In a way, I am looking for a new dom... Mine has become recently 'distracted' from his coursework with me. He is not now nor will he be out of my life, but we're both open to me having other people. He has been training me to be a sub, which has been difficult as I do not have a submissive personality. He was going to start training me on how to be a dom so that I could have my own "boy toy" to entertain me while he's distracted. But, unfortunately, our training is on hold for a bit.

I'm very new to the whole BDSM scene. I'm recently out of a very sexually dead marriage, and upon obtaining my freedom, I discovered that I am indeed a very sensual person. My guide/dom has exposed me to this lifestyle in a gentle and loving way. He has never pushed me beyond what I can tolerate. He’s taken the time to get to know me and be my friend outside and inside the bedroom. He’s opened my eyes to a whole new world that before I would never have ever been able to entertain in my mind. I like where I have been so far, and I plan to continue learning and growing as long as possible.

I am looking for the right person to have a relationship with... right as in being my "preferred companion". I may never find that person. My options at this point are open. I will probably never get married again, and ultimately, I want to have someone who is open to me continuing my "education" with my current guide.

I have a specific view of what being a dom is. I have been exposed to gentle guidance, and it suits me well. I have been reading the book "The Loving Dominant" and I agree almost perfectly with the author's view point. I would never tolerate a dom who tried by force or manipulation to control me. Unfortunately, there are a lot of that type out there.