I think I've been able to finally figure out why I consider myself a switch. For the most part I've always considered myself more dominant when it came to relationships. I’d say about a 90/10 split. I know what qualities I look for in a submissive, or even someone I date, and I know what I want in the bedroom. There is something in me though that feels the need to see the other side of things. That’s where my submissive side comes in. Not from any real need to feel submissive, but because I feel it’s important to know what is going on in the head of someone I am with. If I can’t know where my limits are and attempt to push past them, how can I effectively know the limits of someone else and do the same?

As an example, I just bought a whole bunch of different toys that I am very eager to use on someone. However, before I can do that I actually feel the need to use them on myself first. I need to know that if I can take it, I know someone else can. How could I ask someone else to do something that I would not be capable of? That sounds insane to me.

At any rate, so far so good. I’ve only used a couple, but to excellent results. Can’t wait to get the rest.