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Bisexual Female Dominant, 62,  Michigan
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 Dominant Female


 Willing to Relocate

 5' 0"

 215 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Submissive Male

Sub/Sub Couples

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Massage (Getting)






 Breast / Chest Play




 Hair Pulling

 Mental Bondage

 No Strings Housework

 Obedience Training

 Orgasm Control


 Comedy Shows

 TV Sports

 Intellectual Discourse



 Volleyball  (Beginner)


 Art Galleries


 Fine Dining




 Musical Theater

 Anal Play


 Canes and Crops



 Serving as a Maid/Butler


 Speech Restrictions








 Diet and Exercise

 Lifestyle BDSM

 Blue Grass


 Classical Music

 Country Music

 Folk Music


 Seventies Music





 Garage Sales


 Auto Racing

 Curious About:

 Antique Shows

 Bird Watching


 Flea Markets



 Renaissance Faires


 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Alternative Medicine


 Art Collecting








 Gorean Lifestyle

 Old Guard



 New Age Music











 Amusement Parks

 Bar Hopping



 New Wave




 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

I want your mind. I thrive on power and control. I dont want to micromanage, I have a job, I dont need you to be one. But I want your mind, I want to own you, to make you need me, to want me. I thrive on power and control. Pretty simple. If you are mindless, we are not a good match. If you message me asking me how will I control you, or what will I do to you, dont waste my time. I am not here to be your fantasy fodder. I want more than one, but you will be mine. I am possessive but not jealous, know the difference. This site is what you make it. If you are looking for games, find someone else who wants to play.

The following still holds true.


I am at the point in my life where I want a real time real-life relationship. Not just online, not just a hook up, those all have there place in time I suppose, but I want the whole enchilada. I need a relationship built on something more than Kink, I want sensual, laughter, mundane, sexual, everyday kinda stuff, that feels so intimate, as long as you realize I am in charge )

I dont want a doormat, I want someone who practices the art of deference, the analogy I relate most to is Queenknight. I can be direct, impatient and yet at other times exceedingly patient, compassionate, wicked, loyal, and old fashion, I know I dont fit in a box and you would do well just to let me be me. I believe in safe-guarding the integrity of the relationship.

I love the country more so than the city. I enjoy waterfalls, bonfires, storms, target shooting-I really like guns.

I am not a good match for people who are much younger than myself. 10 perhaps 12 years...thats manageable, please dont tell me you are an old soul. I know old souls. Dont tell me age, is a number, it is a reality. I am a big picture person. Respect what I have said.

If you cant take the time to type whole words...if you believe u is a word. or gm means something to me, we arent a good fit. I believe I am worth the time and the effort.

Your emails are your initial introduction and contact with me. Intrigue me, show me that you have manners, intelligence, humor, show me something, but for heavens sakes show courtesy, respect, and act like an adult.

I do know this is an adult site, but it doesnt mean we have to behave like bores, sluts, or pigs. Show me you have class and taste.

If you are allergic to dogs and or cats we arent a good match.

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Journal Entries:
4/9/2018 7:23:46 AM
Flawed, cracked, perverted, odd, strange - the world would have us believe we are all those things and more.  Yet don't we even judge among ourselves?  

Some of the profiles make me just shake my head.  I read others and think who let you off the safety bus?  The profiles that start with there are no real people here make me smirk and I don't read past.  

Some smack of desperation, some clearly are searching and don't know for what.  Some are all about the kink, some all about the fantasy.  Some are truly all about the money.  But there really are real people.  

We are all flawed because we are human.  Cracked, a tad odd, but isn't it that that makes us unique.  When we find those that click beyond our lust on a level of connection that includes conversation and intelligence we find that which we can build on and call real.  

Keep the journey alive.  Don't settle.  Safe passage.  

1/1/2018 10:16:06 AM
Is anyone else excited?  Oh, you should you know what a grand opportunity you have been given?  It's 2018.  So many didn't get the chance to come into the New Year with us (no pun intended).  Have you picked a word for the year?  You should...something that will be your guiding word to go by.  Last year for me it was fierce.  It was my year to be fierce.  This year, well two words come to mind Enough.  No, not like I have had enough, although there are surely times, but I am enough.  Learn when it is enough, be enough, don't add or change.  Enough, great word.

Embark- doesn't that sound adventurous.  I can't wait to see how that unfolds.  

I am embarking on 2018.  Enough!   

12/10/2017 8:28:19 AM
When a Lady asks, requests, tells you and you have agreed,  to do something and gives you a timeline- do it.  Do you have any idea what you are saying when you don't follow through?  When you are given another chance, and you don't comply?  Do you have any idea what that says?  Your indifference, speaks much louder than any excuse, than any of your words ever could.  

It is your JOB and DUTY to nuture the flame of interest she is feeling for you.  To show that you are worthy, that you are a person of your word.  That you hold her in esteem, and truly are desiring to please, to win favor, but most importantly to EARN trust.  

Priority, Trust, Commitment will truly lead you far in life.  I hope some of you will take heed.  

12/7/2017 2:55:59 PM
A man who empowers me to be myself, and trusts me to do what is right for "us", and allows me to wicked....and delightful. 

A man who understand how I enjoy power, and yet understands that I realize that power is a responsibility and a gift

A man who is not a doormat, but truly my knight....

A keeper of the home

A man who knows I am a good keeper of the finances

That there are times when I don't want to make the decisions

A man who has paid attention and knows my preferences

A man who has heard me, valued me, and appreciates my attention to him

A man who allows me to value him.

Just thought I would bring this forward again.  

11/4/2017 4:29:01 PM
November, for those familiar with the Great Lakes, especially Superior, we have already had the gales of November come early.  I love the sound of the waves crashing.  It is awesome the power and force that can't be stopped.

So- I have been here nearly a year.  Play with me a game.  What's the strangest thing you have been asked?  Now think about the best thing you have learned.  I know people say there are nothing but "fakes" etc.  But that simply isn't true.  Is anyone else old enough to remember playing in the sand with sand sifters?  I liken this site to that.  You sift through a lot...but there are genuine people.  

I have been offered money to - cover people in feces, to put cigarettes out on genitals (I don't even smoke), oh how many of us have the - please black mail me plea?  One person offered to join Weight Watchers with Me because after all look at my picture.  I thought I would snort my soda I was laughing so hard.  

But I also have people message me if they haven't seen me in a while to check in.  To share a smile, or a giggle.  Some people actually read my journal entries.  A few ask me for my opinion on things.  It's a network approach.

In a blink of an eye, it will be Veteran's Day, then Thanksgiving, and we will be rapidly saying good bye to November, but I am trying my best to take a moment or two in the midst to be Thankful.   

Doesn't mean I don't want to beat people, some in kinky ways, others because they irritate me ;)  

Play safe, and remember you can afford compassion.  

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