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Edahsetin

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I've really stopped looking on here for the most part. I'm leaving this profile up so that if your interested in getting to see whats inside of my head you can take a peek. First of all before I get into that though, to those that contact me, I'm not one that likes chats all that much for first contact. I prefer to pick and choose my words where I can, and a lot of times I find myself spending more time then I should figuring out what I want to say and how to say it. I've annoyed more then one person who's waiting for me to spit out lines of half thoughts rather then take the time to type out a paragraph. You'd be suprised how long the updated profile has taken all things considered. Also, if your going to contact me, don't just type 'hello' or something similar... a paragraph isn't that hard. I value intelligence, and if I'm going to talk to you I don't want to feel like I'm pulling teeth for any type of response at all. If your serious about getting to know me, prove it. I'm giving you more then enough for at least a paragraph. Now, here's the long version of who I am. When I was growing up, I simply allowed myself to be shy and keep to the shadows of life... simply watching things as they came and letting myself take things at a relaxed pace and have patience for things to come my way. As you might be able to guess, when I first discovered BDSM I was such a complete newbie and was absolutely horrible at figuring out myself. As such, I only really dabbled here and there into this kind of relationship and learned a bit more about myself, and what I was comfortable in doing. For all I knew I was just a nice guy that had this thread of something unknown in the back of my mind... and for a while when exploring this I thought I might be a switch or something... but I was just sitting on the fence while I came to terms with what this dark thread inside of me craved. As such, I did not fully realize that being dominant was what I wanted early on in life, I was just interested in a little bondage here and there... but its been about 5 years since I've been discovering this side of myself and I know a lot more then I did in the beginning. I would certainly not call myself extremly experienced, yet I am not completely inexperienced either. Most of my experience has come from online play for several years in which I have learned a great deal about the mental and emotional aspects of the lifestyle. Most importantly, I have discovered more of myself as well as learned the type of person mentally that would best compliment myself. My experence in real life is not as extensive. Most of what I did in real life was done before I felt comfortable in dominating someone, and so I did a poor job of it... I kept a tight reign on what I did to keep things safe and was a little too cautious.
Once I have found more of myself however, I found things completely different... the fear of what was inside of me was lessened and the ability to simply reach out and take control of someone else simply felt right... and when I actually began to embrace who I am inside, I was suprised at how easy it can be in some ways. Although you should know that I have not fully delved into the mind of someone else on a real time basis, and so I know that I will make mistakes from time to time, but everyone must grow and learn another person... and that comes with time. Over the years I have given thought over what kind of relationship would make me happy, and I have decided what I am looking for eventually will be a 24/7 relationship, and accordingly that might mean that I would lean towards someone that considers them a slave more then simply a submissive... but as a slave they would realise that I would not treat them as a doormat and appreciate the power that they are offering me over them. They would realise that while there will be lines that I won't cross, they will be save... although their limits will be pushed. That even while you want your life to be controlled your direction will be guided by a loving hand towards where I will wish you to go and let you use your mind to fill in the blanks rather then have every single step along the way micro-managed. That even when you are caused pain by hand or words that there is always love underneath. I value intelligence and want your intellgence to be reconized and your voice to have weight rather then be expected to serve like a robot. I expect to be able to carry on intelligent conversations with my slave, and even though my word may be final, I expect the person I'm with to at least be able to grasp and discuss alternative points of view even if they don't agree with it and are simply playing devils advocate. To be realistic, that same slave would need to realize that a 24/7 relationship isn't going to be acted out in the same way all the time... everyone grows over time, and life has a way of throwing things at you that you don't expect. To most people that look my way, most woudln't expect that I am dominant... and I'm sure most might even say I'm downright passive... but I'm of the view that one doesn't need to be an ass or be an 'alpha male' personality in order to be a dominant :) But that does mean that I'm going to have different moods and needs to be fulfilled by the relationship. There will be a few days at a time where I'm really mellow and not feeling dominant at all, and find the most tasking thing I have you do all day is snuggle up to me for a few hours. There will also be days where I'm feeling particularly controlling or harsh and while I'm not generally sadistic you may find yourself red from head to toe, and/or find yourself bound for half a day. Of course there's more to know about me then just what I envision my relationship to be. Like the simple fact that I enjoy looking at nature, and especially listening to the ocean or rain falling on the rooftop... and listening to that I sometimes just loose myself in thought. Sometimes I think I close myself off and reflect internally too much though, and I don't need to be around trees to do it, but that is not always a bad thing to consider the options. I like to take steps when I know where my feet will land. As such, I find it foolish for anyone that really wants to care for someone to collar them and take them into their lives quickly. A collar really is like a wedding ring... and in truth... a wedding ring can just be a really low key collar. Not every person is a match to another... and while the dynamics are different from normal relationships, there is still certain commonalities that are necessary between two people. Jumping into something with both feet tends to turn out badly, where even a slight amount of caution would have allowed a much better result. I would prefer sending emails back and forth for a few weeks, just to get to know someone... as well as to I suppose many in this lifestyle do too ;), and one of the things that I definately want is to have someone that is willing to wear the kinds of clothing that I enjoy seeing. Mainly what I enjoy is certain materials and the feel of someone underneath them, or just certain looks that are appealing to the eye. While I on occasion enjoy a more exotic look in private... I think that a sexy look can be a lot of different things be it a pair of jeans and a loose knit sweater worn in just the right way, or a pair of dress pants and a white blouse. For me, I don't need to see a lot of skin to appreciate a person's curves :) I'm not exactly an exibitionist, and so its obvious that my slave's state of dress would reflect how I feel. I tend to be a private person for the most part. Sometimes to the point of being anti-social most days I'm sure :). I am also generally soft spoken in the literal sense, where sometimes one might not hear me if they're not listening. I tend to be relaxed and easy going, and thats the way I prefer things. While I am not naturally dominant, it is my chosen path and that is the way that I like it. I feel it allows me to not only enjoy the submissive/slave that I am with, but enjoy the woman as well. My style of doing things is probably different then most... but its not a bad way, and I'm sure the person that I eventually control will prefer my style of doing things. I prefer to simply use a guiding hand and teach why and how I want something done a certain way, and simply expect them to use their intelligence to get done rather then micro-manage things. Am I too relaxed to really be strict? I don't think so... it just means that I'm going to be open minded to change, listen to an intelligent argument, and value initiative. On the other hand, if that intelligence that I value isn't used and things were done poorly, that guiding hand's role is going to change to one of punishment. I suppose a congratz is in order if you've managed to suffer through this entire profile and read all about myself. This doesn't cover everything by half, but it certainly gives a stepping stone of information to get started, and certainly gives enough to write to me about... be it my BDSM side, simply my vanilla side, or both.

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slavemeli
 
 Age: 21
 United Kingdom