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DreamMaste


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	I am just leaving a Full Time Real Life 24/7 D/s relationship. Unfortunately my sub was only in a Some Time Pretend Life 2/3 S/d relationship... she actually thought she had that choice. That choice got her kicked to the curb! There's just no taming that shrew! Anyway, obviously I am looking for a full time D/s relationship but not in the extreme sense. I am more interested in a woman who shows the same respect to me that I show to her . I dream about a life like an old sitcom... Donna Reed, Father Knows Best... even damn Lucy who constantly got into trouble but ALWAYS turned to her man to fix everything in the end. I like women who defer choices to me not because she fears me or because she feels incapable but because she has come to trust in my abilties to make the choice that will benefit us both... that comes in time and from the experience of being together. It can not be roleplayed! I like a woman to be a woman, not someone who needs to take charge over everything including deciding a good price for car repairs. I need a little girl who knows that my taking care of her does not mean that I am "controlling" her, it is simply my giving back to her for the way she takes care of me so well. As for the sexual side of D/s... I would no more expect you to jump right in than I would take a whip to the soft, tender skin of a sweet untouched novice. You can not enjoy the danger unless you have enough trust in me to limit your fears , you can not submit yourself totally if you feel that you need a "safe word" , you can not know the love I am giving you through my hand unless you know that you love me first. I miss believing that love and trust like this really exists. I lost that feeling a long time ago, long before I cast her free. I tried so long and so hard all for naught. Can you make me believe again? Are there any REAL women left in this world? I miss having a BabyGirl and I still dream of the life I thought I could have with her but never did. If any of this rings a bell inside you, drop me a line and tell me your story. Who knows what Dreams May Cum. PS. Since these topics did not appear on the latter pages I stopped back to add a few details which caused problems in my last relationship. If you contact me with the intention of beginning a romantic relationship you need to know that I have 2 basic requirements. First: You must have sex with the lights on. I will not tolerate you feeling poorly about your body when I am beside you. Second: Is a selfish point... I admit this is a rather unfair guideline but I have been around long enough to know that I can only be happy with a woman who CRAVES to give the man she loves oral and to do so often. If this is not something you ache to do, then I am not the man for you. Good Luck to you all!

3/18/2006 8:45:49 AM

UPDATE! Well all, it seems that I am again at that point where I have given up on all hopes of ever training my last little girl. We gave it our best shot but accepting less than what I want is not what D/s is all about in my mind... the odd thing is I never thought a sub would need to be dominant so much of the time! She took my love and my training and then rebelled once too often and I walked out once too many times to ever go back again.

Anyway, I am back to looking for a REAL sub! This time I am not going to let myself fall for some one and then get into D/s with her. This time I am looking for the D/s first and a relationship later. That way neither of us will feel bound to the relationship once we start to discover disillusions with each other.

NO MARRIED WOMEN PLEASE! I will not go through helping another girl get out of a marriage just to discover I was only a catalyst to her freedom and to find that even though she no longer has to deal with all those bad points she hated in her husband, she still returns to being the nagging housewife she had been within her marriage (even if only out of habit).

NO CHILDREN PLEASE! I don't mean you... I would REALLY like a YOUNG lady to treat like a little girl and to mold into a horny little slave. I mean your kids! If you have kids (actually I love kids) But if you have kids that will prevent us from being able to spend time alone, or who will overhear your moans and your screams, or who will prevent you from being able to leave the house for hours at a time... then you can not give me the attention I deserve.

NO DOMINANTS! This does MEAN YOU! If you have the need to maintain the illusion of a “vanilla” relationship in the outside world, whenever you try to push that demand… you are being the dominant!

If you can not allow members of your household to see you sitting at my knee because you can’t let them see that you are submissive, whenever you jump up from your position on the floor to safeguard your appearance… you are being dominant!

If you need to handle every little aspect of daily life but then will expect a man to go Dom on your ass in the bedroom that night… THEN YOU ARE A DOMINANT!

You can specify your needs and limits in the beginning and I will push your limits ever so slightly once the relationship grows but YOU CAN NOT SET THE RELATIONSHIP PARAMETERS AND THEN CHANGE THEM FROM DAY TO DAY!

So if you think you're up to a REAL 24/7 D/s lifestyle in the emotional sense... let's get to know each other and find a little time for play, after that we'll see.

8/26/2005 11:47:58 PM

I have not been to this site in quite some time because I have been trying to work things out with my sub. I came on today and if some of you saw me on line and you felt that I should have responded to you immediately while I was here... please know that the reason I did not respond to ANY mails had no reflection on the people who sent them.

I don't need to explain myself but it seems that I did offend at least one lady simply by not responding to her mail so...

Just because I popped onto a site to check a profile or two, it does not mean that I am ready to dismiss the effort my sub is currently making towards restoring and improving our relationship nor does it mean that I am going to get to know someone online and cause myself to feel as though I am betraying those efforts... nor does it mean that I am looking to converse with ladies as a way of keeping my options open while I re-consider my sub. I am not a player and would not want to hurt anyone down the line because I was being selfish in a moment while I was evaluating my current relationship.

To all of you who I did not get back to... please know that I am not around right now because I am considering giving my sub another chance and she is doing VERY well at all that I have been asking of her.

PS... but YES I will check out profiles from time to time just to admire the lovely ladies on this site.

7/6/2005 10:55:31 AM

Wow! Thank you to everyone who has responded!
To those asking about my weight entry… no of course I am not 999 lbs , but I am large and I don’t think weight should be an issue so I entered the max amount (obviously most of you realized that).
To the women who responded… I will try to get back to as many of you as possible, as soon as possible.
To the men who responded… Thanks but No Thanks I am straight and not considering anything else.