I do have a written assignment for you, My love. To be done and posted online (and printed and mailed to Me) by next wednesday. Asnwer the following question: What is the importance of ceremony, consistancy, and structure in a D/s realtionship? Answer the question in no less then 500 words, My dear.
What is the importance of ceremony, consistancy, and structure in a D/s realtionship?
This question covers so many different areas of a D/s relationship. In O/our culture, cermony is often used as a means of celebration and honoring. There are so many different kinds of ceremony that we participate without really realizing that they are indeed ceremonial. The most common ceremony is that of Union. Marriage.... When two join together as one.
There are other ceremonies, the ceremony of mass and communion are practiced frequently inside of religious groups, even the ceremony of celebrating birthdays is honoring the passage of time.
Where ceremony in D/s terms is different is than that specifically to a power exchange are critical to ongoing mindset.
It is not easy as a slave to completely surrender and give up your will. The day to day business of dealing with life makes it a constant balance of submitting to my Master's will and to knowing my Master's will.
The ritual Master's girl completes every morning on bended knee is a ceremony in itself, it is the ritualilized cermony of daily submision, waking and immediately submitting all that i am to my Owner, offering to Him in complete submission all that is His, surrendering to Him from the moment of rising to the time that once again i lay my head down in His Ownership.
It is in this ritualized ceremony of submission i bend my will entirely to His control and i lose myself in the freedom of His Ownership. It is through the consistancy of Master's hand that His girl learns the perameters of her life as His property. Without consistency it would feel as if life continued in a free fall without being able to check or stop the insantiy. Structure and consistency are the keystone of a healthy D/s relationship, as slave to much freedom, to much independence puts me back in the mindset of being free and able to walk the earth as i choose, where in reality in agreement through total sumbission and surrender i am no longer in charge. As slave i am no longer free to choose what i should do, or where I should go. Totally in surrender based upon a history of conistency and structure i have found it safe to let go and to totally submit to the hand of my Master.
It is through Master's consistency i have learned it's safe to trust Him, to submit freely and fully to Master's will.
In the past (past power exchanges) the inconsistency has faultered with the trust being lost. With out trust there can be no foundation for trust. D/s is a lifestyle about Honor, Respect, Integrity and Trust. Those who fail to honor those who have been placed in the control fail to understand the importance of the human life they were gifted with. They have proven themselves unworthy of being in the position of control of another human being.
D/s in it self is a lifestyle based on the celebration of the human being in balance with the world around it.
part 2
The writing assignment I issued you regarding consistancy and such will be include an additional 500+ words that answers this questions: What is the importance of consistancy on behalf of a slave to obey, and to make sure instructions are fully understood and payed attention to.
A slaves sole/soul purpose is to be obiedient and to be found pleasing to their Owner. This is done through complete surrender and obedience. As a slave surrenders to the control of their Master, they find there is a simplicity of a life lived inline with the will of their Master. It is through the giving up self that a slave is able to relax and to find freedom inside the control of their Owner. When a slave fails to obey their Owner there has to be a way for the Owner to know whether it is self will or more simply carelessness.
Through consistancy of the slave in obedience and the consistency of the Owner in being aware of what it is their slave is thinking and feeling, the slave no longer has the ability or need to take back control of their life. Slaves who lack obedience are reflective of their owners lack of ability to control. This slave has often said that the inaibility to control her is not indicative of her own shortcomings, but rather that of the hand which is now strong enough or powerful enough to control a slave like me.
Contrary to some peoples belief, Master's slave does not enjoy always being in trouble, nor does she like having to do punishment writings. Master's slave is not intentionally filled with self will, nor does she want to intentionally disobey....
but there are times that she fails to understand what it is that is being asked/demanded of her. There are times that the need to be in control rises from the past filling her with fears of abandonment and hurt. It is during these times that she has found life is far simpler to merely obey and to follow her Master's command. Through the consistency of letting go and surrendering to her Owner, this slave has entered a life of symbiotic existance versus the life of interdependence she once knew.
Consistency of both Master and slave is critical for the success of a complete and total power exchange, if this slave is struggling with the sociatal conditioning of years past and fails to bring these conscious and subconscious messages to her Owner - she begins to undermine and sabatage her own letting go process. It is through the consistency of her Master she finds her way back to His feet, to know that it is He that controls her life and nothing, nor nobody else.
This slave is fortunate to have an Owner/Master who knows the past that His girl has come from, she reaches to him both physically and mentally, trusting that He knows what is best for her, trusting that He is a man of Honor and integrity. As slave Avvy's girl gave away all that she thought she was, in exchange for the safety and freedom found in His Hand.
His hand hard and unbending at times, yet other times so loving and flexible. The consistency comes not in whether or not He rules with a iron fist or with the velvet glove, the consistency comes in knowing He loves and cares for His property, keeping her safe, keeping her true and holding her accountable.
