I am looking for a beta sub/slave to join my household.
"That which does not break us makes us stronger." - Friedrich Nietzsche
It is up to the Dom in a loving and trusting relationship to make the decisions, however He must earn the trust of the submissive. If a Dom was to expose a novice to extreme or hardcore play he runs the risk of frightening her and having her fear BDSM.
It is my opinion that if the Dom is gentle at fist, asking about her experiences and limits and proving to her He can be trusted then He can train her.
There is the right way to do something and the wrong way. The wrong way to make a horse take a saddle I feel is cruel and is called breaking the horse. Spurs are used to dig into the horse as a rider tries to hold on and wear the horse out thus breaking it's spirit.
The right way is to gentle the horse, feeding it and getting it used to your presence, the feel of the tack and saddle to win it's trust. This is a far more effective way in my opinion because the horse's spirit is still intact.
There are those women who wish to be slaves and those who choose to be submissive. A woman with her free will is much more attractive, she decides to submit to her Dom's will, she chooses her Dom she trusts her Dom and what he wants she is willing to give. Her limits become his to set (ex I am not into blood or scat). So when I ask a question I am trying to get to know and to understand where the woman is in her journey, where she wants to go, and how far I can take her. I hope this was clear.