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Before you contact me, so we wont waste both time, answer yourself the following

1. Are you here just for sex, cause no one in vanilla world pay attemtption to you?

2. Are you here cause want to learn, grow and feel safe under protection?

3. You want to top from bottom? If so, you are completely wrong, cause here, that isnt going to happen.

4. If you are a rebel soul, I dont care, until know you are like that, cause people around you, dont know you really and cant handle that. With me,, are you ready to release your ....?

5. Are you really intelligent or just pretending to be smart?

6. Are you really ready for a new life?

More than 20 years into BDSM. Here to talk and meet, I ll not collar you asap. Thats isnt what a real Master do, If want to talk with me is better for you to be respectful.

BDSM isnt about a game is about an essence, and if you have a real subslave essence Ill notice.

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9/9/2014 7:44:28 AM
Why are you here?
(English isnt my first language, so I apologize if any mistake writing)

Before contacting a Dom, Master, sub or slave, you should ask yourserlf about the reason that bring you here ( to this site, to this lifestyle, to BDSM).  Cause depending on what are you searching for, if you really know that,  you can get a better answer to your expectations.

1. IF YOU ARE HERE CAUSE YOU CANT FIND A COUPLE IN VANILLA LIFE its ok if thats what you want, but you have to be sincere and dont make real BDSM souls to waste time.  You can find a lot like you without wasting time. 

2. IF YOU ARE HERE CAUSE YOU WANT TO KNOW YOUR SOUL BETTER its ok too, but you have to be sincere that you are naive and dont try to create a wrong image of you saying that you have experience, etc etc

3. IF YOU ARE HERE CAUSE YOU ARE A REAL SOUL CRAVING TO SUBMIT OR BE MOLDED, ETC  thats ok also, but try to be clear in your profile about  - Experience - Desires - Soft Limits and - Hard Limits

No matter who you are, if you are a real soul you can run away,  you can close the account, you can marry,  but you ll be back always craving for this.   So that fight will have only a unique winner always.


4/8/2014 6:17:14 AM

What is BDSM?

 

in the web are many BDSM definition, but this is one of the most complete definition I have found.

 

That’s a complicated question, and and it has nearly as many answers
as it has practitioners. The word itself is an acronym, but unlike most acronyms, the
letters in it are a set of smaller abbreviations, interlocking to define – broadly – a group of
concepts that can mean something as brief as a good night out or something as rich and
varied as a lifetime’s experience. BDSM denotes a set of mental, physical and emotional
possiblilities that can, at times, seem as mysterious as a secret cult – but you might be
surprised to find out that the chances are good that you’ve had some experience in the
field, even if you didn’t know about it at the time.

Generally, BDSM denotes a set of erotic preferences; it’s a form of sexual expression
(although you can, without trying too hard, find splinter groups who will say it’s not
about sex at all) that involve what’s called “power play”, or the taking of complementary
roles that set two or more participants at different levels of power. Among the roles
common in BDSM relationships or sessions, you might choose from top and bottom,
dominant (dom or domme) and submissive, master or mistress and servant or slave, and
many more. Even among those black-and-white-sounding names, though, you can find
grey areas – switches are people who feel equally comfortable in more than one role,
sometimes even in the same session. An important thing to understand when learning
about these roles, though, is that in many if not most cases, the bottoms, submissives and
slaves are just as likely to be dictating the terms of the session as their more powerful-
sounding counterparts.

The first set of letters – B&D – stands for Bondage and Discipline. If you’ve ever put a
blindfold on a partner, tied his or her hands with scarves, or given a spanking to someone
for being naughty, you’ve dabbled in B&D. Bondage is the use of restraints to enhance
sexual pleasure, and Discipline is the use of rules or punishment to control or reward
behavior in a sexual context. Either can be as innocuous as mild foreplay, a prelude to
less exotic sex, or it can be an activity in its own right – for many, B&D involves more
than just physical sensation – it can be a gateway to deep emotional experiences or self-
discovery. Bondage may take the form of token restraint, or it may involve a complex
array of equipment designed for arcane purposes – arm-binders, spreader bars, cuffs,
breath restrictors, elaborate rope arrangements and more. Discipline, too, can be a forum
for the inventive gadget-enthusiast – many of the devices used for the punishment of a
wayward partner rival bondage gear in their complexity and ingenuity, but it can also
be as simple and unadorned as a list of rules for a partner’s conduct. Of course, a wily
dominant may deliberately set rules that can’t be obeyed in order to make punishment
inevitable, but it’s just as likely that a wily submissive might disobey the rules on
purpose; rules, here more than anywhere else, are made to be broken.

D&S, or D/s, stands for Domination and Submission (many of its devotees like to play
games with capitalization in order to put a flourish on the power relationships). It’s
the most purely emotional of the three concepts. People in D/S relationships may not
have any physical interaction at all, and in some cases may never even meet. While D/
S relationships often contain aspects of both B&D and S&M when they are physical,
they can also be conducted at long distance, over the phone, instant messenger or even
by mail. Many would say that D/S is the most formal and ritualistic of the relationships,

and these tend to be the ones that lend themselves best to the long-term. If you’ve ever
played out a fantasy that involved a boss and his secretary, a sheik and a harem girl, or
an experienced older person and a willing virgin, you were probably playing with some
aspect of D/S while you did it. The power exchange can be benign and formal, like a
schoolteacher making a student behave, or it can take mush more intense forms, with
elements of emotional abuse or humiliation. It can flow the other way, too – D/S is the
venue in which you’ll find the submissive worshipping his or her Goddess, or the abject
slave striving to be worthy of a stern taskmaster.

S&M stands for Sadism and Masochism; it’s the most physical of the three milieus,
although it may involve emotional torture or humiliation as well, and it’s the one that
you most likely got your impression of BDSM from when you saw it parodied in a
mainstream movie. S&M is whips and chains, it’s spanking, and it’s bruises and welts.
It takes its name from the names of two European perverts of yore – the Marquis de
Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch; both men wrote extensively about the pleasure
to be found in the giving and receiving of pain as part of sexual pleasure – sadism and
masochism respectively. If you’ve ever enjoyed pulling someone’s hair, smacking
someone’s ass during sex, or reveled in a sharp bite from a lover, you’ve taken at least a
tentative first step into S&M. S&M may be part of roleplay, used as a part of either B&D
or D/S relationships to further their emotional power, or it may just be something you do
bcause you like a little pain or rough sex. In the context of the BDSM lifestyle, S&M is
distinct from acts of sexual violence in that both parties, ideally, negotiate and agree to
the degree of severity involved in the giving and receiving of pain. physical S&M can be
as specific as nipple torture or cock and ball torture, or it can involve an entire range of
activities from spanking, paddling, whipping, hot wax, and approximations of real forms
of torture

BDSM is a single acronym that unites a myriad of lifestyles, fetishes, and paraphilia that
may otherwise have nothing in common. A MILF fantasy, a human pony pulling a cart,
a play rape, and a ball-crushing giantess are all aspects of BDSM. By and large, the only
thing that BDSM layers ahve in common is the agreement that it should be performed by
responsible partners, of their own volition, and in a safe way – the motto “Safe, sane and
consensual” sums it up.

 

Source: whatisbdsm.com


8/2/2013 7:38:58 AM

If we first can connect the minds and soul,, the experience with the flesh will be amazing! you will live things that you never lived before!... but the question is:  are you here just for some kinky sex or what?


12/26/2012 11:03:49 AM

 

Why are you here?

 

Cause that feeling, deep inside, you can't explain?  cause you crave to feel that you belong to someone. Yes ,that Dom Master that will take your hand and will make someone better of you. That Dom Master that will be your ALL without questions.  

 

You are here cause that feeling of excitement, that turn you ON when feel the power of your Master Dom. You are here cause this is your drug, you think you can run away and turn off your profile, but when time pass you realize that you cant fight  against that deep feeling.   No matter if you promise that you wont be back,,,  is something that you cant stop cause is your essence, to serve, to be molded, to be punished, to shine like diamonds in the perfect hands...


12/6/2012 3:38:29 AM

A real slave or a fake slave?

 

When a real slave is talking/chating/contacting you, dont have to be a demanding slave. Cause this will only break any initial communication between both.   Slavery isnt a game, if just want some sex kinky time then you are just a "sub" (sayin these doesnt mean that all subs just want sex kinky times only).

 

A slavery is practically been part of your Master / Dom body and life.  When a slave is molded, she/he will be the best presentation card of his/her Master, but for obtain that need to begin a process that will take  time.   If you expect to earn a collar asap and just show some pics then let me tell you that soon you ll be like others so called "slaves" that post here that their relationships finished and they are searching again.

 

Slavery is about to learn your soul, to be in a complete communication sometimes without saying a word, cause your slave will know what his/her master want.

 

Slavery is the process of integrate totally your life with your Master Dom life, so take it seriously and is not ASAP, cause first the slave should have to learn patience, respect and to be an open book to his/her Master Dom.

 

 


12/6/2012 3:29:11 AM

BDSM Dictionary
A
Abrasion    The use of abrasive materials to stimulate the skin. Examples of materials include wire wool, sand paper or cheese graters.
Age Play    Role playing being a different age within a scene.
Alcohol Enema    See Enema
Anal Sex    Sexual intercourse involving the anus.
Anal Speculum    See Speculum, Anal.
Ankle Cuffs    See Cuffs.
Arm Sleeves    

Long sleeves which when laced together can restrain the entire arm.
Asphyxiation    Play involving the restriction of air. There are several reasons for this most involving fear play and trust or the way the body responds to asphyxiation (it apparently heightens arousal, though we can recommend many much safer forms.
B
B.D.S.M.    

Generally taken to mean: Bondage/Discipline, Domination/submission, Sadism/Masochism. B.D.S.M. is a collective term to cover all activities that fall within or near to that broad definition.

Just because someone practices one aspect does not mean they practice all of them - enjoying Bondage but disliking Sadism/Masochism for example is perfectly valid. To differentiate, people interested in a particular subset will often just use those initials for example, "I'm in to D/s." or "I'm in to B/D and S/M but not D/s."
Beating    Hitting someone to cause physical pain, usually for Sadistic/Masochistic reasons. Beatings can be for titillation (see Beating Soft) as opposed to pain (see Beating Hard).
B/D    Abbreviation for Bondage/Discipline. See B.D.S.M.
Beating, Hard (Light and Soft)    Soft (Light) Beating and Hard Beating are terms often used to differentiate between a relatively gentle play beating from one that is intended to cause a reasonable degree of physical pain and the responses that raises.
Bestiality    Having sex with an animal. Different to Zoophilia as it is about sex not love.
Biting    Using teeth to create sensations, particularly pain.
Blindfolds    Using a material to remove vision. By removing vision other senses are often heightened. This can also be used for fear play as the recipient may not know what is going to happen.
Bloodsports    Play involving blood.
Body Modification    Changing physical aspects of your body. Common methods include: branding, piercing, scarification, tattoos.
Body Piercing    

Piercing parts of the body other than the head. (See piercing)
Bondage    Restricting movement, usually with rope though almost anything can be used such as saran wrap (cling film), chains, straight jackets, etc.
Bondage, Heavy & Light    Heavy bondage usually means completely removing someone's ability to move while light bondage usually means simply limiting it in some non-complete form.
Boot Worship    Worshiping the boots of another. This can be for several reasons such as a foot or shoe fetish or for the power exchange such an act entails - showing the person worshiping the boots of the other to be firmly 'beneath' them.
Bottom    Someone who enjoys aspects of the scene as a 'recipient' but for whom submission is not a part of it. For example, a bottom could enjoy a flogging from a Top but that flogging is about the sensations, not the loss of power. Bottoms are different from masochists in that the sensations are not necessarily pain based. Bottoms are the flip side to Tops.
Bottoming    To perform the actions of a bottom.
Branding    Using heat and burns to leave scars for decoration or as a mark of some event/commitment/relationship, etc.
Breast Bondage    Binding the breasts in some restrictive way.
Breast Whipping    Whipping where the target is confined to just the breasts. See Whipping.
Brown Showers    Being defecated upon. See scat play.
C
Caning    Using a cane - usually wooden - or similar pole to beat someone.
Cat / Cat'o'nine tails    The cat is a type of flogger. It was originally used by sailors, made from un spun rope, giving the series of tails, usually with knots in the end. The nine-tails comes from the number of strands, though a cat can generally have pretty much any number. The definition is generally taken pretty laxly to cover most types of flogger.
Catheterisation    Placing a catheter in to someone's urethra to collect their urine.
Catherization    U.S. spelling of Catheterisation.
C.B.T. / CBT    (See Cock/Ball/Torture)
Chauffering    Performing as someone's personal driver.

Choking
    Restricting someone's ability to breathe. See asphyxiation.
Choosing Clothing    Taking away the right of an individual to choose their own clothing often as a sign of their submission to the person doing the choosing.
Choosing Food    

Taking away the right of an individual to choose their own food often as a sign of their submission to the person doing the choosing.
Clothes Pegs    The English name for the U.S. English 'clothespins'. See clothespins.
Clothespins    Using clothespins to pinch or clamp areas of flesh to heighten sensitivity or cause pain. They are often, though by no means exclusively, used on nipples.
Cock/Ball/Torture    

Often abbreviated to C.B.T. Causing pain to the male genitals for Sadistic/Masochistic pleasure.
Cock Worship    The worship of the male genitals. Usually a specific male's genitals such as a lover's rather than all male genitals.
Collaring    The act of giving a collar to someone. See Collars.
Collars    Collars are generally worn for one of three reasons. The most common reason is to signify the possession of the wearer by whoever granted the collar. This usually a very important sign of commitment within the scene community - similar to becoming engaged. Collars are also used for bondage (as a point that can be restrained or one that can have other things tied to it) and for posture.
Collar, Protection    Sometimes a collar is granted temporarily by a Dominant to signify that a submissive is under their protection. When the time comes that the submissive meets a Dom/me that they wish to enter in to a more permanent collaring with, the owner of the protection collar releases them. This form of collaring is becoming more and more common in internet chat rooms where wannabe Dom/mes are often very predatory and may harass submissives who are not collared.
Collar, Training    Sometimes a collar is granted for a period of training. Rather than signifying a commitment that is intended to be permanent, this commitment is intended to last only for the duration of training. See Collars.
Collar, Velcro    As collars are taken as a symbol of extreme commitment, those who tend to change collars regularly, grant their collars regularly or act with little respect of the deeper meanings are often accused of having Velcro collars - symbolising the temporary nature of the collars they are involved with. This is usually a term of contempt from those who value collars. See Collars.
Corset    A device used to shape the waist of the wearer, gathering it in to make it artificially narrower. Essentially the same as Victorian corsets though modern ones come in a wide variety of materials and styles. Reasons for wearing can include, amongst others: style, body modification and bondage/restraint.
Crop    A firm, straight, cane. Usually covered with something like leather or nylon, with a short leather flap at the end. It provides a sharp, stingy sensation, leaving long narrow welts if used hard enough.
Cuffs    Restraints that enclose and connect body parts, limiting movement. Common forms include hand cuffs (enclose and connect the wrists), ankle cuffs (enclose and connect the ankles) and thumb cuffs (enclose and connect the thumbs).
Cutting    Making cuts in to someone's skin, for Sadistic/Masochistic reasons or as a show of trust or submission. (See blood sports)
D

Dilation
Permanent and Temporary
    Stretching an opening. The two most common forms are anal dilation (stretching the anus open) and vaginal dilation (stretching the vagina open). Dilation can be temporary or permanent - the goal of permanent dilation being to permanently stretch that opening.
Dom    Normaly a male Dominant. (See Dominant)
Dominance    

Used to describe the Dominant actions of someone. "He had a natural Dominance", "She was secure in her Dominance over the sub." (See Dominant)
Dominant    Adjective or noun - "I am Dominant", "She is Dominant", "I am the Dominant partner" / "I am a Dominant", "She is a Dominant". Used to express that a person takes control within a power-exchange scenario or relationship. Generally one half of Dominance/submission.
Dominatrix    A female Dominant. Often professional. (See Dominant)
Domme    A female Dominant. (See Dominant)
Double Penetration    Penetration of two orifices at once such as anus and mouth, anus and vagina or mouth and vagina. Also see Triple Penetration.
Dressing, Forced    

Dressing in a manner pleasing to another against what would normally be the wishes of the person being dressed. This may be revealing, degrading or simply a form pleasing to the person in control.
D/s    Abbreviation for Dominance/submission. See B.D.S.M.
E
Electricity Play    Using electricity to create sensations. While many toys are home made, there are a variety of commercial products such as the T.E.N.S. unit and the Violet Wand.
Enema    Using water or another liquid, poured via a tube or similar device in to the rectum, to induce defecation. This can be as a preparation for other play or a Dominants pleasure or for humiliation and scat play. Alcohol enemas are sometimes used as it provides a faster transmission medium for the alcohol - strong caution is advised here as alcohol enemas can provide more alcohol than expected to the blood stream and have proved fatal.
Examination    Often used as an abbreviation of Medical Examination. Examinations can take on other forms for example a Master formally examining a slave to determine whether or not her finds the slave worthy of him.
Exhibitionism    Displaying more of the body than is socially acceptable, usually for arousal.
Exhibitionism, Forced    Being forced to display more of the body than is socially acceptable at the whim of another. This can either be against the desire of the person being exposed in which case it may be used for humiliation play, obedience, etc. or for their arousal but still at the whim of another. It may also be a combination of the two.
Exhibitionist    Someone who enjoys displaying more than is socially acceptable.
F
Face Slapping    Slapping the face. In the vanilla context, face slapping is regarded as an abusive display of power and contempt. The scene usage is both derived from that and also simply as a form of beating.
Facial Piercing    Piercing parts of the face. See Piercing.
Fantasy Gang Rape    See Rape, Gang and Rape, Fantasy.
Fantasy Rape    See Rape, Fantasy.
Fist Fucking    See Fisting.
Fisting    Placing the one or both hands inside the vagina or rectum then forming or attempting to form a fist. The resulting fist is fairly large and so creates a feeling of being stretched. To actually perform this requires a fair degree of skill and co-operation as tensing will make it all but impossible and may lead to internal damage. Once the fist is made it may then be moved forwards and backwards to 'fuck' the orifice.
Flash    To briefly expose more of the body than is socially acceptable. See Exhibitionism.
Flasher    Someone who flashes
Flogger    A multi-stranded (tailed) device used to flog someone. The material it is made of can vary from rope to synthetic material, to leather. It generally consists of about equal lengths handle to falls (the flogging section) to provide balance. A common example is the cat or cat'o'nine tails.
Following Orders    Obeying the orders given by another, there by symbolically accepting a submissive position.
Foot Worship    Worshiping the feet of another. This can be for several reasons such as a foot fetish or for the power exchange such an act entails - showing the person worshiping the feet of the other to be firmly 'beneath' them.
Forced Dressing    See Dressing, Forced.
Forced Exhibitionism    See Exhibitionism, Forced.
Forced Heterosexuality    See Heterosexuality, Forced.
Forced Homosexuality    See Homosexuality, Forced.
Forced Masturbation    See Masturbation, Forced.
Forced Nudity    See Nudity, Forced.
Forced Servitude    See Servitude, Forced.
Full Head Hood    A hood that covers the entire head. The effect may be to render the wearer anonymous, unable to see, speak, hear or in some cases to limit breathing.
G
Gagging    Using a gag on someone. Gagging has a secondary meaning of choking or retching such as when the 'gag' reflex point at the back of the throat is touched
Gag    

Noun: Using a material or device to limit use of the mouth. Not all gags are designed to stop speech (though many are) they can also be used for tasks such as forcing a mouth to remain open, unable to control what is placed inside it.

Verb: To gag means to choke or to retch. See gagging.
Gang Rape, Fantasy    See Rape, Gang and Rape, Fantasy.
Genital Piercing    Piercing parts of the genitals. Common pierces include: inner/outer labia; clitoral hood; glans and urethra (prince albert); the underside of the penis (frenum); scrotal sack (guiche?) and many others. See piercing.
Genital Sex    Sexual intercourse between the genitals of two or more people.
Genital Torture    Causing pain to the genitals for Sadistic/Masochistic pleasure.
Giving Away    To give a submissive or slave to another Dominant or Master. This may be temporary but often implies permanence. This should be entered in to carefully as, aside from emotional issues involved it the submissive may not have consented to the new Dominant and the new Dominant may not know or respect the submissive's limits.
Golden Shower    To urinate upon someone else. So named because of the 'golden' colour of urine and the way it showers the recipient.
Gor    

Gor is a fantasy creation based on a series of novels set on Counter Urth - a similar planet to the Earth that orbits exactly opposite the Earth and so is always directly behind the sun and invisible. On Gor, society is profoundly different with Dominants (usually male) taking slaves (usually female, called kajira). Slaves on Gor have no rights and are subject to the whims of their owners. These whims may include death. There is no concept of safewords on Gor.

There is a rich tradition built upon the Gor novels including everything from dress to serving rituals to submissive positions. When used positively, this can provide a very rich background upon which to base power exchange scenes and relationships. Unfortunately Gorean culture is often abused and used by unscrupulous would be Dominants as a means to justify their damaging play. As a result, many non-Gorean scene members tend to write off Gor as both dangerous and fake. It should be noted that, with a degree of forewarning, common sense as to where the fantasy must end and consideration, Gor can offer a lot.
Gorean    An adjective used to describe something being from Gor. For example Gorean culture, a Gorean Dominant or the Gorean lifestyle.
Group Masturbation    See Masturbation, Group.
H
Hairbrush    Traditional flat backed hairbrushes make very convenient toys - they flat back works wonderfully for spanking while the bristles are great for sensation play.
Hair Pulling    Hair pulling works on several levels. It has associated meanings with violence play, physical dominance and cruelty as well as the more simple pain/arousal trigger.
Hand Cuffs    See Cuffs.
Hand Job    Sexually pleasuring someone else's genitals with your hand (giving) or having someone use their hands on your genitals (receiving). See masturbation.
Harnessing    Putting someone in harness. This may be for bondage or control. Often a part of Pony Play
Heavy Beating    See Beating, Heavy.
Heavy, Bondage    See Bondage Heavy.
Heterosexual    

Adjective: A person who is sexual towards members of the opposite gender. See Heterosexuality.

Adverb: Something which is in the nature of sexuality directed towards the opposite sex.
Heterosexuality    Sexuality focused towards the opposite gender. The opposite of homosexuality - sexuality towards the same gender.
Heterosexuality, Forced    Being forced to perform heterosexual acts against the ordinary will of the individual.
Homosexual    

Adjective: A person who is sexual towards members of the same gender. See Homosexuality.

Adverb: Something which is in the nature of sexuality directed towards the same sex.
Homosexuality    Sexuality focused towards the same gender. Taken from the stem Homo- meaning man - sexuality towards other men. The opposite of heterosexuality - sexuality towards the opposite gender. Often used for both genders - men loving men and women loving women (see Lesbian).
Homosexuality, Forced    Being forced to perform homosexual acts against the ordinary will of the individual.
Human Pony    See Pony Play.
Human Puppy    See Puppy Play.
Humiliation    Humiliation play, much like pain play, can cause the body to release adrenaline and endorphins to cope with what it perceives as a threatening situation. As with pain play, these chemicals can be found pleasurable. Humiliation can take a wide variety of forms from exhibitionism to name calling to abuse play. As with many perceived negative 'abuse' aspects of the scene, beyond the chemical highs, there can be the ability to explore concepts that are otherwise painful to deal with and potentially bring about a degree of closure
Humiliation, Private    Humiliation play that takes place in a private setting between just the instigator and the recipient.
Humiliation, Public    Humiliation play that takes place in the view or possible view of others. This may be with other scene members at a party or it may be in public. When playing in public and using public responses it should be noted that the public have probably not consented to being a part of the particular scene and so should be treated with care.
I
Ice    Extremes of hot and cold can be a great part of sensation play. Ice, due to its solidity, is convenient to handle and, due to it melting, brings in a range of other options with it dripping and so on. While the human body detects cold very well, it tends to be bad at the specifics of the response. As such ice can be used with a blindfolded person along with verbal suggestions and hints to create the illusion of any number of sharp sensations such as knife play.
Including Others    Including people other than your partner in your sexual encounters and scenes.
Infantilism    Taking on the role of an infant.
Injections    Using injections as a part of scene play. This may be as a variant of needle play or may be used to inject saline in to body parts as a temporary form of body modification.
Intricate Rope Bondage    Taking rope bondage to the extremes of intricacy. Some people may find the time needed is too much and leaves them bored or loses their arousal. For others the intricacy and complexity elevate rope bondage to another level.
Interrogation    Role playing an interrogation scene. This may simply verbally aggressive or may go so far as torture.
K
Kajira    The term kajira is used within Gorean culture to indicate a slave. See Gor and Slave.
Kidnapping    Role playing a kidnapping.
Kneeling    Kneeling is taken as a form of subservience. Many individuals and groups take kneeling further by introducing formal positions and rituals when kneeling that emphasise the submission.
L
Leather    Leather is one of the most popular materials used within the scene. As well as the fetishistic appeal it has for many people, it is strong, flexible and can be shaped well. It is worth noting that some people have moral objections to the use of leather and it is worth checking with a new partner that they are comfortable your using it before you do for the first time.
Leather Restraints    Restraints made of leather. For example cuffs/manacles.
Lecturing    A form of verbal humiliation and punishment.
Leg Sleeves    Similar to arm sleeves, leg sleeves allow the entire legs to be restrained together. See leg sleeves.
Lesbian    A female homosexual. See Homosexual and Homosexuality.
Licking    Use of the tongue. Licking can be interpreted in a wide variety of ways by different people. It can involve sensation play (particularly when a bound victim is tied up and licked); intimacy; submission and servitude (for example when a Dominant orders a submissive to lick their shoes or feet).
Light Beating    See Beating, Light.
Light Bondage    See Bondage, Light.
M
Masochism    Deriving pleasure from your own pain and suffering. Often for the chemical reactions the body has to pain and as a symbol of giving up power.
Masochist    Someone who enjoys masochism.
Massage    The rubbing or kneading of parts of the body to aid circulation or relax the muscles. This may be as a caring action or as a form of servitude.
Masturbation    Sexually pleasuring ones genitals. Usually with the hands. Also see Hand Job.
Masturbation, Forced    Being forced to masturbate against the ordinary will of the individual. Perhaps in a situation where they would not willingly masturbate such as in front of others.
Masturbation, Group    Masturbating in a group.
Masturbation, Mutual    Sexually pleasuring each other with the hands.
Medical Examination    Medical style examination of a subject, often internal using speculums or similar.
Medical Play    Scenes involving elements of the medical profession. May often, though not always, include a medical examination.
Mouth Bit    A bar that passes from one side of the mouth to the other, between the teeth, usually secured behind the head, in exactly the same way as a horses bit does on a horse. This may be as a type of gag or for pony play.
Mutual Masturbation    See Masturbation, Mutual.
N
Nipple Torture    Causing pain to a nipple for Sadistic/Masochistic pleasure.
Nudity, Forced    Being forced to be naked against the ordinary will of the individual. Perhaps in a situation where they would not willingly be naked such as in front of others.
O
Orgasm Control    Controlling when orgasms are permitted. Sometimes as a punishment, sometimes to add meaning to them when they do happen, for a variety of reasons.
Orgasm Denial    The denial of the right to orgasm. See Orgasm Control.
P
Paddle    A wide, flat object uses to beat large areas of flesh. Appearances vary from table tennis bats to long boards with handles at one end, sometimes with holes drilled through to reduce air resistance.
Penetration, Double    See Double Penetration.
Penetration, Triple    See Triple Penetration.
Permanent Dilation    See Dilation, Permanent.
Piercing    Placing adornments such as jewelry through holes made in the body for the purpose. Ear piercing is a commonly accepted vanilla version. Most parts of the body can be pierced though. Often for sexual as well as adornment reasons (See body piercing, facial piercing and genital piercing)
Play Piercing    Temporary, non-permanent, piercings. Used to create much of the effect, as well as for Sadism/masochism reasons, but lasts only for the duration of the scene.
Pony Boy    A male who takes on the role of a pony. See Pony Play.
Pony Girl    A female who takes on the role of a pony. See Pony Play.
Pony Play    Taking on the role of a horse. This may be taken to a range of extremes: from briefly playing with aspects of being an anthropomorphisised horse, perhaps crawling around with someone on your back, to fully taking on the persona of a horse, with all of the associated harness, equipment and activities, for escapism play.

Post-Operative Transsexual
    A transsexual who has had the operation to change genders. (See Transsexual)
Pre-Operative Transsexual    A transsexual who has not had the operation to change genders but usually has had the hormone treatments and other related processes to begin the change. (See Transsexual)
Protection Collar    See Collar, Protection.
Puppy Boy    A male who takes on the role of a puppy. See Puppy Play.
Puppy Boy    A female who takes on the role of a puppy. See Puppy Play.
Puppy Play    Taking on the role of a puppy. This may be taken to a range of extremes: from briefly playing with aspects of being an anthropomorphisised puppy to fully taking on the persona of a puppy for escapism play. Puppy play often involves a degree of water sports as puppies are 'prone to have accidents'.
Pussy Torture    Causing pain to the female genitals for Sadistic/Masochistic pleasure.
R
Rape    Rape is a crime where one person forces themselves sexually upon another, against their will. Rape itself has no part in consensual sexuality however rape fantasies can be a part of it, allowing the concept to be consensually explored.
Rape, Fantasy    Playing out a fantasy scene of a rape. While rape itself has no part in consensual sexuality, rape fantasies can be a part of it, allowing the concept to be consensually explored. This can be for a whole variety of reasons such as exploration of the issues, confronting past experiences, power exchange, fear, stranger or 'non-consensual' fantasies.
Rape, Gang    Rape committed by more than one assailant. As with non-Gang rape, in itself it has no part in consensual sexuality but the fantasy may do, especially as a justification for sex with multiple partners ("me thinks the lady doth protest too much"). See Rape, Fantasy.
S
Sadism    Deriving pleasure from the pain and suffering of others. Often as a symbol of power.
Sadist    Someone who enjoys sadism.
Scarification    Causing deliberate scars for decoration or as a mark of some event/commitment/relationship, etc.
Scarfing    A form of asphyxiation play. Named from the use of a scarf to strangle the "recipient". (See asphyxiation)
Scat Play    Defecating (shitting) upon someone.
Scene    

1. A collective term to describe the elements of a particular kink. Identical in use to 'the party scene', 'the fetish scene' describes all of the clubs, related social and lifestyle aspects of fetish culture while 'the D/s scene' describes the aspects of D/s culture and so on.

'The scene', within the context of a particular kink is simply an abbreviation for example within the fetish scene, 'the scene' is taken to mean 'the fetish scene'. To complicate things a little further, 'the scene' has a general context taken to mean all aspects of all alternative lifestyles.

2. A scene is also a way to describe a delimited sexual encounter. For example 'We had a heavy scene last night' or 'I would like to try an interrogation scene with you.' It comes from the same base as a dramatic scene though it does not necessarily involve role play.
Scening    The imperfect form of to scene. Meaning to be involved in a scene. As in "We were scening last night." See the second definition of Scene.
Serve    To perform tasks for another. This may be menial such as serving a meal or tidying the house or sexual such as performing sexual tasks for another's pleasure.
Serviced    Receiving the actions of someone serving you. See Serve.
Serving    See Serve.
Servitude, Forced    Being forced to be serve against the ordinary will of the individual. Perhaps in a situation where they would not willingly serve such as in front of others.
Slave    Traditionally slaves are people who belong to others. Within the scene it is taken to mean something similar - a submissive in a long term relationship who regards him- or herself to be owned by their Dominant. As with many terms there are those who use it that others feel do not have the level of commitment necessary to use the term appropriately hence there may be the appearance of a wider definition.

The term slave is also sometimes used by those submissives that believe they have 'no rights' and are simply available to be used by any Dominant. As mentioned above this usage is sometimes treated with contempt as many would argue that claiming you have no limits is both dangerous and immature (as experience proves that everyone other than the clinically insane has some limits).

Those involved in Gorean culture tend to use the term slave (kajira in Gorean) to describe any submissive female.
S&M    abbreviation for Sadism and Masochism. See B.D.S.M.
S/M    abbreviation for Sadism/Masochism. See B.D.S.M.

Soft Beating
    See Beating, Soft.
Speculum    
     A device used to dilate an orifice for examination. Traditionally speculums are used by gynecologists to perform vaginal examinations. They are also sometimes used for anal examinations. See Medical Examination and Medical Play
Speculum, Anal    A speculum used for anal examinations.
Speculum, Vaginal    A speculum used for vaginal examinations.
Sub    A submissive person of either gender. See submissive.
Submission    Used to describe the submissive actions of someone. "He had a natural submission", "She felt secure in her submission to her Master." (See Dominant)
Submissive    Someone who enjoys surrendering power within a power exchange setting or relationship.
T
Tawse    An item used for beating. Traditionally a long, narrow (width wise), heavy, strip of leather, often with one or two splits.
Temporary Dilation    See Dilation, Temporary.
T.E.N.S. Unit    A commercial pain relief device that uses electricity to ease pain in specific areas that have been targeted by its pads. It also gets used by practitioners of electricity play as it is a convenient, controllable device.
Top    Someone who enjoys aspects of the scene as a 'biver' but for whom dominance is not a part of it. For example, a Top may have no problem with a bottom giving constant demands to the direction in which the scene progresses as they are interested in giving the sensation, not dominating the bottom. Tops are different from say sadists in that the sensations they give are not necessarily pain based.
Topping    To perform the actions of a Top.
Training Collar    See Collar, Training.
Transexual    Someone who has changed their gender. (See pre-operative and pre-operative transsexuals)
Transvestite    Someone who enjoys dressing in the clothes of, or appearing to be of, another gender.
Triple Penetration    Penetration of all three orifices at the same time: anus, mouth and vagina. Also see Double Penetration.
V
Vaginal Speculum    See Speculum, Vaginal.
Velcro Collar    See Collar, Velcro.
Violet Wand    A commercial product that allows a surface charge of electricity to be given by those interested in electricity play.
W
Watersports    Play involving urine and urination.
Whip    A long flexible device, usually made of leather, used to beat someone.
Whipping    Using a whip to beat someone. Usually for Sadistic/Masochistic reasons.
Whipping, Breast    See Breast Whipping.
Wrist Cuffs    See Cuffs.
Z
Zoophile    Someone who is in to zoophilia.
Zoophilia    Having loving relationships with animals. Practitioners differentiate it from bestiality as they claim it is about love, rather than sex


11/18/2012 8:30:11 PM

For those who are asking me if i can come to train you or your slaves for a short period of time the answer is YES but will be only under my rules!


11/3/2012 8:09:31 AM

A real BDSM Bond

 

First of all if your are here just for some kinky sex and some spanks, then you should not read this.  This is for only those real sub / slave souls that want to know about real bonds into BDSM.

 

To make your relationship / contract function, you first need to feel deep inside your soul that connection with your Master/Menthor/Sir.  This feeling that you cant explain but make you want to belong to, is the most important one.  Cause of it you ll be able to really connect and give all in the new relation.

 

Otherwise,,  youll be just a waste of time.

 

 


11/1/2012 9:02:08 PM

COLLAR in BDSM

 

This is a real description of what a collar is for real slaves/subs.  Not those players that use it asap.

 

A slave/sub wrote this:

 

When I first started out a little over 15 Years ago, the word Collar made slaves salivate and the dominance straighten up a little more. A Collar was a sign of achievement of something very special on both parts. It was in essential the equivalent of a Wedding Ring. You didn't just give it to the first person coming along, but it was something that was given after a long and arduous time of courtship, getting to know and the eventual training. To receive the collar of a dominant was something a slave would dream about in his or her bed or the floor by the bed of that specific dominant.


No mountain would have been to high too contemplate nor any Ocean too far to cross to achieve this coveted sign of slavery. Sadly however, those times are long gone. As Collars are more and more made with Velcro Snaps, Cyber Glue and are more often then not a "cute" or "kinky" fashion accessory.

 

When you go out and about these days you see little teenagers that aren't even 17 Years of age running around with Collars they have purchased at the closest fashion accessory store or Spencers, Hot Topics or other supposedly Gothic Store. They can even purchase such an item at clothing stores like Fashion Bug as my daughter informs me. They snap the Collar into place and think they are cool, hip and something special.

 

Go to the right place at the wrong time and you will see one teenager leading another around on a leash in public. No problem? Wrong! Those teens don't even have a clue what they are doing. Who we don't see in public with Collars proudly presented around their necks or leashes hooked into the D-Rings of said Collars are the actual slaves and Masters/Mistresses proudly holding the end of that Leash. Why you may rightfully ask? Because we may enrage, upset, disgust or otherwise disturb the Vanilla Community! Anyone want to explain this one to me, because I am at this point clueless.

 

Collars come in many forms and sadly only a few are worn with honor anymore. I have personally gone through 3 Versions of the Collar while I became Property. I am now permanently collared even if I can not wear it around my Neck in the form of my Ownership Mark on the back of my right Shoulder blade.

 

Let me address a few of the Collars you may encounter in the BDSM Realm.

 

A Collar of Consideration or Protection:

This Collar is a very temporary Collar that was worn by a slave during a consideration period and was done very seldom and only by those with very specific "training" styles. You may have seen a Collar of Protection worn by a slave during a Play Party aligning them with the Dominant that had granted the Protection. This will usually be a very simple collar with no lock or key. No D-Ring or one that is very small. It is usually placed upon the Neck of the submissive at the Party in full view and taken off after. Making it very clear that this is only for protection purposes. During this time however, the slave will act as if this dominant is the rightful Master or Mistress and refer to them in all areas of service. This "under protection" slave may not be played with, without the permission and in most cases presence of the Dominant in charge for that time period. However, the slave retains to right to request a playtime with a specific person or reject it respectfully. Kind of like Babysitting I guess in a Vanilla World.

 

 

A Training Collar.

This was one of my first Collars received by my Owner. During this time period I am a mere submissive. I am belonging to this person, am under training for a specific time frame or for duration. At this point of the journey, I am considered the submissive of the dominant, but no contract has been set up as of yet. You could consider this the engagement time. Your courtship is over and your steady training has begun. Now actions carry consequences and more often or not this is the making or breaking period for many slaves and Dominants. This period of Time can vary from couple to couple. It used to be a minimum of 2 Years, but each hold their own stock on it. If after this time, the submissive has proven to be the right one and the Master or Mistress also, again yes it goes from both ends, than you may find yourself at an official Collaring Ceremony.

 

 

The Slave Collar.

Joy of joys and privilege of privileges. You are now the honored slave of your dominant and are fully belonging to him or her. At this point a contract may be drawn up, not unlike a marriage license with both making their rights and responsibilities known to all in attendant. This is one of the most wonderful moments in a slave's life. It is also a very special moment in the Life of a Dominant. You now have achieved something most can only dream about. Usually this collar is presented in a 24/7 Lifestyle setting and the Slave if lucky is present in the household of the Master or Mistress. This Collar took in our M/s Relationship almost 5 Years to achieve. With several setbacks and back steps when my Training wasn't going well. At this point you may see the addition of a lock and key. Perhaps even a tag that may be attached to the D-Ring. Again this is individual to the specific M/s Relationships.

 

Most of the Time this is where it stops and most are more then content at this point. What more would you ask for. In some extreme cases like my-self being the slave wasn't enough. I yearned to be owned, fully and completely. I wanted to be the absolute property of my Master. I wanted to give the gift of my complete life and soul to him.

For me this came in the form of my Ownership Mark and in some cases it would be an

 

 

Ownership Collar.

At this point the Contract is resigned, redone and finalized. You are now no longer your own person, but the property of another human being. Evenso, in legal views he can not make me do anything or do anything I don't want to me, in the eyes of the property those laws do not apply. For this reason it is extremely important that you do know who you are willing to go this far with and it shouldn't ever been done without your fullest understanding of this deed. This is not only the greatest of honors for a slave but for the Master or Mistress as well. You have noticed that the Titles now have changed. He no longer is a mere Master, but he is my Owner. He owns me fully and irreversibly. Should this commitment ever be broken, no other can ever own me again. I can not allow such complete possession of my very heart, soul and being ever again. This is a very deep and emotional step, which has gone much further then any vanilla marriage ever could. This is like a marriage without the option of divorce. This will carry on into death. Matter of fact, it is my express wish to be cremated after my death and to have my ashes placed inside a sarcophagus (miniature) and when my Owner dies the same will be done to him or reversed. This is done this way for us so I can continue serving him and be as one with him after death. You see, the phrase - until death does us apart - does not come into it. I hope this will demonstrate the deepness of our devotion to each other.

Now on to the Collars you may also find.

 

 

Cyber Collars

These are virtual Collars often virtually worn by people who have no idea of the real world. Their relationship is very real to them, just like a character on Warcraft is real to their player. They live the life of a Dominant and Slave in their fertile imagination. No problem as long as nobody gets harmed, however when those that are inexperienced and claim to be long time Masters or Mistress get a hold of a person in real life and now try to implement some of the foolish and downright stupid Ideas they have spoken of on the net, often real time harm can happen. It is completely exiting to some to think that they can hang a female only of her freshly pierced nipples from the ceiling and then flog her until she bleeds, do this in real life and you may have her death on your hands at worst, at least your will have ripped her nipples wide open.

 

 

Velcro Collars

Most of us who are in some version of the real time BDSM call it that because of the easy on and easy off attitude. What such a person however seldom seems to realize is that those with Velcro Collars are seldom respected in the BDSM Lifestyle Community. If you are Mistress or Master today, collared to so and so tommorrow and the next day you are nothing just to return to being collared by another a week later and then suddenly return to dominance all the while wearing various collars from various people, you are a laughable and very pathetic human being. Those types are plentiful and sadly are one of the causes of ridicule for us.

 

In the end, this world of ours has become a sad place indeed, when slaves don't wear their collars out of false respect to the vanilla community and the young of the vanilla community wear the Collars for fashion Accessories. Perhaps, it is time to step out of the Shadows and educate those that need educating and bring a bit of honor back to our honorable lifestyle.


10/29/2012 7:57:21 PM

For those who come to me, asking me to explain why their "bdsm relationship" failed, here are the simple answer.

 

1. A Fast collaring mean a fast destruction

2. First you should TALK to know each other

3. Then you should learn about each other feelings, rules and limits

4. To develop a good bond you should LEARN to hear your soul

5. This is not about distance or kink or just sex,  if you want a real BDSM relationship is about a deeper connection where the slave or sub is part of the Master and viceversa

6. If someone just want to fuck and be fucked ASAP,   that for sure is just a player! LOL


10/22/2012 7:00:34 PM

Want to have an idea of slave rules, check this out and take them as a guide not as a law!

 

The Ten Commandments of Ownership


1. I confirm that I am my master's slave.

2. I give my master the right to have power over me.

3. I recognize my servitude is not an actual slavery. My master does not (At least in a legal sense) own me. I am my master's willing slave.

4. Once I am not willing, my master no longer has power on me.

5. I will not abuse that, and neither will my master. Therefore, if my Master orders me to do something I do not want to do, then I will not threaten to leave my master. And also, on Master's end, if Master wants me to do something that I seriously can not bring myself to do, Master has no right to make me.

6. I confirm that we have a relationship.

7. If one person isn't having a good time in the relationship, the relationship is useless, and almost obscene. So therefore, my master must give and take, and I must give and take. My master gives me the pleasure of being a slave, and takes the pleasure of being a master. I take the pleasure of being a slave, and my master takes the pleasure of being a master. Just because my master is in a position of dominance, and I am in submission doesn't mean that my master can make me do something that I don't get pleasure out of in BDSM, or at least without making up for it.

8. I respect that on a legal, moral, philisophical, religious, platonic, and all levels that are not sexual, we are equals. Only in the time we have agreed on am I not equal to my master, and this is because I have let myself be small and my master has let become big. This is what makes the relationship equal.

9. I promise that I will not let being a slave ruin my self-confidence, and I hope that my master will not let Master's dominance inflate my master's self esteem.

10. I admit that if my master does not like this relationship anymore, or if I do not like this relationship anymore, I confirm the normal right to either end the relationship, or end the BDSM part of the relationship.

Safety first

 

11. Both I and my master must each respect the principle of SSC, or "Safe, Sane, and Consentual".

12. If this is violated, I retain the right to leave my master.

13. There is a difference between feeling unsafe, and pain. Being unsafe is when somethign potentially harmful to the body happens. This could be anything from the possibility of choking from gags, to blood loss, or the possibility of infection. Anything with serious health risks should be avoided at all costs. Pain is more like, a whipping, a spanking. You probably will not die or be seriously injured, if done properly and safely, from a whipping. However, if your master happens to think a good punishment is, say, slitting your wrist, that is unsafe. Also, he belongs in a mental institution.

14. Insanity is something that is ridiculously out of limits. An example: your master orderign you to do 50 jumping jacks, while naked, in front of your local police station. Here are some general things (and this is a generalization, perhaps in select cases it could be different) If it could get you arrested, raped, hurt, injured, or at worst: killed, you a) should not do it, b) get out of that relationship.

15. Concentual means that both people are agreeing to do it. I am introducing something I devised myself; the three levels of concentuality.

Slave wants to do task: Greenest
Slave is okay doing task: Greener
Slave can do task: Green

An example for each.

Suppose you are really into ageplay, and your master also enjoys it. Your master says that you'll spend one day being a baby. Greenest (you want to be your master's baby)

Suppose you can tolerate, say, crossdressing. Your master orders you to do it. Greener (You tolerate it but don't want to do it)

Suppose you have been naughty (hopefully not!) and your master decides to whip you. Green (You don't want to do it, and it's not something you'd normally do, but it is not something you can't do- it's not against your limits.)

16. You have the right and responsibility to limits.

17. A limit can not be anything you don't really want to do. A limit is something that for some psychological, physical, irrational, rational, or human reason you can simply not bring yourself to do. A master who has a slave with arachnophobia should not and can not chain the slave down, and put a hairy spider on the slave!

18. One of your first and most important responsibilites as a slave is to inform your master of all your limits.

19. There are soft limits and hard limits. Soft limits are breakable. Like say you for some reason you can not masturbate in front of your master. If this is a soft limit, your master can take you, with babysteps, through this soft limit until you've eaten threw it completely.

20. If it is a soft limit of mine, my master can slowly take it away. But if my master moves too quickly, I retain the right to ask my master to slow down (politely, of course).

21. Hard limits I may never get rid of. Sometimes they might turn to soft limits. My master must respect my hard limits.

22. I have a safeword. If this word is uttered in a task or a punishment, my master must stop immediately.

23. I will never use a safeword unless my master has transgressed one of my limits, or if I legitamitely think something is unsafe, insane, or unconsentual.

24. Using it otherwise is frowned upon, and I can and should be punished for it.

25. If I am unnable to say a safeword, (like if I am gagged) my master will and must tell me something else to do to inform me if he has transgressed my limits or if it is insane, unsafe, or unconsentual.

 

Bill of Rights

 

26. I retain the right of ceasing the relationship, or the BDSM part of the relationship between me and my master.

27. I retain the right to limits.

28. I retain the right to have my own life aside from the relationship I have with my master; this includes work, friends, studies, social events, and any family or religious events. However, I must work with my master to formulate a schedule, and if I need time that he has with me, I will ask him first.

29. I retain the right of having the relationship between me and my master not purely sadomasochistic; there should be other elements as well.

30. I retain the right to a time period in which I have the ability to talk freely and openly, if not disrespectfully, about what I seriously believe about how this relationship is going, and what my master and I both could do to improve.

31. I retain the right to aftercare, if I need it.

32. I retain my right to a safeword.

33. I retainall other rights I have discussed with my Master.

 

Now that I've just gotten all those freebies... It's time for something I have to do!

 

34. I will respect my master.

35. My master has control over me.

36. Master's command is what I must do. As long as it is not insane, unsafe, unconsentual, or in violation of my limits, I will do what he orders me. (We assume from here on out that commands are not in violation of limits, unsafe, insane, or unconsentual.)

37. Master's command is my pleasure. No matter what it is; whether it is degrading, whether it is painful, whether it is humiliating, whether it is disgusting. No matter, I must do it. I must do it.

38. Master will respect me as long as I respect him.

39. I will do his commands as best to my abilities. I will follow his orders with as much rigor as I can muster, and with the most exactitude possible.

40. I am his slave.

 

Some generic rules*

 

*I do not promise or confirm that your master will demand these things of you. I would like to reitterate that these rules were not written to be a standard. I am merely writing this to give an alternative view to that of the other 128.

41. I will refer to my Master directly however Master commands me to. This means that I will never answer Master, "Yes" but rather (for example) "Yes, Master" or "Yes, Sir" or "Yes, Ma'am".

42. Never will I refer to my master by name, unless Master has specifically ordered or asked me to do so.

43. When I am talking about my Master to someone else, I still then will not call Master by his proper name, but the honorific or title he has told me to use.

44. I must be well-nourished. Therefore, not just for Master but also for myself, I will try to stay healthy. For Master, it is perhaps for the looks. Or perhaps he legitamitely wants to see me healthy. For me, it must never be about the looks. I must never have a low self-esteem, either because of my position, or because of exterior things.

45. I will always do my best. For master, and for life in general.

46. While we are in a session, Master's pleasure is of greater importance than of mine. Hopefully, however, his pleasure will be my pleasure.

47. I will not think of others lustfully.

48. I will not date, go out with, or become romantically involved with anyone apart from my Master. Master will do the same*.

49. I will nto have another Master. Master will not have another slave*.

50. I will not have sex in any capacity, be it oral, anal, or vaginalwith anyone but Master. Master will follow suit*.

(* There is a fetich that exists called cuckold play. If this is a part of your relationship, then your Master is exempt from these three rules only if a) you have agreed on it, b) youunderstand that paradoxially he is having sex with others for your pleasure, at least in part.)

51. My master 'owns' my body. I am just an 'object' and 'nothing more' to Master. An 'object for Master's pleasure'.

(I put most of that in quotations because it is assumed that both people know this isn't really true.)

52. Master 'owns' all of my body. My eyes, my ears, my nose, my arms, my legs, my heart, my lungs, my toes, my feet, my fingers, all of my body. (FOR GIRLS) His/Her toys are my breasts, my nipples, my pussy, my mouth, my ass. (FOR BOYS) His/Her toys are my cock, my balls, my ass, my mouth. (EVERYONE) Therefore, I will not play with Master's toys unless I have been given explicit and specific permission from Master, or a command from master.

 

Trust

 

53. I confirm my trust in my Master. I trust he will keep me well. I trust he will honor my rights, and I trust he will take care of me.

54. I trust he will take care of my body. I trust he will take care of my mind. I trust he will make sure all of my needs, be they physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, psychological, or sexual.

55. I will not blindly trust my master.

56. However, I will trust him until he transgresses my limits or the SSC.

57. When such a transgression occurs, I must trust he will make it up to me, so that I will fuly trust him once more.

 

Tasks

 

58. I will do any task my master orders me.

59. I will try to do it to the best of my abilities.

60. If this task is within my limits, safe, sane, and consentual, I will do my best. If one of these aspects is outside of my limits (for example, humiliation) then I am exempt from it.

61. This task will always be serving both my pleasure and my masters. Sometimes more of my pleasure, sometimes more of Master's. I will either be working for my master or entertaining my master.

62. This task may be painful. He or she may ask me to cause myself pain (such as spanking yourself), accept pain he or she administers to me (such as a whipping), or perhaps accept pain from exterior causes (duch as having toothpaste rubbed around the genital region). Pain is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this type of task.

63. This task may be degrading. It may usually be roleplay (some examples; ageplay, forced feminization, petplay, etc...) which usually utilizes other type of entertainment (such as humiliation). Degradation is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this type of task.

64. This task may be embarrasing or humiliating. Here, embarrassing is like a light humiliation. Embarrasment is something lighter, like for example a female walking around in public with a wet T-Shirt, or a male walking around in public with a wet-spot on their pants. Humiliation is more like walkign around on a leash throught a busy street. This is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this task.

65. This task may be disgusting or messy. Disgusting usually involves human (or animal) waste. This would be something like drinking piss, or having a golden shower. Messy is more food-based, and could be like rubbing an egg yolk into your hair. Then again it could be both disgusting and messy.This is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this task.

66. This task may be sexual. This means that I may be ordered to fuck my Master, someone of my master's choosing, or (I doubt anyone actually does this) act as a prostitute (Once again, I seriously doubt anyone does this. Just a rumor.) It may also include masturbation, edgeplay, roleplay in sex, or sex toys. Thi sis obviously used for entertainment. I will accept this task.

67. The task may include nudity, be it public or private. [Note: Public nudity is against the wall, so be very careful with what you do with this.] This is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this task.

68. This task may involve chores. This could be anything from cooking to cleaning to acting as a secratary (shout-out to Chloe's awesome new avatar!). It may be done involving disgusting/messy (ex. cleaning out a toilet with your mouth- EWWW!!!), with pain (ex. cooking while having clamps on), degradation (ex. a male cleaning the house with a French Maid outfit on), humiliation (ex. answering Master's phone saying, "This is Slave___, ____'s sex slave, who may I ask is calling?") sexuality and nudity (ex. cleaning naked. Gee, I didn't expect that.) This is, however, mostly used for working. I will accept this task.

69. Tasks may involve multiple elements (ex. being a baby, and wearing nothing a diaper- disgusting, nudity, humiliation, degradation)

70. I will try my best with all tasks.

 

Reward and Punishment

 

71. If my master assigns me a task, of any type, and I fail to do it, fail to do it correctly, or worst of all refuse to do it (if it is not in violation of SSC/limits) or if I disrespect my Master or break one of Master's rules, Master has the right and reponsibility to punish me.

72. Master's punishing me serves two purposes. Firstly and more obviously, it is an epithet for Master's sadism. Secondly, it is to offer me guidance and redirection. It (hopefully) teaches me that what I did was wrong, and that I shouldn't do it again.

73. An appropriate punishment is worse than a task. Master probably won't use flaggelation as a task.

74. Punishments relating (no matter how coyly or cleverly) to the transgression I have made are best.

75. Punishments can cover any of the areas a task would, but more extreme.

76. Remeber that it is fine to use your safeword in a punishment.

77. But Master will also previde rewards for when I do something well, right, or good.

78. I trust master will be creative in both his punishments and his rewards.

 

What About Switchdom relationships?

 

79. A switchdom relationship is pone in which the role of master and slave alternates.

80. If mine and Master's relationship is like that, then I promise to keep my dominant side inactive when I am a slave, and when I am a master to keep my submissive side inactive.

 

Worship

(This section only applies if your relationship includes worship.)


81. I worship my master.

82. I enjoy every chance that I have to spend with him. I love being with him, and the closer I get to him the happier I am and the better behaved I am.

 

83. My master is, in my eyes, a perfect being. Every aspect of him and his life is beautiful.

84.

For people in Maledom relationships: (84 a) I worship my Master's cock. I worship it all the time. When I get to see it my eyes fill with pleasure. When I have it in my mouth, or even better; inside of me, I swell with pride. If it is in my mouth I will do my best to keep it clean, and to make sure He is satisfied.

For people in Femdom relationships: (84 b) I worship my Mistresses' pussy. I always worship it. It is beautiful, and my favorite part of Mistresses' body, for it is the part I can physically pleasure best. When she lets me clean it with my mouth, or even better, be inside of it, I will be proud and make sure she is satisfied.

85. I also worship not only my Master's genitals, but their entire body.

86. I worship Master's ass.

87. I am devoted to my Master.

88. I will have no other Master but master.

89. If my Master wants me to, I will bow down to him/her.

90. I confirm that worshipping is not worshipping in a religious sense, like a person can worship a God, but rather holding to be special beyond belief, and of great value.

Signs of Respect

 

91. I respect and will always respect my master. I will respect Master in my heart. I will make sure to put in the extra effort to show how much I respect master.

92. I will never speak while Master is speaking. If I am speaking, unless we are having a conversation where we both are equals, and Master starts speaking I will immidiately stop speaking and listen to him. Failure to do this deserves a punishment.

93. When I listen to Master, I give my undivided attention. Failure to do this deserves a punishment.

94. If Master has told me that s/he wants me to make eye contact, I will. If Master has told me not to make eye contact, I will not make eye contact. If Master has not told me specifically, I will do whatever I feel is right.

95. I will always call my master by the Name or Title he has assigned to me. Failure to do this will get me punished.

96. I will thank Master for every reward, no matter how small. Failure to do this may result in taking away the reward.

97. I will thank master lenghily at the end of each session.

98. I will lengthily apologize for each transgression I make, before and after the punishment. An example of an apology (for, let's say, a girl masturbating while not having permission- that's a big one.)

Quote:
I'm sorry Master! I am so sorry, and it is my only humble request that you will find it in yourself to forgive a slut like myself, so that I can serve you better, for it is my greatest pleasure when you are happy with me. I care what you, Master, think about me more than anyone else. But I am a filthy, filthy, useless, diobediant whore, who does not deserve to be with you Master. But you took pity on this cunt, and for that I am forever devoted to you. Nevertheless, I am occasionally led astray. I blame no one but my slutty, horrible, nasty, disobediant, filthy self for this. Though when you specifically banned masturbation, I had the nerve, the gall, the CHUTZPAH to still do it anyway. Please, please, please, master I beg of you. Forgive me!
99. I will try to follow Master's instructions, rules, and orders to the best of my abilities, capabilities, and power.

 

Love

 

100. If me and my Master are in love, I will love him/her for as long as I love him/her (hopefully forever).

 

Which is the greater pleasure? My masochistic pleasure, or the pleasure of serving?

 

101. I acknowledge the two major reasons why I have became a part of this relationship/ the BDSM part of this relationship.

102. The first one is the pleasure I get from serving. It makes me happy to serve my Master. I am devoted to him, and his pleasure must always come ('cum') first. It is my satisfaction when Master is satisfied with me. I am happy when master is happy with me. I love serving my Master, and I trust him.

103. The other big reason that I started the BDSM part of this relationship is because I am a masochist. I love pain, I love humiliation, I love degradation. Pain to me is pure pleasure. With humiliation, I am boisterous and filled with the glee at humiliating my slut self. I am worthless (at least I pretend to be) and love the feeling of being treated like it.

104. These two reasons are equal in both Master and slave. Masters should get pleasure out of control, and torturing their slaves. Slaves should get pleasure out of submission, and being tortured.

105. Since this is a give and take relationship, Masters must make sure that their slave's two desires are accounted for. And slaves must make sure that their Master feels in control of them, and that their Master can torture them.

 

I admit my sexuality

 

106. I, and my Master, are both sexual beings.

107. This means not that I am only a sexual being, but that part of myself is sexual.

108. I am not to be ashamed of my sexuality.

109. I am also a sensual being.

110. I am not to be ashamed of my sexuality.

111. It is my Master's duty to make sure both my sexual and sensual needs are taken care of.

112. Therfore I'll do everything I can to do the same for him/her.

113. If Master allows me to choose clothes, then I will choose my sluttiest clothes for when I am with Master. (That is, unless he does not want me to.)

114. When Master orders me to do something I'll do it as sexually and sensually as as I see fit for the occasion.

115. If me and Master have sex, I'll do my best to pleasure Master. If this sex is supposed to be enjoyable for both of us, Master will do the same for me. If this sex is only enjoyable by Master, then I will accept it and move on.

 

BDSM

 

116. If Master wants to take our BDSM relationship public, and it is not specifically against my limits, I will not keep our BDSM a secret.

117. If, however, Master does not want to publicize it, I will not speak of it.

118. Master may want to have a BDSM party. If this happens, many people with the same type of relationship (or at least interests) will be with me.

119. During these parties, I'll be on my best behavior.

120. But that should nto take away from who matters most at that party; Master.

 

About these rules

 

121. Any rule Master makes supercedes these.

122. I am to know that these rules are only examples of common rules, and were originated to give contrast to the other 128 rules.

123. However, the first 33 rules are rules describing my rights and safety. If Master wants a relationship that violate any of these, I probably do not want that kind of relationship, and should try to get away from thar person.

124. Master may not agree with some of these rules. He may want more of a serious relationship.

125. In that case I remind you, these rules were created to show contrast to the other 128.

 

The Final Three


126. I will follow my Master's orders.

127. I will respect my master and Master's rules.

128. I am his/her slave.


10/22/2012 6:53:04 PM

Amazing how many people are here and they dont know at least what is BDSM,, lets begin the lessons again.  Also if you want to see my pic i can send you but dont expect to continue talking cause for me BDSM is not only how we look,, is a deeper connection!

 

 

Take note slaves

 

"BDSM" is an acronym of:

 

"B&D" (Bondage & Discipline),

"D&S" (Dominance & Submission), and

"S&M" (sadomasochism).

 

"BDSM" refers to any or all of these things, and a lot of stuff besides.


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