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BDSM interaction creates a special space or bubble of energy in which the scene takes place. The bubble is the tension between the players; it is the spotlight on the dancers, one leads the other follows and the energy flows.

I'm an experienced Dominant, who is unattached, college educated and physically fit. I'm a non-smoker and light drinker who enjoys great food, wine and culture things.

I am interested in forming a D/s relationship with a submissive female who likely lives in the Minneapolis Area. She is interested in domestic discipline, hair pulling, orgasm control, hairbrush spankings, etc. She enjoys bondage and a moderate level of service and obedience. Most importantly she is willing to start where she feels comfortable and be guided into more advanced forms of play and a deeper relationship.

I tend form relationships with people who are: Adventurous and well-traveled. They are responsible, drug and disease free and believe in safe, sane, consensual play. I prefer non-smokers and light drinkers. Any body-type is OK, age is open too but I prefer 30-55. I am also OK with attached persons involved in open relationships or couples.

Recently moved from back to Minnesota after living for a few months in Northern Californina. I am active in the Kink community, a member of two local clubs and on the staff of a kink education group. I frequently attend munches, parties and other functions and can provide references if you like. I travel to California frequently and other places in the western half of the US several times each year. I welcome the chance to meet others in the lifestyle. I can provide references if needed.

I am very much a "real time" person. With rare exception, the people on my friends list are people I have met in-person and interacted with on a frequent basis.

If I've added you to my "Favorites List", I've looked at your profile and I am interested in communicating with you. I may not write immediately; if you like what you see, please feel free to send a message.

Here is way I like to meet someone new: Exchange some emails; then online-chat or phone call and finally meet for coffee, lunch etc. After that we can decide what we want to do. I'm a big believer in "No means No". If you respond with a "No thank you" to my email; I won't initiate contact again.

I hope your search is rewarding and fun.

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9/7/2010 3:31:27 PM

Back in the pool

My time in California was enjoyable from a kink perspective, good from a personal growth perspective; but shorter than I had ever expected. Life took and unexpected twist and sent me back to Minnesota. In many ways this is a good thing. I was born in California; a piece of my heart and soul is there and shall always remain so. "We'll always have San Francisco, Sacramento, Napa, Morgan Hill and a dozen other places I love to be..." Minnesota is special to me as well. The quality of life up here is very good and any time I travel, that point is reinforced. So this too is my home. Our kink community is just as strong as the one in the Bay-Area; but with its own customs, traditions and institutions. Interestingly enough while I was in SF I swear that I met the Doppelganger of several people I know in MN. Perhaps there are kinky archetypes or more than likely people are people and you find good ones all around if you know where to look.

I'm not exactly sure what happens from here. I've started going to munches and other functions. I've been back to CA to visit with my submissive, family and friends. I've settled into my townhouse and am looking forward to entertaining soon. I'm going to start setting up the play-space this week. It will be good to put up the St. Andrew's cross and other furniture. In time I hope to host a party or two and hang out with my kinky friends. It's good to be home.  


3/7/2010 12:33:21 PM
Advice from a Kinky Dating Class I recently attended a class on Kinky Dating. While I've been in the Real-Time or Face-to-Face community for about three years; I thought it would be a great idea to get new perspectives on the subject. To be sure, much of it was review; but several topics really resonated with me. Here are some highlights. Relationships are built. Dating comes before Relationships. Two different skill-sets are needed for Dating and relationships though they are often complementary. Know what you need in a relationship, know what you want in a relationship and know the difference between the two! Keep it simple: The more requirements you have; the fewer people will match; decreasing the odds of successfully meeting someone. Know what you want or what you boundaries are in terms of physical intimacy: On a scale of 1-5: 1-Standing in an elevator with strangers, 3-Hugging a friend, 5-Sexual intercourse. Know what you want or what you boundaries are in terms of emotional intimacy: On a scale of 1-5: 1-Superficial Interaction like chatting with the Grocery store Cashier, 2-Office/neighborhood small-talk, 3-Honestly expressing ideas, values and opinions, 4-Honest expression of feelings, 5-Full intimate disclosure. See and be seen: Go to munches, workshops, discussion groups, demonstrations and open parties. The more people are familiar with you, the more opportunities you will have for introductions. To be sure there was much more talked about than this; but, the take-away for me was that achieving clarity about what one has to offer and what one wants are the first steps. Getting out and meeting people is the second. The second step is where the rubber meets the road; so to speak and offers the best path toward finding a suitable relationship.

2/23/2010 8:42:39 AM

Recently a friend asked me about how I expect a submissive to act under various  circumstances. Here are the answers:

In a scene: I expect the girl to be herself and to be present in the moment. I expect her to contribute energy to the scene. I expect her to follow instructions and I expect her to allow herself to respond as her body and mind tell her. The scene should be a safe space for this kind of interaction. She is free to express her needs and can always safe-word if necessary.

Outside of a scene at a party: I'm a social butterfly and like to chat and mingle. I expect the girl to mingle and enjoy herself. I like it when she is attentive to my needs; but unless I specifically direct it, she need not serve me. She is free to touch me and show affection. Depending on the circumstances I may direct the girl to address me formally. In most cases I am OK with my girl playing with others and she is free to arrange her own scenes as long as there is some discussion with me in advance (for coordination purposes mostly).

At a kink friendly event: I expect my girl to behave similarly to the above except perhaps toned-down a bit. Formal forms of address are not required except as appropriate or to reinforce our connection with gentle humor.

When in private: The girl may use informal forms of address and she may touch me freely unless we are scening or she is being disciplined.

In general: I like it when a girl provides feedback and input. I don't believe that you can "Top from the bottom" simply by telling a person what you want or need. She is free to ask for anything she wants; I'll figure out if, how and when she will receive it. Doms and Tops get their energy from the interaction with their bottoms and subs. Both need to reinforce their roles from time to time; Tops need to be overtly toppy and subs need to be obviously submissive. This is a way to say; "I like what we are doing and want to continue".


11/10/2009 7:06:41 AM

Its been a long time since I posted to this blog. My kink has changed as well. In that time I've had a couple of short-term D/s relationships that really helped me grow as a Dominant and as a person.

My play-style has evolved as well. I've become more interested in Domestic discipline, Hairbrush spankings, Orgasm control and Hair pulling. Orgasm control is a way to connect with a submissive when you cannot be there in person. If she likes to masturbate, she must do so only with the Dominant's permission and under conditions he specifies. This method has worked quite well at reinforcing the D/s relationship.

I have also began giving punishment spankings and corrective spankings. These are different from play spankings because the emotion is quite different. Punishment spankings are never given for play infractions. A submissive is never forced into a position where they must accept a spanking for some made-up offence. They are given for serious violations of self discipline,  disobedience or inattention to detail. A punishment spanking is not a trivial thing to me. It is a time for the girl to focus her thoughts inward. It can be a cathartic experience. It always ends in atonement. She makes amends with herself and then with me. It is a tool to help her move on and move forward.

On a lighter note; I'm still doing two-whip single-tail scenes. Enjoy giving floggings, bondage etc. I've added Hair play to my list of passions. I recently had a scene where I propelled a girl deep into subspace by just pulling and stroking her hair. (Okay, there was some slapping and a little breath play too). I very much enjoy the impromptu scene; The good friend that comes up and asks for a flogging or whipping; being invited to help another with a complex scene. BDSM is many things to me; but it should also be fun. When was the last time you did a scene to Bob Marley Music?


12/24/2008 4:25:40 AM

Position Training.

A few weeks ago; my partner and I were pleased to have a wonderful submissive woman for a houseguest / slave. After she settled into her room; we began her instruction by teaching her several body positions. I had been researching body positions on the Internet and found many options including some especially nice ones from the Gorean practitioners. We decided that she should learn five and that we would go from there as time went on.

Position training is part of protocol training and so must be given formally. First the girl was instructed to remove her clothes and fold them neatly and then stand in the center of the room to receive her instructions:

1) The Standing position; Legs spread (slightly wider than shoulder width), back straight hands behind the head and elbows back (to square the posture and push out the breasts.
2) Punishment position: Starting with the standing position, Bend over and hold on to the ankles.
3) Kneeling position; Knees spread, back straight, palms face up, resting on thighs.
4) Whipping position; From the keeling position, bend forward and lay the head and shoulders on the floor, cross the arms above the head.
5) Inspection position; From the kneeling position; Lean forward raising the bottom (until the thigh bones are perpendicular to the floor) spreading the ankles and placing the shoulders and head on the floor. Reach through the knees to grasp the ankles.

As each position was taught; she was also shown some common variations. Finally, we concluded with an introduction to one of my favorite impact devices, the Oster sweat scraper (an equine grooming tool). The girl was ordered to assume the punishment position and then several blows administered to her bottom and thighs. The girl proved to be compliant, and eager to please and was a delight to my eyes as well with her several piercings. It was the begriming of a really fun weekend.


11/3/2008 7:16:28 AM
There she stood, resplendent in a deep purple, oriental dress with delicate embroidery. Too bad that it was going to be nothing but rags in the next few minutes. I walk up to her table and asked her why she did not call me... I pull her from her chair and push her arm up in to the small of her back as I push her toward the play-space. Once inside I toss her effortlessly over my shoulder and stride toward the hard point where she will soon hang to receive her punishment. Wrestling her to the ground I secure her wrists with the hemp rope and run the ends through the loop on the hard-point. Next some rough rope is used to secure her legs while I get my knife. I run the blade over her neck arms and shoulders... Soon the sharp blade finds the back of the dress and begins its smooth descent through the purple satin and suddenly her back is exposed. I take my time and run the blade up and down her spine. Next my eyes spy her black lace panties... no need for them; two quick cuts of the knife and they fall to the floor. I tell her she won't need them and that I have something more comfortable for her... Soon the rest of the dress falls away and I continue to slide the knife over the other exposed bits. I decided that the theme of this scene would be "scratchy" and so I made her some rope panties. As I passed the panties between her legs and tightened up the ends; she mentioned something about me being "evil" but I paid no attention and went about putting on an equally scratchy rope chest harness. Now that I had her complete attention (and could keep her from squirming because of the rough rope... I could re-focus my efforts on the knife. I ran the cold blade along her thighs and abdomen eliciting a shuddering response. I continued...

6/25/2008 3:28:38 AM

Unexpected Playtime

When opportunity knocks you have to take it. The youngest was staying overnight at a friends... S got home from work early and I was able to arrange to use SMT's dungeon for a few hours! The household chores complete, toy bags loaded into the car along with a small basket of snacks for afterwards. S had become progressively brattier as the afternoon wore on so an "attitude adjustment" before the ride to the dungeon was in order.

She was wearing a light leopard print dress and no bra. She followed me up the stairs to the bedroom and I closed the door behind us. Sitting on the bed I instructed her to lift the dress and lay across my lap. I slid the black panties down to reveal her ass and the lovely submissive tattoo. A few smacks from my open hand to add some color and then I ordered her to spread her legs. She's nervous now. I reach into the nightstand and pull out a surgical glove, some lube and a small butt-plug. I tell her that she had been bratty and that I wanted her attention focused. I apply some lubricant and insert a finger into her vulnerable anus. Next two fingers and a first attempt with the plug... No dice, she has not take a plug of this size before, A little more massaging and a third finger and we are ready to try again. Still a little challenging; but success this time.

The drive to the Dungeon went quickly along with a stop for a bottle of wine for after play. "Pink Truck" California blush wine... actually pretty nice. We arrive at the dungeon. I instruct S to remove her clothes and put on suspension cuffs and leg cuffs. Wrists clipped into a spreader bar and legs chained shoulder width apart we begin. I crank the handle of the winch until she is fully stretched out; but not on her toes. We start with a light flogging which becomes progressively heavier. Next come the single tails first one; then two at a time each stroke eliciting a soft gasp or somewhat louder yelp. She pleases me by taking this. I'm proud of her. She asks for the bar to be lowered a bit and I oblige. We finish this station with a round of Cat-o-nine tails. She asks for the butt-plug to be removed but I delay. Choosing to move her to the spanking bench.

Once strapped to the bench and cuffed into place I stop to admire her form. She is striking and so compliant. I choose a wooden dowel and begin to work on her backside. I enjoy watching the thin red lines grow on her ass. Next I pull out a thin cane and continue. The blows are heavier now and she is beginning to squirm. The occasional "Fuck!" escapes her lips... and then some smart remark; I love it when she becomes SAMey. I retrieve my sweat scraper and continue punishing her ass. Satisfied that she was pink and warm enough I finally removed the butt-plug.

I unstrap her from the bench and move her to the bed. Spying the large frame around the foot. I suspend her legs wide and then chain her wrists to the corners above her head. I know my host prefers that the bed's occupants be properly retrained (evil grin). S has earned a reward. I pull out the Magic wand and the lube and go to work on her lovely pussy. Soon she is humming along on the brink of orgasm; but for some reason can't get there. I set aside the wand and retrieve a fun little hand-shaped riding crop. I go to work on her lovely white thighs. The word "Fuck" passes her lips again and soon she is straining to close her legs to avoid the blows. I order to spread and finish administering the stimulation. This time the wand is more than effective and soon she is wrapped in the throws of a powerful orgasm.

She is spent. I cover her in a blanket and release her from her bonds. She is so lovely. I hug her and tell her how much she pleases me. After a time she dresses and we move to the couch to enjoy the cheese and wine we brought; winding down from our unexpected playtime.


5/5/2008 7:32:02 PM

Of Suspension and Single-tails

Radiant young girl - Flies inverted standing still - Whips cracking softly

     In a night full of cool scenes I was so pleased to get to do one myself.  This was my first full suspension scene as a Top. My friend SMT was kind enough to supply the gear and give me a few pointers in its use. The suspension boots are kind of tricky for a first timer, But I got them set up correctly and soon the girl was swept off her feet! Next I clipped her wrist suspension cuffs to a pair of dangling chains and the tie was complete. So there she was hanging with her feet shoulder width apart, arms at her sides, head about a foot off the floor, vulnerable.


     Next; from every side, hands... Touching, pinching and caressing every part of her. Spanking, Scratching followed by a well-placed vibrator came next. Then the whips, Sometimes two in one hand, sometimes one in each hand. Lines appear here and there. Its hard to hit a target like this, not like I practiced, so I must be very careful. Also there are bystanders so I have to be mindful of those behind me. I take a break and watch the others play with her. I've always got my eye on the rigging. I worry that the boots might slip; but they hold quite well.


     I ask the others to spin her around the other way so I can work in a larger space. Again out come the whips and I do a "Florentine". (Whips in each hand crossing one another in a figure-eight pattern). It works well; but I move on to something else, not wanting to tempt the fates. Someone suggests a heavy flogger and I produce my Cat-O-Nine-Tails. I gave her a good warm-up and then some nice heavy blows from the knotted leather. My friend LC suggests that it might be time to bring her down. The timing was perfect and our intrepid flyer comes gently to earth basking in the glow of a stimulating scene and to the kind ministrations of her former tormentors.

     All-in-all, this scene had the qualities of being just-right. Sure, hindsight tells me that I could have done more. More bondage for certain. More stimulation, maybe.  I know that I need to do more whip work so that I am confident around targets that are not in the usual standing positions. I know that I want to do scenes like this again.


3/5/2008 11:07:15 PM

I also like to top...

I've been wanting to do this scene for some time. The goal was simple. Tie her down and give her orgasms until she was exhausted. Like many things in life, this did not go exactly as planned... in fact it was hardly planned at all; the opportunity just presented itself.

It's early in the morning, we are awake and cuddling in bed. "Do you want to play?, I asked." "Won't we wake the others? she replied, and wear out our welcome?" "Everyone here is kinky, I whispered, they'll understand" We make our way to the family room. Strewn on the floor were clothes and toys from the party the night before. I lay a towel and pillow on the wide ottoman. "You should go get a blanket, It's a little cool down here. I light a few candles and turn out the lights while waiting for her to return.

I had her lay down on the ottoman legs spread to the corners and head on the pillow. This position will work. I had her sit up and began the tying. First I took a long length of rope, found the center, doubled it over and then tied a knot about 18 inches away from the bight forming a loop. I dropped the loop over her head so the knot rested at the back of her neck and the bottom of the loop fell between her breasts. Some minor adjustments to the knot and I was able to pass the ends of the ropes under her arms then under her breasts and through the loop forming the underside of a rope bra. Another set of wraps around the body under the breasts and then a couple of wraps around the top of the breasts but looped through the cleavage. I finished with a surgeon's knot in the center of her back leaving me with long tails to be used in the next step.

I have her lay back and ask if she is comfortable and to make sure that the knots are not putting pressure on anything. She says she is OK, so I continue. I pass the ends of the rope around and under the ottoman to the opposite side where I tie a loose bowline around each elbow. I cover her in the blanket. Next I secure a slightly loose "bowline on a bight" to each ankle and tie these to the legs of the ottoman. The wrists are similarly secured to the ottoman. Finally, I take a length of rope and tie it to the lines around her elbows and tie it so there is a slight tension between her elbows and wrists. "Move around a bit, I tell her, see if it's secure" A bit of movement and the resigned look on her face said it all. She wasn't going anywhere.

I blindfold her and remove, the blanket, and then began to play with her breasts. The rope bra was not tight at all by did a marvelous job of supporting the breasts, keeping the nipples right on top; I pinched them, she groaned. I caressed her tummy and made my way slowly to her thighs, then slapped them lightly a few times. Next I got some lubricant and massaged it onto her vulva and clitoris. I took the "Magic Wand" vibrator, put some lubricant on the head and flipped the switch to the slow position. I started making small circular movements and then figure-eights. With each twist of my wrist I could see her excitement growing. I began to work the head of the vibrator back and forth, This seemed particularly pleasing so I kept it up. soon she was twisting and moaning and trying to keep from squealing... I just kept up the pressure. Soon her body shuddered with waves of energy from the first group of orgasms. The vibrator can be unpleasant if left too long after she comes, so I let it linger for an instant and then removed it. Silence falls over the room and I cover her in the blanket and begin kissing and caressing her.

Soon my mind starts to wander and my eyes survey the floor strewn with clothes and toys. Ah the fur-backed paddle. I remove the blanket and start to stroke her breasts with the fur. Pretty soon I flip the paddle over and give the right breast a firm smack; she gasps! Big on balance, I do the same to the left and then smack them a few more times but more lightly. I move to her thighs and do the same. I spy a flogger and pick it up. I drag the flogger over her body then begin with a few light strokes to her thighs. Next I move to her breasts again and give them a few light strokes. "How is that", I asked. "Is there a negative number for pain?", she replied. I see the Smart-Assed-Mascochist had arrived. That remark earned her a couple of hard blows of the flogger to the breasts. (She likes hard play on her breasts... I should work on that more). Next I begin to flog her thighs and pussy. Not satisfied with the result from the flogger, I slap her pussy and she begins to squirm. Time to do the vibrator again. She gasps as I apply the cold lubricant to her stinging pussy and then apply the vibrator. Almost instantly she begins writhing in rhythm with the moments of the tennis-ball size head of the vibrator. Soon after she is straining against the bonds, panting and enjoying the second round of orgasms.

The third time around was much the same as the first two with the exception of a couple water-kisses and having her please me with her mouth. After she came for the third time, I covered her and began to release her bonds. I started by untying the rope that held tension on her elbows. Then released each of the ropes tied to the ottoman legs. After removing the ropes from the limbs I had her sit up. I sat behind her and caressed her while I gently unwound the ropes from her body. Finally I had her remove the blindfold. We sat for a moment, embraced, and enjoyed each others company before heading back to bed.

When I had conceived of this scene in my mind, I was going to have her in a ring-gag. So she could not suppress her vocalizations. I may have also wanted to use some clothespins or clamps. Things to save for another day. In the end, I think that this scene also improved the level of trust between us.

 


3/3/2008 4:26:29 AM

Kinky Valentine's Day Party (Feb 9, 2008) ...But baby, its cold outside...

We love entertaining; It's so comforting to know that our guests are having a good time. By all accounts the party was a great success; We had 15 out of 23 who RSVP'd which was really good considering the nasty weather.

The most popular space was the wax play area which was home to three scenes. There were several others scenes of caning, flogging and spanking in the other rooms. Our house is pretty big and we spread the play areas all over five in all. It gives a sense of privacy but at the same time connectedness as well because the sounds coming from the living room and rec-room can be heard in the social area (kitchen).

One of the guests was kind enough to give us his spanking bench (he has a creative streak that causes him to build really nice stuff and then give to someone to make room for more projects). We passed on his last creation but decided to keep this one... in exchange for helping him on the next project.

The evening ended with the guests sampling wine and chocolates while sitting in a tight little cluster of like-minded humanity. Very warm and comfortable from my perspective. The group chemistry was really good; so we'll be looking to have as many of them as I can at the next party.


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 Age: 30
 Martinsville, West Virginia