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RadicalDesire

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I want to be inside your darkest everything.

-Frida Kahlo



Only safe and sane people please, not looking for trouble or dramas, life is short...



Self summary



I love absurdity. I trust the meaning that lies beyond words. I believe in poetry. In the numerous possibilities of life.i believe that happiness and love can be found in many ways and sometimes in the most unexpected places.I live a life not dependent on any specific, I am not devoted to a place. but I am devoted to people i love.i seek for some kind of less usual encounters and ways to meet

I do not like labels,things are never black or white.....

I like writing a lot.i like the deep blue sea. I like being creative.

I like wine, coffee, abandoned hotels, hammocks, making plans and not sticking to them, cheese with grapes, old bw photos of unknown people, maps, water fights, deserted beaches.


PS. Youre now thinking that OK, yet another guy trying to tell me what to do when I know very well how to be a Dom. But actually Im not trying to tell you how to be a Dom, how to dominate a girl and how to get what you need from her. A lot of you guys already know how to do that. Im trying to tell you how to give her what she needs as in my eyes that is what makes someone a true Dom. Living in a Ds relationship can be wonderful and it is so appealing, right? For us dominant guys, its great to have a kinky girl whos open for our favourite perverted games most of the time, and for sub girls it sounds great to have a man with strong hands who will help them make decisions and whos fun to play with. When people become interested in the Ds-lifestyle they initially assume that its like living in a fantasy all the time, having kinky sessions every single day, but of course real life is far more complex than that. Sooner or later youll either going to adjust your dreams to the reality of only playing BDSM-games occasionally with your partner and otherwise live a more conventional, vanilla life together or if youre one of the very few who are so committed to the lifestyle that you could never even imagine living without it anymore, you will have to put a lot of extra effort into making it meaningful for both parties and to make it work on a daily basis. Lets say youve found one of the rare, truly submissive girls who arent in this for cheap thrills or due to extremely low self-esteem. Shes a rare gem so treat her as such. Shes in this lifestyle because she genuinely wants to give you as much as she possibly can and make you happy for the rest of your life and making herself happy in the process. Shes the most incredibly beautiful human soul youll ever meet and she needs someone to belong to, someone wholl guide her and teach her, someone who will provide structure and safety for her, someone who will love her above anything and anyone in this world. She wants to become one with you, so consider yourself honored and the luckiest man on Earth. But this greatest of gifts comes with a lot of responsibilities. Shell need your attention. Not just a couple of times a week and certainly not just when you feel like it shell need as much attention as you can possibly give her. Shell need to be able to trust you unconditionally. This is not the kind of trust that means someone trusts you enough to go to your place with you. This is the kind of trust that makes her be able to open up to you just as much as she can open up to herself. The kind of trust that sets her free to share anything whats on her mind, the kind of trust that makes her be able to share the weights shes carrying on her shoulders. Youll have to be able to live up to this level of trust and youll have to be strong enough to be able to help her carrying her weights. The last thing youll want to do is make her feel like youre not interested in her secrets, worries, fears or any of her silly little things. The worst you can do is letting her become worried about whether she can really open up to you about anything at all and making her feel guilty about having this need to open up, even though it is a perfectly natural need and you should be honoured she wants to do that. Its your responsibility to make her feel safe inside her true home inside yourself. Its your responsibility to prove to her that youre not only strong when youre spanking her and training her, but youre also strong enough to be there for her when shes unable to give you her best due to illness or any other problems. Youll have to be strong enough when she needs to unload some of the weights shes carrying and needs your help with those. You might be a really good guy and you might genuinely love her too. But unless youre totally committed to be there for her all the time and give her all of your attention, she will feel more and more insecure as it was exactly the rock solid, truly lasting safety and love she was looking for in you in the first place. That is what can make her feel free. Free of fears, free of the guilt imposed on her by society about her chosen way of life, free of the responsibility of making decisions. Youll have to ask yourself do you want to make her feel free and truly happy or do you want to make her feel trapped and unhappy and knowing the right answer is not enough. Youll have to prove it to her every hour of every day for the rest of your life. Youll have to prove to her that she means the world to you and youll need her all the time just as much as she needs you. Youll have to learn to occupy and own her heart and mind every single minute of your life so she can feel safe being loved, owned and under control in every sense of the word. The purpose of the collar and leash is not to make it easier for you to pull her close when you want to play with her its to make her feel safe and owned. Therefore shell need to feel her collar and leash all the time, even when shes not actually wearing them. If you assume its enough to hold that leash only occasionally when youre playing with her, youll might find that somewhere out there it will break someone elses heart to see your precious little girl being unhappy and he might start to feel that he could do a better job at holding that leash strongly, safely and with pride, forever

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8/26/2017 7:39:26 AM
I got this from THEDOGCATCHER I love it there is Alot of truth to it Thank you for letting me copy it :) and the section that follows the acid test comes from starlitelady.. The Acid Test! Test #1: When in doubt, throw it out! Don't waste your time with people that make you feel uncomfortable. Even if the guy was a real Dom, if his personality makes you feel uncomfortable, he's not going to be fun to play with. Test #2: 'You'd better call me Sir!' is the mating call of a HNG or control freak. Real Doms don't have to ask for titles, we earn them. Most real Doms will say things like 'Please, call me Mike...' Test #3: 'I want you to take my collar before you play with me.' This is another common demand of fakes, most often made by control freaks. They have to isolate you from other people and their advice, and sometimes a little ole 'cyber-collar' is just the thing! Cyber-collars are worth less than the leather required to make one. Test #4: If you get an Instant Message that says something like 'On your knees you [slave, slut, bitch, whore, etc.]' This person is an HNG. Use some common sense here. Why waste time with somebody that's not even polite? There's a time and a place for these endearing terms, and it isn't online! Test #5: 'I don't have to answer that question!' or 'It's not proper etiquette for you to ask a Master that.' These are examples of some the dangerous lies that control freaks and snerts use. This is the Acid test I personally think is the most important! A Dom had better be ready to at least try and answer every question you have, and honestly at that! It's literally your ass that's on the line! Never forget this! Test #6: 'It's my way or the highway!' or words to that effect, are the mating cry of the common control freak. Doms can have limits too, but it's your limits that count FIRST. Don't let any would-be 'Dom' tell you differently. Don't let any of the wannabe subs tell you differently either. Where Male Dom/fem sub play is concerned, it's always lady's choice! Test #7: Don't bother with online collars. Don't make decisions about a prospective partner based on his online play style. It's a very simple test if you think about it: Would a real-life Dominant waste much time on cyber sex and cyber domination? Please take my word for it; The answer is no. Forget it, once you've done the real thing, cyber is just too damn dull. Test #8: Ask your prospect if he's ever made any mistakes during a scene. If he says 'no,' run for your life! If he says, 'very rarely,' at least be suspicious. Everyone makes mistakes, even if they are experienced and skilled. Sometimes submissives have limits they don't even know about, and even the most careful and skilled Dom in the world will trip over these occasionally. Remember, according to our good friends of the Christian faith, the last perfect guy to walk this planet got nailed to a tree for his trouble. So expect competence, but not miracles. Test #9: 'I'm a [bank president, captain of industry, combat photographer, self-made millionaire... yadda yadda yadda.]' Wouldn't it be nice to meet a rich Dom too? Sure it would! But use some common sense. How many captains of industry have hours to spend in an AOL chat room? Also, think about this personality profile; If this super successful, always-in-control person is really into BDSM, he's likely a submissive! Worse yet, it could very likely mean he is a control freak. I have met a lot of submissives that fit this ambitious profile, but not one Dom yet! Test #10: 'I'm 33 years old, and I've been a Master for 15 years.' Gimme a break! What are the odds? When you ask about a Dom's level of experience (and it's a good idea to do so) remember to do the math as well. 18-year-old boys don't care about the intricacies of BDSM; they want to get laid. Trust me on this one Ladies, I was an 18-year-old boy once! I personally believe that people do become what they are (be it gay, straight, Dom or sub) very early in life, but it takes maturity and training to be a Master. What are the odds a person became a Master when they were still using Clearasil? Test #11: Ask for references! Especially if he claims to be 'very experienced.' Talk to the references on the phone. Lots of HNGs have female screen-names set up to act as 'references' for them! I notice that a lot of newbies seem to have trouble with this concept. Which is understandable since in the vanilla world it's considered rude to talk to a guy's ex-girlfriend. However, in the BDSM scene it's the opposite; experienced Dominants should accept and accommodate this kind of request gladly. Test #12: 'I have three real-life collared slaves right now, but you can't talk to them.' OK, when you consider the ratio and all, this sounds possible. What makes this an acid test failed (and failed miserably at that) is the last part. I have met couples (and even triads) that really were looking for an extra person to add to the mix. This is not uncommon at all in the scene. But these couples were looking together. If a 'Dom' has anyone already collared to them, you probably ought to talk to her first! Test #13: 'I don't need safewords.' Well of course he doesn't! If he said this he's likely a snert and therefore he's never really been in a scene! Of course he might be a predator too, and then he wouldn't need safewords either. Need I say more? Test #14: 'My slaves trust me to set their limits for them.' If you hear a 'Dom' say this it's most likely because these slaves only exist in his mind. Or worse still, his 'slave' is simply the victim of spousal abuse. Even so-called TPE (Total Power Exchange) and other sorts of 24/7 (i.e. full time) BDSM relationships should involve careful and thorough negotiation. Test #15: 'I'm married, my wife can't know about us' If I have to explain this one to you, you've got problems. I have played with many married submissives in my time, but only with the express permission (and more often than not, participation) of their husbands. Safe BDSM requires complete honesty. You can't build a good scene on lies. There are plenty of people that will be willing to tell you differently; but please note, they will all turn out to be adulterers (and hence, liars) themselves. Test #16: Real Masters/Mistress's are not required to negotiate. That's a bullshit line if one was ever told. In the beginning, everything is open for not only discussion but negotiation. If you come across this one, run like hell. Test #17:*JUST FYI* If you've given your number to someone, it is with the expectation of receiving a call, verbal communication, and get to know each other. If all they're going to do is text once they have the number, don't bother exchanging numbers. As Steve Harvey says 'Ladies, if the man is texting you more than he is calling you...he's just not that into you!' Test #18: For the ladies: Please use common sense on any site. When a profile of a female contacts you and first rattle out of the box is 'I know a Male Dom/Master near you or that you would be a possible match for' don't you think it just might be a 'MAN' posing to get you interested. If the said Dom/Master is near or interested, don't you think he would have contacted you on his own site!!! Test # 19: Iif a female contacts you saying that she and her male partner are interested in you, but only he will make the initial meet up and that you may have sex without her, that there again, it's a man setting you up. Come on ladies, trust those instincts! A man that contacts me on his own is far better than a man posing as a woman to get in your pants. Those are the real fakes! Test # 20:Insert your own Acid Test here: You will learn much from your mistakes and missteps. If you form an online contact with a 'Dom' that falls through, analyze why it fell through. Don't make the same mistakes twice if you can help it.

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Amberprll
 
 Age: 40
 New York, New York