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I am adult man - not a player, not a spoiled child. I am an experienced leader - not an abuser. I am a teacher - not a tyrant.
Rules with consistent application, clearly set boundaries, effective training and discipline paired with attention, affection, more attention and regular feedback is how I operate. I enjoy mixing mental stimulation, physical pleasure, control, occasional correction andonce in a while pushing ones envelope to keep you on your toes.
I have been dominant all my life. All of my relationships since my late 20s have all had some level of Ds, ranging from bedroom only to full-time Ms ownership. Which do I prefer? Frankly, it depends on the person, but my preference leans toward taking more control versus less.
I am open to a range of relationship options from occasional play to something much more intense, involved and committed. But I much prefer the latter. Yet I dont commit instantly, nor do I expect you to. Thats something that needs to be earned, just as I suspect your willingness to let your guard down and share yourself totally would as well. I dont believe you can (or should) submit on the first day, nor can I immediately demand control as developing trust and commonality are critical. So yes, I have been accused at times of moving slowly. Its because I have seen too many Ds relationships end before it had a chance to start by one or both people rushing things only to watch it end in a fiery crash-and-burn.
I also understand the whole doormat concept and find it hard to understand why a submissive would not be a priority to a dominant that truly cares. I suspect it is because he doesnt and therefore he cant see beyond his own selfishness and needs. And that chasm between dominance and abusive is usually recognizable, sadly often too late.
While we all have our own set of expectations and a concept of the perfect Dom or sub, yet outside of our personal fantasy, that person rarely exists. So hopefully we can be realistic.
I am attracted to women who are self-aware, smart, positive, take care of themselves, have a strong and natural desire to please, are comfortable in their own skin and prefer a life with a nice dose of kink. Most of all, they understand what a healthy Ds relationship is all about.
I am 61, tall, divorced (10+ years ago, no kids at home), educated professional, in-shape and tend to be a bit old fashioned (i.e., gentlemanly, romantic, a sense of integrity, family, very protecting, etc.).
I must be truthful, I have few dents and dings but am still 100 road worthy. Im not your typical guys guy as my interests dont revolve around watching ESPN, car racing, fishing, or golf. Yet I do have my share of vanilla activities and hobbies. Some of which I would hope you would enjoy sharing with me. I am not a singularly-focused BDSMer. I have other interests and need more stimulation than just my behind closed doors activities.
I think first meetings should be without expectations, in a safe, public place and we should both strive to make a great first impression.
I have met and had lengthy relationships with several wonderful subsslaves on CM, yet I have also been burned (havent we all?) more often than I prefer to admit by misrepresentations, fakes, photos a decade or more old, and deceptive intentions. So I ask for verification through a phone conversation and a recent photo before meeting. My photos are available as well for the asking.
Feel free to say Hello.
If I save you to my Favorites, I am interested in knowing more about you so... feel free to reach out.
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I just did a quick search on Collar Space to see what the dominant men to submissive women ratio is within 25 miles of where I live (near Washington, DC).
Using the same criteria for both searches (age - 33-70, any race, weight, has a photo)
today's ratio of male doms looking for sub women totaled 240 men online in the past 90 days to 30 females in the same time period (that's 8 to 1). Oh you lucky ladies.
Granted, the numbers don't relate to quality, married & cheating, fakes, poseurs, etc., but that works both ways.
In fact it's so lopsided, that more dom men visited the site just today than all the females that have visited in the past 3 months. |
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I love profiles that don't tell the reader anything about the person, or don't list any specifics that person is looking for. If you're looking for someone within a certain age range, location, race, level of education, interests, experience level, or you block emails from people out of state or outside of specific age ranges, it would be so very helpful and polite, not to mention save all of us a ton of time, if you simply started what your preferences are. |
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