Maybe I'm shallow, but I've come to realize my tendency toward submission is highly contingent on the body-type of my partner. Typical masculine well endowed bodies inspire me to get on my knees.   

*Minor Breaking Bad spoilers*

Is it just me, or are wounded/tortured men strangely hot? If I see a woman with a fat lip I cringe with empathy. It's outright repulsive. A man, however...

Having just watched the final episode of breaking bad, when Pinkman is humiliated and mocked as a "partner" I was surprised to find him extremely attractive - scarred, shackled, with a broken, haunted, downcast gaze. 

I'm not entirely sure I could identify as a sadist, however. I could never imagine inflicting that on a person. 

Interesting first message form a Nice Guy: "I HATE the friend zone! Make a girl chocolate milk and she WON'T have sex with you. Unbelievable! What's the point?"

My Response "I highly recommend avoiding the term "friend zone". It implies being denied sex in return for your kindness, and could go so far as to suggest that you treat women well in the hopes of being repaid sexually, only to be disappointed by the friendship you're offered instead (unfortunately douche-y sounding).  

The point is being a decent, loving person without expectations or entitlement. 

That being said, a man who prepares me unsolicited chocolate milk is a sexy beast indeed." 

Toys: Love them or hate them?

Quite frankly I don't enjoy them. Most fetish accoutrement makes me cringe at their unbearable tackiness, and my personal experience with them has been lackluster. Maybe I'm just a jaded hipster, but when a taboo item has gone so mainstream as to be mass-marketed, it has likely entered the realm of the cliched/unexciting.

By and large most 'dungeon' tools register as more silly then sexy to my tastes. 

Pay for Play: 

I was surprised at the number of pro doms requiring "tribute" on site and it sparked some thought. I'm prone to the impression that requiring payment for services (by men, but particularly women) undermines the power balance in a Dom(mme)/sub relationship. We're all performers, but if you're fulfilling the needs of a sub for compensation then the line between being a strong, controlling, assertive woman and fulfilling male imagined porn-fueled BDSM fantasies of what a Dominatrix or Mistress ought to be becomes a little more muddied.

So far as I see it.