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	*** * * UPDATE FOR MAY * * * I will not be able to host any visitors for the next 5-7 months which does make the search to finding a compatible person very hard. Things are much worst then I thought with health of my mother. Even thou I have a few people I can get together with when I am in town. It is not the caliber I am looking for. I want to find the person that is confident on the inside, a go getter, wants to know where the want to go in life. End of Update I have come to realize that a lot of people fear the unknown. I really do adjust to most people, so let me say I really enjoy teaching the new life styler all about this lifestyle the RIGHT way. I am old school (leather) with a kick of fire (what I call Daddy Dom Skills) and spice with some flaming hot sauce (some Gorean) too boot... A very interesting mix. But it is very nice to know when to draw the line even when the submissive can't see the line. I am a very selective person on who I want to send a reply to, with there profile factors. I always hope you are free of MAJOR mental issues. I am NOT IN A RUSH to jump into a BED with anyone. I want to get to know you not jump into bed with you. Should it work out that we click in a Mental aspect, GREAT!! I however am learning still to take it slower and learn about the person habits, fears, desires, addressing vanilla concerns, other peoples friends and family members. See.. lol, it is never to old to learn something different. I mentioned this before, lets be honest, FEAR is the biggest factor for many people, Fear of the unknown. ABOUT ME: I am a single skilled Dominant interested in finding a compatible Sub or slave that I can eventually give my full-time life to, one who understands the essence of true D/s. I am not interested in merely being a TOP or a WEEKEND PLAY PARTNER with someone on going and am NOT really into the cyber-sex scene, though I think it is interesting. About 95% of my friends call me people person. I am also considered to be a relaxed and easy going, emotionally stable person. I am the strong quiet type, someone you can rely on. Or I can be the real a-hole as well for rough play. I am very secure with who I am. My main goal at this point is making NEW contacts, building friendships, then maybe finding another person to teach or grow with. I am a very neat and tidy person, some would say almost compulsively clean and I do not mind the work. I can also cook (I guess it is a skill you pick up after living alone when I went to college for so long). The one I am seeking is a mature female, responsible and intelligent. She cares about family, friends and the world around her. She respects herself and is both confidant and comfortable with her desires. I want something of a Mental Challenge, Physical Wiliness, Spiritual Connection, a bond with you as a friend or a partner. If you have a burning desire in your heart and soul to live the D\s life to worship me as much as I will adore you, to live with guidance and discipline, under a strict but loving structured home, talk to me. It is a great first step. Sure, we are all seeking something different... but I think you will see I am clear on what I want. And I am focused on what you want as well. I do not believe in the SMOKE & MIRROR GAME, who really ever wins that game anyways? ONLY those with pics THAT ARE NOT NUDES or pics immediately available via e-mail need reply. Like me, you enjoy the real world Only Just looking for a playful lady who's happy to explore anything our imaginations can come up with in and out of the bedroom. Someones who also loves good food and wine and has traveled a bit and is open minded to the world. I HAVE NO interest in cyber or phone. Is it worth a reply to me to know more? My Ideal Person: I would like to find someone that I can share a real-time or even get into a eventually 24/7 TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship with at home or in the bedroom with. I am not conventional in most of my attitudes and values. I tend to be irreverent and pragmatic and I like spontaneous people. I can be an exciting, yet hard driving and exacting, friend and companion. As odd as many find this comment. I DO NOT WANT to see your nude breast, vagina or your butt. I would rather you send me a picture of you in clothes and your face then to see you naked. I am NOT gay. I can just careless to see it. If I cannot see in up close, smell it or is some very rare cases taste it, then don't send it, Simple? If you are seeking something more then a friendship I sadly do have requirements to weed out mentally challenged. REQUIREMENTS: The qualified applicants will be considered if: 1. You have a willingness, need and desire to please and follow orders well. 2. You are drug and disease free. NO MAJOR MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES THAT YOU ARE TAKING MEDICATION FOR!!! 3. Drama free. No Drama will be tolerated! I cannot stress this enough. If you are prone to jealousy, are looking for an escape from your husband or lover and think you can find a diversion from your mundane lives, move on to the next profile. I do not want any of this. 4. Your limits are WITHIN REASON. Or are the standard 3/5 limits kids, death and dismemberment (illegal activities or drugs). 5. Attractive, photogenic and bi-sexual are a plus. All serious inquiries will be considered and replied to. Please send a photo on your first letter of interest. But most important if you are a real female wanting a good time, that could be in the day or evening, hey I am up for meeting with you. I AM NOT looking to pay you for any services, NOT looking for a WHORE, just want a REAL female, i.e., BORN FEMALE Yes I am seeking a female that is wanting to learn about what I can do for her, give her, in turn we both get what we are looking for. I have nothing to hide,** if you have a question please do ask.

4/23/2008 2:16:22 PM

Wow talk about a zap back into time. I have been thrown into the past about 20 decades ago with no cable, no internet, and a huge dead spot for cell service.

Things here are so pitiful, with things falling apart, the house in shambles... and yard work that looks like it has gone untouched for years.

I am trying to keep my sanity, trying very, very hard. I can't believe that everything is "this bad", and when I mean "bad", I mean BAD!

Family is suppose to be a strong point. That is how I was raised, when there is no one else to offer support, there will always be your "blood", your "family". And for this family, it is not. Something my brothers seem to have forgotten.

So FUCK THEM.

This week has been challegening me, driving me nuts mentally, between shuttling my mother around, dealing with my stress out depressed father, restocking the bare frig, call landscapers to fix up years of neglect. Calling a outdoor pond specialist to fix the 3800 gal Koi fish pond and restocking it with fish (which is a dark blue color [not crystal clear] and the filter is working fine). Plus get a roofer out to fix a leak and a carpenter to fix up the doorways.

I guess you can say for someone that is used to control in his life, I feel like I am out of control at this point in my life. And being mature enough to admit that takes a lot of guts.

I am praying, something I have never really done, pray, I am praying that this is all a nightmare and in the next few weeks I can see some improvement. Both mentally and comically.

Thank you for everyone that has given me there support and the strength to keep sane.

3/27/2008 12:36:34 AM

[March/April update]

I have starting speaking to a few people around my new location. And I am very please with the mix that I have been speaking to.

For those of you that are wondering why I have still yet to list the town of where I will be living at, well I have a stalker. YEP, lil old me has a person for years I have asked her to stop contacting me. And I dreadfully have had to go to the local police which has notified the State Police and told them I will press charges in any state.

I then had to hire a Attorney and a Private Instigator to track down this person, find out her address and place of work. With all the information that the PI has given to my Attorney it is scary to think and know I am not the only person that this MEMBER IS STALKING.

I guess in a mere attempt to make herself feel better and turn the tables of FIVE LONG YEARS, 2874 TEXT MESSAGES IN THE PAST 2 YEARS, 148 PHONE CALLS LATER.

I guess it makes her feel better in her own little world to use the her words of; "If I had of went to him I would say it would've been a very BIG mistake. He has no true feelings or respect for females."

I will not get into a banter about all my references I can provide (well over 59 people [current, past, friends, students, co-workers]) that offer true opinions about me, my affiliations with BDSM organizations, as well the many people I still care about and will be offering Long Distance Mentoring.

Till she is served her papers, of notice of intent of a civil suit, i.e: she can continue to read my profile all she wants. It will still never list the town I live in.

If I seem a bit edgy to some people this is why.. for 5 years this person NEVER MET in person will not stop trying to contact me. My number is unlisted, My cell carrier, my bank, the IRS, all have been sent notices from the courts not to release any information to any call-In's.

Talk about always having that feeling of looking over your shoulder wondering what next will happen. I don't need the added stress of her TEX TING or CALLING me on a number I have already changed TWICE.

Well that is enough about that.. I really hopes she can now get the satisfaction of knowing where ever she wants to hide, she will have to surface sooner or later and have to do her taxes, find a new job, cause saying she lives at this point in Virgina near my extended family is not cool. And crossing your CRIME into other state, means you will be going away for a long FUCKING time.

My advice is stay in Kentucky, cause your Virgina Number you use.. well lets just say all the numbers you have used are and have been logged for years now. Including the "I want your Baby" and "I am in Tampa now" Plus the pictures you sent as well.

Have a good one, you stupid girl!

2/3/2008 2:58:37 PM

*** New Year Update ---

There is much more to me then just a SEXUAL Flare, for that you need to continue to read below.

Well it looks like I will be heading back to the Philly Metro area once again. With my 2 asshole bothers not caring about family and just for themselves. I will be moving back to the Bryn Mawr area to assist with my failing mother's health. Family is a huge part of my beliefs as well as eventually carrying on my family name.

It will be 8 years since the passing of my wife, I was told it was instantly, but the month of February is still very hard for me in general now with the add stress of family. More people in the US are kill by DUI's the any other country in the world. It is not as bad as AIDS/HIV but it is darn close.

I am NOT AT THIS POINT looking for anything more then meeting someone between the ages of 21-33, not looking to get married ASAP or someone that is mentally unstable. I am not going to rule out the younger crowd or the older crowd. just keep in mind that I am in my mid 30's.

--- end of update ***

12/29/2007 11:53:00 AM

BDSM is a 2 way street, BUT I CAN'T READ MINDS

This page is aimed at to take the step of introducing yourself to me, much as I have introduced myself through my pages, as a preliminary step to talking about you.

The large checklist in the middle of this page is not original to me, and is quite common though BDSM negotiations.

There are usually several reasons behind each question asked here. Two of the most common are: I'm a very curious person and They provide background which will help me to understand you. At the point that I ask you to fill this out, I most likely know you either not at all, or very little. These questions can also be used as a benchmark to see where you started from, and are fun to compare to where you end up.

As personal and detailed as these questions are, they are really just scratching the surface of getting to know you. People are deep, complex and often contradictory from the surface.

As I desire to train deeply, so I must know you deeply. One can only control poorly that which they do not understand.

So, please, be detailed and elaborate in your answers and share as much as you are able.

That means share what you are ready to share, and come back to the rest as you are able to...

Hopefully some of these questions will make you think... about yourself, or about your interests.

A few basics first;

1. When were you born and how old are you?

2. Where are you located? (If in school where is school and where is home?)

3.Are you currently involved with anyone? If so, how seriously? And how do you imagine training would fit in with it?

4. Do you have any children/dependants that would have to be taken into consideration?

5. What first introduced you to the idea of BDSM, and how did that introduction grow to the point where you are seeking training?

Now, a bit more in depth about you;

6.Please describe your physical appearance completely, as if you were standing nude before me, being examined by me. Also include height, weight, measurement and dimensions of everything, sizes for every article of clothing, rings, and shoes. Every detail of your appearance should be described, and you should tell me how your body will react to touch.

7.
a. How do you feel about your appearance?
b. What do you think your best feature is?
c. Your worst?

8. Describe yourself mentally to me.
a. What are you like?
b. What do you like
to do?
c. What are your favorite things: color, food, movie, song, group, book do you smoke, drink, ever do drugs?

9.Describe your personality to me. How would you explain yourself?

10.
a. How do you feel about your mental makeup?
b. What are your strengths and weaknesses?

11.How do you use your strengths and hide your weaknesses?

12. What are your spiritual and/or religious beliefs? How do you practice them?

13. What hobbies do you have?

14.
a. What is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you?
b. The happiest?
c. The saddest?

15. What do you think is the biggest problem in the world today, and how would you fix it?

16. What things are most important in your life?

17. What things are you afraid of?

18. What are some of the things you most want to do before you die?

19. Who do you most look up to? Why?

20. Do you believe there is other intelligent life in the universe?

21. If you were able to, what would you change about your life, and why?

22. What are your biggest accomplishments in your life?

23. Any health problems? (allergies, high blood pressure, drug addictions
etc)

24. What pets would you like to have?

25. If you were founding a new country on the ruins of what was once the US, what principles would you found it on? What would be in your ?

26. What do you feel most passionately about or believe most strongly in?

27. Are you:
o        Democrat or Republican:
o        Pro-choice or Pro-life:
o        Techno phobic or Technophilic:
o        Logical or Intuitive:
o        Introverted or Extroverted:

28. What five items would you consider indispensable in your life, and why?

Turning towards the sexual side and fetishes;

29. Tell me now about your sexual past. Very detailed and specific.
a. When and how did you lose your virginity?
b. How many partners? How many M?
c. How many F? What positions have you done?
d. What did you like/not like?
e. What are the best things you've tried and place you've had sex?
f. Overall, what do you like/not like?
g. Everything else... I should know almost as much as you know about your sexual experiences.
h. When was your last AIDS test?
i. When were you last tested for any other STDs?

30. What things turn you on? Both mentally - what images, thoughts, words, etc. as well as physically - where are you most sensitive, how to touch you, etc.

31. What do you prefer in panties - style, material and color?

32. What would you wear to seduce someone who you didn't know well but wanted to take to bed? (and please, be complete)

33. What is the favorite piece of lingerie/fetish wear that you own? That you have seen? (Descriptions are good, pictures are better - urls ok, pictures of you in them would be best ;)

Starting to get into the BDSM;

34. What do you think slavery will be like?

35. Why does it appeal to you/what do you want from it?

36. What (if anything) do you fear about it?

37. What things would humiliate you (Esp. in a way that arouses you)?

38. What is your darkest fantasy (no holding back at all, no matter how Taboo)?