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~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~UPDATE March 5, 2023~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

I'm starting all over.I'm pretty much a completly different woman than I was when I first started on here several lifetimes ago. I'mworkingon a new profile, new pix, everything. I do want you to know I am in serious discussions with 2 gentlemen so if I don't get back toyou right away, don't go getting piussy with me. Well, you do that wither way and I'll just block you.

Anyway, come back soon to see what's new.

~~~~>I DON'T WANT A BOY WHO WILL DO ANYTHING FOR ME. I WANT A SLAVE WHO WILL DO EVERYTHING FOR ME.<~~~~ ~*~*~This means I don't want to cam, Skype or talk on the phone with you. I don't want to fill your wank bank and I don't want to play games. If you're too far away to take me to dinner or out for coffee you're probably too far away. (With OKC and Tulsa being the acceptions. ~*~*~

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12/13/2016 6:23:20 PM
December 13, 2016

I am having SUCH a blast celebrating the holidays!!! So far this season:

I went to Botanica and checked out Illuminations with over 1 million lights! My first year but it won't be my last; We walked around for 2 1/2 hours!

I checked out a bunch of classic movies, live action, claymations and cartoons. Who can resist Santa Claus is Coming to Town and Frosty? Do you realize A Christmas Story is 33 years old?!

Actually found one of those cheesy videos of a crackling fireplace that plays instrumental Christmas music in the background. (Hint: Check out Netflix. Search "fireplace")

I have started baking. I've made Oatmeal cookies, Oreo Truffles, Gingerbread Men Cookies, Sugar Cookies, Mexican Wedding Cake Cookies, and Wintergreen Mints. I still plan to make Meringue Swans, Chocolate Fudge, White Cherry Fudge, Brownie Bites, and Cream Wafers. Doesn't all that make you wish you were my neighbor!?

I sent out over 60 Christmas Cards.

I decorated my little tree and put out my ever growing collection of Nutcrackers (Are you actually surprised I collect them?) I'm trying to figure out how to post a pic in my journal so y'all can see. If you know how to do that send me instructions. 

I drove around College Hill (A ritzy section of town) with a friend and sang carols and looked at holiday lights.

I've even given out a couple of gifts to 2 of my very special friends.

I've said "Merry Christmas" to just about every person I've come across...

And what have YOU done this holiday season?

DC~

11/26/2016 7:47:45 PM
Well, that holiday is over and what a grand time! It's always a good time going to Tulsa... such wonderful friends! I hope you all had a wonderful time with your family, friends, or whoever you spent your time with.

I hope you all ate your faces off! I know I did! OMG! It was a complete and total exhibition of bacchanalian revelry! Wine, wine and more wine, slippery nipples (my first!), spiced rum, regular rum... something else but I can't remember it right now. And the FOOD!

OHMYHOLYGODDESS! She made lasagna, ham, turkey, and prime rib. There were mounds and mounds of mashed potatoes, homemade stuffing, corn bread casserole, sweet potato casserole,  spinach pie (which I brought), diced cranberries, blueberries, raspberries, cream cheese and jalapeno jam, cream cheese with papaya peach jelly, about 8 different kinds of crackers, Boursin cheese in 2 flavors, candied bacon green beans, croissant rolls and yeast rolls, baked brie with pecans, pumpkin pie, pecan pie, and sweet potato pie, mounds and mounds of whipped cream and we even had some double chocolate magical brownies. ;)

Yea, it's going to take some serious working out to get rid of all THAT!

DC

11/22/2016 6:01:29 PM
This is just a quick Thanksgiving post to those of you who celebrate the day. I hope you all find at least a few things to be thankful for... If not, I'd like you to sit down and think a little harder. No matter our circumstances we all have something to be thankful for.

I won't be able to respond to emails until sometime this weekend (November 26th & 27th) as I'm heading out of town again to celebrate with friends in Tulsa. Wish me safe travels, as I wish for you !

I hope you all have a most wonderful Thanksgiving! 

11/7/2016 8:30:20 PM
Can you all believe it's NOFUCKINGVEMBER already?! This is just blowing my mind completely! 

23 days until December
44 days until Yule
48 days until Christmas 
54 days until 2017
98 days until My Birthday

This year has been trying on so many levels. As usual, I've weathered every storm, dealt with everything that's been thrown at me, taken most of it in stride, held fast to friends and family when it all got a bit too much for me to deal with alone and just kept moving through it all.

I have to admit there are quite a few of you here on CS that also helped me keep going. Some for your sweet words of concern (Thank you, sweet boys!) others for being so ridiculously stupid (for not reading my profile all the way through nor reading my journal to find out what I'm looking for) that I laughed my ass off as I deleted your emails.

Either way, it's great to be back to a level of health where I can seriously work on getting back to where I was before I had to stop to kick cancer's ass.  

In the next couple of days I'm going to try to muster up the confidence to post a pic or 2 with my new (I think) horrible short hair. Yes. I lost all my beautiful auburn locks and it's growing back a very strange curly silver/dark brown. People keep saying it's cute, but of course, I think they're just being kind. I think it looks like an old lady got a bad perm. I'll let you boys be the judge in a few days. I'm working on it.

So for now I guess that's all for this (really long) up date. I hope you're all well and enjoying the Autumn weather.
DC

11/6/2016 7:58:00 PM
The top five reasons boys who write me never hear from me are: 

5. I delete them without answering because they're ridiculously too young.
4. I delete them without answering because they're too far away too take me out for coffee.
3. I delete them without answering because they didn't attach a face pic.
2. I delete them without answering because they wrote something stupid like "Hi" or "How ya doing?"

And the #1 reason boys never here from me:

1. I delete them without answering because they're stupid, lazy ass didn't bother reading my ENTIRE profile and ALL my journal entries.

BOOM! That's all it takes boys.

9/12/2016 7:18:39 PM
OK boys, here comes a first. I'm looking for a boy named HoldHerTight. You sent me an *amazing* letter and by the time I replied you had deleted your profile.

Take a deep breath, send me another letter.

I'm interested in hearing from you.

Domina Celeste~



9/4/2016 7:30:10 PM
So, I know I just wrote a journal update, but that was on my health. This one is about you. Or about who you should or shouldn't be.

At least if you want to serve me.

I recently received a message from a young man (yes he was younger than my prerequisite of 47) begging me (and oooh, I do love the right amount of begging) to allow him to come to me and take him on 24/7 (yes,that's the right amount of time) so he can disappear and do nothing (serve me *and* do nothing-not possible) but be at my side to serve me all the time. He was married ("to a nurse who made good money so she could afford to take care of their children"(!!)and he said he "wanted to just disappear."

Well, boys, I gotta tell ya. I'm not the circus. You can't just run away from home and hide in my service.

Being my boy means being in my service, yes. It means cleaning my home, yes. It means taking care of my laundry, and doing my grocery shopping. It means mowing the lawn and shampooing my hair and my dog. It means taking a beating and giving me massages. It means interesting forms of bondage and painting my toenails. It means washing and detailing my car and taking care of the garden, taking me to dinner and making me dinner, taking me to the movies and dancing. It means taking me to antique shows, and shopping and a million other things that make me happy and 986, 753 that make you happy. 

It never means you get to run away from your current obligations. It never means you get to not earn an income. It never means you get to mooch off of me. It never means you get to take advantage of me. It never means you get to hide or run away from your children. It means you never even get to run away from your ex-wife or wives if you have financial obligations to them.

I'm not the circus and you can't run away to me.

DC~


9/4/2016 6:46:30 PM
September 4, 2016

Hello boys,

It's been about 3 months since my last message to you all and this one is going to be another health update.

I'm finished with all my treatments except for about 10 years worth of pills, which is no big deal considering all the medications I already take. One more isn't going to make any difference.

And remember the surgical wounds I told you about last time that I was *still* healing from? For months and months I kept fighting staph infections that we just couldn't get rid of. They kept giving me stronger and stronger antibiotics when one day I'm leaving the grocery store, the checker hands me my receipt and tells me to look at the bottom when I get home because there's been a recall on an item I've bought in the past. So I looked and turns out the Super B-Complex I started taking for energy when I was first diagnosed had been contaminated... with guess what.

Staphylococcus! 

So, that's why I couldn't get rid of the infection. Ass holes. 

Well a few weeks after that Wound and Skin Care Specialists declared me healed! Hallelujah! I AM HEALED! Well, sort of. They told me to keep it cushioned with these special bandages (Each one cost $10!! But I have killer insurance so they cost me exactly zero dollars and zero cents. YAY!) and when my sweet, sweet sister came over to change it one day she noticed that it had opened back up. 

DAMMIT!

So back and forth, blah blah, blah... It seems I might have to put up with this for a while according to them. And all of you who know me know how much I'm not accepting *that* answer. Once the holiday weekend is over I'll be back on to find an answer. The Wound and Skin Care Specialists mentioned a hyperbaric chamber. (YIKES!) 

We'll see.

DC~

6/28/2016 2:34:15 PM
Holy cow! What a long strange trip its been! I am done! Finished! Over! Ended! No more cancer treatments! I had my last radiation treatment today and I am overjoyed!

I do still have a couple of wounds from the surgery (Remember the surgery? Way the hell back in February?!) that are still healing, but I'm now seeing a Wound and Skin Care Specialist. It's healed more in the last 24 hours than it has in the last 24 days!

Thank you boys for all your love and light, well wishes, prayers, get well cards, flowers, trinkets, etc.

Now I am on a very long journey to regain my energy, strength, figure and (most of all) my hair. And I'm sure what ever comes my way, that too will be a strange trip as well.

DC~



6/24/2016 3:02:50 PM
6/24/16

Well, it's coming to a close! I have TWO more radiation treatments and I. AM. DONE. (Except for 5 years of hormone pills, but that's a piece of cake.) I'm more fatigued than I ever imagined possible! I don't know how long the exhaustion will last, I hope it fades quickly once treatment stops (on Tuesday 28th).

I still have open wounds that haven't healed from the original surgery (all the way back in FEBRUARY!) and I'm seeing specialists on Monday for that. I'm sure they'll be able to figure out a plan of action to get these taken care of.

On a more BDSM note, things sort of just fell by the wayside with the boy I was considering. We just kind of stopped texting. I'm a little sad about it, maybe more about what could have been rather than what was. More happily, I'm back in touch with a boy that served me years ago. It will be fun to see where this leads to.

I hope you all are happy and finding fun playmates or whatever else you'r looking for!

DC~

5/12/2016 6:09:54 PM
5/12/16

How cool is this? I have my own alphabet that was, as I understand it, used almost exclusively by ceremonial magicians.


4/30/2016 9:56:53 AM
Hey there all you sweet little boys out there!

Time for another update. You all have been so kind sending me emails and wishing me well, and telling me to keep the faith and stay strong.  I appreciate ever single word you send even though I can't reply to all of you individually.

Most of the side effects are gone now. I still wake up a bit nauseous in the mornings but a Zofran takes care of that. I'm still extremely tired most of the time, but I've started Physical Therapy and I'm getting plenty of sleep, so that's helping. I'm still in massive amounts of pain off and on throughout the day, it comes and goes, so that's an improvement over constant agony. I have 10 mg of Percocet and some fun meds from the 1960's ;) to take for it so that helps a *LOT*. (A toasted Domina is a happy Domina! LOL)

I'm still home bound and have home health care taking care of my wounds. I love my nurse! She's the kindest, most wonderful woman ever!  While I'm under her care it's like being grounded. I can't leave my house except for doctor appointments, funerals and hair appointments. 

The hair appointment part cracks me up... I don't have any anymore. It all fell out. So there's some cannon fodder for your fantasies for all you kinky little boys who are into bald Dominas! LOL And NO! I will *NOT* be posting pix.

I'm doing pretty good all in all; however, if any of you are in the Wichita area I could use a housekeeper, laundress, chef, and someone to pickup groceries and run a few other errands.

Be well, boys!

~DC

4/18/2016 8:52:51 PM
Hi again all you sexy boys!

Well, I had my first (and last) round of chemo. Was sick as a dog and then some. I ended up in the hospital for 6 days and I'm still worn out and taking huge doses of antibiotics and pain killers.

The doctor told me at one point they "weren't sure I was going pull through." (Hence the last round of chemo.) I had a fever over 104*, staph infection, and wounds that were supposed to be healing that were actually getting larger by the day.

So yea, all that sucks donkey balls. And to top everything off, yesterday while getting my hair brushed it started coming out. At this rate I'm going to be completely bald in a day or 2. (More donkey ball sucking on that one, too!)

Another weird side effect: Craving Pepsi. And I mean craving as in "GIVE ME A FUCKING PEPSI NOW!!!!" The reason it's so weird is that before chemo, I didn't really drink pop at all.

So, now I have private nurse who comes in every day, checks my vitals and changes my bandages; which, believe it or not, hurts so bad I almost passed out the 2nd day she was here. Today was better, but it still felt like my left boob was on fire.

So, there's our little update. Thanks for all the concern and the emails. Sorry I can't reply to each of them individually. I don't have that kind of time, but I REALLY do read every single one of them and appreciate all of your concern! <3

DC~

3/25/2016 12:39:16 PM

March 25, 2016

HAPPY SPRING all you sexy submissive little boys! I love Springtime SO very much, but here in Kansas it gets weird. One day it's bright and 80 degrees and the next day it's 28 and windy as hell. Either way, I love it!

This Spring, however, is going to be different, and quite difficult for me. I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. Now, don't panic. I'm not going to die. It's 100% curable.

I had surgery in February to remove the tumor and I'll be starting chemo in the next couple of weeks. That will last for 3 months, then they'll put me right into radiation. I'll also have to take pills for 5 years.

I can't tell you all how I am so NOT looking forward to the next few months, but I did want to let you all know what was going on. Perhaps, with the new season of growth I'll emerge as a new lady at the end of it all.

D~


1/20/2016 2:32:28 PM
"A dirty mind is a joy forever."

                         ~Sweet Thomas

1/14/2016 7:37:11 AM
 Holding Out For Hope

I have been searching for my boy for a long time. Often boys I have under consideration or even ones, like yourself, who I just email back and forth with, seem to get bored quickly when they realize I'm not going to do the cyber sex thing with them, or that I'm not going to control them long distance.


They all seem to disappear when it becomes clear that I want to know them and who they are and what they are all about. I think it's too hard for many of them when they come to realize I want a slave with a mind of his own and not a mindless drone.

I want a boy to want to know everything about me as well, and for him to ask a jillion questions once I grant him permission to do so.  When they tell me they don't have any questions that tells me they don't care who I am, that I could be any woman on the planet as long as I control them and get kinky with them. It's frustrating.

I know boys have their frustrations finding the right Domme as well. Such is life, whether vanilla or kinky, finding a partner to love and trust enough to open your heart and soul to is a long, scary process. 

But I'm still here. I still continue the search. I still get close enough to put boys under consideration from time to time. I still have hope.

1/8/2016 9:14:34 AM
Another Tip On How To Get A Reply From Me

Since I'm looking for a real life, in person, full time, permanent relationship sending me an email reflecting you're looking for the same thing will get my attention.

Asking me if I like this sexual activity or that kink is just going to annoy me. Would you ever introduce yourself to a lady like that in real life? No? Then don't do it online!!!! Yes? Then you're a pig and I want nothing to do with you. I'm looking for a gentleman slave.

I know some of you may have been strictly trained to follow procedures and protocols of speaking and writing in 3rd person because you're nothing but a ( fill in the blank with some derogatory term ). Not in my world.

My boy will be a proud strong slave, happy in the knowledge that he's trained to perfection to *my* way of thinking and that he's taking care of his Domina in every way possible. He will speak and write in the first person. And when he speaks and writes, he will ALWAYS be more interested in finding out about me then blathering on about himself.

So there you have a few more tips on how to give yourself a better chance of getting an email from me. 

~DC

1/7/2016 2:43:17 PM

Be present. Make love. Make tea. Avoid small talk. Embrace conversation. Buy a plant. Water it. Give it love. Make your bed. Make someone else's bed. Have a smart mouth. And a quick wit. Run. Make art. Make good art. Make bad art. Create. Color outside the lines. Scribble all over the page. Make your own lines. Read. Swim in the ocean. Sing in the rain. Take chances. Ask questions. Be confused. Ask more questions. Make mistakes. Learn. Know your worth. Love. Fiercely. Forgive quickly. Let go of whatever doesn't bring you joy. Grow.

And above all, Love.


1/2/2016 1:24:51 PM
Happy, happy New Year to all you sweet boys out there.

It's been a weird year with all kinds of strange, good, bad, happy, sad, weird things happening. I guess that makes it "the best of times, the worst of times," as Mr. Dickens would say.

Here's to hoping you all have a fabulous year full of blissful kink and much prosperity!

Domina Celeste

12/30/2015 9:42:21 AM
I recently read a comment about how rude all "those dumb bitches are" that "demand respect but can't even be respectful enough to reply to an email."

Well, here's a little news bulletin for you, dear boy:

Those "dumb bitches" probably have strict guidelines on their profiles and/or journals stating what they want and if you don't fit, they aren't wasting their time on you and are just deleting your email. (Because you can't bother to read what she has taken time to write. So who's the dumb one?)

ONCE AGAIN, here's what will get your email deleted by me:

1. If you're younger than 45.
~ I have nothing against younger men personally, I just prefer a more mature boy.

2. No picture OF YOUR FACE.
~ I have several pictures of my face posted for you and there is NO excuse you can offer that I will accept for not sending me a photo of your face. I want to see with whom I'm chatting.

3. Not living in America.
~ I used to limit this to not living within a 35 or 40 mile radius of me and now I've opened it to boys across America who are WILLING TO RELOCATE.  Outside the U.S. is just too far away.

4. Rudeness.
~ Seriously? You would be rude to a woman who you are hoping to woo into writing you back and having a relationship with? What *is* wrong with you?

5. Asking/demanding sexual acts of any kind, or including pix of your junk.
~ Again, seriously? NEVER bring up the subject unless I do and NEVER EVER send me a picture of your junk unless I ask for it. (That goes for ALL women. Just don't do it unless we ask.)

6. Sending me a list of your favorite kinks.
~ If I'm interested I can look at your profile. If you don't take the time to list them on your profile, I don't have the time to deal with you.

7. If you have nothing more to say to me than, "Hi. How are you?"
~ As always, I'm fine, thanks for asking. There, now you know. Write something more meaningful if you're going to take the time to write.

So, there it is. Now it's time for a cuppa. :)

10/21/2015 7:24:23 AM
I've gone through and deleted all 38 pages of emails from everyone and I'm starting over. If you would like to gain my attention here's how to do it:

First, be incredibly polite.
Second, include a picture of your face. No excuses. If you can't send me a picture of your face I don't have time for you. I have pictures of my face up, so turn about and all that.
Third, do not tell me you want to perform ANY sexual act on you.
Fourth, have more to say than just "Hi."

And if you've read my entire profile and all my journal entries I'll be even more impressed.

5/7/2015 5:13:39 PM

   

~*~*~*~*~*~*~MAKE THE DOMINA LAUGH CONTEST~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

 

Every month there's a contest to see who can make me laugh the most. Send me your funniest stories, comics, videos, pictures, memes and what not and I'll put the funniest one up for all to enjoy. Whoever has the winning entry gets my YIM log-in if they ask for it!

So show me yours and I'll laugh at it!

     I received this little gem from a boy a few weeks back from Mark and I instantly had a vision of an awesome mockumentary narrated by Michael Palin.

"Ha ha.  I just pictured a massive annual pilgrimage by submissive men from all over the world converging on the town of Domme, like a Muslim Haj unto Mecca.  Some BDSM-minded filmmaker should do a mockumentary along those lines.  

     I picture a Monty Python "Life of Brian" like , where they are all so desperate to find someone to worship that a huge throng of them stop at each woman along the way, at a truck stop say, and bow down in a child's pose crouch and pledge their devotion in unison.  She shakes her head, rolls her eyes and says "whatever" before walking away, to a chorus of disappointed groans and anguished cries of "Mistress!!".  Of course, for women who've spent time here, it would be just like another day on Collarspace."

    For those of you who are unaware, the boy is referencing the map I have in my pictures section of the French city of Domme. Now I feel the need to write a screen play!


4/28/2015 8:17:38 AM

A Domina doesn't need chains, cuffs or ropes to bind her slave. When she dominates his mind, his heart and his body, he will willingly bind his soul to her soul. 


4/25/2015 8:40:02 AM

 

An Assignment for All You Good Little Boys

As you know, If you've actually read my profile, I'm looking for a well rounded boy to serve my needs. And how can you show me you're a well rounded boy?  It is SO easy you won't even believe it!

  1. Click on "Edit Profile" off to the left.
  1. At the top click on "Interests."
  1. "Adventure" should be highlighted. If not, click on it.
  1. Click on each choice and tell me how you feel about it.
  2. You don't have to anything with the "Experience" drop down menu unless you just want to.
  3. Make sure to click on EVERY tab.

To help you out here is a list of the tabs: Interests, Athletics, Diversions, Hobbies, Intellect, Lifestyles, Music, Skills, Spiritual, Sports. Notice I left off the BDSM 1, 2 and 3. I know you're kinky. I know you're into this and that and the other. Now show me the things I don't know about.

I can't wait to check out your profile now!

~DC


4/24/2015 3:12:40 PM


What if I were a  5" tall man running around my house?

   Recently, Glenn, a curious little slave from Long Island, NY posed the above question to me and asked me to consider what my reaction would be if, in fact and reality, he really was a 5" tall man running about my home. Well, the first thing I did was get out my tape measure to see how big 5" really is. The reason women are so bad at measurements is because men are constantly lying to us about how big 9" actually is.

     Now, 5" is the length from the base of hand to the middle joint of my ring finger. (And yes, I actually can palm a basketball.) So, with this this little visual aid in mind I sat down to ponder what my reaction would be. I came to the conclusion, of course it would depend on how Glenn decided to present himself. If he just suddenly appeared say, in the middle of my studio floor as I was sculpting, or if he darted out from somewhere amid my art supplies along the walls, it would scare the ever loving, living crap out of me!

     After letting out a small "SQUEE!" of surprise I'd immediately start lobbing carving tools (some of which are very sharp) at the poor boy. (If it happened in the bedroom, all the worse for him, for that's where my sword collection is displayed on the wall and they are much more dangerous than carving tools.)

     Now, if he were a polite little creature and came knocking on my door and introduced himself, I would find myself having to take him in and in the infamous words of Hugo, from The Abominable Snow Rabbit, "I will hug him and pet him and squeeze him. And pat him and pet him. And caress him." And then of course, "I will punish him good." LOL God! I love Hugo!

     This, of course, is all presuming that my 15 pound cat and my hyper-vigilant dog wouldn't get him first. So, in fact and reality, this poor little 5" man would end up either an itty bitty snack for the dog or a cute little play thing, then a snack for the cat.

     Sorry, Glenn. Poor little pet treat. ;)
~DC


4/18/2015 8:58:38 AM

The Things. You Do. You're Unbelievable!

     I don't know how you guys do it! I just spent about an hour scrolling through some of the "Dominant Female" profiles and Oh My Holy Crap!  Between the "I'm an evil bitch Queen/Goddess of the Universe drop to your knees and kiss my feet/worship me" and the equally vapid "I'm a young and powerful nymphomaniac who will make you obey me send me money" I don't know how you sweet little boys stay sane. Oh wait. Most of you aren't sane. ;)

     Seriously though. It's hard out there for a lonely boy trying to find a good home. And when you're alone, and looking for, and longing for, and yearning for that power and control it's so hard to hold off and wait for something real and true. But you know what? You are so worth the wait.

     Dominants tend to play down the value of slaves but if you take nothing else from my journals, take this: You have great worth. You are of immense value. In your submission, on your knees with your head bowed there is great nobility of spirit.

     As difficult as it is, hold off. Wait. Be of good patience. Take the time to know the person who has you under consideration (and by default who you also have under consideration). That's why there is this time period to begin with. Spend as much time getting to know her through emails and hopefully chat, if she will allow, as you can. And not just what her kinks are and how she disciplines naughty boys.

     Find out what kind of person she is. What does she want from the relationship? Does it match what you want? Are you looking for the same thing? Are your lifestyles compatible? Are you even looking for the same thing? Maybe all you want is a playmate and she wants a husband. (YIKES!)

     For all I go through, all I put up with, all the BS and lying HLF, all you honest boys go through just as much as I do. So, here's to you! You're awesome!
Be happy! Be safe! BDSM!
~DC


4/17/2015 9:45:47 AM
For those of you who don't read the Message Boards (or forums as they're also called) an important message from Administration:

"Any messages sent by a user regarding a new "user verification system" are a scam and should be ignored.  Remember, on-site messages from the site will always have a gold border. 

< Message edited by Admin -- 1/10/2010 7:36:03 PM >" 

Be good! Be safe! BDSM!

~DC

4/16/2015 5:54:47 PM

Be present. Make love. Make tea. Avoid small talk. Embrace conversation. Buy a plant. Water it. Give it love. Make your bed. Make someone else's bed. Have a smart mouth. And a quick wit. Run. Make art. Make good art. Make bad art. Create. Color outside the lines. Scribble all over the page. Make your own lines. Read. Swim in the ocean. Swim in the rain. Take chances. Ask questions. Be confused. Ask more questions. Make mistakes. Learn. Know your worth. Love. Fiercely. Forgive quickly. Let go of whatever doesn't bring you joy. Grow. And above all, Love.


4/16/2015 8:27:45 AM


~*~*~*~*~*~*~MAKE THE DOMINA LAUGH CONTEST~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

Every month there's a contest to see who can make me laugh the most. Send me your funniest stories, comics, videos, pictures, memes and what not and I'll put the funniest one up for all to enjoy. Whoever has the winning entry gets my YIM log-in!

So show me yours and I'll laugh at it!



4/16/2015 7:38:56 AM


Hurting vs Damaging 

     Abuse should never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever enter into any relationship, especially a D/s relationship. Because of the activities we engage in being able to trust our partners with our bodies, and psyches in a way vanilla couples don't have to be concerned with is the most important aspect of a strong D/s relationship. Abuse is when one partner is in fear of being physically, verbally or emotionally damaged by the other partner. And you should NEVER put up with it.
     And that brings up the question of pleasurable pain vs. other kinds of pain. I distinguish between them as hurting and damaging. Yes, we're going to hurt our slaves. No, we don't damage them. We've all heard the expression before: "You are not a door mat." That's very true, but it's getting to be cliché and it's kind of losing it's meaning. Here's a closer look:
     Pain is DELICIOUS! Masochistic slaves can make a Domina's little heart go pitty pat! They know all about working through the pain until the endorphins are released, go zipping through their bodies and carry them off to sweet, sweet sub space. You run into problems when the slave is not a masochist or when the Domme is a bit too sadistic.
     It's a special skill to train a slave to enjoy pain. It takes knowledge, patience, consistency and a time. A *LOT* of time. If any of these skills are lacking you can move from hurting to damaging in the blink of an eye. And *THIS* is why we have safe words. Never play without safe words. Never go into a relationship without safe words. Don't buy into the whole "My boy doesn't need safe words because we will know each other so well he won't ever have to use one." Well, if that's true, give him a safe word and let him not use it. ALWAYS have a safe word. Always.
     Another reason slaves get damaged is because of an overly sadistic Domina. Recently, many of you read of the poor boy who had his testicle broken by an angry woman posing as a Domme. I say posing because a real Domme would know you never touch a slave in anger. That's Domme 101 stuff right there. Once she had him tied up she went to work on his balls relentlessly, ignoring his use of the safe word and cries and pleas for help. Why? Because A) she wasn't a real Domme and B) she was a misogynistic psychopath (she was a nutter who hates men). And *THIS* is why we get to know the people with which we hand over our bodies and minds. Meeting someone over a cup of coffee is a nice beginning, but anyone can pretend to be exactly what you're looking for within that length of time.
     Spend time getting to know the other person before you even meet face to face. Ask about their job. Their background; where they're from; how many siblings they have; what books they read (they don't read?! RUN! Never trust people who don't read!); what vanilla activities they enjoy.
     Don't be in such a hurry to get kinky! What if that woman had pulled out a knife and castrated him then left him there to bleed out? Never think, "Oh, that won't happen to me." I'm 100% certain that's what he thought before it happened to him.

Be happy! Be safe! BDSM!
~DC


4/10/2015 1:13:10 AM


     Let me say right off the bat that I do NOT believe that real "pay pigs," or "human ATMs," or "financial slaves" exist except in the minds of greedy Dommes. With that said, go ahead… prove me wrong. But as usual, under MY terms, not yours.

     I get 4 or 5 emails from you "pay pigs" every day saying how much you want to throw money at me for one reason or another and so far none of you have so much as bought me a gift!

     Hell, slaves asking to be considered, very frequently, at least have the decency to send a gift. (Because the male of the species often buy little "tokens of esteem" for the female of the species, in case your momma never told you.)

     And so many of you come back and have the nerve to say you need proof I'm real! Proof?! First, you contacted me. Second, I have a journal that is about as real as it gets. Third, I have a variety of pictures showing my face. What more proof could you want?

     And if you don't want "proof" you say you need to get to know me better. My profile says all you need to know to understand that I am a real life woman, a kind and caring person and a Domina who doesn't take any shit from anyone. I'm not going to sit here and chat with you and give you wank material or give you orders to do this or that.

     You will either send a token amount of funds on a Visa gift card to my email address or you won't. If you do, well look at me being wrong. I'll come back here and write to every one and tell them how wrong I am.  If you don't, well, look at me being not surprised as I block your stupid ass from ever bothering me again.

~Domina Celeste

 


4/9/2015 9:04:50 AM


Anything. Really? ANYTHING?
     You silly boys and the vows you make to me! "Oh, Domina! Please, please allow me to serve you! Please, Goddess! I will do anything you say! I will do anything you want! Anything!"

     The begging is adorable, but when you write me you have to *HAVE* to be 100% honest with me. So, when you say you'll do anything for me, does that mean you're prepared to:

  • Drop everything and move to Kansas if I want you to?
  • Buy me a house?
  • A car?
  • A dress?
  • Get circumcised if you aren't already?
  • Write a 300 word essay extolling my virtues?
  • 500 words?
  • 1,000 words?
  • Paint my portrait?
  • Paint my toenails?
  • Paint the house you just bought me?
So don't tell me you'll do "anything" for me unless you mean it!

~DC


4/8/2015 7:41:27 AM


Domina vs. Mistress

I am not a Mistress. I am a Domina.
     Many don't make the distinction, but I do. I find the term "Mistress" demeaning and insulting. I define "Mistress" as a young woman who is having an affair with an older married man who basically pays her bills in exchange for sexual favors.

     The term "Mistress" has been bastardized and is used commonly in the BDSM lifestyle as a dominant female. I hate the term and do not take kindly when slaves are ignorant, unobservant and use the term when addressing me.

     "Domina" is the female version of the Latin term "Dominus" which means "master or owner." In Olde English the term "Domina" is defined as a title of royalty that was given to women who owned baronies of their own, rather than owning them with their husbands. In more modern times Cambridge University uses the term to mean a woman who has earned a Bachelor of Arts. So as you can see, a Domina is a strong, educated woman of power.
   
  Is it any wonder why I get aggravated when boys who don't pay attention call me "Mistress?"

~DC


4/3/2015 2:24:16 PM


Hello again, all you naughty boys,
    I know it's a rare second entry on the same day. Surprise! I had to come and write this because you boys are just swamping me the last week, I just cannot keep up with you all! Don't get me wrong. I love hearing from you. I love your adoration. I love your worship of me. I truly want to reply to each and every one of you; however, there is no way I can keep up this pace unless someone wants to hire me full time to do nothing but answer all your emails. So, in the interest of time (mine, which I seem to have less and less of every day) here are the answers to many of the same questions I get over and over. (My answers are, obviously, in green, my favorite color.)

  1. Hi! How are you? Hi! I'm great. Just another beautiful day in Paradise. Thanks for asking. Hope you're doing great, too!
  2. You're gorgeous!/Great profile!/Beautiful pix! Awww! Aren't you sweet! Thank you so much. I love reading that!
  3. Can I serve you?/Will you be my owner? I currently have a boy under serious consideration, but if you like I can add you to the waiting list.
  4. Really ma'am. Please! Let me serve you. I'll do anything. ANYTHING! Really? Anything? Fine. Pay off my car. Move along, HLF.
  5. Really ma'am. Please! What will it take for me to serve you? Well, first, the boy I have under consideration will have to turn out to be a huge ass liar. Second, you will have to wait your turn on the list. Third, you will have to go through the entire consideration process. (I'll be posting an entry on that soon.) Oh. You just wanted to chat so you could jerk off? Move along, HLF.
  6. Do you like (______)? Probably. I like a whole lot more things than I don't. Check out my list on my profile.
  7. I've written you 3 times and you never replied. Please. I'm begging for your attention! Really? Did you READ my profile? It states you need to send me a picture of your face if you want me to reply to you. Did you remember to attach a picture of yourself?
  8. Are you sending me a form letter? Could be. I receive upwards of 60 emails a day and I read EVERY single one of them. Many times they can all be answered the same way. That's not to say you aren't all wonderful individuals, it's just that most slaves want the same thing.
  9. Can I be your money slave? *rolling my eyes* Yea. Sure send me some money. Move along, HLF.
  10. FUCK YOU BITCH! Oh silly boy, I wouldn't let you fuck me with someone else's dick! ROTFL You really need to look up the word "submissive" and research the meaning of the word "slave" in relation to the world of BDSM for you, dear boy, are neither. What you are is the very worst example of the vanilla male: a sad, pathetic loser, who can't get a vanilla lady so he thinks he can try his smarmy tricks by being "kinky." (Can we say this part all together?) "Move along, HLF!"

~DC


4/3/2015 12:38:20 PM

April 3, 2015

 

~*~*~*~*~*~*EMBARRASSING POST OF THE MONTH~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

     I meant to post this the other day, but it was April Fool's Day and I didn't want you to think I was joking. Then I received the email from Marc and it was too important of a topic to put off posting so this got bumped to today.

     This is another game to play with all you naughty boys out there. The more that join in the more fun it will be. It's simple. Just send me a (very) short story of your most embarrassing moment from the past month or so and I'll post them at the beginning of each month.

     Here's mine:
     I was hauling ass down South Seneca St. in my boyfriend's beat up old pickup, windows down, hair flying in the wind, radio blaring, and I hit a stop light, oblivious to anyone around me as I'm rocking out, singing very loudly:

"...Down in the basement
Lock the cellar door
And baby
TALK DIRTY TO ME!"

     I hear a horn blaring, look over and the guy in the car next to me is waving his arms, I turn the music down and he's screaming out the window, "I'll talk dirty to you or anything else you want baby!"

     Yea, it wouldn't have been so embarrassing except the guy was about 140 years old!

HA!

     What's made YOU turn red recently?
~DC


4/2/2015 10:11:22 AM

April 2, 2015

     I just received a message from a boy named Marc, and he told me a terrifying story you should all learn a lesson from.

     He met a woman, spent time with her and things seemed to be going well. After several vanilla meetings, and a couple BDSM meetings he submitted to being bound. During the scene she began CBT play and before long play turned into true torture. Saving you the gory details our hero ended up having emergency surgery for a broken testicle!

     This definitely speaks to the issue of trust. It's not something easily earned, but subs want and long and yearn for someone to control them so desperately they far too frequently give too much trust too fast to the wrong person.

     Does that sound like I'm blaming the victim? I am. Partially. I've said it over and over again, "You *have* to protect yourself until you *know* you have an owner/playmate who will and can protect you." You have to be smart. 

     Most subs who are online know very well there are so many women out there who will take you for every penny you have if given half a chance. You all are so worried (and rightly so) about keeping a hold of your credit and debit cards you tend to forget to protect your minds and bodies.

     Seriously boys! Which is more important to you? Your bank accounts or your bodies?! Please! For the love of the holy Goddess boys! Do not throw your trust, submission, bodies and souls any way the wind blows!

     ~DC


3/31/2015 8:20:04 AM

     Recently I received an email from a sweet little boy named Jason who had run into a problem with a Domina who had accepted his submission, ordered him to delete his profile then a month later disappeared.

 

Can we all say "Bitch!?"

     But, it's not all her fault. It really does take two to Tango.  Here is a piece of advice for all of you who are new to the lifestyle, new to Collarspace, new to online play and even those who aren't so new. This may come as a surprise to you, but not everyone on the internet is who they say they are. The beautiful 29 year-old, Dominatrix who says "Yes" to everything you enjoy just may be some 57 year-old dude! Or, it could be a beautiful 29 year-old woman… who's after your money and nothing else.

     Just because someone says she's a Domme/Mistress/Domina/etc doesn't mean she is. Don't take orders from people online. You can play, and flirt and find each other on instant messengers. You can Skype and play and have fun on cam if that's what you're into. Knock yourselves out! Get off! Live a fantasy or two. Or three. Or four!

     But remember, if you're looking for something real, something long term, something lasting you have to be patient and take your time. You have to build trust. Because someone shows you her tits, or he shows you his cock does not mean you can trust him or her. Trust takes time. It takes sharing parts of the real you. Who you are. What it is that makes you you.

     Once you meet someone face to face, or in the case of LDR if you've known them for a couple of months and trust has been built you can consider offering the most precious gift you have: your submission. And don't doubt it for a second! Dominants want submissives every bit as much as you want them. And although them taking control is a gift to you, your submission is just as wonderful a gift. Until the time comes when you have built trust... don't change your life, your profile, your name, and mostly don't just toss away your submission.
~ Domina Celeste


3/29/2015 1:49:34 PM
Here is the winning entry in the first Make the Domina Smile Contest. (Yea, I know you didn't know there was a contest, but that's the kind of thing that will keep all you naughty boys on your toes.)

Thanks Jeff! Very well done!

The video is hilarious and actually quite informative on how to NOT annoy the piss out of a Domina.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=drcTRzO2wMk

As it happens there is no hyperlink ability in journals (or on profiles evidently) so cut and paste that into your browser. It's really worth it.

3/26/2015 1:24:27 PM

March 26, 2015

Hello naughty boys!

 

Today I'm going to write about something I've touched on before: HLFs or what I call Horny Little Fuckers. These are some of  the worst kinds of males on the site. I'd like to get each one of them in a dungeon on an anal hook dangling from the ceiling and learning what service is actually about. 

In the most unpleasant way possible. 

HLF come to sites like this posing as submissive men when in fact they haven't a submissive bone in their body. They have no respect for themselves. And they have no respect for women. The only thing they are looking for is a little kinky sex. And… it has to be exactly what they define as "kinky." 

They will tell you one of two things: 

The first kind are quite transparent. They usually have a long list of what they want or what they're "trained" in and sometimes an even longer list of the things they consider hard limits. It' almost as if they're programming a computer or placing an order at a Chinese restaurant. "I'll have this, this, this and that, with a side of those, but none of that." They're easy to spot.

The second kind are a bit tougher to spot. These HLFs will say exactly what you want to hear. They will study your profile, your journal, any Message Board posts you've made and you really kind of have to be impressed they go to so much trouble. But! Remember, they just want to fuck. They have no interest in serving. These males will tell you they don't have a "shopping list," of do's and don'ts because it's all about you and what you want and your pleasure. Sounds good, right?

 Wrong! There has to be "something" in it for the servant; otherwise, why would they bother. It's your job to make sure the "something" they're looking for is the same "something: you're willing to give.

Note: I'm assuming you're here looking for a full time, long term servant, rather than simply a play partner for an hour or two.

~Domina Celeste


3/25/2015 7:58:50 AM
Hello naughty boys!

Yes, yes, it's me, Domina Celeste. I'm having a terrible time recovering my original profile. If any of you happen to know my previous password, by all means, do let me know. LOL Kidding! As if I'd give a password to a slave!  Silly boys!

For those of you who were fans of my previous journal you know how it works, for you nubes, here it is... If you have a subject you would like me to write on, questions you would like answered or topics you need advice about send me a message and if it meets the following criteria I might write an entry about it:

  1. It must be something that would appeal to a large audience. 
  2. It must have to deal with some aspect of BDSM and D/s relationships.
  3. It must be something I'm interested in. (And that covers a LOT of ground!)
So there it is. Don't be shy. Tell me what you want to read about!

~Domina Celeste

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 Age: 22
 BC, Canada