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I've been asked this question before which I feel is a stupid question but I've been asked if I'm a trained slave. What the hell is a trained slave? You either are a slave or you're not. Yes I'm aware that when a slave and a Master mesh she will be trained for HIM but otherwise what is she trained for or better yet, again, what is a trained slave? That makes no sense to me. I'm sorry but if you have to "train" someone to be a slave to be obedient and all that then how is she a slave? I believe slavery comes from the heart and it's who you are. You don't have to be "trained" to be a slave. Frankly the word slave is clearly defined, look it up. It's not what someone is trained to be. Grant it there are many of those so called Doms or Masters who love to train because it's some sort of fetish or kink to them. "Ohhh let me have her do stupid meaningless shit to prove herself so I can get my rocks off and it's the only way I feel powerful" but you're not a real Master if you do that. You're just some dime a dozen freak and you don't stand out from all the others. Anyway, if you know how to be a Master and you have trained to be one (not just call yourself that because I can do that too you know) then you should know a slave doesn't have to be trained to be a slave, silly. You have to determine she is a slave first by *gasp* talking to her and then after the mutual interest is on train her to be YOUR slave. |
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The Master I describe in the quote on my profile exists. He really does exist. I found Him once, lost Him for a while, but He's back and now we are together forever. Yes we met on this god awful site that many people say is full of fakes. Just be patient. Don't put yourself out there as some freakazoid otherwise you will be treated as such (unless thats what you want). With names like "cum dumpster" and "slutslave" for example, how do you expect to be treated? Master has encountered and assisted many subs and slaves on here but in an attempt to assist me during a time I was feeling lost we fell in love. He says I was articulate, serious as to who I am, not some damn freak, and looking for the real deal. He says I stood out from all the rest that offered themselves too easily (I gave Him a hard time lol). After almost a year of happiness and a few months in between of sadness and loss we are planning our future. He even proposed! So subs/slaves don't give up and if you're really serious about being a slave and finding that Master to love, honor and care for you, to respect you and value you as His most prized possession, treat yourself as such and you shall be treated the same in return. Much love :) |
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You know when you're feeling so happy after being sad for a long time and you just want to share it with the whole world and when you do you don't shut up about it and start irritating people? That's how I feel right about now. |
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I love how vanillas, straight people, etc live a "life" and everyone else live a "lifestyle". I'm sorry but this isn't a lifestyle for me. It's my life. It's who I am. It's who I will always be. I didn't just wake up one day and say "hey I think I'm gonna be a slave now!". So no this isn't some lifestyle for me. |
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To trust and to surrender is most sacred. I have become a slave of my own inner divinity. By relinquishing control, I can find freedom, and be the person
I am. Life is real only then, when 'I AM'
-Gurdjieff
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Had a fantastic time at our local munch. Nothing being around like minded people who don't judge you and accept you just how you are. I will always support the community |
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To me being owned equals to being loved in the deepest sense. There is no better feeling in the world than having your Master on your mind all day and he's the last thought on your mind at night. You long to be in his protective arms and only see the world through his eyes. Every day you learn something new from his teachings. The sound of his voice sends shivers down your spine. When he commands, you obey immediately. You can't ever imagine displeasing him and the harshest punishment for you is knowing he's disappointed. He makes you smile, not cry. You worship the ground he walks on. You hang on his every word. You tell yourself how lucky you are that he chose you to be his and for that reason you continue to prove yourself to him daily. There is no greater love than the love between a Master and his slave. |
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I have probably written about this before but feel I should again. This is about limits between a Master and his slave (not to be confused with the limits between a Dom and his sub...HUGE difference). There are many out there that feel that if a slave states she has no limits then that means she is willing to be used, abused, tortured etc. No no no. Grant it I'm sure there are people out there that think this is fine and dandy. That's great for them, but a no limits slave does not always mean that. In my opinion, it means that the limits are set by her Master (I know there are male slaves and Mistresses but I'm typing this on my phone so for the sake of sanity I will refer to slaves as she and Master as he obviously). This means that she is careful in choosing someone who is not sick and demented (in a bad way), someone who is there to guide her, let her grow in her slavery. She is proud to belong to him and has such a strong love and trust in her Master that she cannot fathom setting any kind of limits. She will cheerfully obey and do anything for him. Now if one starts a M/s relationship where the Master hears the words "no limits" and starts going buck wild on the slave how on earth is she going to love and trust him? Again I understand some people like that or are not looking for something long term. But for those seeking long term and the beauty that is M/s, establish the trust, the bond, the admiration, get to know each other, be proud that the slave has the potential to have no limits for her Master and never ever break that trust by cutting off the tip of her little finger, blow torch her or whatever it is some people do. |
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It really annoys me to no end when people post on here that nobody is real and that slaves are fake and blah blah. I think everyone on here is real, in their own way. There is no set rule on how a slave should be. It all depends on that slave and the dynamic she's used to, her desires etc. Just because she's not what YOU think a slave should be like doesn't make her fake. Maybe she just doesn't like you or you are not what she needs. Take the loss and move on. |
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it longs to hear your words
Your wisdom it craves
it gave You trust and control
its devotion to You is great
for You are the one it looks to
for guidance and advice
You are the one it was meant
to serve and obey
as it kneels before You
it worships You
for you are its God and Master
I don't remember where I saw that quote originally but it always speaks to me. That's how a slave should feel about her Master. She should love and worship Him not be in fear of Him
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You don?t love a slave because she is beautiful, she is beautiful because You love her - author unknown |
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A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey her Master at all times and then submits to the will of her Master at all times. A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience. In my opinion, a submissive retains freedom of choice and a slave gives her freedom of choice to her Master |
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To have someone give you control of their bodies and minds, to be entrusted with the responsibility to take care of them, to have someone willing to suffer for you, to forsake pride and dignity to please you... what other gift in this world can possibility equate to that? And more importantly, what makes you worthy to receive it??-author unknown |
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How can I tell You how I feel
When I seek You and You look deep inside me
Reaching deep within my soul
How can I tell you how I feel
When I'm graced with Your command and I cheerfully obey,
At Your mercy while I quietly wait for the next one
How can I tell You how it feels
When I hear Your voice, and without thought,
My body and soul sink deeply into full submission
How can I tell You what it means
To this slave who has been lost for so long, to be given a place,
To be allowed to worship You and be the center of my universe |
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"The man who is proudly certain of his own value will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer, because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut." - Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged |
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I saw this somewhere and thought it was beautiful:
it longs to hear your words
Your wisdom it craves
it gave You trust and control
its devotion to You is great
for You are the one it looks to
for guidance and advice
You are the one it was meant
to serve and obey
as it kneels before You
it worships You
for you are its God and Master
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I don't understand when people ask what my limits are. I mean I can understand if I were a play or scene sub when it's based on playing or whatever it is y'all do but when you're supposed to be someone's property why is that question asked? Being someone's property is being someone's property point blank. I don't see anything I own trying to tell me what it doesn't like. This is why it's so important to get to know your potential Master completely before deciding to be his slave. Everything should be laid out on the table from the get go. Make sure he's mentally stable because if you go and decide to be his slave and you don't know how he operates you will end up putting all kinds of limits on him. There has to be so much trust and communication that when the time comes that you become owned by that person you will trust that you will never have to say no to him. I know many will disagree with me but I'm sorry. A slave is a slave is a slave. You have the privilege of choosing your Master. Choose wisely. |
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If the words "what are you into?" in any part of your messages I will not speak to you. I just won't. |
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I love how someone tells me he doesn't believe in labels yet he has the word switch as part of his screen name. |
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I love when people that see my name on here ask the question "how loyal are you?" I'm aware this is just a way to try to get me to describe myself in more details and frankly it won't work. I just tell them "you either are or aren't loyal" That usually shuts them up. I will not get into any details explaining to complete strangers how I served, what I did for my Master or anything remotely similar to that. I will not contribute to your computer jackoff session. |
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This is so odd. Not kidding about 90% of the guys that I asked what happened with their last slave tell me the same story. That they had to release her because she had to go back home to take care of a sick relative. Do they all gather and decide on answers to specific questions? |
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Damn you Sarah Mclachlan (sp?) with your animal cruelty commercials. |
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Him: what type of punishment do you enjoy
Me: why would anyone enjoy punishment
Him: that's not what I asked you
Me: I was trying to save you from my wrath. Be thankful
Him: what wrath?
Me: just saying
Him: so what type of punishment do you enjoy?
Me: I'm human so if I'm punished I'm not going to enjoy it
Him: why not?
Me: because it's punishment
Him: punishment can be pleasurable
Me: so how is that punishment if it's pleasurable?
Him: it will awaken all your desires
Me: so let me get this straight..I will want to be punished, purposely misbehave so I can get punished, so it will awaken all my desires? That makes no sense.
Him: yes my pet
Me: so I'm a dog now?
Him: not a dog but a cherished pet
Me: a cherished pet(dog)that acts stupid so she can get punished in order to awaken desires. That sounds like a very unstable person to me
Him: is that you?
Me: do I sound unstable?
Him: so what's your hidden desire?
Me: *sigh* |
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I love how "Masters" send their slaves to befriend other slaves in order to join their oh so happy homes. I put it like this. If the guy needs a girl to get another girl then he's not much of a guy to begin with. |
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Having some much needed wine to end a wonderful day of work. In a good mood but I'm sure some fantastic person will ruin that shortly with a creepy or dumb message. Never fails |
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Sub boys on here scare me... |
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I'm so glad I use this site on my iPhone and able to see who's viewing me. It would drive me nutso to not be able to. Hope they fix it soon for the web users. |
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I'm confused. I just read a journal entry that states that a sub/slave likes a certain thing done to her and would like someone to include it as a punishment. Correct me if I'm wrong but if you like it how is it punishment? |
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I want to know your views on being "under consideration". Is this something that the Master decides or is it a mutual thing? I believe both are under consideration in a sense. Once a Master decides she is the one then she must prove herself but he also has to prove himself to her. Then again if she agrees to be put under consideration then she has already decided he is the one for her. Many disagree with me though |
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To the Masters. Don't you want to know how and a potential slave was formally trained? I ask because a guy told me that I was focused too much on the past because I told him about my former training. I'm not a Master and correct me if I'm wrong but wouldn't they want to know what they're working with? I'm not focused on my past. I simply wanted to let him know what my experiences were and how much knowledge I have. Insecure much? |
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Had a heated conversation with a "Master" today. What else is new lol. He says that Masters can do anything they want to their slaves. I said yes but there should be a purpose to it like discipline, punishment, etc. He disagreed and said that a Master shouldn't have a reason. I said then you're not a Master but a mere Dom. I told him that a true Master has a big responsibility in owning a slave and should think of her as his prized possession. Yes he can do as he pleases but there should be a purpose be it to test her devotion, to train her to his liking etc. He got so mad and said that I wasn't a real slave (something I hear every day from the fakers). A slave shouldn't live in fear of her Master. A slave should be eager to please always. That's how you get loyalty and devotion. Yes you can indulge your damn fetishes but prove yourself to be worthy or your ownership will be a revolving door. |
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I get a lot of offers for a slave to cook, clean, do laundry etc. Um I do that every day at home. How will that make me a slave? Will I feel different if I do it for a "Master"? I doubt it. I'm not saying I won't because this is a "normal" thing for me. The thing that worries me is if this is all that needs to be done. Is there anything else that the Master can bring to the table? He can try to "control" by saying clean this and do that but is that really control or just adjusting the time that I would do something I was planning to do anyway. I hardly call that a Master |
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I really wish there was an option here that one could check saying they're looking for a Master. The only option is looking for dominant men. A Master is so much more than a dominant man. |
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Well today is my Friday so I'm pretty happy about that. Have the rest of the week off..what to do what to do. I'm sure I'll figure something out. Have had to learn to make my own decisions so I will decide how to spend my week. It's still not that easy after months of having decisions made for me, but I have no choice (no pun intended). It's either learn how to make them on my own or just cease to exist. There's no middle ground here. |
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Was invited out tonight but I just feel so blah that I prefer to stay home and keep feeling blah. I'm normally an outgoing person but lately life has been so mundane. I have no motivation |
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Great time at the munch. It was so good to be around friends again. It felt amazing to be out and socialize and forget all that has happened. |
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TGIF! Having a nice relaxing evening. Might hit the local munch tomorrow if work doesn't get in the way. Things are looking up! |
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Local munch is in a couple of days. Haven't been to it in a couple of months. It will be nice seeing my peeps again. Good food and good convos. And maybe a beer ;) |
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I spent the day doing absolutely nothing. Just laid around and relaxed. Someone told me a slave shouldn't be like that. That a slave has to be running around doing things all day. I guess the majority of the human population are slaves too |
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Can a slave be in love with her Master and vise versa? I ask this because I guess in true slavery a slave is a slave is a slave. No feelings no nothing. The Master is rude and evil and could care less about the slave. At least this is what I was told by a Master today. I will respectfully disagree. Although I agree that's how slavery was a couple of hundred years ago, we must be realistic. Those that can embrace slavery as it is in this life that we all love so much can tell you that a deep love and connection can develop between a Master and a slave (or Mistress and slave of course). To entrust someone with your entire being, to give your all to that person, to take that gift that was given to you and just love it, there is nothing like it. Grant it I'm sure the traditional slavery exists in secret locations, whether willingly or not, but I don't consider myself less of a slave if I prefer to know I will be eating three square meals a day and I'm not afraid of my Master possibly killing me. |
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I'm sure this has been said before but you guys kill me with your "domly" pics. You know the ones with the stern looks trying to look all scary. Oh and the ones that are even better, the ones holding a paddle. It cracks me up! Are we supposed to be scared?? Newsflash..many on here are kinky and are NOT afraid of your paddles or stern, scary glares. Why don't y'all try standing out from the others and maybe smile? You'd be surprised. |
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I'm feeling so darn good today that I think I'm going to have myself some wine and relax. Tomorrow I am going to fire up the grill. Got some fireworks and will be setting those off like a little kid. I am off work all week. Can life get better? Yes it can but I'll take it the way it is. |
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I have spoken to many people that have a huge problem with a slave being micro managed. Some say they don't have time for that and some slaves turn their noses at it. I think it's a beautiful thing. To leave your entire existence in your Owner's hands. To live only because He allows you to live. To be who He wants you to be. I miss that terribly. |
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I'm feeling a little better today. Have a new outlook on life and have had nice conversations. Instead of sad now I feel angry about what happened. I don't want to sound conceited but it's not my loss. I take comfort in the fact that I did nothing wrong. One day his loss will be someone's gain as this experience will make me even a better slave, I guarantee it. |
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This site is full of crazies but also has a good amount of very nice people. Thank you all for your support today. I wouldn't be able to make it without you. |
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Tough day but I will get thru it. I always do :) |
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I am dreading tomorrow. Former Master disappeared a week ago but I was still following the schedule He had for me. You see He got me used to Him making all my daily decisions. I made no decisions. I kept following the schedule but decided (yes I made a decision lol) to throw the schedule away and not follow it anymore. I am beyond terrified because I really don't know if I'll be able to do this but I have to close that chapter and move on. I have to be strong and try to decide on my own what to wear, what to eat etc. It's agonizing |
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I've been a slave for a year now but God it seems like longer. In that year I was made to question myself by being called "too obedient", made a HUGE mistake by allowing someone very inexperienced to almost permanently scar me, broke a couple of hearts and had mine broken in a million pieces. But you know what, I wouldn't change any of it for the world. All that I have experienced in the past year has taught me something and for that I'm grateful. I haven't run for the hills which means this is where I belong..this is my life. The right Master for me will find me. I have learned patience..He will find me |
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Slave abandonment. This is something that happens more times than anyone could imagine. It's never easy whether the slave was with the Master for a long or short time. The bond that is established in a M/s relationship makes the slave being abandoned feel lost, confused, hurt and basically in complete agony. It doesn't matter whether the relationship was established under constant communication or just the occasional meet..it still hurts terribly. You go thru a grieving period where there are a lot of emotions. You feel scared at first because you don't know if he's dead or alive. Then you feel anger at the fact that he did this to you. That he just left and cut communication without so much as a warning. Many never feel this will happen to them because they held their Masters in such high regard. No he's not like that. But the reality is it happens. One must eventually pick themselves up and move on. Yes with time it gets better but it changes you forever. It makes you more weary of others seeking your service. What if he does the same thing? For the slaves that have been through abandonment, I hear you sister. Mourn and mourn often. I know it hurts to think about it but it's the only way you will move on. Learn from this. Be a better slave and person from it. |
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So today I got a message from someone wanting to have a discussion about BDSM. I told him I'm not into BDSM. He asked if I was vanilla and said he would train me. I told him I'm not vanilla I'm just not into BDSM. I told him I'm a slave. He said you're a slave and you're not into BDSM? I said that's right. He seemed confused. Why is that confusing? So slaves have to be into BDSM? Enlighten me because I'm the one that's confused now. |
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I know I have spoken about this before but I need to speak about it again. The topic is the idea that because someone is a slave they have to address ALL Masters with a specific type of respect. Grant it I think everyone deserves respect as long as the other person is also giving it, but what I mean is that Masters think that all slaves have to be like "Yes Master Sir" or things like that. First of all, you're not MY Master and second of all, who appointed you Master? Did your mama give you the name Master? No? Then I will address you by the name your mama gave you thank you very much. Not saying I won't be respectful as I am by nature very polite and nice, but I'm like that with everyone, not because you say you're a Master. However, if there is someone that I'm considering as a potential Master then I will follow protocol to a tee since I am aware I have to prove myself worthy of Him. But seriously, I'm not gonna call just anyone Master or follow all these ridiculous protocols if I don't even know you. Do y'all have any idea how many messages from Masters I receive in a day?? I would go crazy! Just putting that out there :) |
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I used to say the slave's prayer every day when I got to work. I stopped because now it just makes me sad... |
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I saw this on another profile and thought it was a perfect explanation of what a slave is:
What Is A slave? A slave is far beyond what most people believe. A slave serves, she is pleasing perhaps, exudes her joy in all she does. A slave lives, eats and breathes her submission. A slave feels the fire deep in her belly, for her it is not a choice, she simply is. A slaves first and only consideration is in pleasing her Master. If it pleases Him to beat her, she is grateful, for she has pleased Him. If it pleases her Master to starve her, she is grateful, for she has pleased Him. A slave is nothing, has nothing, except what her Master allows. she has no thoughts except what He allows her to think. A slave does nothing except what her Master allows her to do. she revels in His total and absolute Mastery of her. A slave has attained true freedom from her total and absolute submission to her Master. she begs for His Mastery and she lives for it
A slave, (IMO) is defined not by what she'll consent to sexually or masochistically, but by the degree of love, dedication and devotion to her Master with the intent to give her all, and to withhold nothing. A slave may not like what she's told to do, but through her tears, anger and even doubt, she will honor and fulfill the needs, commands, desires and wishes of the one person in the world whom she believes with every fiber of her being, will never betray her Master.
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