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You will be lost until you get it.You will be lost until you find it.
How will you get it. Will you be afraid to even try to get it.
Maybe you don’t really want to find the person you say you seek.
Maybe, you know that you will not be able to live the plan the other may require you to live.
If you try,will you make it? You, know there is no try...you either do or you don’t. “There is no TRY.
How do you feel? Feelings can be misleading. For one moment they can lead you to,cry and just as suddenly lead you to feel something totally different.
What is your feelings about what you are here for.
I’m told often by those that are here and those that contact me the things they think I want to hear.
I don’t want to hear anything other than what you really feel and what you need to tell me.
Other wise you are just saying over and over again the very same things others have said to me.
And it is the same things you say to others in your everyday life you are so needing to escape.
You say the things others want to hear. So you will fit in.So, then you come here and do the same thing... so you can fit in.
It is time not to fit "IN" any more.
That is why we are really here. We have “ONE” life. We can be bored,crazy out of our heads with the boredom or we can change.It takes a lot to change and some just do not have what it takes to change.Some really do not want to leave their comfort zone. Fantasizes allow a person to escape for a time.Only to be thrown back into the real world.
Creating a profile here is not really a start if you are not going to make the changes.
If you are afraid to really find the person you say you are looking for.
You will come up with line after line of excuses to make sure you never meet the one you say you want to find.
Will you continue to say I will not do this and I will not do that? Or will you really make a change.Excuses become a real pain in the ass for those that keep receiving them.
When will you stop giving them.
a Master is a Master whether He owns a girl or not. He is what He is and the M/s relationship is merely the expression of that. Conversely the slave is a slave even without a Master. She is who she is and is driven by those hungers and desires that are both visceral and cerebral. Just as a Master must own, must command, must be obeyed; the slave craves to serve, be given safety and direction, and be found pleasing. The ultimate expression of these two imperatives is ideally found in a healthy, consensual M/s relationship, the symbiotic nature of which ensures that as one grows the other grows - both flourishing within their interconnected roles.
A Master does not base his actions from a state of need.
Need is the thought form of the supplicant, not of the noble, dominant will. A Master may desire a servant, but does not look upon one as a requirement to his happiness. He is self-sufficient and capable, finding contentment and balance within himself, seeking a girl to accompany him, not complete him. In short, he cannot be manipulated with his own desire, for never is a male made divine by bending and scraping over the pleasures a female provides. If he does so, the collar will surely find itself upon him.
Try the Nine Levels of Submission "Within the S/M subculture, different people use the words 'submissive' and 'slave' to mean many different things. When submissive s say 'I want to be your slave,' sometimes they mean only that they want to be tied up and whipped. Many professional dominants routinely refer to their (usually not very genuinely submissive clients) as 'slaves.' At the other extreme, there are people who want to be full-time personal servants, and who truly want to exist solely for their Doms use, pleasure and convenience. And there are many shades in between these two extremes."
1-THE OUTRIGHT NON-SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST or KINKY SENSUALIST. Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms and for the masochist's own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly by one's own bodily sensations rather than by being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism).
2-PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE. Not into even playing "slave," but into other "submissive" role-playing, e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantile, "forced" transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.
3-PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE. Likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; may in some cases like to feel one is being "used" to gratify partner's sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slave's" own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshipers).
4-TRUE SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE. Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility. Doesn't dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek mainly her/his own direct pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).
5-TRUE SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE. Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant, but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys being the object of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.
6-UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE. Really gives up control (usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have long-term relationship with one's Mistress, but, either way, the "slave" has the final say over when she will serve.
7-PART-TIME CONSENSUAL-BUT REAL SLAVE. Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominants property at all times. Wants to obey and please in all aspects of life-practical/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job) but Dom has first pick of the slave's free time.
8-FULL-TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE. Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself as existing solely for the Dom's pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male. Within the S/M world, a full time "slave" arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
9-CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS. A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn't exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the "consent" is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren't really a slave unless you're willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom(me), with no limits at all. I've met a few people who claimed to be no-limit slaves, but in all cases I have reason to doubt the claim. The above list isn't intended as a rigid classification. Most submissive s don't fall neatly into one of these categories; there are still further shades in between. (For example, a live-in slave with an outside paying job would be category 7 1/2. Also the same submissive may attain different degrees of submission with different Doms. The list is intended simply to show the wide range of different possible meanings of the words "submissive" and "slave." In the S/M subculture, the majority of "submissive s" seek scenes in categories 1-3, whereas most of the Dom(mes) I know seek slaves in categories 6-7. If you're a submissive in categories 1-3, you are probably best off seeking a relationship not with a Dom(me) but with a fellow "sub," or with a switchable person into both roles. The two can take turns acting out each others "submissive" or masochistic fantasies.
Of course there are exceptions.
To be the woman in a mans life. where you are his and no one else can touch you.
I'm talking about being "HIS" in any way you can get your head around.
You can have a great time with role-playing games, safe-words and other means by which to simulate a master/mistress-slave relationship for a period of time ranging from a few hours to life. If that is what you enjoy then no one has the right to criticize or belittle it. But it is just not submission. Establishing limits and expecting the dominant to abide by them reduces him or her to the role of assistant to the sub missive's pleasure. It is conceptually impossible to submit and stay in control at the same time.
Submission has many effects on a woman. It softens her, it enhances her beauty, it gives her a profound sense of herself, it fulfills her, it increases considerably, her sexual responsiveness, it increases a thousandfold her capabilities to love, but one effect it does not have, it does not reduce her intelligence.”BDSM, sex and D/s is all what you personally make of it or enjoy. Everybody has different interest and tastes. If you seek to have Dignity in a D/s relationship, find a somebody who has similar views and interests.
males are generally intended to be dominant and females, submissive -- those who understand that male dominance and female submission are nature's norm, not a kink, and that this norm predates any European, gay leather, religious or other lifestyle or societal influence.
submission is NOT a gift_. Those who insist on saying so are likely parroting the 'group think' of the current BDSM status quo. It's not merely that submission is not a gift - it's actually a biological imperative.
I suppose what people may mean when they say submission is 'a gift,' is that when a girl chooses to submit to a man, she is choosing him among all others (_as if there are so many alpha males out there_). But doesn't a man choose a girl as well? So, does this become a 'gift exchange?' Talk about your silliness.
submission is not a gift.
Gifts are things most often not wanted given by those that feel they have to give something/anything.You know fully well what I'm saying.
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On June 10, 1835, members of the Bonneville Expedition rescued a young Blackfoot wife lost on the plains.
After observing the habits and attitudes of the white wives toward their husbands, she admonished them with a deion of how a devoted wife should act:
"I was the wife of a Blackfoot warrior, and I served him faithfully. Who was so well served as he? Whose lodge was so well provided or kept clean? I brought wood in the morning, and placed water always at hand. I watched for his coming; and he found his food cooked and waiting. If he rose to go forth there was nothing to delay him. I searched the thought that was in his heart, to save him the trouble of speaking.
When I went abroad on errands for him, the chiefs and warriors smiled upon me, the braves spoke soft things in secret; but my feet were in the straight path, my eyes could see nothing but him.
When he went out to hunt, or to war, who aided to equip him but I? When he returned I met him at the door; I took his gun; and he entered without further thought. While he sat and smoked, I unloaded his horses; tied them to stakes, brought in their loads, and was quickly at his feet. If his moccasins were wet I took them off and put on others that were warm and dry. I dressed all the skins that were taken in the chase. He could never say to me, why is it not done? He hunted the deer and the antelope and the buffalo, and he watched for the enemy. Everything else was done by me. When our people moved their camp; it was I who packed the horses and led them on the journey. He mounted his horse and rode away; free as though he had fallen from the skys. He had nothing to do with the labor of the camp. When we halted in the evening, he sat with the other braves and smoked, it was I who pitched his lodge; and when he came to eat and sleep, his supper and bed were ready." |
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What are you searching for.
What are you waiting for.Are you waiting to die. Most people have this thought in the back of their mind.
I’m waiting for the right time,the right person. Waiting to learn more.What will people think about me,say about me if I really do what I want to do.
Feel the way I want to feel.
Tick,Tock,Tick, Tock, Time never stops. It just keeps going. Time cares nothing about you or your desires.
You are given the same amount of time each day as everyone else. Some, use the time to its best advantage.Others,maybe you, waste it.
What the hell are you waiting for. Pass by those that waste your time. If you are here searching for someone find them track them down and make it clear you want to know them, be with them,serve them.
Get beyond the fact of what is vanilla and what is kink. We all live in the real world when we have to. It is the other world we want to be in most of the time. There is no reason to deny that fact. |
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The Ten Commandments for Consorts
1. Thou Shall Put Thine Own Pleasures Last
The slave's life purpose is to pleasure the Dominant through obedient, submissive, and respectful servitude. The slave receives pleasure in pleasing the Dominant . S/he receives pleasure in performing even the most embarrassing and degrading acts, if only to please and amuse the Dominant. S/he receives pleasure from the pain of the Dominant's discipline. The slave never entreats the Dominant to provide pleasure in return. Her/his service is conveyed with unconditional love, which requires no reward.
2. Thou Shall Not Dictate To The Dominant.
The Dominant makes all slave's decisions: training, assignments, acts performed without question, and physical acts. Everything is up to the Dominant. The Dominant dictates what a slave does, without regard for likes or dislikes. A slave's only purpose is to entertain, serve, and above all else, please the Dominant.
3. Thou Shall Not Demand Attention
A slave never demands attention, or anything else, from the Dominant. The slave obeys the Dominant's every demand.
4. Thou Shall Work For The Dominant In Any Way they Desire
The Dominant uses and abuses their slave in any manner they deem appropriate and necessary. The slave is happy for the opportunity and privilege to willingly and cheerfully serve the Dominant, whatever the task.
5. Thou Shall Not Overestimate Thy Degree Of Servitude
The slave always remembers that s/he is a servant; that her/his only purpose is to obey the Dominant. The slave does not expect reward for acts expected or demanded of her/him. This is the slave's duty. The privilege of servitude is all the reward a slave expects. Should the slave's efforts earn the Dominant's reward, s/he would most likely be undeserving of that honor and their benevolence.
6. Thou Shall Forget Thyself And Let The Power Of The Dominant Take Thee To New Heights
The slave is no more than an object without shame, pride, or inhibition. S/he is open to new experiences, willing to explore new limits and cross over old boundaries.
7. Thou Shall Not Assume Or Take Anything For Granted
By performing as instructed, the slave does not assume anything; s/he has only to obey. A slave is the owned personal property of the Dominant. And is unique--a very special Dominant--like no other s/he has known. A slave does not compare the Dominant to anyone else, nor does s/he assume s/he knows the Dominant's desires. The Dominant commands their servant to do their bidding, performing the acts they desire. Preconceptions and manipulative tactics will be subverted by punishment and penalties.
8. Thou Shall Strive To Better Thyself For the Dominant
The slave always searches for ways in which to better submit to authority; and to overcome her/his fears and weaknesses. The slave learns and practices those skills taught by the Dominant, to become better at whatever position in life they have chosen and granted her/him. The slave continues those studies that deepen and expand her/his worthiness, loyalty, commitment and servitude.
9. Thou Shall Not Forget Thy Position As A Servant
The slave is trained by the Dominant to adjust, adapt, and accept her/his lifestyle and to properly perform duties. As the conduct and behavior reflect upon the owner, the slave remains obedient, respectful, thoughtful, and subservient to the Dominant at all times. Servitude is not part time: it is every second of every day, it is a life.
10. Thou Shall Display Complete Obedience At All Times
The slave always knows he/she is a servant and acts accordingly. He/she never forgets her/his position even among friends and strangers. The slave is owned property of the Dominant, to do with as they so desire. The Dominant commands and the slave obeys without hesitation, without complaint, and without question. Like Love, Servitude is Unconditional. |
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He creates through his dominance, control and mastery, the environment in which she exists to reach and maintain his expectations and standards.
His will is such she can only be what naturally compels her.
He has an aura of confidence, with the hint of natural power that simmers beneath the surface, ready to be unleashed when necessary.
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By definition, a ‘slave’ is a piece of (movable) personal property (a.k.a. "chattel") owned by another person. A slave can be bought, sold or traded. While a slave may be cherished and cared for, a slave can also just as easily be misused and abused. Of course an owner can love their slave; nothing in the book says that an owner cannot love their slave. However, slavery does not require love. Slavery is about control: the utter and total domination and control over another human beings life. Slavery is also about responsibility: the utter and total responsibility of another human being's life. There are only two basic elements required of slavery: 1.) a slave. 2.) an owner who is willing to accept the responsibility of the possession of a slave.
Illusions. For the would-be slave: Trust may be an issue prior to slavery, but it is an illusion. Physical attraction may be an issue prior to slavery, but it is an illusion as well. In fact, everything and anything a would-be slave requires or desires, apart from their true and total commitment to actually being a real, owned slave, is an illusion.
Slavery is NOT about "romance". Sure, an Owner could romance and seduce a slave if they chose to, but romance and seduction are not "part and parcel" of slavery itself. Slavery is about Ownership and servitude; any other element involved is something other than, or in addition to, slavery. If a "slave" insists upon a requirement or a condition for, or on, their Ownership - they are seeking something other than slavery.
Yes, it all sounds so terrifically unfair, doesn't it? An Owner can require and involve whatsoever they like in the 'relationship' and a slave must endure and indulge whatever an Owner's whim might be. Hmm... That almost sounds like, well: slavery! Doesn't it?
There is nothing at all that a slave can claim 'entitlement' to;
If you demand, expect, or require any of the above, then, by the definitions You are not a slave.
Slaves don't get a vacation, 'personal' days or 'time off' for being sick. Well, they could if they were granted such by their Owner, but they have no entitlement to such things. As a real slave you will be expected to (and here's the shocking part) actually be a slave. I know - that's just so crazy, huh?
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What exactly do you mean when you say you 'train' females." I admit, sometimes its like herding cats, but training a female is vital just like raising a child (as none of us come out of the chute mature). Training is the process of removing bad programing (pride, conceit, vanity, and feminist tripe) and replacing it with good programming (knowing one's place: position is the most important, followed by service, attitude, and technique). All of this must be learned and maintained. |
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Not sure where this was found on the net.
It was sent to me.
Social media, movies and the internet in general have created an image of this D/s that is completely backwards and wrong, and many people have believed it, so that is what they search for, unfortunately. They don't understand the simple things like......this is a relationship between two people built on trust, love, respect, loyalty, integrity and mutual growth. They also want to appear weak and helpless, completely not getting that it is called a Power Exchange for a reason, and you cannot exchange power with someone who has none of their own to give.
As a slave in the hands of a caring and competent Master, I am a work of art that is never fully complete. A canvas on which He paints the image of His desires. Not just for Himself but for me as well. He creates a work of art in me that pleases Him, Yet in that, also ensures that I am pleased and satisfied by the outcome as well. My canvas was far from blank when received. There were already colors and brush strokes That had been applied by others and by life And perhaps even some tears and scars in my canvas itself. No Master is ever afforded a truly clean slate on which to work And in that perhaps lies the greatest challenge of what He does. Rather than creating something solely in the image of His desires, He capitalizes on the colors already there, Navigates the thin spots and tears in the canvas, And uses them all to greatest benefit in creating His own work of art: His confident, devoted and self-satisfied slave .....me.
Ultimately His goal is not to create something that He feels is beautiful. He has felt that way all along about me. His goal is to create something that I believe is beautiful, as well. When I am able look in the mirror, literally and figuratively
And see myself as worthy, beautiful, accomplished, successful and desired... Then He as my Master has achieved something great. I observe the transformations in myself and The more I come to like who I am and who I am becoming, The more devoted to my Master I become For I see a linkage between His efforts And the outcome of OUR personal success and satisfaction.
This is the difference between the motivations of Dominance versus domineering.
A domineering individual seeks to keep His slave down, Under His proverbial thumb, Often out of a fear of being rejected or upstaged. It is negative motivation leading to even more negative outcomes. My Master on the other hand, seeks to create a work of art from me, Striving to elevate what is His in substance and self-esteem. Far from keeping me down, He strives to give me the tools to be free ........The reward being, that I, even with the tools of freedom and achievement in hand Choose to stay in complete devotion to Him and to US. I am IN love with Him and who He is in His own right. With what He gives to me every single day. And I am IN love with who we are and have become together. He helps teach me to fly, sets me free within His sight, And even as I stretch and use my wings, I return to Him in utter devotion, over and over and over again. He has found a way to provide me with both roots and wings to fly. He has built WITH me a forever home for us both.
The closest parallel I can think of is observable in the world of falconry Where the falconer seeks not only to train and motivate a wild bird of prey To do best what it already does well, But also to do it under the terms and desires of the falconer. The falconer provides ever greater and more challenging opportunities to hunt, Setting the bird free always in hopes that it will choose to come back For food, shelter, acceptance, nurturing and validation. Over time a relationship evolves between falcon and falconer. Even a mutual dependence. For the falconer, the rush is not only in the launching, but in the recovery. That moment when he sees this beautiful, wild, and un tamable creature Turn back in flight with the intent of coming home to roost. That instant when the glorious bird of prey extends its talons, Sweeps its wings full spread, and instead of attacking... Comes to rest gently on a gloved fist. That is the moment of an addictive joy which will last them a lifetime.
So it is with my Master and I. He seeks out my strengths and strives to foster and enhance them While at the same time, seeking out my weaknesses and fears And working to smooth them over, bridge them, and move on together. He does these things well, and is growing His very own work of art in me who, Over time, has become more interdependent and self-assured. As that grows, so too does His happiness when I, His confident and capable Creature Come back of my own NEED and DESIRE to kneel before Him in devoted surrender. Like the hawk or falcon landing on the gloved hand, I long ago made the conscious choice that my home is at the feet of my Master. Forever and Beyond.
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I hold a general disdain for the culturally defined spaces of the home. In the kitchen we make meals, in the dining room we eat, in the foyer we pass through and try to ignore the awful light fixture, in the living room we sit and attempt conversation, in the bedroom we are obliged to sleep and have sex every once in awhile. often, bad sex.
What are the new spaces defined and shaped by the needs by a power exchange relationship? (dungeon doesn't count - they are also often awful with bad wood stains and even fake stone walls - the horror) |
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This was sent to me from a friends slave.It explains itself.
I hate the arrogance and presumptuousness of those who say "they're not looking for a doormat" or the ignorant girls who proudly state they are "not a doormat". these judgements... perceptions... made from outside a relationship cannot possibly come close to approaching the power and poignancy shared between two people when one submits completely, utterly and without question, hesitation or any desire beyond the pleasure of that other. When she knows Him so well that His every desire is cared for, even before he needs mention it. Where a simple glance can command, discipline or give praise. To the outside world she may appear a door mat ... so be it ... how blessed |
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Submission is giving HIM the power to destroy you,and trusting him not to and loving it if he does.
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After All, It is a Power Exchange...Not a Gift Exchange. |
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| Age: 29 |
| Houston,
Texas |
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