My profile is a bit outdated. I'll update it when I get my new place. 

I know many doms/dommes who have had their share of these so called "Submissives". 

Take note all you subs. 

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I need some updated pics of myself. Any ideas? I still don't want to show my face on this site.

For awhile now I have been thinking long and hard in what I want in a woman. It’s hard because so many look interesting and are attractive but in reality I usually don’t see anything beyond sexual interest. I’m going to try to list what I think are the most important qualities I look for in a relationship. Though I may try to rank my interest there is always exceptions to every rule.

5. Looks: If anyone tells you looks are not important they are lying through their teeth. It may not be the most important thing they are looking for but it still plays a factor. I personally like a girl with a healthy to athletic build. I don’t care for real chubby girls nor do I like stick figure models. I’m also a big fan of naturally attractive girls. I like it when a girl looks good even without makeup then that’s a big turn on (though I do consider some styles of makeup to be attractive too). Ethnicity or hair color doesn’t bother me much though I do have a soft spot for red heads and Asians.

4. Interesting skills/abilities: One thing that really turns me on is when a girl has some uniqueness about them. This can be something we have in common like martial arts or something I can’t do like dance or art. I also like it when I can learn something from them like equestrian or gymnastics. Talented ladies certainly stand out among just pretty faces.

3. Sexual fun: To me this is what most people look for on this site and though it’s certainly a factor I do not think it’s necessary. You can have sex with someone and not be in a relationship and you can be in a relationship without having sex. For me I want a girl who is innovative and likes to try new things but still have the idea that it’s about pleasing each other.

2. Personality: If you want a relationship to last then this has to be taken into consideration. I can’t really describe how this person is because she could come in many varieties. I really like personalities that have common interest in my talents. I like the nerdy types who like to play video games but I also like active type that likes to go on adventures like rock climbing or martial arts. Mainly I want a girl who enjoys my company and conversation and isn’t a one dimensional bimbo who thinks looking good and celebrities is the most important things in life.

1. Friendship: This is the most important thing to me when it comes to a relationship. My girl is my best friend. I want a girl where we always want to hang out together and do the same things. I want someone to really compliment me and really enjoy who I am. I would like to have a girl that can bring out my best and keep my flaws in check.

Well getting ready for another semester and will have lots of work to do. I’m now in a single apartment so I have no roommates to worry about. No more wondering whose going to take out the trash, or who made the mess in the living. It’s all me this time. My profile zip code won’t be correct on this site but I’ll still be in Va. I don’t see any point in changing it since I really don’t do local on his site.

 Also I don’t know why but I have become such a lurker on this site. I just don’t feel like starting conversations with new people. I’ll still respond to messages that have been sent.

I just had this dream and I thought it would be interesting to share it.

I was in my boxers in this workshop/makeshift dungeon. It wasn't your typical dungeon with whips and toys but was set up like a mini ninja warrior course. There was balance beams, chains against the wall use to climb, and ballet rails. Then I had this blonde mistress who looked to be in upper 30's would give me various task. Some task were like lava games and I had to reach the ballet rails and had to climb over everything to get to it. I never saw what happen when I fail but she did make the games more challenging like clothespins. It was interesting and fun to do these task since I'm a fan of parkour. It was tough because of my height balance is a weakness and many of the task were balance oriented.

I don't know why I had this dream or what it ment but it was a fun dream combining parkour and bdsm together. I wonder if you could combine other interest with bdsm like martial arts or swimming.

Online Game Ideas

This is some ideas to do online whether cyber or webcam.

Cuckhold show
A couple (usually a Domme/Dom) have passionate sex while letting subs watch on cam. They make comments to the viewers of how great this is and how much better this is then they would be.

Sub/sub show

Two subs (or a switch and a sub) perform on cam for a dom/domme. If a switch is involved then the dominant can order the switch to dominate the sub.

Switches gamble

This is a switch/ switch game where each person takes turn in commanding the other. One person calls out a command and both of them has to do it. This could be pleasurable like edging or punishment like clothespins. The game ends one of them gives up or cums. Since the genitalia is different if a command is given on there then it can’t be specified where (e.g. instead of putting a clothespin on the balls you have to just say the genitals).

Awkward Exercise

Having a sub do various exercises with added kinks involved. For example doing sit ups with a dildo in the ass, or clamp chains on the nipples with a chain wrapped around the feet so that when he relaxes on his sit up it pulls at their nipples.

Dice games

This is a classic kinky game that can be played. The dominant has two different colored dice. One dice represent the body mouth, ass, nipples, chest, cock/clit, and balls/vagina. The other dice represents actions like rubbing, dildo, clothespin, spanking, ice, and tie off. The dominate gets to clarify the action given on what to do. You may want to adjust it according to your partner’s preferences and there are many variations to go with it. If there are two switches then each can take turns rolling the dice. If you want to complicate it then using D&D dice can be used.

Edging or CBT?

This is a straight foreword game where the dominant tries to make the sub cum with various task and challenges. If he breaks the task then he receives punishment. If the sub cums, then the sub must receive a more severe punishment. The punishment and pleasure will have to be adjusted to the couple. Edging ideas would be masturbation, humping a flesh light or a jar of various liquids, etc… Punishment could be clothespins, binding it to prevent him from cumming, or if he cums then you can make him lick his mess all up or torture his now sensitive member.

Works Cited

Bonnie. "Cam_play [Collar N Cuffs]." CollarNcuffs Femdom, for All Needs, Resources & Chatrooms. 26 Nov. 2009. Web. 08 Mar. 2011. http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cam_play

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Bonnie. "Cams_for_couples [Collar N Cuffs]." CollarNcuffs Femdom, for All Needs, Resources & Chatrooms. 26 Nov. 2009. Web. 08 Mar. 2011. http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cams_for_couples

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BDSM view,
(This is BDSM from my point of view and whether you agree or disagree I do not care)

Topic: submissive

Being a switch I know both how a sub feels and what a dom looks for in a sub. Now everyone is different and everyone have different taste but they’re some common traits that people do not like in subs.

Disloyalty

This is obvious but many do not get it. When two people engage in play with another then you shouldn’t discard them like a paper plate. This happens in all aspect in both dom, subs and non-bdsm. If you want to explore other people then you need to let your partner know that BEFORE you engage in play.

Dishonesty

This is another problem that isn’t only by submissives. Now this isn’t for the ones who scam (though that is the case) but more so the ones that tells “white lies” in order to get to bed. This can be from saying you’ll do one thing and not do it or adjust webcam shot to make their penis bigger. Once this is found out you probably won’t get to play with that person anymore. Be truthful whether good bad or ugly and you will be rewarded better in the long run.

Non-submissive masochist

These are people who do not care for being submissive and only like the kinky play. Servitude or losing control is not in their interest but they like to feel pain or do have kinky fun. Many people think they are submissive because they enjoy pain but this is often mistaken.

“Doormat” slaves

This is a term for 1 dimensional absolute push over subs. They usually only want one thing (usually kinky sex) and will do whatever it take to get it. These people are often taken advantage of (and not in a good way) and are the fuel for things like pro-doms and financial domination. This also brings the bad image to outsiders or newcomers curious about BDSM. If you want to be submissive then you need to layer yourself with talent, personality, and be friendly. You might have to do something else besides sex (like chatting *gasp*) but it will certainly benefit you in the long run.

Hounding

This is what I call when someone gets online (usually female) and is swarmed with emails from people even though they are nothing what they want. These are the people who post one liners or make a call out for sex. They seem to have very little limits on what they want as a partner, “Does it have a vagina? Check. Is she Dominate? Check. I sooooo want her!” Not will this not get them into bed quickly but if a promising sub post within the spam then he or she maybe overlooked. Think about what it is that you really want and only send emails to profiles that you really like.

Now I know this maybe a rough start for subs but there are good things about them as well. Like doms their many flavors of submission. Some are full submissive while others are playful. Subs can be loyal worshipers or SAMs (Smart Ass Masochist). Some can be gentlemanly or even chivalrous.

As a sub I consider myself more of a play sub that tries to be gentlemanly and chivalrous. I would consider full submission if the woman is truly what I’m looking for.

What I look for in a sub is not only a kinky sex toy but a person who I can chat with as well. They have to share other interest besides just bdsm and be able to communicate enough to allow me to enjoy it.

That’s all for now and this concludes another one of my BDSM views.

BDSM view,
(This is BDSM from my point of view and whether you agree or disagree I do not care)

Topic: Dominate Females

I have a real liking to dominate females but to find a "True" one is hard to come by. I quote the word true because everyone has their own opinion of what they think that is. There are two aspects to consider about femdom and that is lifestyle and sexual.

Lifestyle
These are people who live the life as a dominate woman and enjoys control. In a relationship they like to take charge and care for their sub. This can come in many styles from strict commanding, motherly, kind caring, etc.  This can change in actual sexual play. Sometimes a dominate woman can be controlling and not fit in any styles.

Sexual
Now a woman doesn't have to be a lifestyle domme in order to enjoy being dominate in bed. This is called a "Play Dominate" where she is dominate only in sexual play and the rest of her life is rather vanilla. This can also have many styles as well. I know one lady who was a "kind sadist" and she was actually fun to play with. Though styles may be similar each style is unique to that domme.

What is NOT True Femdom
This is what I see a lot in CM but this isn't truly femdom.

Bitch=Dominate
This irritates me most of all where a girl thinks that because they are bitchy then they are dominate. A true dominate actually cares for the sub and doesn’t think only for herself.

Pro-Dommes
If a woman will dominate only for money then she is not a true domme. She could care less who you are as long as your willing to pay. To me this is no more then prostitution.

Tribute
It's one thing receiving gifts from a sub but it's another thing when it is demanded. To dominate someone only for what they give you is no better then a Pro-Domme.

Financial Dommes
Along the same lines as a Pro and Tribute if one is more into money then the sub then that's not true femdom. To me the dominate should be the bread winner of the relationship if anything but that's not true D/s.