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I'm looking for a serious submissive female, who will be living here with me as my assistant, maid, Kids nanny by day, and my dirty little house slut by night! I am looking for a woman who is emotionally mature enough to understand what it means to be a sub and to serve a Dom. Related to your physical type, I do have a few limitations. You cannot be obese or anorexic. I do not mind a full figured woman--plumpness can be attractive. Race does not concern me. Height is not an issue--short, average or tall are all acceptable. I am also looking for a sub who has some intelligence. I am not interested in just a fuck. I am looking for a sub who can carry on a conversation and who is an intellectual challenge.
So, there is obviously lots more to this subject matter that can be reasonably conveyed and we can discuss this further when you have made contact. We can then take the next steps if we both agree it is right for each of us.
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Feel Free To Ask Me A Question:
But also spend time learning about yourself. What makes you tick? In other words, what do you want in a prospective Dominant? What do you have within you that you can offer to him? What are your limits, both hard and soft? And what is it that draws you to this lifestyle? These are questions that will take some time for you to answer but it will help you guide you as well.
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Please Read This Important Message:
On this social website there are many profiles saying they are or want to be a slave. Many seem to think that one attains this simply by stating "I am a slave". However few realize the lengths one needs to go to be worthwhile in this endeavor. I believe that few can ever reach this level of submission. For this reason, I believe it is one of the more extreme choices one can make.
The first thing is Total Power Exchange:
In a true Master/slave relationship, all power resides in the hands of the Master (Mistess). This is unequivocal. The slave retains no rights whatsoever. When opting for this structure, one is agreeing to give all control over to the other. He or she simply becomes another piece of property to be used as the Master sees fit. Whatever the decision, it is up to her to follow and obey. Each task needs to be completed to the best of her ability. I encounter so many who are ready to agree to this idea. However, they usually are the ones who believe they are online slaves. M/s cannot occur online. It is impossible to serve via the Internet. Another fundamental quality of M/s is that a slave is there to serve. Her position is to do things that make her Master's life easier. It is not for her to co-dictate what transpires. If that were the case, the breakdown of power would be split. This is not what occurs in M/s.
The second thing is Service:
This is another point that is lost when talking with these slaves. They totally overlook the fact that their entire existence, if they are true slaves, is to serve. Many state they are sex slaves only. Therefore, they do not tend to the chores that require attention. There service is in the bedroom only. Once again, this is incorrect. While many domination/submission relationships are structured this way, it is not one of Master/slave. Instead, it is another form of D/s. The submissive is a sub as opposed to a slave. The reasoning is she retains some rights and say so over her life. A slave does not enjoy this luxury. Slavery means that you do whatever is required of you. Your service is based upon the needs of the Master, not your own. Let me further explain if you were my slave....................my slave would be ironing clothes before she heads off to work. Part of her service to me is earning income which is turned over to me to lighten any financial burden. She is also responsibile for all household chores. Finally, she is the one who runs the different errands that I need handled such as going to the grocery store or paying the light bill. These are activities that I need completed which fall to her as my slave.
Notice how my sexual needs are not even mentioned. I can tell you this is a part of her service but not her main calling in life. Like anyone else, I have a life outside the bedroom. Therefore, I have responsibilities which I turn over to her for completion. In each situation, I expect her to finish the required task unless there is a viable reason why it cannot be.
Last but not least Online Slavery:
To me, online slavery is nothing more than role playing. As mentioned, service is a vital component to any M/s situation. That being said, I fail to see how one can serve another while online. From what I have seen, online M/s becomes a cam session with sex being the only criteria for submission. In fact, other than having one masturbate for you, what else can she accomplish online? How can she do your laundry, clean the house, run errands, or pay bills? The answer is that she cannot. Online becomes a way for people to assume certain roles. That is all. One side note on this idea, online can be a beginning of a real time M/s relationship. Therefore, some training can occur in terms of making a slave aware of the expectations that one will have. Testing her with tasks such as writing or mailing you things is a terrific way to see her commitment. However, this is not to be mistaken for a true M/s situation. Many will tell there Master they are following his orders while simply ignoring the request. And, even if she is found out, what is he to do. The bottom line is so much fraud is present in the online BDSM world because it is so easy to mimic reality. Anyone can read a few blog posts then proclaim to be anything he or she wants. In the end, truth is based upon the word of the other person. Sadly, this often lacks much integrity. I heard of one woman who has 18 Masters at the same time. I am certain at least a few of them believed she was real. How mistaken they are.
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A Good Dominant:
I have talked to many submissive's and I hear a reoccurring theme from many of them. The Dominant they are seeing expects them to do whatever it is the Dominant wants right from the beginning. The Dominant doesn’t feel he/she has to do anything except be the Dominant. This is wrong in more ways than I can express. A submissive happens to be a person first. They are individuals that happen to be submissive by nature. A Dominant is also a person first. This is something they need to always remember. If the Dominant can remember this, he will be a much better Master. By recognizing that all are people first, with all the weaknesses a person has, the Dominant will be in a better position to command respect and loyalty from the submissive.A Dominant must realize the submissive has thoughts, feeling and even fears. A Dominant must understand that respect and loyalty must always be learned. This isn’t something that should ever change. When a submissive offers herself to her Dominant, it isn't an excuse to change. If anything, it should strengthen his resolve to become even better. A Dominant must learn how to listen. Anyone can hear words, but it is a skill to listen. Not only does it make it easier in establishing the communication we so desperately need in this lifestyle; it shows the submissive that the Dominant is concerned about his submissive. To not allow the submissive some freedom to express herself and then if one doesn’t listen; one is only creating something doomed to failure.The Dominant must be willing to work to maintain the relationship. He must be willing to set the example. He must show the submissive what honor and integrity are. A Dominant must understand he too has weaknesses. He is not perfect although he may wish his submissive to believe he is. The sooner he loses the “God” complex, the better off he will be.A Dominant must be willing to accept all submissives are different. What one enjoys doesn’t mean another will. Each one has differences in thoughts, limitations and tolerances. Throw away the book because it doesn’t work. If a Dominant truly wants to have loyalty, he will treat every submissive as an individual. They will see this in the Dominant and it will create even more respect for him. I would also suggest a Dominant learn how to respect a submissive. There are many things that a submissive does for her Master that others would not. He needs to appreciate that fact. The submissive does much better under an atmosphere of respect and guidance rather than one of fear.Should a Master force a submissive into doing something she doesn’t want to just in order to please the Dominant? Of course not. The Dominant should encourage, challenge and push but never force. The Dominant needs patience in this area. If he can practice patience, 90% of what he enjoys will be fulfilled in the future. A submissive must be allowed to grow at a pace in which she can handle different things. To throw so much at her before she is ready is uncalled for mental cruelty. A Dominant should not be cruel. He should be firm and consistent.The Dominant should never want to punish his submissive. A Dominant needs to be aware of that if he has to punish his submissive; the odds are he made a mistake in her training. If she needs to be punished, make the punishment fit the crime. Do not look to punish your submissive. No one is perfect and if one looks for a reason to punish, they will find one. Once again, punishing someone just for the sake of punishing is cruel. It is also a sign of weakness in the Dominant. A Dominant needs to understand what his own desires and needs are. He needs to understand what he can or cannot accept from a submissive. If the Dominant enjoys Golden Showers and there is no way the submissive would ever enjoy it, why does he want the submissive? If the compatibility factor is not there, why pursue someone? That is only ego and has no place in this lifestyle. Too mush ego only harms others. Confidence is a great thing, but ego is not. A Dominant always needs to maintain control of himself. Never punish, when the need does arise, out of anger. Anger is another thing that only causes harm. Let the submissive know and understand why she is being punished. How can a submissive learn from a mistake if she is unaware of what the mistake was? A punishment should be used in order to teach, not to cause harm. A Dominant needs to have the submissive understand his rules. How just is it to punish someone when they are not even aware of what they did that caused the punishment? To the Dominants I have heard of that tell a submissive to figure out the rules, I say this; you are idiots and pretenders. Do not be afraid to spell out your rules. If one knows themselves and knows what they want and need, it isn’t hard to do.I realize there are those that only wish to have play partners. This is true on both sides. What I write about is for those that wish to attempt something that will last for more than a month. I have had success and failure myself. This will be true for everyone. What I stress is the work it will take to attempt the avoidance of failure. For those that do only want a play partner here and there, please don’t think of yourself as lifestylers. This advice is for those that do live this, not play at it once in a while. I can’t claim to know all the answers and what does work for me and those that do follow my guidelines won’t work for everyone. I do know that every Dominant that does work at it and is never satisfied with his own knowledge, will have a greater chance of succeeding in a relationship than one that only does the minimum. It is that way in everything that happens.
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Just Helping Out A Few True Slaves/Subs: What To Look For In A Dominant Or Master.
Honesty and transparency.He answers any question you pose, shares things you should know unprompted,and hides nothing about his life.He's willing to discuss previous relationships in detail,and doesn't blame breakups mostly on the ex-partners.
Has tried kink and craves more. He wants kink for how it makes him feel, not just because you want it. He's not conflicted about it.
Vanilla chemistry. You like each other as people, not just as kink providers! He likes you as much as you like him. He doesn't pull you into D/s dynamics until you get familiar with each other.
Compatible life patterns and goals. Some subs, and doms, are more adaptable than others. But in general, chemistry is not enough; you need basic alignment in schedules, habits, needs for solitude & attention/affection & kink/sex, and social patterns.
Vision and clarity. He has a picture or plan for the future of the relationship. He sees possible paths from the present to that place, and makes the current path clear to his sub.
Emotional sophistication. He's aware of his own feelings and issues, and able to discover and understand yours. He can ask for help when he needs it and lend help when you ask. He's not easily angered or hurt, but will promptly and calmly tell you when he is. He'll call you on your stuff, and allows you to call him on his.
Dedication to self-development. He's constantly working on himself especially emotional and social skills. He's at peace with who he is, but isn't complacent. He learns from his mistakes.
Curiosity and fascination. He's profoundly interested in you, and your dynamics together, and the aspects of himself that you enable him to explore.
Intuition and empathy. He's good at reading you, and eventually predicting your likely responses in key moments. He communicates his insights about you. He has a sense of how you feel, which impacts his own mind-state.
Humility and confidence. He knows his weaknesses and vulnerabilities. He knows his strengths. He takes risks wisely. He doesn't mistake authority for knowledge and understanding. He owns it when he's at fault or has failed.
Sets limits and pushes limits. One point of D/s is redefining both partners' boundaries, emotionally and physically. A dom guides this process, both by setting beneficial restrictions on his partner, and working to dismantle barriers she may have towards him.
Patience and flexibility. He's willing to invest the time and care necessary for a deep relationship. He knows you're not superhuman. He can take "no" for an answer when necessary. He can devise or embrace alternate routes to his objectives.
Appreciation and encouragement. He conveys to you how good he feels with you. He celebrates your talents and accomplishments. He doesn't criticize you unfairly or needlessly. He urges you to pursue your interests, to hone your strengths, to address your weaknesses.
Financial stability. He has his own living space. His debt to income ratio is manageable.
Cares for himself. He's sensible about nutrition, sleep, exercise, grooming, clothes, car, etc.
If you find a gent with all of the above qualities, and he's into you, be willing to bend over backwards and forwards for him daily. He's a rare find!
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What Type Of Submissive Are You? There Are Many Levels And Versions Of Submission.
One way to ensure a good BDSM relationship is to be up front in what you want during play time, personal service and sexual service. State what your desires and needs are and there will be a lot less mistakes. Dominants are not mind readers. Be clear on your limits. Some submissive's only submit in sexual scenes and not in the rest of their lives, while others give over their entire life to a Dominant. Some subs only want to be servant subs with no sexual acts ever taking place.
The Conceptual Submissive:
This submissive is one that learns everything they know about submission from romance or erotica books and the internet. This submissive will normally only become an online sub or slave and try to administer advice to others with no real experience or concept of what BDSM is. They usually live a vanilla life outside of the cyber world.The Mental Submissive:
The mental submissive begins his or her submission in their mind. This person is submissive in and out of the bedroom. They generally have a need to submit or surrender to a Dominant. The act of submission is all mental but can also consist of physical. She can give as much or as little as they wish to or need to give. The surrendering is the power exchange. Once the surrender occurs, they can become an empty vessel for the Dominant to mold in whatever image They wish. Love is not required, as this is a mental submission.
The Romantic Submissive:
This type of submissive wishes to surrender everything, without becoming a slave. In comparison with the mental submissive, a romantic submissive craves the love of the Dominant they submit to. The act of submission is full of emotion and love. They give all they have for the return of love and trust from the Dominant they serve.
The Bedroom Submissive:
This type of submissive is Vanilla in every facet of their life or even Dominant, but when the bedroom door shuts, the roles drop and they submit to the Dominant. The bedroom is where the power exchange happens and stays. This submission is almost always sexual in nature. In the bedroom, the act of submission is complete. But, when the bedroom door is open, the bedroom submissive returns to the vanilla world or role.
The Servant:
This type of submissive is only interested in serving a Dominant. This submissive typically does not include sexual activities. They run errands, clean the home, run a Dominant's calendar or arrange meetings for the Dominant. This type of submissive satisfies their submissive needs by doing things for other people. This is a very special type of submissive.
The Sex Slave:
This submissive is in this Lifestyle for sex, with one person, many people, or in any way that can be imagined. This person rarely has any limits when it comes to sex and will allow a Dominant to use pain as a method of arousal and release, with little or no cautions. This submissive cannot imagine any punishment worse than being locked in a chastity device or not given permission to masturbate or have sexual release.
The Slave:
Unlike a submissive, a slave must surrender completely and be completely controlled by a Master. The slave must feel completely owned. They can become a different person when a Master trains them to serve Him/Her in whatever way they prefer. When Master is happy, the slave is happy. They feel most complete when with a Master. The slave beams when s/he brings Master pleasure.
The SAMs:
These are 'Smart Ass Masochists'. They deliberately misbehave all the time so the Dominant will punish them. These types of subs are frowned upon in the BDSM community. Most people feel these subs are too weak to honestly ask for what they want. At times, they can provoke real anger without thinking how their behavior can affect the Dominant. The Dominant may then lose control and do actual harm to the SAM. They feel great remorse in losing control and can lose confidence in their Dominant abilities.
The Attention Seeker:
These types of submissive's are the ones that always do things to seek attention from other submissive's and Dominants alike. They post status updates on web sites that try to make you feel sorry for them, post lots of pictures of themselves in various states of undress, not because they are proud of their bodies but from the need to receive good comments to make validate their efforts, and are generally very whinny. These kinds of submissive's are mostly found in cyberspace and are generally frowned on by real life BDSM practitioners.
The UBER Submissive:
This person believes they are the ultimate, uber submissive. They think no one can come close to their knowledge, level of submissiveness, or training in protocol. They believe they are a step above all other subs and slaves. These people are generally not real submissive's. They tend to read books and articles about the Lifestyle, may even submit to a Dom, but generally have no experience and don’t know what to do with book knowledge in real situations. They also do not have the need to submit internally and only want to do it for the experience.
Now, these are the different types of subs/slaves that I use to categorize. Don't forget that you may not fall into just one area, but several. You also may not agree with my deions. But hopefully, this will give you a broader understanding of the different levels of submission and the many forms it can come in.
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How To Identify A Good Dominant:
How can you avoid the bad dominants though if you don’t know what to look for? What is it that makes a Dom worthy of your submission? What sets Good Dominants apart from the abusive idiots who desperately try to force that title down your throat?
- First and foremost, a good Dom has an extraordinary amount of self-control. Sometimes he is so patient that it is infuriating. His job as your Dom is to make sure that you get what you need from him, as well as getting what he needs from you. This leads to the next sign of a Good Dom…
- A good Dom will understand that even though he is the Dominant, your opinions matter. Your needs matter even more than that. There will be times where he will have to decide which is more important: something you want or something you need and he will have to make that judgement call.
- A Good Dom always has reasons behind his rules and they make sense. “Because I want you to” may be what we’re told when we ask why we have to do something, but that’s not always the real reason either. A Good Dom understands that your mental, physical and emotional health is important as well.
- A Good Dom understands the importance of Aftercare. It is never “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” with sessions with a Good Dom. Sure, we have quickies, but that’s usually “just sex”. In a scene a Good Dom knows that you have been brought up and down, to orgasm, through orgasm sometimes denied orgasm and then brought back to it again, over and over and over. In a scene, you are extremely vulnerable. The beauty of a successful scene is that you allow yourself to be vulnerable and allow yourself to trust someone enough to handle you and protect you, care for you, love you, while your defenses are down and the Dom gets off on being trusted with you while you’re in that state of mind. A Good Dom understands that there may be tears, extreme joy and other strong emotions that flow through you for a while after a successful scene (and even more so after an unsuccessful one). Aftercare (usually, but not always, administered by cuddling or snuggling together) allows you to come through those emotions (also known as sub-drop) unscathed. What’s more, is that there is such a thing as Top-Drop — where the Dominant is also going through strong emotions and he needs to know that you still respect him, are still loyal to him, still want to be with him after he’s made you so very vulnerable and even exploited that vulnerability for his sexual gratification. (And your sexual gratification.)
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Trying To Help All The slave/subs So They Know What To Be Aware Of These Kind Of People:
There are people in this world who would kill to be with someone who will put up with their shit. They do not seek anything more than someone to use, abuse and throw away when they are done. They don’t care about your limits, your wishes, your desires or even your happiness. They know how to manipulate and con, and aren’t interested in learning how to love. These are the people that are too emotionally unstable for any relationship, let alone a BDSM relationship. Many of those who claim to be dominant actually seek out lonely and desperate submissive's and then break them down until the submissive feels she no longer has hope and gives up.
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Ever think about what the 24/7 lifestyle is really like? Here are somethings you can consider.
Are You Ready For The Leap to 24/7? You want 24/7 so bad you can taste it. You fantasize over and over what you think living as a slave will be like. You know it will be better than living alone. Besides, serving a master or mistress will rescue you from an unhappy life. Whoa! If those are your motivations for plunging into 24/7, better take another look. Yes, we all want a special relationship, and to us kinky folks, a BDSM relationship is particularly alluring. Because of the romanticized thoughts that often cloud perceptions of the 24/7 lifestyle, it's easy to forget that these relationships are lived, not in some wonderful leather and chain-lined world, but in the often mundane minutes and hours of real life. Like any healthy relationship, 24/7 is about being present to and accepting of the other, about sharing not just the fun, but also the everyday work and problems that come along. Moving in with the dominant of your dreams wouldn't be a panacea for all your accumulated life problems. In fact, the master/slave dynamic kicks relationship issues up by several notches and will probably bring long suppressed problems to the surface. The primary motivation for living as a 24/7 slave can't be any peripheral or self-indulgent reason either. Anyone who thinks their master will really end up loving them too much to demand things, or that he will only require a few weeks of slavery as a test before things return to "normal", is setting themselves up for gut-wrenching failure.
So are you ready for 24/7? Ask yourself these key
questions.
1. Do You Burn To Serve?
Take time to identify your motivation for living a 24/7 master/slave relationship. If it's primarily to give of yourself and serve, you're on the right track. But if the motivation is to satisfy a fetish, or you're certain everything in your life will be better if you just have a collar, or you see it as a way to get spanked every night, your need isn't for a 24/7 relationship. You might want and need a part-time BDSM relationship that satisfies kinky needs, but you certainly do not need a 24/7 master/slave relationship.
2. Are You Ready To Give Up Yourself?
How selfless are you anyway? You will fetch and do for your master or mistress every single day. As a 24/7 slave, your life is going to change and not just for a few weeks. A master isn't going to yell "April Fools! I only wanted kinky sex." Control of personal preference and free time will be gone -- behaviors and even how you speak or think may be subject to change. Many people delude themselves into thinking slavery is only about getting flogged or erotic activity. The reality is, most of the service has little to do with eroticism. Like the process of turning gold ore into a glittering collar, your sense of purpose, accountability, dedication, selflessness and willingness to change are purified by ongoing submission, crafted by your master's rules and discipline, and burnished by the daily living out of the power exchange. This is a lifestyle choice for the selfless and the committed.
3. Are You At A Stable Place In Your Life?
Your life needs to be under control before you go 24/7, because your energies must shift to serving your master or mistress. In order to make that change, your psychological, emotional, financial, career, health and family worlds must all be stable and steady. If your life is currently buffeted by a major change or crisis, this is not the time to move in together.
The stress of coping with your crisis and making the transition to full-time slavery will probably end up sabotaging the relationship. Wait until the crisis has passed before making the move. If you have obligations you can't let go, waiting six months or a year would be a better choice. For the leap to 24/7, you must be personally together so your energies can focus on your new relationship and coping with the changes your master will require.
4. Have You Discussed Everything With Your Master Or Mistress?
Before you move in, you need to discuss everything: finances, children and other family responsibilities, health issues, emotional problems and career issues. Any problems must absolutely be brought to your master's attention. Waiting until after you are together three months and then having a barrage of calls and letters from a collection agency is not the time to admit you're significantly in debt. Not only is hiding a long-standing problem unethical, doing so will damage the trust between you. Problems are not necessarily relationship deal-breakers if they are known about in advance and planned for.
5. Have You Had Ongoing Real Life BDSM Experience?
This may be the most important requirement. If your only experience with BDSM has been in chat rooms or email discussion groups, do not go directly to a 24/7 relationship. Do not let virtual BDSM seduce you into thinking the virtual experience is enough. Nothing could be further from the truth. You must experience BDSM in the flesh before you can even begin to consider 24/7.
If your only experience with BDSM is peripheral, you've been with a few dominants and gone to a few munches, you aren't ready for a 24/7 relationship either.
In order to make an informed, responsible decision regarding 24/7, it's vital to have experienced serving someone on an ongoing basis. Take the time to know what it's like to be collared, to have rules and limitations put on your daily life, and to be subject to a master's discipline first. Not every BDSM relationship has to be forever.
Experiencing a short-term service relationship is an excellent way to know if your need is for 24/7. Taking Stock If you answered "yes" to all five questions, then you might just be ready to plunge into a wonderful full-time relationship. If you can't answer in the affirmative yet, then step back and get yourself together.
If your master or mistress wants you for the right reasons, they will understand, and probably encourage and help you deal with the issues. Ultimately, the wait will be worth the sacrifice, because getting your life under control, understanding your needs and experiencing real life BDSM service will build a foundation for a more stable, more fulfilling 24/7 relationship.
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How you can recognize a faker? By the way he talks and by the things he requests. A true Master will never ask you to call him Master from your first conversation. He will not talk ugly to you, offend you or disturb you. He will not be mean and cruel to you. A true Master will talk politely with you and explain you the things he desires and the things he likes in BDSM. He will ask you to tell him what do you like and desire, he will want to know how your life is, who you live with, how many times could you and him meet and so on. He will want to know if you have a job or if you go to school or anything, so he would know how to create some sort of program for you and him to be able to discuss. A true master will care about your decisions, your opinions and your desires. A true Master will want to guide you through life and take care of you, help you become a better, stronger person. A true Master wants YOU to be happy.
If you meet a so called “Master”, who treats you like shit from the first day, who asks you to do stuff you do not wish to do, who talks to you as if you were nothing, who don’t ask you anything about yourself and who don’t seem to care at all about your wishes and desires, know that guy is just a faker or a obsessed idiot, and stay away from him.
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Different Strokes For Different Folks:
There are masters who want their slaves to eat, drink, dress and so on, only as they say. There are masters who will control even with who, when and how his slave speaks to. There are masters who don’t ever allow their slave to go outside the house. I even know masters who do not allow their slaves to talk to their family. However, there are also masters, such as me, who don’t worry about the small stuff. My slave pet can go where she wants, when she wants, talk to whoever she wants, eat what she wants, dress how she wants and so on. I do not care about such things because she knows who her master is and what she has. She's very well trained and since denying her freedom is equal with taking her life But, as weird as it may sound to you, there are slaves who actually request that, who want it. To be controlled permanently, into the smallest details. There are slaves who wish to be 100% slaves, there are some who even wish to be always tide up or always kept chained or leashed. Humans are a weird species of beings. For the slaves who desire such things, there are masters who wanna do them. So everyone can be happy, by finding the person who fits their lifestyle. |
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Are You What You Say You Are:
Being a slave comes from within you. Is not something that someone can teach you. Is just like talent, you either have it or not. There are people, who, deep inside, they desire to be commanded. They desire to be ruled over, they desire to be submissive, to have someone they can obey, to have someone in front of whom they can kneel. There are people, who need to be tide up in order to feel free. Those people are slaves. Search yourself. Question yourself. Look deep inside you. If you feel these needs, if you feel as if you could serve someone from de deepest of your heart, if you feel you could stand down on your knees in front of a man and not feel ashamed, yet feel extremely proud of it, than you are a slave. Slaves are humble people, yet they are very powerful. They are beautiful girls and boys, who are not arrogant. Slaves desire to be free by belonging to someone. They want someone they can worship, someone who would adore them and who they can adore back. Someone who can mean the world to them. A slave that doesn’t have a Master feels empty, they feel as if there is something big missing from their life, they feel incomplete. Being a slave doesn’t necessary means to be a masochist who enjoys pain. It means to be a person who desire to serve someone, who desires to please. Slaves find their happiness in making others happy. |
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PRINCIPLES & COMMITMENT
So, you think you want to be a slave? Whether or not to become a slave is probably the most important decision you will ever make, and it will probably be one of the most difficult. If you are truly meant to be slave, and don't pursue becoming one, you risk living unfulfilled, denying your destiny, and living with the "hole" in your life that keeps telling you that something is missing. If you decide to become slave, then you must go through the arduous, challenging task of giving up your ego, abandoning being human, and accepting every experience necessary to become that which you are meant to be. Either way, a difficult decision. There is no easy route, nor alternative. You must be convinced that being a slave is the very best thing you can do with your life. This process will replace who you are now. Becoming a slave requires a devoted commitment to the truth. All slaves are human before being BORN. Most of the experiences required to become a slave, you cannot even imagine now, as a human. You cannot become a slave out of desperation, or out of a lack of other choices. Every day, all the way through the process, you must know that you are doing the very best possible with your life. Slavery cannot be a second choice, it must be your first choice. This is not like arranging a trip to Disneyland. This isn't entertainment. This isn't for play. It is a very serious process, and a serious commitment. This will define who you are, how you act, how you live, and what you do, for the rest of your life. The process develops through sessions that give you the chance to become informed about what that means, and time to incrementally accept and adjust to what is being learned. Ultimately, you must be made to accept absolute obedience, without the possibility of questioning your Slave Master, in any area, no matter how small, forever. Submitting to each step of the processes that will make you a BORN slave will be the last decision you will ever have the right to make. A slave cannot decide to become a slave; it can only decide to go through the processes that make it a slave. If a slave could decide to be a slave, it could just as easily decide not to be. This is a real process, that results in real slavery, with the same, real, lack of control and decision making that characterizes slavery. This is not an agreement, this is not a legal issue, not a contract. This is a planned process. It develops an animal that cannot live in any other way, but in absolute obedience to one man, for whom it lives its life, and whose life it lives. A slave is a special creature of the universe. it is marked with a calling to do what humans cannot. it is developed, strengthened, empowered, given structure, fabric, and timbre that makes it immutable, solid in its self identity and self esteem. Complete obedience is the price of admission. Any less, and a man remains too weak to be slave. it must also experience everything necessary to know what a slave must know to live as slave, before being BORN to slavery. BORN slaves are qualified to be slaves, and know they're qualified.
Becoming a slave requires a tremendous amount of effort and time, both for the slave and for its Slave Master. For those who are geographically separated, there is also the expense of travel. There is an emotional and psychological cost that comes from being exposed to a strong, single truth. All of life's issues, focused and placed before the slave must all be dealt with. There is no escape, and nothing goes away, it is only postponed at best. There is no way to cheat the process, and no short cuts. Regardless of experience, no one has a head start. Absolute honesty is a slave's creed, and is critical to beginning the relationship with your potential, permanent Owner, your Slave Master. Too much is at stake to be dishonest, and the process uncovers every truth, even those invisible to you now. It is futile even to hope that any dishonesty can succeed.
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Some Rules Set Forth A Slave Should Follow:
1. i will serve, obey and please my Master.
2. Above all else my primary focus shall be to please my Master, hoping that He finds me pleasing in all that I do, whether i am in His presence or not. my Master knows of my potential, learning more about me in each day i am with Him. He trusts that i will act in accordance with what He perceives of my potential – He knows what is best for me and how important it is that i set a good example for other females who may be present around me.
5. The power of my Master fills me with awe. Just the sheer thought of Him or the hearing of His voice gives me strength.
3. To receive pleasure i must earn it
4. i worship my Master’s whip.
5. i trust my Master: His responsibilities, His skills, His hunger and needs, and His concern for my safety, my emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health.
6. i am nothing more than an of great value – an instrument Master will use to draw out His pleasures.
7. i will ask my Master for permission to satisfy whatever need i have before acting on it.
8. my body and mind are the property of my Master.
9. i must always give thanks to my Master for all i am given immediately after receiving what He has given me, for such things are gifts or privileges granted to me by Him.
10. i must be both specific and explicit in my speech.
11. i will not hesitate when responding to my Master. my focus is important to my growth.
12. i will thank my Master for the discipline and punishments I receive, specifying what i received and expressing the reason as to why i was given them.
13. i have no will of my own other than that which falls within the context of the rules i have selected and of that which is needed to pursue the ambitions i am allowed to seek out as according to the permissions i have received from my Master. i will report to Him my progress in such matters to receive His favor or His guidance in making whatever steps may be required to move ahead so that i am successful.
14. i am always in submission to my Master whether He is present or not, ready to please Him at anytime, in any place, under any circumstances, regardless of who may be present. For the opportunity to submit and to please is by far more important and satisfying than any other pursuit. i trust my Master will keep me safe, protecting His reputation and mine in the presence of others, as He examines my ability to present myself to Him and to others in a subtle manner when required to protect our lifestyle from those who may not understand, nor support, as long as our behavior is not in anyway misrepresented nor misinterpreted by those who may be afar. i am to set, once again, a good example, ready to explain my position to others when required to do so. my lifestyle is a part of a growing culture for which i must never forget that i am an integral part.
15. All my choices shall be based upon whether or not they will please my Master.
16. When i am not in the presence of my Master and i have choices to make – i will perform them to the best of my abilities and within the boundaries and guidance He has allowed me.
17. i shall wear the collar my Master gives me with pride for it signifies His ownership of me and my devotion to Him.
18. i shall wear the chains my Master gives me as a symbol of my position in life – that of bondage to Him. i shall wear them, as required, around my neck, my wrists, my ankles or around my waist.
19. When i am ready – i shall wear His rings to signify my submission to Him – one pierced through each nipple of my breasts and one through each labia of my pussy.
20. my mouth shall only be referred to as a cunt for it will often be used as if it were a pussy.
21. my sex shall only be referred to as a pussy.
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A pets dedication and rules to be followed by a slave/pet/submissive:
1. I will serve, obey and please my Master.
2. Above all else my primary focus shall be to please my Master, hoping that He finds me pleasing in all that I do, whether I am in His presence or not. My Master knows of my potential, learning more about me in each day I am with Him. He trusts that I will act in accordance with what He perceives of my potential – He knows what is best for me and how important it is that I set a good example for other slave/pet females (males) who may be present around me.
3. I worship my Master.
4. I worship my Master's body.
5. The power of my Master fills me with awe. Just the sheer thought of Him or the hearing of His voice gives me strength.
6. I trust my Master: His responsibilities, His skills, His hunger and needs, and His concern for my safety, my emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health.
7. I will ask my Master for permission to satisfy whatever need I have before acting on it.
8. I must always give thanks to my Master for all i am given immediately after receiving what He has given me, for such things are gifts or privileges granted to me by Him.
9. I must be both specific and explicit in my speech.
10. I will not hesitate when responding to my Master. My focus is important to my growth.
11. I am always in submission to my Master whether He is present or not, ready to please Him at anytime, in any place, under any circumstances, regardless of who may be present. For the opportunity to submit and to please is by far more important and satisfying than any other pursuit. I trust my Master will keep me safe, protecting His reputation and mine in the presence of others, as He examines my ability to present myself to Him and to others in a subtle manner when required to protect our lifestyle from those who may not understand, nor support, as long as our behavior is not in anyway misrepresented nor misinterpreted by those who may be afar. I am to set, once again, a good example, ready to explain my position to others when required to do so. My lifestyle is a part of a growing culture for which i must never forget that I am an integral part.
12. All my choices shall be based upon whether or not they will please my Master.
13. When I am not in the presence of my Master and I have choices to make - I will perform them to the best of my abilities and within the boundaries and guidance He has allowed me.
14. I shall wear the collar or any other article of clothing my Master gives me with pride for it signifies His(her) power over me and my devotion to Him.
15. When the Cock of my Master is put into my mouth and i am directed to suck it - i will do so vigorously as long as i am required to do so. my hands shall be placed on the tops of my thighs, behind my neck or held at the base of my back so that during the sucking i can use my whole body to display my hunger to my Master. If master is lying down I may use my hands for support.
16. My Master's Cum must never go to waste - I will swallow all of it when Master Cum into my mouth (and be punished should I spill any of it from my lips), licking it up if Master Cum into my hands or into a plate i hold in front of Him to receive it, or onto the food He gives me which He may require of me to hold just under His Cock as He Cum over it. I will clean His Cock thoroughly squeezing out every last drop. In rare and privileged cases i may wear my Master's Cum on my body, sometimes after massaging it into my skin. Cum is a gift from my Master and it is an honor to receive it. (When my master Cums it is a great honor to hear him moan and anything less than my best given to my master I shall be punished for)
17. I worship my Master's Cock, its head and its shaft, especially when it is hard or when i am given the opportunity to make it hard for Him.
18. I must always wear revealing and sexy clothing of good taste around my Master unless given permission to do so otherwise. The clothing I wear will allow easy access to my pussy, ass and breasts. The clothing will emphasize and often exaggerate my assets. I will wear such clothing in any kind of weather. How I present my body to Him or in front of others is more important than my discomfort and insecurities.
19. I must remove all of my clothing in the way i have been taught when Master commands of me to do so - regardless of who may be present and despite where it is I am - I trust my Master. |
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Life inside the home:
1. the master is to treat the pet with respect kindness and love inside the home.
2. The pet may not disobey the master inside of the home unless the demands are of a completely unacceptable nature.
3. The pet will listen to the master at all times
4. the master will not abuse the pet unless it is consensual.
5. The master is to treat the pet as the pet desires to be treated unless the masters wishes do not bring direct harm to the pet.
6. The pet is to perform all sexual acts requested by the master in the home without question. (exceptions arise when these acts cause extreme pain) the pet will do as directed by the master.
7. The master is entitled to make the pet wear a leash at all times in the home to remind the pet of who obeys who. And to lead the pet around or to pull the pet if necessary .
8. The master may do to or make the pet do as desired in the home as long as It does not harm the pet. This includes but is not limited to : tying up, blindfolding, teasing, oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex(if desired or wanted by the pet as this can be painful) [NEVER force anal sex it may cause internal injuries], leaving tied down for medium periods of time. [birth control HIGHLY recommended].
9. The master is allowed to do as he or she pleases to the pet at all times in the home(some exceptions arise when in the presence of company that is not aware of the situation) and the pet may not retaliate so long as no physical harm was done.
10.The master is required to make sure the pet is not in pain or hurt by their actions.
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The way of life:
1. It is the masters duty to protect the slave from harm in the outside world. This goes for emotional as well as physical harm. The master must keep the pet/slave/submissive safe. The submissive is to be well taken care of emotionally. The pet must be kept healthy and well loved.
2. If the pet and master are lovers such as boyfriend/girlfriend , or even deeper married, then the pet and master are to regard each other with even greater respect. The pet and master are to keep each other as happy as possible so they may live a long and happy life as a couple.
3. The pet is to obey the master to a set extent out side of the home such as getting things for the master and treating the master with respect. The master and slave will deliberate over what is reasonable outside of the home.
4. The master is required to take care of the pet outside of the home and treat them with love and kindness especially around others.
5. The pet may be required by the master to wear a collar or other devise to symbolize that they are a pet in accordance with the masters wishes(the pet may remove the collar at certain occasions).
6. The master must comfort the pet if the pet is ever in tears or in a bad emotional state. The pet must comfort the master if the master is in tears or a bad emotional state.
7. The master must be kind and caring towards the pet in public.
8. The pet must not do anything that would upset the master such as but not limited to cheat, lie, steal, remove the collar disrespectfully, ignore or insult the master.
9. The master must not do anything that would upset the pet such as but not limited to cheat, lie, steal, ignore or insult the pet.
10. The master and pet are required to love one another.
11. The master is required to protect the pet for life unless the pet has done a horrible wrong to the master even if the master and pet are no longer in a relationship. The honor bestowed upon the master of the submission of the pet is a great. When a former love is in trouble it is the masters duty to help them if possible.
12.The master may not harm the pet ever in public!
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A Doms prayer:
To the power more powerful then myself,
I was born in a way that has sometimes left me mystified
Always reaching to guide those about me
Needing to know that they are fulfilled before true fulfillment reaches in to caress my soul
I have compromised, in many cases, to allow another to be fulfilled Wondering all the while how it is that they can not see me first, as I see them I have found myself pushing away all, in denial of my need to always consider another first Needing to be the one to consider others more needy then myself
The world about me thinks that, that giving completely is reserved for those who submit That serving another is not for the "strong" How could "they" be so wrong. I love that I am the one who can be turned to
The one to solve a problem
The one to set the direction
The Top
The Dominant
Please help me to remain focused on this need to walk
to the front To always stop when a searching soul reaches out for a hand up To always be strong enough to pause when all is
insanity To always surge forward when all has stalled
And to give all of me to becoming ALL
Please help me to know when the hand I extend needs to
be soft
When it needs to be harsh
When it is needed to wipe a tear or crush a fear
When it is needed for punishment
And when all that is needed is a hug
Please let my nature push through the world about me
that questions
I am a Dom
I can be no other
Let me be ALL that is right |
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A SLAVE'S OATH HERSELF:
As a slave I lay at the feet of my Master all my fears, my hopes, my dreams, and my aspirations.
I give to him my complete trust and faith that he will preserve my life and my body and protect it for his use as best he sees fit.
Before I surrendered all to him I will discussed with him those things that frighten me and that I wish that my body be spared now I will leave it in his hands to decide whether to spare me these things or not, and trust in him that if he wishes to not spare me these things that he will take his time and patience to ease me into them so that I am not torn in my spirit and faith in him.
I surrender all that I am to him in my heart, body, spirit, mind and soul for him to nurture and nourish and trust that he will protect and guide me to be the best I can be. That he will be swift and strict yet fair in his discipline of me, and that he will keep me forever as his. My life is in his hands. |
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Characteristics of a Slave:
A slave is strong, not strong like a man, but strong inside. Her character is that of wanting to please. She serves because it is pleasure to her. She has the inner strength to go places inside herself that her Master guides her. She cannot be weak emotionally, or these places could push her over the edge.
A slave is respectful. The first portion of respect is SELF-respect. If a slave does not respect herself, then no one else will either. Self-respect most probably includes self-esteem, taking care of herself mentally emotionally as well as physically. Self-respect could include such things as getting enough sleep, eating right, etc. A slave shows respect to her Master by carrying out His orders as he wishes. She shows respect to her Master and others by being polite, mannerly, and pleasant.
A slave is loyal to her Master's wishes. She is also loyal to herself. A slave should never do anything that is against her own moral standings. She also will never allow another to touch her in ways that would be displeasing to her Master. She knows who owns her and thrives in his ownership.
A slave is open and honest. She holds nothing back, revealing all
that she is to her Master. Openness and honesty lead to better communication, allowing her Master to do the job he should, and to know what responsibilities he takes on. Her openness allows Him also to be more open, thus building trust between them and a deeper submission of the slave. |
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A Slaves Journey: A slave finds peace and contentment in serving her Master. She is a reflection of Him. She is his property, his possession, his responsibility. A slave shows focus, always keeping her Master in the forefront of her mind. As she goes about her day, she uses her own intelligence and strength to do things in ways that are pleasing to her Master. |
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Must Haves: Traits and Qualities of a Great Dominant:
Honesty
Trustworthiness
Integrity
Self-Control
Sense of Humor (even at himself)
Capacity to Love, Be Loved and to Express that Love
Desire to Learn and Grow, both for himself and for his partner
Dependability
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All Submissive's should really consider asking these questions for her potential Dominant:
For a submissive female, finding an appropriate dominant partner is something that should be approached with a great deal of thought. Just because a man is dominant does not mean he will make a good dominant for every submissive. Just as in a vanilla relationship, there are many different kinds of relationships within a power relationship. Is being in love with her dominant an important part of the relationship she seeks? Does she want to be a submissive to a dominant or a slave to a master? Is he looking for a short term or a long term relationship? Is he looking for a mono or poly relationship?
Is the potential dominant sadistic? This is an important question to ask because if a submissive ends up with a sadistic dominant and she is not masochistic, it is going to be a very difficult road. The submissive will only fear her Master, and the trust will not develop as it should.
Is the dominant looking for a slave or a submissive? Although the two terms are sometimes interchanged, they have very different meanings. A slave is submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.
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Requirements For Your Slave/Sub:
- Slave should always remove clothing as soon as she/he gets home unless Master/ Mistress has laid out clothing for the slave or submissive to wear.
- Slave should fold clothes neatly or place them in the laundry whenever he/ she gets undressed.
- The slave or submissive is to kneel in present posture whenever the Master/ Mistress is due to arrive and wait quietly.
- Whenever the Master/ Mistress is present in a room, the slave must ask permission to enter in the following fashion: "Would it please you if your slave entered the room."
- The slave will kneel in the room until the Master/ Mistress gives permission that he or she may move or proceed with cleaning.
- The slave or submissive will wear and gratefully accept any toys the Master/ Mistress chooses to insert or adorn her or him with while cleaning or in any other circumstance.
- The slave will not speak unless spoken to and may request an opportunity to speak if there is something pressing to discuss during those periods of time when the Master/ Mistress commands silence.
- The slave or submissive may request an opportunity to serve the Dominant in the following way: "Would it please you to have your slave serve you?"
- The slave does not sleep with the Master/ Mistress unless it is the express wish of the owner and then this must be seen as a privilege. It can be taken away as a form of punishment.
- The slave or submissive will always thank the Master/ Mistress for an opportunity to serve whether it was doing a chore or being flogged.
- The slave will keep their eyes averted unless it is the wish of the Master/ Mistress to have their slave look them in the eyes.
- The slave will address the Master/ Mistress not by their first name, but by the title preferred by that dominant.
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What All Slaves Should Recite: I am a slave because it is in my soul to be. I find pleasure in the pleasing of another. I thrive on another's direction, control, and presence in my life, and soul. Being a slave is not something I choose to be, it is simply who and what I am. It is my desire to serve a Master, to find the strength, courage, openness and honesty that it takes to be a good slave. |
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A Slaves Peace Of Mind Is: A slave finds peace and contentment in serving her Master. She is a reflection of Him. She is his property, his possession, his responsibility. A slave shows focus, always keeping her Master in the forefront of her mind. As she goes about her day, she uses her own intelligence and strength to do things in ways that are pleasing to her Master. |
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Communicate With Your Master: A slave is open and honest. She holds nothing back, revealing all that she is to her Master. Openness and honesty lead to better communication, allowing her Master to do the job he should, and to know what responsibilities he takes on. Her openness allows Him also to be more open, thus building trust between them and a deeper submission of the slave. |
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Loyalty To Your Master: A slave is loyal to her Master's wishes. She is also loyal to herself. A slave should never do anything that is against her own moral standings. She also will never allow another to touch her in ways that would be displeasing to her Master. She knows who owns her and thrives in his ownership.
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What All Slaves Should Possess: A slave is strong, not strong like a man, but strong inside. Her character is that of wanting to please. She serves because it is pleasure to her. She has the inner strength to go places inside herself that her Master guides her. She cannot be weak emotionally, or these places could push her over the edge. |
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Tip For All Sub/Slaves: Every Master has different needs, wants and or desires. Here is where your focus needs to be. If you want to be the perfect pet, paying attention is your first step. Sometimes in life its the little touches that tell someone you care. If you stop for a moment and consider why you got into this lifestyle, it was probably to feel that complete connection to another human being. For most of us the kinky sex is just a bonus!!! Seriously, you can't be a slave unless you want to serve. I call it the burning desire from within. |
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Loving Your Slave: If a Master/slave relationship is to be enduring at all it should be on the deeepest, purest spiritual, emotional, and phsyical levels. All Master's should love their slave because it's the foundation for all else things. A Master's love endgenders trust and trust surrenders. Without trust there can be no surrender and without love there can be no trust. Now perhaps with in this life of ours the most profound love might be kept with in a Master's bonds where a slave finds her ultimate freedom. On her knees she elevated, feels devotion and worship the pillars of this divine and sacred love. I call that a Master for his slave and a slave for her Master. She loves and worships her Master and speak what she knows and feels from the Strength of her slavery which is her irrevocable bonds to he who owns that slave. |
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Something To Think About: I'm not always on collar me but i can say this; whether it's months, weeks or days mostly you'll see the same people still in search of their Masters, Doms, Dommes, Mistress, Owners etc. You get the picture right? Now i ask myself why is that? Slavehood is a vocation, comparable and equal in every way to any religious calling. Not everyone has that calling to become what they're seeking to be called.(Master,Mistress,slave,subs,switch) Sure the title may sound good, the idea of what it's like may sound good but living it is totally different. For those that have that true calling it really wouldn't matter who their Masters/Mistress are as long as you feel your a servant and shall not be freed by your learning mistakes. You will be protect at all cost, you will be kept safe, you will be guard by your Master/Mistress. You'll be kept sound, mind, body and soul to ensure you of the trust you would develop for your Master/Mistress. |
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Completion Of A Slave: When a Master feels your ready and has decided that the relationship has progressed to a lifelong commitment, you shall be specially prepared to receive His unique and permanent mark of ownership upon your flesh, in a place of His choosing, whether it be a piercing, a tattoo or a branding. Thereafter, you shall become His property and slave in the most strict sense completely His, for as long as the relationship continues to be managed and controlled in the manner in which is beneficial to each of you and in accordance with you all mutually shared natures. |
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Slaves Only Emotion: There can be no greater pain or suffering i can feel then when Master is not pleased with me. Naturally i will feel depressed, saddened, empty, and lost. i can only hope He will show His mercy upon me and provide to me the guidance i will need to be put back on track so that i will be forgiven and once again be allowed His eyes upon my flesh, His touch upon my soul, and His warmth and love upon my heart. |
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Slaves Dress Code: i must always wear revealing and sexy clothing of good taste around my Master unless given permission to do so otherwise. The clothing i wear will allow easy access to my pussy, ass and breasts. The clothing will emphasize and often exaggerate my assets. i will wear such clothing in any kind of weather. How i present my body to Him or in front of others is more important than my discomfort and insecurities.
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A Slaves Presence: Above all else my primary focus shall be to please my Master, hoping that He finds me pleasing in all that I do, whether i am in His presence or not. my Master knows of my potential, learning more about me in each day i am with Him. He trusts that i will act in accordance with what He perceives of my potential - He knows what is best for me and how important it is that i set a good example for other females who may be present around me.
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A Slaves Knowledge: i am always in submission to my Master whether He is present or not, ready to please Him at anytime, in any place, under any circumstances, regardless of who may be present. For the opportunity to submit and to please is by far more important and satisfying than any other pursuit. i trust my Master will keep me safe, protecting His reputation and mine in the presence of others, as He examines my ability to present myself to Him and to others in a subtle manner when required to protect our lifestyle from those who may not understand, nor support, as long as our behavior is not in anyway misrepresented nor misinterpreted by those who may be afar. i am to set, once again, a good example, ready to explain my position to others when required to do so. my lifestyle is a part of a growing culture for which i must never forget that i am an integral part. |
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Beware Of First Impressions: Too many are willing to jump at the first person who comes along. This is a tragic mistake of epic proportions. Over the years, I personally have heard first hand several stories that ends in catastrophe with the exception of death. People end up Homeless, raped, assaulted, lied to, and mislead when one jumps into things too quickly. Not meaning to scare anyone, I believe people need to be mindful of what exists out there. Lies and misdirection are commonplace among the BDSM community. While many are not out right frauds, they do exaggerate what they are. This enables one to suck in a willing accomplice since the stories are so powerful. When one is truly seeking, without safeguarding against dishonesty, he or she is vulnerable to getting taken. Ultimately, while not hurt, one finds him or herself in a situation that does not resemble what is desired.
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Tip Today-Don't Be A Dumb Ass: Being sassy is not cute. Many feel that being a wise ass is a way to a Master's heart. Grow up. The online community might put up with this nonsense but a true Master will not. He is not in this lifestyle to play games. Nor is it expected that you will make his/her life more difficult. A slave is owned to make one's life easier. Continually fighting with a smart aleck slave is a waste of time. That is a surefire path to release. I see so many who write in their profiles "I am not a doormat". This tells me these people are not accustom to dealing with a real Master. Nobody wants a doormat. A slave that falls into this category is of no use to me. I don't need a dumb ass walking around my house with no clue what is going on. A slave needs to watch, learn, and monitor what is pleasing to the Master. Nothing is more frustrating than dealing with someone who continually needs to be told what to do every moment of the day. A slave needs to learn what is expected and to assume control of the actions a Master wants completed. Sadly, few I encounter online are able to live like this. The ones who are stating they are not doormats tend to show themselves to be total dumb asses. They want to approach this way without the maturity necessary to succeed in a M/s relationship. Often I need to check to see if I am on an adult site or the Cartoon Network. Seriously, so many want to behave like children. |
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Wake Up Call To Play Slaves: This is a 24/7 way of life. There are no holidays or days off. One cannot earn vacation time. A slave is expected to be on call every minute of everyday. She forfeits the choice of establishing her own schedule or maintaining her friends. All is given is only done so with the approval of the Master. A slave cannot earn anything. It is all granted to her at her Master's will to do so. Many cannot handle the one-sided of all interaction. Service is something that few actually consider and how literally the meaning is taken. When you are in my service, you are completely under my domain. I will utilize you how I see fit. Most cannot handle this yet this is what being a slave is all about. Sadly, those who are presently living this way are being disgraced by all the frauds online who simply sign up for a site and call themselves "slave". Remember this idea the next time you encounter someone who claims they are seeking to live 24/7 as a slave. The odds are they are not equipped to live in this manner. Only a small percentage have what it takes. SO ASK YOURSELF DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES? CHANCES ARE YOU DON'T SO STOP EMBARRASSING YOURSELF TO THE BDSM LIFESTYLE. Those that take offense to this your the one I'm talking about. |
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True Slaves Vs Play Slaves: I feel like after encountering a few people who struck me as not being real I should explain the difference in the two. First thing, slavery is extreme! Too many try to water down the concept to fit a variety of lifestyle choices. To me, this is not what it is all about. I see so many who want to remove the idea of Total Power Exchange (TPE) from the equation. They want to call themselves "slaves" while retaining power over choices in life. This is not what being a true slave is about. Once again: A slave is someone who opts to give up all control to another. It is that simple. I do not know why such a basic idea got turned upside down. But it did. Somewhere along the way, people decided that this was going to be an all-encompassing term. I disagree with this sentiment. The choice of being a slave is something that only a few can actually live up to. It is extreme in the sense of how one agrees to live his or her life. I can attest that it is not for the weak. It takes great strength, courage, and knowledge to be able to completely turn oneself over to another. Those that do it deserve the utmost of respect. At the same time, their place in life should not be degraded by all those who want to "play slave". YOU KNOW WHO THEY ARE!!!!! |
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Slaves Can't Say No: So you want to be a slave? Is this what you consider yourself? Well, I got news for you: there is no quicker way to piss a Master/Mistress off than to utter the word "No". Anyone who feels that he or she has the right to negate something that is told by the Master/Mistress is completely off base. Many seem to think this is a halfway venture but in reality it isn't. The fundamental basis of M/s is the complete and total breakdown of power. If you want to live as a slave, then you agree to give all power over to the Master. It is that simple. This is not negotiable. Anyone who believes that he or she retains the right to deny whatever his or her Master wants is showing a lack of respect to not only that person, but also the lifestyle. This is not a half ass program that we take for granted. To those that value this lifestyle and know what it means I say thank you for understanding. |
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MY PERSONAL OPINION: Personally, I do not really care what people are into. It is their lives. I see a lot with all kinds of misinformation about BDSM and do my best to help those about their ideas. However, there are many aspects of this lifestyle that I do not care for nor participate in. I don't attack people for their choices because I found throughout the years that my interests do change. Just because I am not into something today does not mean that next year it will not hold my attention. I witnessed this with many new people who immediately shut off an idea such as pain only to end up as a total pain lovers. Of course, there are many things which I find gross and opt not to be a part of. Nevertheless, those that like that sort of thing are entitled to their fetish. Therefore, no matter what you desire, go for it. As long as it is safe and consensual, if it fills a need within you, then partake in that activity. It is up to you to determine how you want to live your life. Other people will always have their opinions yet that is true no matter where you go. And, if you are one in the BDSM community, try to be more accepting of other people's BDSM choices. Remember, not everyone is going to live the life like you do. We are each individuals. |
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ALL SLAVES SHOULD ASK THEMSELVES THIS: What exactly is my worth to my Master and what do i bring to His life? Think about this because the answer is not as simple as it seems. I will help you with this just a little, In material terms, your not really worth a lot nor would you bring much to His life. Maybe some personal effects at best. In practical terms, your worth about the same as any other good submissive or slave. Doing dishes, making breakfast and lunch, keeping the house clean, washing clothes and any other household tasks. They're all things that any service submissive can do as well. So again what exactly is your worth to a master?
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NEW TIP FOR TODAY:I cannot stress this enough, If you're not a slave and don't really know what it's like being one, then chances are you probably don't know how slaves think and for that matter how slaves don't think. Don't leave things to chance. A slave is unequal, inferior and needs to live life according to their master rules and regulations. |
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TIP FOR TODAY: Domination is not something that can be faked. A submissive who is seeking someone to assume control will not submit to one who lacks the skills to uphold her. Masters/Doms need to continually have the mindset of excellence. The idea that one is moving towards elite status is what separates him from the others that will fall short and keep the attention of a true slave/submissive. Achieving excellence should always be on the mind of a dominant person. He/she is not one to settle. Everything around him/her is subject to their control. |
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TIP FOR TODAY: Most Masters/Doms do not have what it takes to control and dominate. The natural instinct that was within each of these individual's was some how brought out in the desire or fantasy to dominate some one. Few are skilled at the art of making decisions, providing leadership, and taking control if ever put in a risky situations. Instead, most will excel at the fine art of procrastination, indecision, lies and indifference. This makes them a candidate for a slave/sub who's in search of a Master/Dom but an awful person to be in charge of a D/s relationship. |
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TIP OF TODAY: When dealing in the reality BDSM lifestyle , common sense is a trait that need to be practiced. Too many like the idea of residing in the fantasy world of the Internet where he or she can assume a role completely. While this might have some payoff in terms of enjoyment, filling desires, and fantasies but, nobody in their right mind can assert that it is reality. People can be as foolish as they want usually without consequence of family, friends and spouses finding out. |
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JUST A TIP FOR THE LOST AND CONFUSE: One who wants to be used sexually is into sexual exploration. There is a difference. My point is that it is not the mindset of a slave. Being a slut only require the willingness to get used sexually. To be a slave, one is required to be used in any way the Master sees fit. Please try to understand the difference. |
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JUST A TIP FOR THE LOST AND CONFUSE: A slave needs to adopt a completely selfless mindset. For some, it takes weeks. For others, it takes months and for many, this can take years. Those who believe that sexual submission is all there is to it are sadly mistaken. That is the easy part. Just because one is submissive, that does not make her a slave. Many choose the D/s lifestyle because M/s is too difficult to achieve so only a few will make it to that level. For others that have the basic desire to submit yet still want to maintain some control are better off with D/s lifestyle. This is a better fit for people of this nature. |
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JUST A TIP FOR THE LOST AND CONFUSE: Being a slave is not an overnight affair. I have utmost respect for those who are able to adopt the mindset of a slave because I know how difficult it is to achieve. There is a great deal more than one believes when he or she encounters this lifestyle. Living totally for another person is something that goes against the basic nature of any individual. The human ego resists this adoption at every turn. A slave has a completely different outlook. |
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JUST A TIP FOR ALL SLAVES THAT NEED HELP. If a master orders you something to do, you never ask him why he is asking you to do it, you just do it. If he asked you to tie your self up in the basement and wait for his return from work then you just do it and wait even though he might take hours but you don't tell him that, you just tie your slutty selfless ass up and wait like a good little slut should. Everything you have is his. He owns EVERYTHING. Your body, your mind, your heart, your soul, your personal items, your food, even your money and he will say how things will happen. |
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JUST A TIP FOR ALL SLAVES THAT NEED HELP. Always be grateful for your master for training you this way and showing who you truly are. He helped you in showing of how much a dirty slut you are.What your master orders, it is what you should do immediately without even thinking. When you are a slave you are not a normal girl. A slave only obey and do what she is told. If your master wishes you stay in a cage all day and all night then this is what you'll do and be happy because your pleasing your master. |
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JUST A TIP FOR ALL SLAVES THAT NEED HELP. You need to always respect your master. He is your God and he can say and do whatever he wants when he wants. You need to respect him and keep thanking him even if he is doing something you are not enjoying. Even when he is doing the most humiliating act to you, you also need to respect him. If you don't then you have a lot of training to do and if you fail, I don't think your master will be happy and he will either disown you if he's a owner, if he's a boyfriend/husband your relationship with return to it's vanilla lifestyle. |
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JUST A TIP FOR ALL SLAVES THAT NEED HELP. Before you call your self a slave or if you want to be a true slave you must always remember that you are slave and your master is your master whether he is your boyfriend, husband or owner. when he is master it's so to be totally different and his mind will change and you must encourage him and make him of his most master mind so he can find use for you. |
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I have been searching and have found many females that cannot give themselves as I wish because they lack the knowledge of what real life slaves are. If you have limits, then search elsewhere. I am not interested in foul behaviors; no scat, kids, knife play, blood clots or physical damage that result in weeks/months healing. I DO NOT want a slave who has mental issues from past Masters that have abused them as I am not looking to break My slave because of her old master ways! I want you fully functional, mentally competent for all the daily requirements you are expected to perform for Me. I need you mentally sound and of like mindedness where we both are able to work together to develop a very serious lifelong commitment. I am also extremely open minded. If your past includes you being a whore, dancer, escort, prostitute or domestic that's great! As I expect you to work, I will use your cunt for your living. As I train you for My needs and pleasures, your every desire, need, want and requirement will become Mine. I am only interested in a REAL LIFE slave! If your experience has been limited to playing online, move on, don't waste My time. I am NOT interested in training a submissive unless she proves to me she has potential to become a slave NO EXCEPTIONS! Hopefully you, as a true submissive understand the difference. I have quite very deep desires and cravings. I live on the edge and seek only a slave with extreme needs, desires and interests. No limit TPE slave/pig, object, extreme humiliating/degradation, living like pet/animal, or whoring out, etc.. You will be trained with whatever means pleases Me. I will become your perfect Master! A Master, whose personality and desire to live on the edge with His slave will bring out your natural desires to serve, and refine them. I am searching for the ONE slave to grow together based on a very strong bond with real chemistry. I don’t expect this overnight. We will be taking the time, growing together and learning. Again, I am ONLY interested in long-term commitments as if we we're married. I seek a 24/7 TPE! I seek ONE relationship, so don’t think I will take ownership straight away if the basic (one strong bond) is missing...You will be taken when I am ready and know how serious you truly are about being My slave! If you are capable of meeting these requirements, contact Me back and have more than one line to tell me and must have pic to assure me that your serious and ready. |
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| Age: 22 |
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Canada |
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