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obviously I left out some very important words... sentences, paragraphs.
such as "respect" which is a paragraph all by itself. at least.
and pain - seems to me there are 4 purposes for creating pain, or any other physical sensation. 1- to turn my partner on. 2- to turn me on 3- to reward (or punish) my partner. 4- to teach.
for the first two purposes I believe in slow, gradual, teasing, teaching... playful, extenuated, on again off again...intense as it builds
for punishment I believe in hard, strict, sometimes harsh, always intense and as immediate as necessary.
for the first two I believe in respecting limits and very gradually stretching them with the use of a 3 tier safe word system. for teaching, well, that depends on who what and where.
for punishment I believe in staying within limits BUT there is only one safe word, it stops everything at least for that session and requires an offering as substitute (when one takes away from someone whom one loves, one MUST replace it with something of value)
humiliation as a game that can be enjoyed by both... is that possible? humiliation that causes permanent feelings of insufficiency is never okay.
okay. I am tired and my back is hurting from peering at this little monitor screen (I must get a newer, larger one) so that is enough for now.
except that I need to tell you all that if I am ever again in any kind of relationship there must be time for gentle love-making as well as for controlled happenings, for tender as well as for hard.
do you want to serve me? do you wish to please me? do you want me to love, cherish, protect, respect, turn you on physically, give as well as demand? You are my equal as a person; you are sensitive, knowledgable, feeling, aware, thoughtful, opinioned, emotional, needful. I do not want a doormat. I want a tongue and I will control, I expect obedience; but much of that is because I will deserve it and I will have earned it. and because giving you physical and emotional sensations is to give you your dreams. you must not give up your psyche, but you will have to give me your body and all of your love along with your service and your consistent acceptance of my wishes because you know that your wish is to please me and that my wishes will never be wrong simply because I would never DO wrong to you. for example there will never be any permanent nor even long-lasting marks or changes unless you have asked me for them. but if I tell you to wear a very short skirt, no underwear, extremely high heels... or to sit on a horse with both legs stretched out or to greet me properly, display yourself properly, offer yourself properly...
hmmmmm
I intended to stop awhile ago but I got carried away.
enough... for now.
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