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I seek someone who wants to embark on a long term D/s relationship, someone who wants to create a life rich in emotional and sexual intensity, grounded in love (for what better motivation is there to submit?) and full of challenge and growth. I seek someone with a plan to commit to one woman alone. Someone with not only a deep desire to serve, but a desire to be fully owned, and all decisions about his life taken away and held under my protective ownership. Someone who dreams of finding someone worthy of his deepest submission, his worship and his reverence. I am not delusional enough to feel so entitled to this level of submission. But I do know that such deep submission is possible and many seek it. It's a deeply arousing gift and evokes in return a deep desire to honour and protect those who give it. This kind of submission, if given to me, will only spur me onto become my absolute best in order to earn it. And this intense reason to excel is what I seek. I seek an intelligent, self respecting, articulate man who is confident and capable. One who is serious, with depth and maturity and a desire to love hard and selflessly. One who is interesting and who can challenge me in return. A man whose depth of submission frightens him at times, who therefore must protect it and be selective to who he gives it to. This is the kind of man who will boost my ego when I earn his submission, and one who has what it takes to earn my dominance. I don’t want a needy man parading around in a g-string hoping for a bottom spanking, or a man who likes to be cheeky and light hearted or 'cute'. Superficiality does somewhat revolt me. Just as I am not so attracted to submissive males who like to present themselves as pathetic in the absence of a Domme. If you get your kicks out of treating yourself how you want to be treated, why do you need a Domme? And what kind of power do you give her if you so easily dominate yourself??? I can be attracted to the doormat types, because often it is these types of subs who have everything to give, nothing much to lose and who have realised that their submission/slavery is all that matters to them. For me, they represent the depth of submission I seek, and in these cases, what then matters importantly, is whether they are also the kind of men who appeal to me outside of their submission. Because building up a slaves manly side appeals to me as a slave owner. I am just as attracted to the opposite kinds of subs, the ones who hold their heads up, battle with their ego and have deliciously high self respect. Self respect that I can take away at whim and choose to give back when and How I like. This kind of submission can earn my respect and make me work hard to earn theirs. I feel at ease with a psychological slavery/submission. This kind of man would crumble into submission and feel like nothing mattered unless I take him on. He may find himself completely break and then be reborn with my healing, under my control. Or he may require ‘breaking in’ in order to fully submit, stripped down to an exposed vulnerable state, and built back up to my specifications, into a new identity. But he would only feel this way because of me and for me. He would enter sub space easily and enjoy worship and devotion. A deep mental bondage is what I seek and is what thrills me. When I humiliate, emasculate, objectify, punish or hurt him I will do so in my own time, under my control because I want to and because I can. There will always be reason for my actions. He will always feel his place. He will find deep refuge in inferiority next to me. Yet my aim will eventually be for him to find strength in his submission to me and feel empowered by it. The deeper his submission the fewer limits he would have in what he can achieve in my name, for me or for himself, and this empowering strength can be used in some amazing ways. I am a private Domme. Not the kind who exhibits in public, and I don't feel the need for upper/lower case text, corsets, heels or a title to reaffirm my dominance. I evolve and change as much as the next person, so who knows, I might enjoy all of that again one day. But I do know that if a sub were only interested in the physical aspects of D/s or if he only respected my dominance as long I was in fishnets and black leather we would not be suited. I lead a relatively quiet simple life, though I do work overseas for a few months every year. I am a private person with a few close friends and family. I am a larger woman, and though this may not always be the case, it should be something that appeals. Essentially you will find me an expressive, warm and trustworthy woman on the outside, someone you can easily find solace and security in, yet someone with bite, who can put you in your place violently if need be and slice you open raw and exposed with my words. Most importantly, I am someone with whom you can embark on a dark, intense journey with, who will unfold the layers of your heart and seduce you into giving more and more and more of yourself until you might finally realize there is nothing of you left to reclaim. It’s at that point your journey begins. Cherished and owned. Appearance, distance, dick size, fetishes, experience…etc. none matter more than the qualities I’ve already described above. Having said that, the following does appeal: * Willingness/ability to travel 1.5 hours from Melbourne regularly if you cannot relocate completely. I am open to relocating to Melbourne city and living with my slave. * A desire to serve and work hard with house work, gardening, massages etc. under my direction. * An ability at some point to lead an externally vanilla life on my arm. I do want marriage and children one day and don't want to waste my time with those who don't also have these possibilities on his horizon. I can consider slaves who have something to offer even if this kind of future is not shared, but what is on offer better be good ;) * A level of maturity to make your fantasies a reality, despite the potential brutality of logistics and the mundanity of the day to day. * An earnest ability to express how you feel, and to be open to the intensity of your experience. * adaptability I use the words slavery and submission sometimes interchangeably. However I seek someone who identifies themselves more as a slave, or desiring to be a slave. I have few limits, scat being one - and harming of any children or animals. I am open to many different BDSM practices. My enjoyment of things evolves and is ever changing. At the moment financial domination is starting to appeal to me, as a good and enjoyable way to completely own someone. Cuckolding/forced bi is also turning me on for subs who find these things difficult to deal with, as a very arousing way to stretch and manipulate a poor slaves emotions. There is nothing hotter than feeling a sub shiver with a broken heart or jealousy as he listens to me cum with another man... or to watch him slowly follow direction with another man until he cannot help but be aroused against his will.... I love this kind of emotional manipulation of a slave who lives and breathes for me. I love to deepen his devotion through suffering and pain, to stretch his limits and expand my love for him, licking the tears off his cheeks. All in good time. If anything of what I have written appeals, or if it appeals but you sadly feel you may not meet my criteria, please feel free to make contact. I would also appreciate seeing a picture of your face so I can get a sense of who you are. Thank you. NI.

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2/13/2014 5:56:57 AM

I am a normal woman.

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I am not bestowed with some kind of ethereal beauty that makes all men drop to their knees to worship me, like many subs fantasize about.? I will grow hair wherever I feel like growing hair, weigh as much as I want to and dress however I like. So for the subs who only see dominance in leather and heels, stop reading here.

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I do not have the energy or capability to out wit you, overpower you, dominate you seductively, and boss you around every second of every day. Dommes have headspaces, just like subs, and if I don?t feel like doing anything, I wont do it. So for the subs who use a wish list as their guide, and can?t imagine what submission means outside of it, stop reading here.

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I am not a super powered mind reader to know exactly what buttons to push and when for every individual.? Despite all good efforts and intentions, I am not immune to making mistakes, like any human. So for those subs who are fragile enough to run a mile at the first sign of a fault in their goddess, stop reading here.

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What I do have though, are standards.? I am only interested in providing a certain level of dominance, so I am only interested in a certain level of submission.

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I seek a 24/7 relationship with a sub. This means more than just kinky play sessions.? This means loyalty, time commitment, and availability to suit.

It means being ready to make changes to your life in order to fit into mine.

It means being REALISTIC and MATURE enough to expect brutal realities and the mundane vanilla world to encroach on the peripheries of our D/s relationship and test us ALL THE TIME, yet being able to weather them with conviction.

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Mutual respect underpins the foundation of the D/s relationship I seek, as does a sensitivity to the emotional needs of the other.

A 24/7 relationship to me does not mean 24/7 ?expression? of D/s. I?m not crazy.

But I do expect a sub to be so firm in his submission that he feels it all day long, with whatever he is doing.? This sub must feel both relief and strength at being captured and owned by me, and this feeling should sustain him during his day, not distract or put him ill at ease.

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For a sub, he will most likely come to live with me and be truly owned. Broken in if required, leaving his old life behind. I will pick apart his old life and rebuild it as I see fit. Being owned by me is real and serious.? It includes such things as finances, career decisions, health burdens, etc. Things that are important for him will either be returned to him to manage (accountable to me ultimately of course) or taken by me to use to build up his submission and trust.

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For me as Domme, I will make space in my life for a sub. I live alone and enjoy my privacy and solitude so will not open this up for just anyone.? I will work hard at understanding everything about him to know how to manage him correctly, keeping him healthy and happy under my wing.?

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My ideal sub is between 33-45, successful in his life, someone who follows his passions. Well educated, communicative. Emotionally mature and insightful. I do not care about his physicality, how much money he makes, If he is riddles with chronic health conditions or lives two states away (as long as he is relocate able!!).? What I care about is strength of character, strength of submission and his ability to travel seamlessly between fantasy and reality. We must both want to travel the same path towards the same goals.

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I am not:

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  • Interested in someone looking for ?experiences? to check off their D/s activity list. The more experienced you think you are the less likely you are going to appeal. Experience does not impress me, because I don?t use it as a measure of a submissive man. It shows we are in a different space and value different things.
  • interested in seeing pictures of you in submissive states
  • interested in hearing what you?ve been ?trained in?

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  • Interested in someone who has set ideas on the way he wants/desires to submit. What?s the point in submitting if your desires are going to dictate your journey? A good start is having the maturity to accept you will have no say, an even better start is to want to know about me as a person before me as a sexual dominant. That tells me you are serious in the kind of commitment you seek.
  • Someone who dresses in costume or exhibits in public
  • Someone who enjoys feeling pressured to ?perform?. I prefer being given the freedom to live and act the way I desire. Knowing that you are hoping and wishing for something I don?t want to give can turn me off by eliciting my compassion to give in to you that could come at my own expense.

I don?t like feeling manipulated.

  • Someone who thinks that D/s negates equality in a relationship.? Both persons emotional needs should be equally met and this is where normal intelligent connection and vanilla elements of the relationship are important. It?s a journey of discovery that needs to be communicated and shared, as a strengthening bond.

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What I am:

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  • looking for someone to embark on a normal committed relationship with, (with hopes for an adventurous future with marriage, kids, etc)
  • someone who is not defined by her dominant role, it comes and it goes, to varying levels of intensity. Being indulged is always pleasurable at any time, however.
  • someone down to earth and self reliant.
  • Interested in who you are as a person outside of your submission, because submission is not everything.
  • Interested in the depth of submission you seek because it doesn?t mean anything to me unless it is real and raw.
  • A private single woman, with a strong commitment to family. Mature yet playful, intelligent yet humble, creative yet uninspired.
  • Looking to live my life to my maximum potential and I believe this could be assisted with the devotion of a beautiful man who loves to indulge and pleasure a woman selflessly in small and large ways.
  • Looking to have input into molding a man to be what I want him to be, and to bring out his absolute best through support and cherishment
  • Seeking help becoming the dominant queen I want to be by finding someone? who lets me follow my heart to the full, helps to prevent any of my aspirations from dissolving, and who supports me selflessly without pressure to conform to anything. Someone who finds me amusing, admirable, and who I can feel the same about in return.

Seeking someone who likes a challenge, likes to travel and wants to live a life less ordinary.


11/11/2013 3:45:43 PM
I will be away now until December, apologies to those wishing to message me.

10/15/2013 7:17:56 PM

For the right sub:

 

I can offer him a place in my house, a protective refuge.  Living with me in the country would take him far away from his normal life.  He would eat my food and sleep in a small space I allocate him.  He would only need to bring clothes.  I would take control of all his possessions, his cards, ID, cash so he is bound to me and my ownership for the period of time he is with me.

 

He would fill his days cleaning and maintaining my house and garden.

Doing physical labour with no other care in the world other than service to me will help him ease into a submissive state, while being productive and helpful.

Just like in ashrams in India, worshippers toil each day as a way to express their devotion and to empty their mind of distractions.  So will my sub.

 

There may not be any sexual release, there may be days when he works alone without supervision while I am at work.  Depending on how I feel, he may be directed to pleasure me instead in the evenings.

His work will be scrutinised and the quality of his work will be kept in line with reward and punishments.

But over time if he works well he will feel that I am pleased and crave to work harder. He will keep following direction but start to offer initiatives to feel my pleasure in him more and more.  He will start to have pride in the home he is keeping for me.

 

It will be time for him to leave one day, to go back to his life that he relinquished for a few weeks to submit, perhaps he will leave just for a few days until he can come back again.  Perhaps time will tell him that he craves to work for me only, that nothing else means as much as the pleasure he gives me.

 

I want only one sub. But it takes a while to find him. In the meantime, the position is open for applications.

Please do not be offended if I turn you down.

Please do not ask me about the kinds of sexual practices I enjoy as a domme. If you are lucky enough to be on the receiving end you will find out soon enough, in the meantime, what you are interested in does not matter to me, just your desire to serve.

 


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LovelyMissJess
 
 Age: 24
  Georgia