselves just moving here.  Kinda of makes me question them. 

Oh yeah.. you can find me on if you use that.. same name*smile*  Not that I write anything interesting

Guessing maybe I should of held off revamping the profile to put up.  Just been darn busy lately.  Plus, starting a new job in the am.. 

Just because my profile is listed as New Local User on this site it does not mean I am NEW in anyway.  Seems you all get confused on that issue.

!Just drove from Ohio back home.  was a long 3 day trip but I am back