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I'm a fairly simple man living the American dream. I'm looking for something casual with someone right now and open to long term. I like to drive fast cars, farm lead, experience new things, and meet new people. On the kink side of things I have a penchant for pain, erotic hypnosis, bondage, and shibari.

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6/30/2017 10:23:01 PM
In the wonderful city of Angels for the weekend for Anime Expo 2017. Looking to have an awesome time at the con and maybe find some hidden pleasures and local secrets to indulge in while I'm here.

5/25/2016 5:48:34 PM
Rocking out in Memphis to the jams of Dave Mason, The Doobie Brothers, and headlining it all, Journey!

8/22/2015 8:20:26 PM
I think it's been about 4 months now since I shaved. Not bad at all.

1/22/2015 11:20:33 PM
Fixed my electric clippers. Why? Because I don't feel like buying another pair when I can fix what I have. That's how I roll.

1/17/2015 10:36:54 PM
If you are only going to see one movie this year, if you want to make it worth the ticket price, you owe it to yourself to go see "American Sniper."

1/10/2015 2:43:24 PM
Flipping a balisong is incredibly fun, if a bit dangerous and painful when you mess up. That said, practicing with a live blade certainly incentivizes you to get it right the first time over using a trainer haha.

12/16/2014 11:34:58 PM
Ten weeks into growing my beard and it's coming along nicely.

9/9/2014 4:53:10 PM
Having finished for the day, I'm reminded now of why I wear a ballcap to mow.

9/8/2014 1:04:12 PM
It's tough to lose a grandparent. It's even harder the second time around. There just isn't ample preparation for it. Yet, I am content in knowing that their suffering is at an end and in my hope that they are enjoying eternity together.

5/26/2014 9:09:42 AM

All gave some. Some gave all. I spend today to honor the memories of my fallen brothers and sisters.


5/19/2014 8:48:11 PM

Wow, almost a year since I last posted in my journal. Though, I do equate it somewhat with updating my facebook status. I primarily use my Facebook for sharing interesting news, especially that which the media fails to report on. Maybe I could start doing that here.


5/29/2013 11:52:22 AM

Wow. The people on this site really are classy. My latest two gems: someone threatening to torture me because I'm politically conservative and being blocked for sending a polite message.


5/10/2013 1:48:03 PM

This is getting ridiculous. I'm hiding and reporting as spam what seems like 10 profiles a day.


2/4/2013 12:37:38 AM

Getting close to my birthday and Valentine's Day. Anyone care to join me for a movie? A Good Day to Die Hard is on my list to see.


1/4/2013 3:54:23 PM

Being unable to change my username is quite annoying. InSamity has a nice ring to it, and then it would match my FL as well.


10/17/2012 8:14:27 PM

Looks like I forgot to talk about my experience in Jacksonville. That weekend I ended up meeting a local member of this site and spent the night with her. Not only that, I was able to indulge both of our fantasies and "rape" her, so to speak. It was quite enjoyable. Not only that, I actually was so rough that she was bleeding. That was interesting. And I was able to try out knife play and can now say I do enjoy it.


10/2/2012 1:23:32 AM

*THIS IS NOT MINE, JUST EMBODIES MY THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS ON THE LIFESTYLE AND BEST DESCRIBES THE APPROACH I TAKE WITH MY DOMINANCE! TAKEN FROM ONE "HIGH_LORD_BUBBA,"*

How to Know You are Dealing with a Good Dom!

I would also like to recognize that the idea for this post came from a previous post by magdalena82 entitled *

How I know You are a Shitty Dom

  • Note: Since I am male, this will be written from that perspective. If that troubles you then mentally substitute Dom/me every time you see Dom and we’ll be just fine. Edited as of 12/25/2011
  • This list is intended to help you find a trustworthy and safe Dom. It is up to you to negotiate the particulars of any scenes or play sessions you may enter into. You must assume responsibility for your own safety.
  • Granted, not every Good Dom has all these traits. Further, there may be certain Doms that are excellent, but do not necessarily practice ALL these traits.
  • What you as a newcomer are seeking is to find a pattern of behavior that you can feel Safe about, Sane while doing it, and that you feel comfortable Consenting to. This Safe, Sane, and Consensual mantra (SSC) is found throughout the BDSM culture.
  • There is another acronym, RACK, which stands for RISK AWARE CONSENSUAL KNOWLEDGE. RACK refers to a more advanced level of play between partners.
  • Remember that submission is earned, not gifted. Much ado is made of the so called gift of submission. I would submit there is an equally important gift of dominance. Of course, as always, Your Mileage May Vary (YMMV)

Traits and Characteristics

He is not pushy, and is ready to spend the time to get to know you

Even his first message indicates he has read your profile and is genuinely aware of you as a person.

He is relaxed and informal, and stresses that he does not expect more formal treatment unless, and until, you have both agreed to take the communication and the relationship to a higher level.

He uses a respectful tone and does not ask that you “kneel and obey” him until much later, when he has earned that respect from you.

His self-confidence allows him to have an adult conversation without insulting you or trying to make you feel guilty in any way while you two are getting to know one another.

He is willing to have several conversations with a low-key, non stressful approach that makes you feel comfortable getting to know him better.

He does not establish any sort of time limit for the relationship to escalate, while at the same time indicating he is ready to progress at your pace.

He welcomes subs that are either experienced or newcomers, as he knows they will be respected and well cared for if they should agree to join with him in a relationship.

He respects your limits and discusses them openly with you.

He will also maintain control of the relationship and avoid, to the extent necessary, the tendency pf some subs to try to control the relationship by "topping from the bottom." This behavior from the sub is often confusing or harmful to the D/s M/s relationship.

He will provide a vehicle whereby the formal structure of the D/s relationship can be temporarily set aside, so that meaningful conversation between adult partners can take place, without prejudice to either side.

He understands that some limits are oriented to the giving side, while others may involve receiving.

He is willing to share his own limits with you in an equally frank discussion.
While recognizing that sexual activity may be involved in scenes between partners, he also recognizes that scenes may not necessarily end in intercourse.

He can have a relationship that does not involve overt sexual activity, if that has been negotiated.

He does not view social contact, such as a Munch or a discussion group, to be a recruitment site, but rather a social gathering of like minded individuals.

He respects that you may have had previous partners within the lifestyle, which have helped you to get where you are in the experience curve.

He respects that you may be recovering from a harmful past experience and wants to help you have a genuinely positive one this time.

He respects that just because you wore a collar from another does not guarantee you want to wear his collar.

He understands that monogamy is the statistical majority for relationships, and accepts your choice, whether it is monogamy or another type of relationship.

He is honest in explaining his existing relationships, if any exist, so that you can make an informed choice whether to pursue a relationship with him.

He is very willing to frankly discuss his experience, and the lack of it, in any area.

He believes in safe words and encourages their use if either partner feels they are necessary. Note that more experienced partners may opt to not use safe words.

He may also provide for an alternative to a safe word if, for example, you will be gagged he may give you a ball to drop if you want to use a safe word.

He regularly cleans and disinfects his toys.

He may have certain toys that are reserved for play scenes with a specific partner.

He understands that the difference between thud, impact, sensation and sting types of toys may be quite profound, and transitions from one type to another slowly enough to avoid leaving his sub hanging from a sensory ledge, so to speak.

He practices his craft, and may invite you to observe or participate as he practices his craft.

He never stops learning and knows he cannot ever know it all.

He seeks new sources of knowledge for the different techniques and perspectives they may offer.

He willingly admits his mistakes and learns from them, giving due attention to what went wrong, what should have been done differently, and what lessons can be learned from the experience.

He understands that the scene is not over until the aftercare is over and the play space has been cleaned for use by others.

He may provide for your aftercare to be assisted by others, so that he may remove the toys from the play space, for example.

He may negotiate a scene that does not have strong aftercare, if you desire such a scene or play session. Advanced scenes may not even involve aftercare, but again, that is negotiated beforehand.

He does not touch the belongings of another, living or inanimate, without permission.

He respects the play space of others with silence and care.

He does not assume ownership of an unattached sub. Nor does he demand undeserved respect.

The Dom respects the rules of the establishment where he finds himself.

He does not play while under the undue influence of alcohol or other substances.

He is willing to share his knowledge and experience with others while respecting their quest for knowledge. He is accepting of newness in others that seek to learn.

He is involved in his local bdsm community, if possible and appropriate.

He is willing to whisper wise counsel in the receptive ear of another, and to listen to the counsel of others.

He recognizes that he has a responsibility to the submissive to help her emotionally, spiritually, and financially in the event of the ending of their relationship. Many Doms actually help the sub to establish their own independent accounts for this contingency. The funds deposited into such an account belong solely to the submissive.

He seeks the respect and trust of others by his example, not by his words.

copyright 2011, 2012 High Lord Bubba (G. Wayne Marshall)


9/28/2012 12:52:42 PM
In Jacksonville until Sunday. Nice mini-vacation.

9/25/2012 8:44:07 AM

I can't decide if I'm sleep deprived or just in a good mood right now. Regardless, I am rabidly manic for it! :D I want to go do burnouts in my Firebird! Right meow! Right meow! Smoke those tires! JOHN FORCE STYLE BURNOUTS!!!


7/14/2012 9:43:00 PM

Kind of a late update, but I am a muscle car afficianado. Drive your rice rocket off a cliff please. It's a favor to the world. Anyways, I have had my Firebird Formula for 4 months today, and I love it. Second longest I've ever owned a car. Other one I've had for 5+ years now. So, random though complete.

 

I was thinking to myself about these dating sites. And I look at their guarantees that say, "If you don't find someone in 6 months, get the next 6 months for free!" Then I think, if I find absolutely nobody in 6 months time on a dating site, I'd rather have my money back, not another 6 months of finding nothing.


2/26/2012 7:50:49 PM

Went to Nashville yesterday. Hung out with one of my friends at Anime Day then went to the Hustler Store (actual store, not a strip club) and got some fun new toys. Now, I just need some gals to use it on. I'll probably post up a collection of equipment sometime soon.


2/12/2012 11:00:56 AM

Finally turned 21. Anyone get me a gift?


1/21/2012 10:45:38 PM
Just finished watching Black Hawk Down. I had forgotten how much of an emotionally moving movie it is. RIP, my brothers in arms who died that day.

12/16/2011 10:43:19 PM

High heels. Because nothing screams dominant like shoes that further enhance the objectification of your body and make it harder for you ladies to flee the dominant sex.


12/7/2011 8:45:16 PM

Feels so satisfying to be working again. First day in the store. Tiring. Back and feet are beat up after standing for 9 hours but it's a good hurt and I'm looking forward to my first paycheck as a Manager.


11/26/2011 12:08:53 AM

I take such pleasures in pointing out to so called "superior dommes" that their profile pictures make them look like submissive sluts and that they clearly aren't superior if they can't spell, capitalize, or punctuate correctly. Lackwits.


11/10/2011 3:10:18 PM

Going to be at the Gamestop on Vann Drive tonight for the midnight release of Skyrim. Whoo! Can't wait! I don't think I'm gonna sleep for a few days. :D


11/10/2011 1:26:44 PM

So I turned on my speakers and grabbed the prong to plug it into my computer. Only, when I grabbed the prong, it started picking up a radio signal and broadcasting it over the speakers...


10/27/2011 9:55:45 PM

Hot damn! World Series Game Six! That was intense! Amazing comeback by the Cards to win it in the 11th. One of the greatest World Series games ever played.


10/23/2011 8:32:58 AM
Vodka and Taco Bell are not friends.

10/8/2011 7:54:02 PM
Spell saggin backwards and find out why they like their pants that way.

9/19/2011 2:56:18 AM

Why do people get so hung up on apologizing over the stupidest shit? Why do you feel compelled to say, "I'm sorry," when someone gets a papercut, runny nose, flat soda, or itchy ass? Save your sympathy for the important shit so it can actually sound genuine. Yeah, I had a flat tire. That sucks, but guess what! I changed the fucker because I know how to. My nose was running so I wiped it. My balls itched so I scratched them even though I was in a fucking bank!

 

When my grandpa died back in June, and people were sympathizing, I'm appreciated it. I needed that because I loved my grandfather very much and mourned his death. I still tear up when I think about it. Same as when I found out I was getting discharged from the Army. That hit me hard. It truly was a calling for me.

 

But my point is, save your emotions for something that deserves them.


9/11/2011 2:55:01 AM

Hard to believe it's been 10 years already since that horrible day. I ask that today that everyone ignore those who would disrespect and/or belittle the military and this great country it defends. Instead, thank the members of the Armed Services and remember those people who died ten years ago and have died between now and then. Proud Veteran! Hooah!


8/18/2011 12:25:41 PM

Four months and 4 days until my 2 year mark of being a member on CollarMe. Doesn't seem to have been so extensive a time.


8/1/2011 6:50:14 AM
Just finished watching The Girl Next Door, a 2007 film adaptation of the book by the same name that is based on the murder of Silvia Likens. A very good movie. It stands a good chance of turning your stomach, but I highly recommend you watch it.

7/31/2011 1:44:06 PM

Crazy smile? Check! Crazy eyes? Double check! Incoherent, random babbling of a genius who wishes to give an impression of total insanity? Maybe later, when I'm bored enough.


7/31/2011 3:02:14 AM

I tawt I taw a puddy tat! I did! I did taw a puddy tat!


7/22/2011 1:28:22 PM

Back in West TN, trying to find work and a new sub/slave. But work is more important to me. Gotta pay my bills, after all.

Also, it irks me to no end when the people of this site render their journal illegible by using a text color and a background color that when combined are practically indistinguishable. What makes you think that black text on a black background can be decyphered, you lackwits?

All you mother fuckers make my eyes hurt when you say read my journal and then make it so difficult to do so. Please, do the world a favor, and either leave the text black and the background white, or just delete your profile and go die.

Can you read that? Regardless, now you know how I feel.


7/12/2011 2:09:08 PM
Well, it's set pretty much in stone. I'm going back to Tennessee. Only way I could stay in Florida would be with a miracle like finding a winning powerball ticket.

7/6/2011 12:48:47 AM
I hate the area I'm in for BDSM. There is no scene in the Panhandle. The only thing I've found is a defunct website to a Pensacola group.

7/4/2011 12:29:03 PM

Happy Independence Day to all my fellow Americans. To everyone else, enjoy your Monday. :p


5/24/2011 2:13:02 PM

Yesterday was a good day. I spent the day hanging out with a friend. Tried smoking hookah. Very interesting and fairly pleasant experience. We went to see the new Pirates movie. I highly recommend it. And, I went to my first sex shop. They didn't have thumb cuffs, which disappointed me. Then, at the day's end, I tied her up and drove her over to her boyfriend's to introduce him to her fetish. Apparently, he took it very well and enjoyed himself thoroughly. It's always nice to help a friend out.


4/25/2011 3:57:38 PM
Feeling ill. Thinking it's strep throat. How pleasant.

4/13/2011 7:46:02 PM
Good to have internet back in my room. Uploaded some new pics and browsed like a psycho.

4/5/2011 5:35:32 AM
Had to delete my primary profile picture and can't directly upload to the site from my phone. Something I plan to remedy soon, once I find some free local wi-fi.

3/1/2011 1:53:44 PM

Today's interesting tidbit: The song, "Mary Had a Little Lamb," is anecdotal in reference to prayer in school.


1/2/2011 6:34:16 PM

40 days until I turn 20. Anybody gonna give me a birthday present?


12/31/2010 10:57:38 PM

Hope everyone is having a Happy New Years. Party hard and remember: safe, sane, and sober, the 3 Tenets of BDSM.


12/25/2010 1:50:19 AM

Something I noticed the other day: My initials, S.A.M., are also the first letters of Sadism and Masochism. Cool coincidence.


12/4/2010 8:03:57 PM
Got a sore throat and feeling feverish. I better be well by Monday. I ain't getting dropped from training for some bs like strep throat.

11/24/2010 9:23:10 PM

The worst thing about having a brand new pair of hinged handcuffs is having nobody to put them on.


11/16/2010 7:35:31 PM

It's really quite annoying to me. I start talking to people and I'm afraid that I'm going to put them off or scare them away by being too enthusiastic or seeming fake in my eagerness. I know that it's a problem sometimes. But I can't tell when it is or isn't. This paranoia, this insecurity, stems from my issues with social interactions with other people, especially females, and my past relationships.

The common saying is, "Be yourself." Well, what if yourself is too outside the norm. I try to act somewhat normal, but I'm not capable. It irks me. And then, when I act true to my nature, I scare people away. I've had a very few friends who have stuck with me through thick and thin. I have had fewer relationships where I appealed to my S.O. for the long-term. But, they always hurt me. They leave me or cheat on me. It's driving me up the wall.

And the worst part of it all, I realize it's a bit of an emotional phase for me. In a few days, I'll feel fine and dandy. And after a few more weeks, or getting screwed over or blown off by a date, I'll be here again, right back where I started. It's quite a conundrum that I look forward to solving one day by finding the right woman for me and making her mine, forever.


11/13/2010 4:06:21 PM

Been in Florida for a month now. Nice place to be. Kind of boring on the weekends.


10/18/2010 6:01:19 PM

Posted a picture of my new tattoo. Got it Friday. It's on my right pectoral. Enjoy.


10/12/2010 1:54:07 PM
Finished clearing today. Head to Florida in the morning. Can't wait to drive my car again.

10/8/2010 7:27:08 AM
Got my orders yesterday. Making the move to Eglin on Wednesday. Clearing the base today and Tuesday. Four day weekend. Anyone wanna hang out?

9/18/2010 5:21:46 PM
"War is an ugly thing, but not the ugliest of things. The decayed state of moral and patriotic feelings which thinks nothing is worth war is much worse. The individual who has nothing for which he is willing to fight, whose only concern is for his own personal safety, is a miserable creature who has no chance of being free unless made and kept so by the exertions of better men than himself." -Author Unknown

9/12/2010 2:33:35 PM
Misogyny. Quite an interesting word. Quite an interesting feeling. I think it's part of why I'm so angry, because I don't have some slave or sub to release my aggression and sexual tension on. I want to make a female feel pain and torment before I use her to get off.

9/11/2010 10:21:36 AM
9/11/2001-9/11/2010 Today is a memory of a tragedy. 9 years ago, today, thousands of people were murdered in a horrendous and shocking act. Today is to remember the losses of those around us and of those we've never met. But it's also something that drew our country together to defend against a threat to all of us. A day that made us stand up for our values. That day is part of why I am where I am right now. Why I've dedicated my life to being the best Soldier I can be, in one of the worlds most dangerous jobs, to help keep my fellow servicemen and women, my country, my family, my fellow citizens, and all others who need such protection safe from harm. You may think that the War on Terrorism is something we shouldn't have done and need to stop now. You may think I'm throwing my life away for a pointless cause. But I don't care because I'll still give my life in combat to save your life, thousands of miles away.

9/10/2010 9:51:40 PM
Am I just annoying to talk to or something? If you don't want to talk to me, if you don't want me to talk to you, let me know. It doesn't take that much effort to send a short message saying such. Don't just ignore me! It's fucking disrespectful, rude, and insulting!

7/20/2010 5:31:49 PM
I need to upload a new pic. One of me in my ACU's (Army Combat Uniform). I look pretty sharp lol. A venus flytrap has to have the honey to attract the flies. 

7/9/2010 9:20:45 PM

So it seems that no matter where I look, or if I just let the love come to me, or if I just try being something more with a friend, it only ends in heartbreak. This latest girl, well, she was the perfect one. Quite literally perfect for me. Then she just never'd me. But she was honest. A clean break heals quickly. But I'd rather never feel broken at all. It just happens all too often but I can't stop looking for love. I can't just find some random sub or slave and not have any emotional connection to her. And I don't wish I could do so. It's just that after so many heartbreaks in so little time, I feel nauseated, abused, unappreciated. Part of me wants to just disassociate from her completely, but I just can't leave her be, even though I know nothing will ever result.


7/6/2010 8:07:24 PM
So, tomorrow is my 19th day of training here at Redstone Arsenal. It's pretty chill around here in comparison to the rest of the Army. But the training, it pushes you beyond your limits, physically and mentally. EOD ain't no job for dummies lol. I passed my first test today. I'm one of two people in a class of eighteen to make a 100, while six people failed. Though you have to make an 85 to pass lol. Still accursedly single but I don't really have much time to look. I'm up at 0430, I work till 1630, and lights out is at 2130. Weekends are a whole lotta do nothing but usually all the civilians are out with their friends having a good time. And nobody I currently talk to has a mutual interest, so I'm just taking it slow and playing it by ear. Why rush when I can get the pick of the litter?

4/6/2010 8:41:16 AM
Well, I'm shipping out for the Army. Expect me to be online again around the end of June. Leave me love.

3/16/2010 9:41:22 PM
Well, after 3 days of talking to her I woke up to a message from her telling me she's too hung up on her ex to be my sub. They're still fucking for crying out loud. What happened to break-ups meaning that you could still be friends but that was it? Regardless, I'm available yet again, so talk to me!

3/14/2010 9:46:15 PM
Too all interested submissives, I am currently courting a local submissive that I met on this site. I have no interest in a polygamous relationship. I am only interested in having a relationship with her right now.

12/24/2009 10:38:56 PM
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!! Who wants a stocking stuffer?

12/22/2009 4:37:58 AM
20091222-0634 Hours: Well, I started this page a few hours ago and am liking it so far. I need to eat soon. It's been over 12 hours since my last meal and I have had another sleepless night. Hopefully I will find a girl to cuddle and help me sleep. About to go reheat some food. Leftover supper for breakfast. Got a job again. Work tonight at 1600 hours. These wages aren't worth the one hour drive each way, but they're all I can get for now. End: 0637 Hours

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 Age: 30
 South Africa