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Photos updated 7-7-14





Multi-talented partnered Master with 5 collared male subs..3 boys, 2 slaves and a pup interested in expanded horizons of My subs as well as offering My talents as Dominant mentor to novice or experienced doms that would like to learn more or just to discuss the dynamics of polyamory. Been in the lifestyle for more than 40 years can discuss BDSM in depth for hoursMy slave is bisexual and would like to find a couple Domme and bi male sub to interact with us. Can be one time or ongoing prefer ongoing if connectionbond is right





Read My journal posts as well as the interests if you really want to find out some of the things I am about. I added this from My journal so it is read before contact.



Do not call Me, Master. I am not your Master and you have not earned the right to call Me such. My slave that has knelt at My feet for more than 19 years and served Me very well, is the only one that has earned that right.



If I correct you, and direct you on how to address Me and you stop communicating with Me, it shows Me that you are not remotely, a true submissive. If you want to always use Master then find some of the wannabe masters that demand it. That have neither earned the title, nor understand what mastery encompasses.


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7/12/2014 4:57:44 AM
The Huh? moment of  the  week.

 Yesterday  approached by a  sub that wanted  to   chat with Me  because  I  had piqued  his  interest  with My  profile.

After   3 or 4 messages,  back and  forth , about  the  dynamic  with My partner and  subs . Declared he wasn't  interested anymore  because he was  looking   for a "long term monogamous relationship".

My  advice  to all that are  looking  for a  "long term monogamous relationship".  DO NOT approach someone  who is openly  in long term  polyamorous relationship!

It's that  simple .  I know  some people  are deceptive  about their  relationship  or  marital  status but  when someone  is  totally  clear  about this  WHY  even  waste  Our  time !


If  you  take the  time  to read a  profile  fully  then  there will be less wasted   time on everyone's  part !

This rant in honor of   Literacy   Volunteers and Reading  Rainbow  ! 


7/10/2013 6:22:11 PM

 PLEASE  read  the profile and  the journal.  Don't assume that  because  you think  that you would  suit  Me as a  submissive or slave  that I will  think the same.  Conversation is more than  My response  to your  e-mail and assuming more  makes  you look  foolish and desperate for attention.


6/2/2013 9:55:10 AM

Is  making a simple request to chat outside of collarme on other  messengers  formats that are  more "conversational" out of line?  I don't meet anyone without chatting with them first. It helps Me to get  beyond the sometimes miniscule amount of  information offered up in a profile. I have  2 submissives that came to Me with  limited  amount of information in their  profiles  for personal reasons but  speaking  to Me  brought  out much more and 13 years  later  one is still My slave and  6 years later is My proudly collared  boy.
 
If you want to find something  you have to be willing to share of  yourself to get the same in return.

7/6/2012 1:06:45 PM

  

No More "Assless Chaps" !!!


Chaps : A pair of leather or suede leggings, connected by a belt, to cover and protect the legs of a motorcycle or horse rider.


Chaps have no crotch or seat (ass). If they had those things, they would be called pants.


Riding chaps, for both riding bikes and horses do not have a zipper on the inside of the leg. It will rub the rider on a horse, and damage the paint job on a bike.


Those type of chaps with a zipper on the inside leg are fetish wear and more often than not called "bar chaps".


Call them generically "chaps", whether they be riding or bar chaps, but please stop calling them "assless chaps" that makes you look as if  you are ignorant of even the basic terminology of your lifestyle.


7/12/2010 1:55:58 PM


"The Dynamic of S and m isn't just about power and control ... it's about focus, total absorption into the essence of your being. Meeting his gaze and seeing the real hunger in his eyes. It's a controlled burn, rather than a wildfire; it's about the total connection, Dominant to submissive, not disconnected activities leading to a fuck."..... DJDaddyNY

7/1/2010 12:58:23 PM
 

In a chatroom recently  I was accused of being too serious about S and M. There are many reasons,  that I take things seriously. things  like :
The boy who had his bowel perforated by a top that just pushed a huge toy into him to see if he could take it all.
The 2 boys that had their prince albert piercings attached to a chain and then hooked above them, with not enough play to allow for an error and when they fell, the PAs were ripped out.
The boy that saw a Wertenberg wheel scene so over the top that he was traumatized so much that even with a Master he trusted with his life, he trembled even to have one around.
I am serious because there are Tops that think that a safeword is something to listen to  when it's convenient or think it's amusing to  "change  it" or think that if a person is gagged they can't utter a safeword. ( I, when using a gag that makes it hard to hear what sub is saying, place a ball in each hand, if one is dropped. I ease  up what I am doing. If both are dropped the session has ended.)

I value subs and value what I get from them, real submission . Maybe, I am more serious than most. Possibly that is why 35 years into  My journey, I am not jaded and love everything I do, never find it boring or tedious, love looking into sub's eyes at the look of discovery and amazment that they are full of joy and contentment with who they are.


4/9/2010 7:00:32 AM

 Rant for today !!!


Why are so many people that call themselves  submissives  completely unconcerned about the  Dominant.
 I cannot count the number of times I am approached with a litany of questions about things I can do to a sub,  much more concerned about what they can experience rather than what I  WANT.
 Also thinking that I am just so in need of attention from a sub that I will drop everything I am doing to have them kneeling at My feet. When I want that I have it.
 I don't need a sub's input on how they can enhance My own sub's performance. I am the judge of what My property  can and will do and whether or not they share the place at My feet with anyone that comes close to deserving the place they have earned !
 Recently I was addressed as Master in an e-mail and when I  responded I pointed out to the would be slave, that My slave was the only one I allowed to call Me Master as he has earned that privledge.  That if he felt the need to address politely Sir was adequate... never heard from him again.  Surprise !! They want to be slaves and yet they can't abide by a simple instruction with an explanation that was polite but certainly not required.  I could have just as well said, "address Me as Sir only"

 I think more need to think more of what their place is than what it will bring them. The rewards  are for a job well done.


12/11/2007 6:04:39 PM

I recently began to train a novice sub. Upon meeting him I was totally aware that his profile had been inaccurate. Not about his physical description, only about one thing, his age.

As things progressed, I waited for him to explain why he had given his age as years younger than he actually was. Finally he did explain to Me why he had done so, even before I prodded him for an explanation.

Being a novice and looking to find a Dominant  to serve, he had posted a couple of profiles on different sites. When he got his first response from one site he was thrilled that someone had taken an interest.

Unfortunately, his spirits were crushed  by the response. It basically told him that he was too old, and in order to get even someone to notice him he had to lie about his age.  The person doing this represented himself as a Master with years of experience, knowing the ins and outs.  Being someone that is naive to the lifestyle, he decided to follow the advise.
Fortunately he has learned his lesson and understands that dishonesty is not an attribute.

I explained to him that any 'real' Master doesn't want a submissive that presents themselves as one thing and yet are a complete different entity.

While I know that we all have preferences for what is a suitable submissive. I can't understand anyone encouraging a submissive to be deceptive. The foundation of Domination/submission is trust and to that goal, there must be honesty, and through those respect.

I want just to encourage all novice submissives, hell all people in the lifesyle, to be honest. While it is fine if you are only interested in cyber to descibe yourself in one manner and not be accurate. But, if you ever intend to meet, they are going to notice the differences, in height, weight, age, etc.

Luckily for the boy that I am training, I didn't judge him only on that basis. If I had nothing more than that I could have in all good conscience sent him away with a lesson learned.





4/5/2006 9:46:14 AM
 Some Dominants would disagree with Me on the subject of breaking a submissive in order to make them a better and more complete submissive.
 I have never believed that it was necessary to break a submissive to take them to the lowest place they can be before they can be trained. For many submissives the journey of self discovery of their true nature and desire to serve and the search for a Dominant to trust and serve is in itself taking them down to the depths.
 For Me, I believe in building. I gain the trust of a submissive through communication and honesty. Establishing that trust and respect is the foundation that I can build on from there. At times I believe that some are influenced by society and think that like so many things they want to destroy what is there and build something better...like urban renewal most times it is just a coating over that is more cosmetic than of any real substance.
It takes far more of an effort to build than to destroy. The final product is also something that I can take pride in ownership.

2/26/2006 10:48:20 AM


Olive Tree

A confused boy came before a wise Master who adored him. he felt that to submit to Him would mean he would open his heart to unbearable pain should He ever leave him. he hungered for Him and needed Him, but was ready to walk away in panic. The gentle Master knelt the boy before Him and started a tale of love and devotion. As the boy looked up at Him, His arms began to widen and open like a large tree stretches its branches to the sky. At that moment the Master appeared rooted to the floor and his impressive size towered above like a giant tree. Then He began to speak...
  
I'm here for you... now and always no matter how far time and space takes us... Whether you walk away from Me today or you stay and serve Me I will not turn from you. I am as patient as time itself; I will take not from you unless you give freely and completely of yourself, but I give unto you regardless -- for My love is UNCONDITIONAL...Like the olive tree that can both feed you and shade you, I am there seemingly eternal to your short life on this earth. If you need My fruit to feed your hunger I will give you all the fruit you need. If your skin grows dry and loses its luster, the oil from My fruit will restore it and make it glisten. When you need comfort My leaves will gently caress your face with the slightest breeze. When you need discipline My branches will correct you when the wind blows strong. If you just need My shade to protect you from the sun, My branches will shade and protect you. If you need warmth at night My fallen branches will fuel the fire to keep you warm and safe. If you need a refreshing breeze My leaves will fan you and cool you. You are My gardener. When you submit to Me, you tend that which keeps Me vibrant and full of life. When you kneel under Me and till the soil, you give breath to My roots. When you water Me, My sap flows strong raising My limp Branches. When you soil yourself collecting fertilizer with your bare hands, you strengthen and humble Me with your devotion.
  
Although My life will go on, life would not be the same without you. Your dedication and unconditional care for me keeps Me vibrant and nurtures My very core. The sustenance and protection I give you seems little reward for your servitude. Still the gardener serves the tree from his heart and the tree gives to his heart all that He can! I am planted firmly on the ground and cannot follow you if you walk away from Me.... But be assured I will survive. One hundred years later and two of your lifetimes; I will still be there, waiting for you in the same spot to offer you all that I do now. Stay with Me and be My gardener. you cannot get lost in Me for we are complementary to each other. I am your devotion, and you give meaning to My existence. Apart we live life and survive; together we bloom eternally! As the Master finished His last words the boy cried himself to sleep at His feet. That night, He stood planted there like the Olive tree offering him His unconditional love and protection as he slept. As he would tend to Him with his devotion the next day and everyday thereafter!
  
--Anonymous
  
  


2/19/2006 7:44:48 AM


I think that BDSM is reflecting the greater society in some negative ways.  The most prominent  I think is the tendency to treat
everything as disposable. I see submissives that are cast aside , unaware, in many cases what the reasons for dismissal or release are. Stop treating subs like a cell phone....fine until another model with a few better features comes along, so that one is relegated to junk.Where is the commitment? Have those of us with knowledge to share become so jaded that we cannot make the effort, invest the time that it takes to help a submissive grow.
 How can those of us that are looked to for guidance and direction fail so miserably?  It's becoming a fast food , instant gratification society that has losing the skills and abilities for life. Life is more than eating just for survivial. It is training someone to make bread rather than throwing some water,salt, yeast and flour into a machine. Savoring the techniques it takes to do so and being rewarded with something better than something that "resembles" the real thing.


2/12/2006 10:33:22 AM
 Many times I read in people's profile they are hesitant to embrace who they are to live out the possibilities that a D/s BDSM lifestyle can bring them.

I do understand the hesitation. I have been involved in BDSM for over 30 years. But for  years many aspects of it got pushed to the background because of circumstances of life in general. Then I got a wakeup call.

Driving home from work one day 2 doors from My house was hit headon by a drunk driver. Most of My injuries were minor except that I did considerable damage to My back and hips.
After a couple years of rehabilitation, I learned to live with the physical limitations and the changes that brought, but realized that life is short and I needed to take back the things that had brought Me real joy.

I got more involved in local BDSM groups and activities and started living life to the fullest again.

The journey of self discovery is very individual but the underlying importance of taking the steps is , life is not forever. Carpe diem  .... sieze the day ....live it to the fullest. Don't regret the things that you wished you had done. Enjoy the memories of the things you have accomplished!

1/17/2006 9:47:18 AM

"Why are you here?"  This is the question I ask any submissive the first time they kneel naked and bound at My feet. I always warn them ahead of time to give them an opportunity to think long and hard to be able to express what they feel deeply within themselves. Each is expected to verbalize it in their own words and I warn them that it has to be heartfelt and not sound as if they are saying what they 'think' I want to hear.

Communication in BDSm is paramount. Without it trust can not become the foundation to build upon. Without that foundation of trust respect can not be given by a submissive, and respect has to be earned. Though I know many "Masters" demand  immeadiate respect and think that every submissive is submissive to every Dominant, it is a foolhearty assumption formed out of ignorance.

I expect courtesy and some sense of protocols. I never demand a submissive  particularly during any initial contact,call Me Sir.  I do feel it shows a knowledge of protocols  and for those that live to serve,  simple manners are part of the protocol.

So before contacting a Dominant I suggest many submissives evaluate their knowledge of basic protocols and be able to express themselves appropraitely if asked " Why are you here?"

1/7/2006 1:41:40 PM

The most common question I am asked when contacted is  " What are you looking for in a submissive?" My usual to repsonse is  " What do you have to offer?"  

 I think that each submissive should look at themselves and know their strengths and be able to express to a Dominant what they have to offer in servitude. I have dealt with multiples for many years and each of sub has something that is unique unto them.  I don't want clones at all. I prefer each to be an individual with pros and cons and training needs that gives Me and opportunity to use all of My abilities. It's why I never require that a submissive has every interest that matches perfectly with Mine, if they can understand the dynamic of polyamory and as well can accept being a part of a 'Leather Family'. Finding that family brings support and understanding of others that crave the same things.

10/7/2005 1:05:52 PM

Have gotten some great e-mails from people on the site. Wish many were closer but enjoy our chats and correspondence always. Hoping still to find a like minded Domme that would consider My slave worthy of serving both of us on a one time or ongoing basis. Until then am always willing to chat or meet with any submissive that wants to learn more, no matter where they are located.

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 Age: 43
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