I think I official found the most insane thing I've ever run into on a BDSM site. No it wasn't super crazy kinks.
It was a person with no level of sense of humor whatsoever.
I had a slave from St. Louis chatting me up, bragging about how professional and mature they were.
They asked me how my day was, and I literally made a single joke about downton abbey the tv show, and then said "oh one of my clients did something super annoying".
They flipped out. Wrote me back, cursing me out because "that client thing was incredibly inappropriate and uncalled for".
I was utterly shocked, could not make even the slightest sense about how someone could be that bothered because I said one of my clients had annoyed me, they weren't the client.
Then one of my friends shed some light on the crazyscape. They said the only thing that made sense was that this person was so incredibly immature and self centered that they somehow in their head made me talking about my day and someone else as having to be about them.
That did at least help clear it up to a point, although still it just was so crazy that I find myself still stunned.
What it makes me think of is how people have this tendancy to make the mistake of saying that bdsm is a bunch of crazy people, cause they must be crazy to be needing to do all that kinky stuff. Very not true. Honestly I find it to be the opposite. The most stable people I've known, more open and in touch with themselves, were people in bdsm. I think that can hold true to some extent. Anybody willing to explore themselves will be more open to considering things about themselves and dealing with issues.
It makes me sad to think that just like how poker is just a great card game that friends can sit around and play...it can attract criminals and addicts and crazy people....so just like that bdsm can in its own way draw in people who for them they are drawn to it for unhealthy reasons, instead of them being true to themselves.
And it makes me sad to think that those kind of people like that person I ran into, who present themselves as being a pillar of the bdsm community, can be seen by other people as proof that "bdsm is strange and messed up for crazy people".
On the up side if gives the rest of us good reasoning to remember to try and treat everyone fairly, and with respect, because whatever we do, when we do it we represent ourselves as well as those things we associate ourselves with.
