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"When she's abandoned her moral center and teachings...when she's cast aside her facade of propriety and lady-like demeanor...when I have so corrupted this fragile thing and brought out a writhing, mewling, bucking, wanton whore for my enjoyment and pleasure...enticing from within this feral lioness... growling and scratching and biting... taking everything I dish out to her... at that moment she is never more beautiful to me." ~My favorite quote from Marquis de Sade~
I just arrived and will write more about me in the near future. Until then, here are more quotes that mirror my beliefs.
Pleasure does not exist without pain. Pain and pleasure are the same emotion. ~Marquis de Sade
Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself..... The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer--because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut. ~ Ayn Rand~
Submission can actually engender power: realizing that you have something to give, and that you are capable of mastering your own will to give it up the way your top wants it instead of the way you think S/He should want it, can inspire pride: not the false pride of an inflated ego, but the true pride that, like humility, comes from knowing the depths of your self. ~William Henkin~
And when he ran the blades over her she felt light as a feather, floating happily into that place where pain and pleasure walked hand in hand, fully clear and conscious and she looked out to the darkness that lay outside of their artificial day. All too soon it was gone, her vision dimming and her breaths evening as she found somewhere darker which centered around the golden light of her Master's voice as he spoke to her. ~Astrid Knowles~
"You know quite well, deep within you, that there is only a single magic, single power, a single salvation.... and that is called loving. Well then, love your suffering. Do not resist it. Do not flee from it. It is your aversion that hurts, nothing else." ~Hermann Hesse~
Right on the edge of fear is where trust could grow. ~Cherise Sinclair~
It's not about getting her to whimper with the whip, It's about getting her to crawl happily at a glance. ~Unknown~
Submission is not about being used, submission is about being of use. Submission is not about what is done to you, submission is about what you do for others. Strong men simply need women. This will never be understood by weak men. A strong man needs a woman at his feet, who is truly his. Anything else is less than his fulfillment. ~Unknown~
To have someone give you control of their body and mind, to be entrusted with the responsibility to take care of them, to have someone willing to suffer for you, to forsake pride to please you...what other gift in this world could possibly equate to that? And more importantly, what makes you worthy to receive it? ~Anonymous~
Food For Thought
A strong submissive... We've all read the phrase time and again and we nod in agreement. Submissives and slaves are / can be strong women, and strong women can be submissives and slaves. And nobody can deny. But what then is this mythical strong submissive? Let me bust a few myths of a different kind: a strong submissive is not someone who fights her Dom/Master for control or tries to renegotiate every step along the way. It also does not mean a woman in fancy lingerie and fuck-me heels, seducing her partner into doing what she wants. That is not submission. And women who begin by spelling out what they want instead of wondering what they can give? That is not strength. As for the woman who denies responsibility for her submission and seeks to have dominance imposed on her? No, that's not strength, that is asking for abuse. So wherein lies the strength in submission? Strength in submission means being willing to do battle with yourself and accepting the guidance and assistance of your Dom/Master in doing so. It means the strength to accept responsibility for your own actions, overcome convention and upbringing and the standards of society and fulfill the needs of a submissive soul. It means doing battle with fears and obstacles in the ultimate effort to find your truth under the guidance of another. Giving up resistance and letting the other decide where you travel next. Accepting responsibility for your choice and the consequences. Facing demons, abandoning pride, ego, dignity and showing the barest bones of your self to give to his pleasure. It means accepting that some things you are asked to do will go against every grain in your body and doing them anyway. Not balking at the first sign of something you may consider less pleasant, but accepting, nay savouring the challenge. But most of all, what takes strength is looking beyond the cliches, and getting down on your knees of your own free will. Exposing your body, heart and soul and allowing the other to take the lead in your most vulnerable state. That takes strength, and courage. And any Dom or Master worth his salt will be honored to see all that force voluntarily surrendered at his feet.
When a couple is involved in a power exchange relationship such as domination and submission, there is an assumption that the dominant partner is the one who is in control. After all, a submissive in a relationship is seeking a partner in which she can give her control up to...and a dominant is looking for a partner whom he may control.
This assumption, however, is misleading. The submissive is making decisions throughout the relationship. Her 1st decision is to actually enter into such a relationship with a person. She is not forced into the relationship. She makes a conscious decision based on the information she has given by the other person as to if the relationship will meet her needs.
The 2nd decision that the submissive makes is in regard to boundaries. In a good power exchange relationship, boundaries need to be discussed in the beginning. Both the dominant and the submissive have limits as to how far they will go in a relationship...certain areas in which they are not willing to explore. Some areas may be taboo, and the couple makes an agreement to not explore such areas. This could be anything from knife play to heavy bondage to sharing with other partners.
It is very important for a submissive to lay out her boundaries in the very beginning of the relationship. This way the dominant can make an informed decision as to if he wants to continue in the relationship. It is also important for the dominant to express his boundaries. If a dominant's favorite scene involves candle wax and the submissive has that listed as an absolute no-no in her book, then the relationship is will obviously not work.
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