I've been in the lifestyle since 2000 and have learned so much but realize that you never stop learning about yourself. I've learned that taking your time and getting to know someone as a friend first helps a relationship remain strong and keep growing. I've also learned that to know your own expectations, limitations and the ability to communicate is key, something I definitely struggle with and try to improve.
I have found that to me this is more than a sexual thing it's a partnership in the deepest sense I do not get involved with someone who is married, involved with someone else, lives more than an hour away or is just interested in 'meeting' once or twice a week, at this point in my life my ideal goal is to find someone to settle down with who will value who I am and not just the sexual side of me. I realize there does need to be a sexual attraction along with the personality attraction which is what makes finding that One so challenging. That being said if you are a smoker, are married to a woman that just doesn't understand, are not able to support yourself or looking for online play, please move on to the next profile. I am not going to send a picture unless i know you
