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READ THIS ENTIRE PROFILE BEFORE CONTACTING ME
Ive been a lifestyle domme for 25+ years. I seek a mature-minded, unmarried, adult submissive male partner, who is, or can be, local to me, (south east Houston-Galveston Texas or relocatable and able to travel to get to know each other in the interim).
About me
I will not pursue you, I expect YOU to express your interest in me in an intelligent and respectful manner.
I hold advanced degrees and while I am a beach loving country girl on the weekend, I am a classy, world-traveled professional who is a deeply analytical, complex, and imaginative thinker. I am not interested in being your nurse or your purse or your mother. Im a Health conscious woman who is active, and while Im still a BBW, i am actively getting smaller and fitter. I am tall, intelligent, attractive, strict when it is needed, and sexy. I am seeking a life partner to grow old with. I also have a respectful balance for my everyday life responsibilities. I dont play hard to get I respond to all polite requests. I have no desire to chat about what I am going to do to you. Im not going to provide wanking fodder for you. I do not worry about kink compatibility as am a fully confident in the degree of submission I can inspire.
Im not into forced anything, but I can be very persuasive when needed. I am more interested in our compatibility outside of kink.
If I am interested, Please try to put your best foot forward if that does occur. You have permission to speak freely provided you are respectful. I am inundated with wankers who seek only to masturbatory material. I dont enjoy repeating myself. I dont do online play, Im not a pro, Im not seeking casual hook-ups but I occasionally travel for work and enjoy meeting others when possible.
Im financially stable, Im not going to support you. My kids are grown. Im not interested in married men. If I cant openly date you forget it. We have to connect outside of kink. Impress me with whats between your ears, I am fully aware of how kinky I can inspire you to be. Take some initiative and say hello.
Im into anything that gives ME pleasure. Done most of it. My hard limits are toilet play, castration, infantilism, body modification, and non-consensual activities.
I dont smoke, (despise it). I occasionally will have a cocktail, but not often. I dont do drugs, I dont have tats or piercings.
I enjoy service-oriented submission, body worship, face-sitting, milking, pegging, edging, massages, chastity, tease, denial, and supervised masturbation. I love lace, stockings, heels, and lingerie immensely. Im not into latex and typical fetish wear.
I enjoy being sadistic, but.There is a difference between punishment and funishment. Both will occur.
I lean to the left of center politically and while I consider myself to be a very spiritual person I rarely participate in organized religion.
I am searching for someone to grow old with, and someone who wants to be my partner in all areas of life.
Im not a player, dont need a harem, Im not into the public scene. Those days are long behind me. I will pop in on an occasional event now and then but I dont need others to validate my kink, and I value my privacy.
Im not willing to relocate at this time. Please dont be hesitant to say hello, if you are interested and serious about getting to know me.
About him
If your love and respect of women isnt inherently at the core of your being, then we probably wouldnt be a good match. Or, if I have to beat you to get you to do anything then youre not a sub,and Im not interested.
Only those looking for real honest-to-goodness loving kinky relationship.
He is between the ages of 50-60. (I will make small exceptions either end of the age spectrum).hsv+
He has his life together and is intelligent and communicative.
His equipment must be fully functioning. I am not interest in those with a micro penis, castration fantasies, or non-working equipment.
He should be financial stable and able to contribute at least 50 to the household should we progress to a shared household.
XXOO
Ms.Eden
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Deal breakers: alcoholics, Trump supporters, religious fundamentalists, people in the toilet play, and smokers. |
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Really would like to plan a holiday, while i don't mind traveling alone it would be so much more enjoyable with an intelligent sub companion. |
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It never ceases to amaze me the sheer number of people who message without reading profile, and who think FLR's are about what gets done to them. Seriously folks, this doesn't have to be so difficult. Simply read, converse, be polite and respectful. |
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The activity on this site has really dwindled. Might need to find something else |
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6 months after Harvey and repairs are almost done. 1 more week I hope. I'm one of the lucky ones as I didn't flood, but still had damage not covered by my insurance. Maybe life can return to normal soon |
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Just an FYI. If I receive a message from someone and they never viewed my profile I typically do not give them a second thought. |
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May 2018 be better than 2017, and may we have good health, prosperity, and find great lovers, and make happy memories. |
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It is so quiet on collarspace during the holidays |
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https://edenspeaks.tumblr.com/post/168061082668/an-open-letter-to-the-married-men |
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Please choose your profile photo carefully. It should be selling you as a multi dimensional person. It should be classy, not trashy, it can keep your face hidden and still do so. We dominant ladies have no desire to see what a whore you are unless that behavior is at our specific instruction. Seriously guys... ask for opinions from a female of you have doubts, but that 20 year old photo, that dic pic, that bondage pic tells us nothing about you as a holistic person today. If you opt to show your face, for heaven sakes you need to smile, be presentable and not be standing in front of a bathroom mirror in your undies. |
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Sore back plus insomnia, not a good combination |
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New blog post: https://edenspeaks.tumblr.com/post/167165512783/my-selection-process |
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God I wish I had a naked houseboy this weekend. |
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If you don't have enough energy to fill out a basic profile I'm probably not going to be interested in you because it sends the message that you really don't care then that you're only looking to have your
Fetishism needs met and that you're not serious about your submission or desire for a relationship. |
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https://edenspeaks.tumblr.com/post/157043187268/tell-me-more |
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Seriously fed up with men who think I should compromise my standards and be grateful for thier attention, no self respecting woman will put up with that shit. Not going to happen... |
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https://edenspeaks.tumblr.com/post/143700492328/and-so-it-goes-the-dos-and-donts-of |
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It never ceases to amaze me the lack of effort people are willing to put forth in getting to know someone. It also never ceases to amaze me the number of individuals who don't know themselves very well. Many want the fantasy and have no concept of the reality. |
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When a woman allows you the time to get to know her, don't waste it. |
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Happiness is ending the week with a full body massage |
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I could go for a cuddlefuck |
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home sweet home.. thankfully beat the airport chaos. Got home and immediately donated to the ACLU. |
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Just arrived in orange county... love newport beach,palisades., and it stopped raining!!! Yippee! |
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Delighted to see all these men at the woman's March |
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These 60 hour work weeks are killing me... I need a houseboy |
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I'm looking forward to an upcoming trip to orange county. Hopefully i can squeeze some r&r in between meetings. |
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Just discovered my bulk mail folder on here.... oh boy |
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I would like to strongly encourage everyone to watch the 4 episode documentary "The ascent of woman" on Netflix. It is excellent! And I promise you will learn something new with each episode. |
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Today was one of those horrible days in which I had to deal with a volatile employee after days like this I wish I could come home and take my frustration out on a submissive or be totally pampered by one or both. To be honest I don't even have the energy to beat anyone I think I will settle for some serious pampering. |
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New blog post
http://edenspeaks.tumblr.com/post/155310462178/transactional-dominance
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Every new years eve I take down the holiday decor and rearrange my furniture, and collectables. Unfortunately,I'm getting to old for moving the big pieces of furniture as much as I'd like to. Rainy and cold days like today require the companionship of a loyal slave with a strong back and supple mind.... and a bowl of homemade soup. |
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So sick of all the do-me boys with bad behavior |
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Here is hoping everyone that's on the naughty last gets there holiday spanking. |
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When you cold contact somebody you've never met, don't lead with your interests; demonstrate an interest in THEIRS. Since you've read their profile (you did read her profile, right?) there's often plenty of stuff there as a basis for a conversation. If you can, make sure what you're seeking is something they are seeking if you can. |
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So cold..and the constant titty hard'on from the cold is becoming painful. |
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I swear I've turned into my mother when it comes to cleaning. Now if only I had a strong helper to lift the furniture so I can vacuum under it... if only I had a dog who didn't shed. |
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Winter vacation has begun. Let the fun begin! |
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Tgif. What a stressful week this has been. I seriously need a slave whose can say/do... "I'll take care of that, you relax...I've drawn your bath, and will bring you a cuppa tea. What would you like for dinner?Is there anything else you would like?" I seriously work too damn hard. |
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For some reason this time off year always makes me want a long weekend in New Orleans strolling down royal street looking at antiques, listening to jazz, eating great food and engaging in some kinky fuckery. |
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You can tell is the holidays....there is alot less perving going on. |
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If i can't date you, I have no desire to fuck you, or play with you. |
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Nothing worse than having surgery on the arm you use to masterbate with... you have free time, good drugs but no skill... FML |
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Surgery a success, now i just need a houseboy to attend to my whims |
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Minor outpatient surgery tomorrow.. Wish me luck :) |
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I could go for a nice romantic date night.... followed by lots of kinky fuckery! |
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Please read. http://edenspeaks.tumblr.com/post/139303023268/tell-me-more |
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If you voted for that misogynist Trump, do not even consider messaging me. Your support of a racist misogynist is unacceptable and counter-intuitive to any stated desire to serve. In fact, it is a testament to your nativite and cluelessness, to the patriarchal challenges faced by women daily and renders you an undesirable to me. Nor, do you need to send me links expousing your views, and factually incorrectnews stories. I am not interested in having a battle of wires with an unarmed person.
I am by no means saying HRC wad perfect, I am saying your support of a man who openly opresses, objectifies and demeans women,and minorities is not acceptable to me and goes against what i have stated in my profile all along. If your love and respect and empowerment of women are not at the core of your being (& this is evidenced by your actions) than we would not be a good match.
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It you voted for that misogynist Trump, do not even consider messaging me. |
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I fail to understand why so many think that to be dominant one must be rude, abrasive, bitchy, and without class. That is not dominant, that is playing to the porn fantasy of what it is supposed to be. A natural dominant can simply smile and give you a look that weakens you and brings you to your knees. One does not have to be ill-mannered to illicit submission. For those of you who say "they should force you into doing your service", I would urge you to question your actual submissiveness. Submission it is not something that is forced, it is something that comes freely. And, if your respect and adoration of women in general is not at the core of your essence then you probably would not be a good candidate for me. |
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Why is it that all the subs I actually find interesting are married? |
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Adopting a new canine companion tonight.... very happy but nervous I hope we mesh. |
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So I've been talking to someone,... we seem to hit it off.. he tells me he is 7", sends me an obscure photo., I ask for one with a ruler, then get a thousand excuses as to why he can't. Classic stall tactics of someone who lies... he failed the first test of compliance to instructions ugh. I'm not a size queen but I detest liars. |
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Had a wonderful time at a party last night. Lots of laughing and shenanagins at the boys expenses. Cautiously optimistic with a few that I'm chatting with, but then the proof will be in the actions. |
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Today was a sad day. I had to put my beloved canine companion down. :( |
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New blog post:
http://edenspeaks.tumblr.com/post/151817072888/the-right-to-remain-silent
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Last day of vacation, looking forward to returning home, although i will miss all the tall and handsome Europeans |
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Dear douchbag who keeps creating profiles just to send me ugly emails calling me names. Thank you for setting the low bar. Your childish behavior only serves to let those who are respectful gentlemen shine.
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My bags are packed, only 2 more days until I leave for my eastern European holiday. I'm very excited to have a change of scenery,and experience some much needed culture. This past week I was stood up on a 3rd date with someone,and spent way too much time trying to get to know someone else, who thinks dominance and love is something you buy. This cookie isn't for sale. |
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Heat index was insane today 104 in my car. Antartica is looking more and more appealing. Instead of cfnm, I'm leaning toward just flat out nudism for all. |
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I have two blogs edenspeaks.tumblr.com is where I share my thoughts on a variety of topics related to this lifestyle, and ms-eden-tx.tumblr.com is where I reblog images that I enjoy. Perusing both with give you great insight into my mind. |
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My holiday can't get here soon enough, 10 more days until my next adventure. It would have been nice to have found a travel partner by now,but to be honest, I'm actually looking forward to not having to consider someone else's likes, and dislikes. This is my first trip with kids (mine are grown) or whining companionship that doesn't appreciate other cultures, and roughing it. |
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My holiday can't get here soon enough, 10 more days until my next adventure. It would have been nice to have found a travel partner by now,but to be honest, I'm actually looking forward to not having to consider someone else's likes, and dislikes. This is my first trip with kids (mine are grown) or whining companionship that doesn't appreciate other cultures, and roughing it. |
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The fly has been terminated...... now i just need a foot rub |
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This may sound silly,but right now all Iwish for is sometime who will kill this damn fly that has been in my house for 3 days. |
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I'm always amazed at the number of people who routinely check out my profile but never day hello. Dont be afraid, just be polite and say hello. |
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I'm always amazed at the number of people who routinely check out my profile but never day hello. Dont be afraid, just be polite and say hello. |
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Where have all the gentlemen gone? |
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If you're too lazy to read a profile, please don't expect a response, to a one line. "Will you crush my balls" email. So disappointed in the quality of emails.... :( |
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Seriously guys..... how hard is it to write a simple letter of introduction?... |
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I have experienced a plethora of rude, disrespectful, and outright creepy behavior lately. I refuse to give up hope, but do understand that the onus is on you to prove yourself to be worthy of my time and effort and not vice versa. |
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When asked to "Tell me more about you" I mean exactly that. I have a plethora of information posted about me. It is your job to convince me that you are someone I should invest the time in getting to know. Highlight our mutual interests, (outside of kink). The mere fact that you are "submissive" isn't enough. Let me know what you bring to the table as a companion, partner, friend. Sell yourself to me. I am not going to poke and prod you for information about you. If your profile doesn't say much then there is not much to talk about, unless you get the dialog going. I could care less how kinky you are, I am fully cognizant of how kinky I can inspire you to be. Show me your brain, and how it works.
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Kik is my preferred means of chatting, once we have chatted a bit and if I am interested in chatting more I will give you my kik and ask you to contact me there. If you don't have it.. download it. |
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My thoughts, and opinions can be found at edenspeaks.tumblr.com |
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FAQ:
- I am not sitting behind my computer waiting for someone to rescue me. I would like to meet someone who could have an FLR, that was full-time, but I could not promise that it would be 100% exclusive. Maybe 90%. but never 100%.
- MOST IMPORTANTLY, I’m seeking someone who fits into my vanilla life and who’s company I enjoy outside of kink. Impress me with your intelligence, not your sluttiness. I hold advanced degrees, am professional, smart, and have little tolerance for those who lack motivation and passion in life.
- I am 48, I am a BBW. This means I’m fat, but I’m not to be fetishedized for being so. I am sexy and confident in my skin. I am also tall, 5’ 9" barefoot and 6’’ 1" in heels. 32” inseam. I carry my weight well, and clean up quite nicely. It is impossible for me to be “thin”, and I’m quite content and have no complaints. I am active, and energetic, and typically have two speeds.. full speed ahead and dead-stop.
- I DO NOT DO ONLINE domination, I prefer real-time, face to face, service oriented submission. Online, really isn’t my thing so please don’t ask.
- There isn’t much I haven’t done or tried. I’m open to most things, but my hard limits are, toilet play, infantilism, and incest scenes. I don’t enjoy the “rack em and smack em” scene. I am an erotic sadist. I don’t enjoy the public scene anymore as I don’t need others to validate how I play. I don’t enjoy small micro penis’s, and I'm not a size queen, I need the average as a minimum.
- I do not engage in unsafe practices. I value my sexual health and that of my partner. While the fantasy of Creampie, and MMF is fun and great masterbatory fodder, in reality it would only happen with those who I know extremely well, and could trust implicitly.
- I do not force anyone to do anything they don’t want to do!
- I adore mind fucks and psychological dominance.
- I’m a feminist. but NOT a female supremacist. Be smart enough to know the difference. On my tumblr blog you will find several essays written explaining my thoughts on the subject as well as other opinions.
In case you’re wondering what I’m into:
- First and foremost, I’m into FUN! If it isn’t fun, why are we doing it? What I enjoy depends on the reaction I get from the person I’m with.
- What I enjoy with one, I may despise with another. but there are some things that I typically love. here is a short list of things that yank my chain and typically get my motor-running).
- Romance, kissing, and passion. The kind that says I’m hungry and need to feed off of you.
- Service to me. Massages, pampering, bathing, oral..
- Pegging, Tease/Denial, Chasity
- Foot worship, toe sucking, foot massages.. foot fucking, masturbating you with my feet.. Love it!
- Bend over… your ass is mine. (I Iove all forms of anal play, (except for gaping). I prefer not to break my toys, so that I can use them over and over again)
- Chasity, Edging, Teasing, Denial… need I say more.
- BEGGING… Oh how I love to hear you beg for things.. like to cum, to touch me.. to be fucked in the ass!
- Lingerie: on anyone, you, me, I love satin and lace. have a weakness for it
- Mind fucks….. are a terrible thing to waste.
- SEX!.. Love it.. I have a very high sex drive, despite be way post-menopausal, I typically masturbate daily, and would require service daily if possible.
- and of course BDSM
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I wrote this several years ago, but it still rings true today!
How I feel about submissive men:
Lately with the influx of all the 50 shades of Grey experimentalists into the kink community, it appears as if being a submissive male is something some men are ashamed of or feel the need to hide, and frankly it is upsetting to me. I wish I could grab you men and shake some sense into you, and tell you to be proud of being a submissive. It is that submission that makes you attractive. So many submissive men I know hide behind titles as switches, kinksters, etc … and outright tell me it is because of the backlash society gives them for being subs. Even those who are open about their sub nature wrestle with internal conflict over the subject.
Please understand that for many of us Dominant creatures, it is your ability to transcend the societal sex-typed dogma that is what makes you most desirable, and erotic. Our society is full of dominant men and submissive woman, you & I are exceptions, who have been able to transcend the societal gender boundaries.
Speaking as a dominant woman, your submissive nature does not conflict with your masculinity, nor does it make you less of a man. Hopefully, you are smart enough to love and serve those who cherish and respect your submission. Your submission is a gift, one that should empower you in some ways, when compared with other men, who are too arrogant to see the beauty and enlightenment that comes from surrendering to a woman. I get the need to protect egos from unwanted harassment, and there is nothing wrong with having a buffer against attacks to ones self-esteem. (I for one, do not like doormats). However, (and I speak only for myself) being submissive does not make you less manly in my opinion. It makes you compassionate,enlightened and more sophisticated, and demonstrates your own comfort within your self, and your commitment to independent self-determination.
There are many in the scene who will want to make you feel as if you are unworthy, take you and use you and give you nothing in return, and will laugh as you crumble. (Financial dommes in particular are good at this). It is hard not to judge dominants who behave in this manner. The plethora of these individuals scare many submissive men and cause walls of distrust to go up. It also reinforces bad & irresponsible behavior to those just getting started on either side of the D/s spectrum. I think this does a huge disservice to the kink community, and in my 20 years in the scene those who behave in that manner rarely find happiness.
Yes, you can still play those use me/leave me scenarios and have great fun, (I wouldn’t want to give them up)…but if you TRULY need to feel shame it can come from other things, but should never be felt for being submissive). Do you agree with my assessment?
Ms.Eden |
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