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Hi there, Im a friendly easygoing person who likes creativity and positivity, i have been a fetishist for around 20 years, around 15 of those in the scene.

Over that time i have been a lifestyle submissive and also a dominant, I identify with being both a domme and a sub depending on energy.



I also have a passion for fetish and fantasy play, and i love nothing more than helping people understand their fetish and feel positive about it.



I am more into genuine fetish play, it has always been a passion.



My fave styles of play centre around dominance and submission, latexpvc , bondage, flogging, mind fuck and adult age play dynamics.

I view fetishbdsm and DS as a creative expression of ourselves.

I am Safe, Sane, Consensual and Risk Aware, i have done a bunch of workshops over the years that centre around practical play education and safety.

I am 100 genuine and can prove it, i expect the same if you wish to talk, I do not have endless patience for people who are not true to themselves.

I am gender queer and prefer female energy and company )

I am happy to have a friendly chat, share concepts, ideas or passions if you have some time to kill, and happy to create positive friendships.

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7/18/2015 7:46:29 PM
Mental Health and BDSM

Over the years i have been exposed to various forms of mental health issues, thankfully not mine, although we all have some facets of these things arise, however usually without a high level of intensity.

Over the last six months i have been studying Narcism, and during this time i have come to a rareness of how it all works, and this has raised some worrying aspects of the bdsm scene for me.

I think the biggest question is where does your "dominance" come from ?
if it comes from a place of selfishness and wanting to hurt people,
you may want to question these emotions and ask yourself why you actually want that ?

The reality is to abuse or hurt people IS against the law.
Consent doesn't give you a green light to do these things.
for example if you met someone who asked you to mame or permanently damage them
i.e. say shoot them in the leg etc, that doesn't mean you can commit a crime based on "consent".

Consent only allows for so much, and if your "dominance" is only coming from a place of anger - selfishness or the will to screw someone over, you may want to seek counselling to sort out your issues. Metal health is a tricky arena and a fine line exists between doing things the right way or possibly causing yourself or the person you play with more damage.

Sure during a play you may wish to express your dominance or submission etc, but its very important that you have the ability to step in and out of these roles and always work from a position of positivity and balance.

Discuss and negotiate boundaries and understand the mental health implications of what you are intending in the play, and also the effects of this afterwards.
Also consider the effects of leaving a relationship if there is a long term dynamic involved and how you will both positively deal with this to avoid damage.

Playing on a deeper level for people opens up a world of stuff, and relationships can become more co - dependant and reliant

People who play should always assess how they feel after a play from both sides, and make sure they come away from the scene with a feeling of positivity !

Exploring the emotions and realms we do can be enlightening but also has its pitfalls.
If your "dominance" does not come from a place of love and care, you may want to seek
some counselling to understand why you feel like this.


2/5/2015 4:31:05 AM
Its a lovely thing to meet someone very beautiful and special in my life :)

10/20/2012 7:11:41 AM

The most beautiful moments in a play happen at some of the most unexpended times !

To see that look in a persons eyes and see a complete level of serenity like everything is just perfect in the world always amazes me :)


12/2/2009 10:20:02 PM
To be a "BITCHY DOMME" first you must know how to be a loving balanced individual .

9/30/2009 11:03:40 PM
MY PERSPECTIVE ON DOMINANTS The scene is full of them, but what determines a true dominant ? . Dominant and submissive personalities are everywhere but are theses dom/mes "acting out" because they are trying to make themselves feel more powerful or "in control" ?. I believe a true dominant is a person who sees every person as an equal, who believes in respecting people. The fact that each of us may have a domme or submissive side is just part of our makeup, and that may only be triggered through certain fetishes or elements. A true dom/me is someone who is in control of their own life, lives a good balanced life and has a good understanding of their submissive and the care it takes to safely allow them to live their fantasies. Safely means, not only physical safety but mental health safety. By doing a particular play do you know what can of worms you may be opening? will it have a positive or negative effect on the health of your submissive ? Being a true domme is not just about "me me me" and any good dominant knows that play and positive development of a submissive is of prime importance. Being a domme is not about being a "bitch" or a "greedy money domme" but is actually a selfless act and an acknowledgement of the gift a submissive gives when trust is handed over. Its not about telling everyone else what a formidable dom/me you are. Or expecting "instant respect" because of who you think you are. Its about understanding yourself, and your submissive and how those roles work and the special connection you share when you play. A true Dominant learns their skills over years and earns respect just like anyone in any other sport, field, job etc. Miss Amy

6/20/2008 10:57:24 PM
Well a cple of weeks ago it was SLP Inquisition, never been before, so made the effort. Our friends came down from brissy and we had a great night out. After not going to any public events for about 12 months it was really good to get out and catch up with friends.

Then last night was Hellfire, haven't been to HF for about 12 months, was a different crowd, seems that most of the play scene is absent, which is kinda sad, however met some really nice newbies who seemed keen to learn, had some good chats met some lovely people.
We took our friend K along, to her first Hf and pre hf drinks, was much fun, and a good time was had by all :). Welcome to the scene K, loved your outfit tooooo, looked great!.

4/21/2008 6:59:06 PM
MY VIEW 3..... HOW do you feel about your kink or fetish ? do you feel like a "freak" because of your thoughts ? or are you proud of who you are and all that goes along with you?. I believe that we should all feel GOOD about diversity ! and that it should be a POSITIVE thing. However depending on your partner or the way that your "stuff" is handled can depend on how positive you feel about it. IF it doesn't "feel" right start having a closer look. : ) A

4/14/2008 12:17:08 AM
MY VIEW 2, HEADSPACE .... i have 2 quite experienced lifestyle friends who have had a few problems with headspace lately. Talking about it reminded me of similar problems in the early days. Quite often the person who takes on the lions share of responsibility and stress and is more dominant in vanilla life is the one who needs to step out of that and be submissive and vise versa. Now in my case i was and probably still am the more dominant in our nilla lives however when i was stressed with a work issue or in a focused or dominant headspace myself, it is quite hard to "drop" into subby space when you are just not ready. Even though you may be submissive to your dom/me it really is up to the dom/me to read your headspace and see if you can be "coaxed" into dropping or maybe done with suggestion a flirt or etc. Sometimes its just hard, and needs practice, work and good observation skills. It may even be a sweet whisper in the ear about "later" rather than "drop to your knees bitch" straight after you get off the phone to that client. hhahaha its a subject worth a fair amount of thought. A :)

4/14/2008 12:04:01 AM
My View, I have never been much of a stickler for "wankers".  I like to keep things simple and practical. If you are a master or mistress to someone, i feel it is correct for their subby to address them as that ( depending on negotiation ) ie it may be totally impractical to call your dom/me master or mistress in a group of nilla friends or at work. However within the home or at a gathering of peers or like minded people sure ;).

NEGOTIATION is the key , but personally i like that within a defined play space.



4/13/2008 11:48:29 PM
pic news, unfortunately the great pic of me with my subby in a sling in bondage with a blindfold on was considered "extreme bondage" hahah so i went for the super nilla pic and pic is up ! I shall try posting some others of plays and see how it goes.

xxxA

1/20/2008 2:07:46 PM
"UNDER CONSIDERATION" this term always makes me laugh!. As a submissive entering a relationship with a dom/me, you have just as many rights to CONSIDER YOUR DOM/ME!. How much experience does your dom/me have? can they provide references ? have you seen them in a play situation with someone else?. How many of their previous subbies have you spoken to?. Is the dom/me trying o manipulate you for their own selfish agenda?.

The term "under consideration" always reeks of manipulation from the dom/me to me, SUBBIES OF THE WORLD ...START PUTTING YOUR DOM/MES UNDER CONSIDERATION  :).

1/12/2008 5:39:53 PM
Some Important Responsibilities as a dom/me or sub.  Firstly that you don't engage in ANY illegal activities re human rights, abuse etc.

2/that you don't do anything that is UNSAFE.

3/ that everthing has been negotiated, and that any limits have been discussed.

4/ that whatever you do while "in role" or play WON"T CAUSE DAMAGE in a NEGATIVE way
 PHYSICALLY OR EMOTIONALLY.

5/ that SAFEWORDS are understood and in place by both parties.

6/ stay "INTOUCH" make sure you can step in and out of play if you need to alert your dom/me or sub to something.

8/ Remember that while in sub space, the decisions you make may be "DISTORTED" and may not be the same decision you would make
whist not in sub space.

7/ remember that after a play AFTERCARE and a debrief is important.

8/ Aftercare can extend beyond the hours or days after a play, sometimes up to a week or more.

more to follow
Amy

1/9/2008 10:16:22 PM
LOVELY PEOPLE

.....I have met some really lovely people on here, its great to learn more about other people and their fantasies and or dynamics :).

I hope everyone has a "GREAT 08"

Looking foward to meeting some of my friends this year and doing some workshops and bbq's.

A

12/7/2007 6:16:26 AM
"RAMBLINGS"

I'm a domme, so fall to your knees! YEH RIGHT! .
I am a great believer in EQUALITY, i have never respected dom/mes just because they are a dom/me, people earn respect.

I really dont like the old "i'm a princess" now worship me and give me all your money. Its a desperate attempt to earn a $ from person who may be in a subby state. I would feel far better about people being up front and telling us they need to make some money and run a legitamate business as a domme.

Just on that subject , have a few prodomme friends and i think they provide a wonderful service. I also feel a lot of subby males who stuff around fantasising about play with a "real" domme could do themselve a favour and apply themselves to saving a $ and engaging in a professional session.

When you consider you can have a pro session for say $350 and you take into account that that includes a professionally trained domme, plus a dungeon space and loads of expensive equipment plus the pre sesh chat and the clean up and washing of latex etc afterwards, its reasonable value.





9/3/2007 12:04:52 AM
Where does your Dominant energy come from ? .


This is a very interesting question, and so often we come across dominants who have been fukked over by the opposite sex and see Dominance as a way of exacting revenge on the other sex !. If this is you ...SEEK COUNCELLING ! that is not a safe frame of mind to play in ! .



8/23/2007 4:26:50 PM
Gender Chat PART 2....  I am still amazed by the lack of understanding of gender by a number of people on this site :(.

Biological gender is that in which we are born, however gender doesnt just come from the container we were born in.

Have you ever met a butch girl for instance? or a femme guy ? we all have , however people still look at the "bits" rather than what's built into the person.

For instance, if you are a dommy lesbian who likes pretty submissive femm girls , and you had a pretty trans girl and a butch genetic girl, it is most likely you would have a much better play dynamic with the the tg girl.

If you are a subby girl who likes a dom butch energy , and you had that same choice you would have a much better dynamic with the butch girl .

BDSM and fetish doesn't always = sex ! there are so many role and play dynamics that you can have without having a "FUK BUDDY" .

If you are here for a shag i suggest you go to a swingers party a brothel or find a partner.

The wonderful thing about bdsm and fetish is that you CAN have play interactions that explore the mind and give amazing experience and insight without it being a "get off" in the typical way . Its a get off in a different way :) .

8/20/2007 1:28:55 AM
That Gender Chat ... part 1.......

You go to a cake shop and buy a  cake , and clearly written on the box is BANANA CAKE .

You open the box to discover its Actually CHOCOLATE CAKE inside the box.

Does that mean that beacause the box clearly had bananna cake written on it that the chocolate cake is bananna cake ?.

food for thought ...

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MsJennE
 
 Age: 18
 Canberra, Australia