I am so sick of starting to talk to Doms and Daddy Doms who claim they want to vet and get to know one another only for them to start pushing for sex and dirty pictures by the 5th message. 

I have a lot of prior abuse and trauma in my life, I also fall somewhere on the demisexual spectrum, because of these and other reasons it takes me time to get to know someone and develop some trust with them before anything sexual happens. I do like sex and kink, but only with well known and trusted people. Sometimes it feels like I will never get to this point with anyone again. 

Does anyone actually take the time to vet and get to know one another before jumping into bed, a dynamic, or both?

It sucks because I am lonely and would definitely love to get to know more like minded people, but so far anyone who messages is trying to start a dynamic, get into my pants, or show me their 🐓two messages in. Frankly it's creepy and beyond annoying.

Tomorrow's my birthday and I have nothing to do and no one to do anything with

It's so frustrating that sex and subspace is the only time anything in my body actually feels good, but I don't have anyone trusted to engage with, and no one wants to take the time to vet and get to know one another before trying to jump into bed. 

Really wanting to meet new people in the lifestyle, but that is so difficult to do when there are so many jokers and fakes out there. Also, when you do meet someone they want to rush into a dynamic or are messing a sub to dominate them. It is so frustrating.