Things to know about me:

1. I may be young but I'm far from an idiot. Do not tell me you have *insert number here* years of experience and expect me to not question that. Be very specific as to what those experiences are.

2. The "icy" in my username refers to those who have said I have an acid tongue or a tendency to be cold. Usually these are people who have provoked such as reaction from me.

3. Calling me "pet, slave, girl, sub, etc" or expecting me to call you "sir, master, daddy, etc" when you write to me will get you ignored. Treat me like I'm a human being and I will do the same, simple.

4. If you don't have patience or cannot deal with someone who is painfully shy, I am not the one for you. I have a tendency to laugh or sweat when I'm nervous. It's not meant to be disrespectful, just bad habits.

5. Don't treat me like a kid or think you know everything because of the number of degrees you have or age. Intelligence is measured in the exchange of ideas not by the number of degrees you've obtained. If you do not like being proven wrong by someone younger, I suggest you never try to pass something off as a fact (and don't use credentials that have no weight in the discussion).

6. I have some emotional baggage that no amount of BDSM can cure but some understanding and kind words would help.

7. I have been in this lifestyle about 3 or more years but I don't have much long term experience. I never lie about that and I seek someone who will give me that extra guidence.

8. If I don't find you attractive, don't try to use my weight against me. I lack confidence, self esteem and feel lonely at times but I don't settle. This does not mean I am shallow or I think looks are everything. I've met many men who were attractive but lacked personality and intelligence. The dom just needs to be easy on the eyes (I hear doms tell subs this all the time).

9. I am an extremely picky eater. If you have issues with that, it's beyond my control.

10. I cannot and will not relocate. I have things here I need to finish and I will never sacrifice my dreams and goals. If the doms loves me, he would not want me to either.

I had an oportunity to meet with my first couple and I have agreed to let them train me. I'm rather anxious about the next meeting and hope all goes well. Not sure if this will be an open relationship.

Today I met with a local guy I spoke to on another site. I got in the car and we talked for a bit. I’ll admit, I wasn’t too impressed with him but I tried not to completely brush him off. He told me he was looking for someone to please him, he wasn’t much into pain, wanted massages, etc. I told him if I considered a dom, there would have to be an emotional commitment and a possible relationship. If the guy just wanted sex, then I told him that I wouldn’t have ties to him. The reason is because if someone just wants me for sex, I might as well experiment with different people along the way.  I also explained that I enjoy a degree of pain (not sure to what extent yet) and don’t want just vanilla sex. I didn’t succeed in not appearing to brush him off since he decided him and I would not work out. Probably came upon that idea when I told him he didn’t seem like a dom. In one of the emails, he said I had more limits than he prefers but didn’t seem like he did much s&m wise. I just found his gripes with my limits ironic.

Oh well, I added him to the “no” pile and ready to meet the next person. I’m also very anxious to meet with a guy who I have exchanged emails with for months.

Well, my dom did not work out... so I'm back bitch! LOL gotta love Dave Chapelle!