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Who I AmI am a straight lifestyle Female Dominant who has been active in BDSM for twelve years. While I enjoy many of the wonderful activities the lifestyle offers, I lean heavier to the corporal, domination, bondage, discipline and training areas. As a disciplinarian I am, fair but firm. I possess the techniques and skills required to push edges. Bringing my submissiveslave to the limit of endurance can be the most delicious fun! Boys Take NoteI am not currently seeking a 247 live in relationship. I am looking for male submissivesslaves play partners. Im not looking for a hook-up. Let me explain that concept a little better. It takes a lot of trust and courage to be a submissive and this does not happen without a connection being built. If I am going to bring my knowledgeskills and time to Dominate a male, there needs to be three things trust, a shared connection, and compatible interests. Two of these things take a little time. To me this means that you have to have a relationship with that person, By relationship I mean a basic shared connection. If there is no relationship I might as well be beating a tree. Im not interested in a bottom. I like a power exchange. There are just so many more wonderful buttons to push! I want to enjoy the person as much as their submission. For that reason I dont do the Hey Ill be in your area. How about we meet up. Seriously, you know those letters to Penthouse are fantasy, right?

If your lead in photograph is of your genitals you will be blocked. I have absolutely no desire to look at your nether regions while chatting. Despite what a lot of men seem to think, women are not interested in seeing your anus, junk or whatever you seem to think is hawt. We know how overly proud you are of your penis.....if I want to see it, Ill let you know. Until then, put some pants on.
Think you have what it takes?
Prospect submissiveslave males should be age 30-55, live with in a reasonable commute, have some available time, be intelligent, honest, respectful of himself and others and possess a sense of humor. Think Southern gentleman, boys. As far as address goes, I find a nice respectful Maam is quite charming.

All submissivesslaves must have a criminal records check that is clear of activity and be able to pass random drug screens.

If you are married, well Ill be meeting your wife in person to make sure she is fine with this. I have no time for drama.

If you are into age play, cuckolding or strictly just cross dressing you should look for another Domina, as I do not engage in these activities.

247 Live in Slave Position?

Hate your life, current job or life partner? Do you dream of just leaving everything behind and have no pressing responsibilities other than your kinky fantasies? Looking for a live in slave position where you dont work, but stay home 247 maybe clean the house or dream of being locked in a cage the whole day while I work? Will you happily let me do what I want with you? Not interested. Get a job and get your life together, have something to offer your BDSM partner. BDSM is, to me, a mutual working connection.

On an additional note, if all you want is to be taken by a chick with a strap on, seriously, buy one for your girlfriend or wife. That activity strictly by itself is not BDSM.
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3/6/2014 4:55:26 PM

The Real Domina

 

The Real Domina is 36/24/36 or she is not. She is tall, and short. She is fair skinned, in beautiful shades of mocha and olive or not.

 

Often The Real Domina has small breasts, and big ones, one breast, and no breasts whatsoever.

 

The Real Domina has short stubby fingers with broken nails or long slender fingers manicured to perfection as she wields a whip, rope or nothing at all.

The Real Domina has hair on her head, face, arms, legs, armpits and pubic area. She may have none at all either by birth, preference or by the curves life throws.

The Real Domina is rail thin, athletic, chubby or plump. She is solidly mature, middle aged or young.

 

She smells like honey, musk, sunlight or sweat. Or she may not, and smell like whatever makes her happy from a chain store or a select boutique.

 

As someone once said, “There is no wrong way to have a body.”

 

The Real Domina is a widow, married, single, dating, in a common law marriage, has a life partner, has six children, no children, grandchildren, wants children, hates children, has pets or no pets.

 

The Real Domina dresses in a leather corset, or sweats. She wears six inch heals, flats, or nothing. She likes jeans or prefers a skirt. She loves fetish latex, hates latex or it’s a “sometimes thing”. The Real Domina might change up her look or not, because we just like it.

 

The Real Domina has a quiet countenance or a commanding demeanor. She relishes a bound submissive in her dungeon, prefers a service submissive at her side, would rather have a masochist or enjoys something else.

 

The Real Domina would only have a female slave, or a male submissive, or both.

The Real Domina loves sex, hates sex, tolerates sex, likes sex with men, prefers women or likes both. She demands it, refuses it or is coy. She hates romance or loves it. The Real Domina enjoys pursuing, or likes to be sought after or neither. The Real Domina is looking for marriage, just an occasional play partner, a live in slave, or several submissives.

 

If you expect the painted, contorted, Photoshopped, plastic person on the screen, in print, in porn or in your head to be “The Only Real Domina”, “The Only Real Woman” or "The Only Attractive Woman" you are delusional.


11/17/2013 9:20:09 AM

No luck finding a Domina? Here are a few tips.

 

 

1.      If your “must have” is one of her hard limits/dislikes, this should be a clue to you this won’t happen.

 

2.      “That 21 year old nearly naked “Domme” is hawt, hawt, hawt!” Well there is a 99.99% chance she’s not, not not, a Dominatrix. Why? She’s fake.

 

3.      Women asking for money are probably scammers. No matter how hot their profile looks.

 

4.      Almost all Fin Dommes are scammers. There are probably some who aren’t, but the odds that you found that needle in the proverbial haystack is about zip.

 

5.      Boys, you have to have time. If you are too busy at work, dealing with your children, booked solid with activities, you are not going to have time for this. Establishing mutual trust so that each has enjoyment while scening takes time and a basic relationship at the very least. This takes time.

 

6.      “I just want to try it out to see if I like it.” Ok, find a reputable pro-domme, they are out there. A lifestyle Dominatrix does this because she finds BDSM enjoyable and likes the submissive she is with. Remember the term “basic relationship” from #5?

 

7.      Just looking for quick weird/kinky sex? Hire a prostitute. That’s what they do for the right amount of money. There are also some sites just for people who put out. Just because a woman enjoys a D/s does not mean that she has sex more than the vanilla woman. It also does not mean she has questionable morals. You know that there are women who don’t have sex with their submissive, right?

 

8. If your profile does not impress us as “Here’s a person we can proudly be seen in public with and introduce to our friends” I’m not interested.

 

9. If you don’t have the balls to show up to an in person meeting and actually talk in person to a real live breathing Dominatirx, Don’t bother to contact us. Please contact your physician to discover why your testicles have not descended yet. There is probably medical help for you.

 

10. A lifestyle Dominatrix is not your fetish delivery system. With us it’s a partnership, both sides benefit.

 

11.  You should have your shit together you are an adult. 

 

12. Go to your local or near by fem dom munch and meet real people in person.

 

13. Women are not men. The vast majority of us don't watch porn. We are not interested in what you think is "hawt" AND we don't want to see it.

 

14. Your lead in line or profile says: "I'm an oral sub, toilet slave, worthless worm, want to be your whore, am a chuckhole, like it in the ass." This tells me you are creepy as hell. Read number 8 again.

 

15. "I want to be your live in slave. I'll cook, clean and to all the housework, while you work and pay all the bills. You can spank my ass and creatively fuck me when you get home." Yea, you and a whole bunch of other people on the planet want a free ride. Get a life and gainful employment to pay your bills. Re-read number 11.

 

16. Talk is cheap. Do what you say you are going to do.  If you can't back it up, shut up.

17. The "I'm shy and could never go to a munch and meet people" line, if you have a diagnosed social anxiety, you do have a tough problem. 18% of the general population have it. However it seems that 75% of male submissives claim to suffer from it and are unable to attend a reputable munch. Doing things out of your comfort zone can be a little stressful, but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

 


8/21/2013 7:10:18 PM

Myths About Dominas:

 

1. We like sex more and have sex more than vanilla women.  False

 

2. We LOVE dick picks as your lead in photo. False.

 

3. We are genuinely interested in your genitals. Probably not

 

4. We love the porn avatar you have about what you like to look at. Nope

 

5. We are all after you money. Nope, there are lifestyle Dominas on this site. There are many females claiming to be doms who are idiots and make the rest of us look bad. The same could be said of submissive males, some legit and some idiots.

 

6. There are legitimate pro doms. Yep, there are some.

 

7. There are legitimate fin doms. Maybe so, but they are a rare creature and the odds are that one you found probably isn't that unicorn. You do know that the pouty faced  18-26 year old and scantily clad princess you "found" claiming  to be a Domme is probably some 70 year old guy in India cat-fishing. She's not a Domme she's a dummy, dummy.

 

8. Every Domina  on this site is looking for LTR. Nope

 

9. This is a fetish site so it's ok to discuss sex/your penis on the first e-mail. Nope

 

10. The "S" in BDSM stands for sex! Nope. The bulk of BDSM has nothing to do with anyone having an orgasm.

 


2/24/2013 10:25:50 AM

It's hard to go wrong with a lovely slave boy for the weekend. A very fun weekend.

 


1/5/2013 8:39:50 AM

Is there a Modern Southern Gentleman (MSG)?

 

In a word, "Yes" and they are sometimes hard to find. The modern Southern Gentleman is always an estimable work in progress. Daniel Hindley was a Harvard-trained lawyer from Alabama who wrote on the subject in 1860. He described the Southern Gentleman as having “a natural dignity of manner” and “the utmost self-possession – that much coveted savoir faire, which causes a man to appear perfectly at home, whether it be in a hut or a palace.” He is “remarkably easy and natural, never haughty in appearance, or loud of voice – even when angry rarely raising his voice above the ordinary tone of gentlemanly conversation.” The Southern Gentleman is a man of honor who exudes charm, polished manners, a variety of interests, reverence for women and empathy to the plight of others.

The Modern Southern Gentleman cultivates:

  1. Reverence for faith and women,
  2. Strength of Character, including Integrity, Magnanimity, Chivalry,
  3. Respect for family, heritage and traditions
  4. Becoming an excellent provider and protector
  5. Being Responsible, Ethical, and Just
  6. Impeccable manners,
  7. Exuding warmth, kindness, and charm,
  8. And most of all, possessing a servant's heart.


Does this matter? Yes, you are known by your deeds. So conduct yourself with honor, and do the right thing. Sounds pretty simple, but it isn't, and it isn't easy to live by, either. In short the MSG has GAME. G.A.M.E Grooming, Attitude, Manners and Education all of which he tries to improve.

 

Additional links:


 http://www.ehow.com/video_4984491_tips-become-perfect-gentleman.html

 

 

 http://www.bourbonbraintrust.com/2014/08/20/what-is-a-southern-gentleman/


http://modernsoutherngentleman.com/

 

 


12/30/2012 6:11:36 PM

"The Coin"
If I am going to bring my knowledge/skills and time to dominate a male, tie him to a bondage table and whip him, three things need to happen: trust, a shared connection, and compatible interests. Two of these things take a little time. To me this means that you have to have a relationship with that person, By relationship I mean a basic shared connection. If there is no relationship I might as well be beating a tree. The pleasure the dominant gets is as much from from the submissive's pleasure as the act of domination. The pleasure the submissive gets is as much from pleasing the dominant as from their submission. Both sides have to put forth effort. If it's good, it's a balanced, equal relationship where both sides enjoy what the other brings "to the table". Domination and submission are just opposite sides of the same coin.


12/30/2012 10:35:38 AM

What does your wanting to be dressed up like a maid/sissy/girl have to do with submission? If that is all you want perhaps you are not so much of a submissive as you are a cross dresser. If you want to be "forced" into a skirt and make up are you really being forced? Nope, this may just take some of the "guilt about why I like this" out of the equation.

 

Wanting to be "cuckolded" is not submission. It would be more accurate to say that you're a voyeur.

 

Offering to lick her pussy isn't submission. What could be more vanilla than licking pussy? Besides, most women can get sex and oral service anytime they want to. Despite what you may think, offering oral sex makes you sound more creepy than submissive. Stop thinking with your dick. Contrary to what you think, porn is not accurate research material into what a woman wants.

 

 Asking her to tease you about how small your penis is isn't submission. You may enjoy being humiliated, but how has doing so enriched her life in any way?

 

Begging to be "forced" to suck another man's cock is not submission. And let's face it, if you're begging her to do it, can it really be called "forced"? So stop using dominant women as an excuse to explore your bisexual fantasies. That too, is not submission.

 

While we are on this subject, we could care less about your dick and we don’t want to see it unless asked. We certainly don’t want to see it as a lead in on your profile. Nor do we want to see you ass hole. Are you a moron?

 

Wanting a 21 year old woman who is 6’2’ tall with triple D breasts, a 23” waist, blonde hair, wearing 6” stilettos permanently encased in 1 yard of black leather to be sexually aggressive or somehow be insanely kinky/sexually active specifically with you, is neither submission or a realistic depiction of any living Domina on the planet. Stop watching porn and grow the fuck up.

 

The reality is that submission entails the desire to serve and finding pleasure/contentment/ happiness in serving or making someone else happy.

 

Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with having kinky desires. There's nothing wrong with asking for what you want. But submission is about serving others, not about having others serve you. Can a Domme do things for her sub? Certainly. And can a sub let his Domme know what he enjoys? Of course.

 

There's no right or wrong way to do D/s relationships. Each will have to determine for themselves what works best for them. But one thing that can probably be universally agreed upon is that spamming every Domme on the internet with request to fuck you with a strap-on doesn't qualify as submission in anybody's book.

 

While it may be said that there are 100 submissive males for every Dominant woman, it is far more accurate to say, that the lifestyle Dominas have to wade through 150 ridiculous “pornaholics" who fancy themselves as "submissive” to find ONE intelligent submissive/slave boy we would spend time with, introduce to our friends or take out in public.


11/2/2012 4:33:28 PM

"Why can't I find a Dominatrix?"

Really, boys it just is not that hard.......well for the clueless or fantasy driven porn male it is.

 Here is what works and what doesn't, so read up boys!

 

What we want:

1. Intelligence:

We want men who are capable of holding an intelligent conversation, and men We won't be embarrassed to introduce to our friends. If I couldn't show your profile to a friend with a straight face, seriously you just won't make it. Be a person. Show some humor, some personality, some interest. This is not a resume, this is a social site. Be social. Treat the women you communicate with as women, not as dominants. Take an interest in them as people, not sex objects and kink toys. Join discussions, get to know people, show you can hold an interesting conversation, and show you can take an interest in other people's ideas.

 

 

2. A basic command of the English language:

First, spell check and grammar check. Do you really think people would have invested billions of dollars around the world for the last couple hundred years on literacy if it didn't matter? Your post and your profile should not have spelling and grammar issues.  Yes, there are a lot of older people who are illiterate, but we're not talking about them. We're talking about you, and the women you want to attract. Don't "text talk". What are you a twelve-year-old girl?

 

3. Drop the ass & cock:

You introduce your self with a picture of your dick and you get blocked, end of story. If you are so enamored with your dick, please date or be with it exclusively.  Roughly half the population have them, and they are not difficult for the other half to get their hands on. Put it in your pants until you're asked for it. And for fuck's sake cover up your asshole. The chances of a woman wanting to look directly at your asshole are close to nil. Even if she wants to paddle it or torture it, she is incredibly unlikely to want to just look at it. Now, if you get somebody to do some really nice artistic erotic photography, that's another thing. Cell phone shots while you stroke or bend over? Not so much.

 

3. Your porn fantasy:

Lose it or live with it exclusively. There is no third option. You are not some fantasy catch either and neither is the Lady you want to attract. Lifestyle BDSM involves REAL people with all their imperfections and charm. We are also NOT your fetish delivery system. If you want a fetish delivery system, go for a professional domina. They exchange your cash for your fantasy. Both sides are happy. Lifestyle BDSM, however, is a two way street.

 

4. Your sex drive:

We could care less. If you profile reads like a list of sexual things you want done to you, or if it has the "cornucopia of objects I want shoved up my ass", you are being blocked. Who wants to spend time with an overgrown version of "Beavis and Butthead"? Grow the fuck up.

 

5. Hygiene

Spiff up, be squared away, end of story.

 

6. Clothes:

Make an effort. It doesn't have to be designer, but it does have to be neat, clean and fit. Don't look like you fell out of a Salvation Army dumpster.

 


11/2/2012 4:11:23 PM

Bottom: someone who loves to be played with and will allow a dominant to top them but ONLY for the duration of a play scene. Once the scene is over they are 100% equals and it’s not uncommon for a bottom to dictate what kind of play they want. A bottom does not submit, a bottom never gives up control.

 

Submissive: someone who wants to yield control to a dominant. They negotiate boundaries and the dominant sets safe words for them. BDSM to them isn’t about just the sensations; it’s about being in that submissive headspace. It’s about submitting your mind and body (and possibly your heart) to a dominant for them to use as they see fit (within your limitations of course). A submissive is a submissive long before a scene starts and continues to be a submissive long after a scene ends. It is a part of who they are and how they relate to their dominant partner. A submissive is NOT a doormat; they are an independent freethinking person who compliments a dominant in their servitude. A submissive has the right to walk away from a relationship if it isn’t meeting their personal needs.

 

Slave: there are so many different views on what a slave is or isn’t but here is the general consensus. A slave is a submissive who takes it one step further giving up all rights to their dominant partner. They give up safe words and trust 100% that their dominant will do whatever is in their best interest. They do not question their dominant. They obey without reservation.


7/30/2012 2:45:13 PM

edrian Arkansas submissive male......NOT...well this guy is a little confused on another fetish site, the fetish site with life in the name,(Collar me blocks out the title of that site.)  he is a Dom in New York with the same picture and same tag line:

About me ( Profile)

lam Master i been so for almost 10 years , this gave me a lot of experience needed i think you can't just enslave someone based on desire only you must have knowledge to be a better master for a slave .. i'm looking for slaves to serve me hopefully it result for 24/7 situation i'm calm experienced sadistic and passionate when you need to be and very much into bdsm ....ty (you can reach me on yahoo i'm edrian12345)

 

Yet on Collare me:

A true desire to serve

l'm slave male looking for a home , i been( a slave ) so for almost 13years , this gave me a lot of experience needed i think you can't just be a slave based on desire only you must have knowledge to be a better slave and to learn to be always behave your self and always keep your self under control by your owners .. i'm looking for an experienced owners to serve hopefully it result for 24/7 situation i'm loyal obedient and very much into bdsm , ....ty (you can reach me on yahoo i'm edrian12345)


to me slavery is a bout no control whatsoever in my hand to give it all to my owner and to be just a tool used by his/her hand

 

 

I'd "truly desire" you not to give the genuine subbie boys a bad name. How about don't be a tool edrian?

 


7/2/2012 7:49:01 PM

I had a great time at the Dallas Club Fem BBQ this weekend. I enjoyed meeting everyone. They are a great bunch of people. I am looking froward to the next event.


4/22/2012 1:38:31 PM

Add cling film, duct tape, an assortment of canes and one slave duder and you get an entire weekend of fun. As an added bonus he grills a great steak too.  I am definitely not looking forward to work on Monday. The Texas boys are definitely top notch. I had a great weekend, slave duder!


10/3/2011 6:14:05 PM
 
subntx39, didn't show to a meeting.
I just love time wasters.

8/24/2011 5:21:11 PM

All boys have to be healthy and free of drugs, drama and crime. A drug screen and a  criminal background check is a requirement. I find this gets rid of time wasters and well frankly, trash.


8/7/2011 2:54:17 PM

If you live five hundred miles away from Louisiana or you are in another country why are you looking so far away? I suspect that there are some lovely ladies in your area that would love to whip your bound body and hindquarters to a pretty shade of pink. Also, boys I don't do the "Hey I'm be in your area. How about we meet up" Really, has that every worked for any of you?


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khimberly
 
 Age: 18
 Sacramento, California