I'm having an Amy Winehouse kind of day.  Listening to music is one of my favorite things.  Her talent is such a loss.  What an amazing voice.  

I love music when I play, and prefer something playing to set the mood.  Today tho, is just about enjoying a day off and going thru my playlist. 

What's your favorite song? 

Friendship can come in many forms, there are no age limits on friends, no gender limitations, nothing other than being a decent person who puts forth good energy into the Universe  (or at least tries to).  Some of my friends are cross-dressers, gay, lesbian, single, coupled, etc...makes no difference.  I support gay marriage, I support the freedom to love the person you want to.  I'm not here to debate religious choices, politics or who has better skin color. 

I'm not here looking for a monogamous relationship.  I'm not here with expectations of what/who, you should be.  I know what I'm looking for but I'm mature enough and realistic enough to know that my interactions on this site are more about friendship than actually getting in an airplane and flying to your house.  Getting to that point is going to take a LONG time.  It should take a long time, and if you think otherwise......you're probably not thinking clearly about a great many things. 

I'm poly, NOT swinger.  I'm private and not interested in being on a cam or giving you my personal yahoo account.  People asking for that stuff have no business doing so, and are probably out to send spam messages.  This is the internet, and unfortunately, loneliness or hopefully hearts, can make logic fuzzy and individuals forgetful about how dangerous it is to give out personal information.  I will send a picture when I am comfortable enough to do so and not one moment before. 

I've had the good fortune of meeting wonderful people on this site.  There have been a few creepers, but I weed those out pretty quickly.  If you're new to this site and need some advice, I'm glad to help where I can.  Overall, it's a crude tool....but I do like getting to know people and the variety of kinks we share. 

To the "Dom" that sent the message: 

You like bites, that's hot.  We should fuck. 

.....  ? 

Really. 

*sigh* 

How could anyone pass that up.  So romantic.  Made me think of Shakespeare and roses. 

"What's your kink?"   

I don't go into a lot of details here.  My fetish list is not long or explicit, not because I don't like kinky activities...but because it's so diverse, it would literally take me forever to put it all together. 

I've done a lot.  I do have areas of specific interest, like fire play (duh) and rope; but for the most part, I'm curious.  There's a tendency to categorize people after they announce love and/or curiosity about a specific kink. 

Yes, people call me Phoenix, and I do love fire play of all kinds....but it's not the ONLY thing I like.  I've been suspended, tied, sutured, spanked, flogged, and flamed.  I've also experienced interrogation, sensory dep, and a host of other fetishes. Variety is the spice of life. 

Outdoor bondage is a favorite.  Outdoor anything is awesome.  Nature enhances my BDSM experience.  I feel more connected to the Universe when I'm outside.  I love to attend camping events whenever possible.

It's a lazy, rainy afternoon....and all I can think about are the many uses of water.....I'm sure you have a few ideas too. 

I feel the need to clarify something.  What I'm not looking for.  I get some very nice messages, from very nice people....but I'm not looking for a husband.  I don't have any interest in going down that path again.  Everyone comes here with different expectations and what kink means in their lives.  Some folks take it very seriously and other people are here with fuzzy pink handcuffs.  Why am I here?  

I am (mostly) looking for friends and people to chat with....both locally and interesting places far away.  As I get to know them, relationship patterns naturally develop.  I'm less interested in "making something work".  I'd much rather just be me and you be you.  

When you eliminate the heavy expectations, it's easier to relax and get to know each other. 

Maybe we'll be friends, maybe we'll become play partners, maybe lovers or even a mate...but maybe you'll just be a place I go to curl up once in awhile. 

I love to look at pictures on here.  It's nice to see the tattoos, admire the landscape around the places people live.  I don't really like to see the clipped pictures from Google images or other web searches.  I'd rather see your smile, your favorite toy or an old car you're fixing up.  Something that shows who you are. 

I totally understand not wanting face pictures here, my own picture is indirect on purpose; but there are other things beside your face you can take a picture of.  And please...honestly....get out of the bathroom.  Take your picture someplace interesting so we don't have to look at your toilet. 

This profile is not new....neither am I.  It's been re-opened to see if anything has changed here...and for the most part, it's very much the same.  I will say....there are a lot of interesting people.  Their kink is definitely not my kink, but we're all on a spectrum right? 

I will update my profile as time allows.  If you have any questions, feel free to ask.  I'm pretty good about responding in 24 hours.  Not if you're rude or gross tho.  Then my response may take a few years.

I am a lady after all.  And yes, those of you who know me....may smirk quietly.