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Allow me introduce myself.
After over a hal, and living in both Europe, and the Far East, and the personal owning of over twenty slaves/submissives/curious people, with as many seven at one time, to include a married couple; here is what I have come to believe.
Are we born into this lifestyle, do we grow into the lifestyle, or does our environment mold us?
I have had "submissives" who had a very heavy religious upbringing, and she can only enjoy sex if she is punished afterwards. I have had some who got turned on watching old Perils of Pauline episodes as she gets tied to the tracks. Others just get wet with the smell of leather. And for some, a hardware store is a very dangerous place. I knew Pauline Klaw, sister to Irving Klaw, the guy who discovered Betty Paige. She ran a warehouse for years that sold pictures from old movies where the heroine gets tied up. She did quite well up to her death. She told me that could find any "kink" in those old films, and was asked for many such photos. So there are plenty like us out there.
So, is there a "BDSM" gene? A "submissive" chromosome in our DNA? All I know is that these feelings have been traced back to Roman, and Greek times, and even further back. So it is not "an unnatural sex act".
Don't bother to ask "why am I like this"? Just enjoy the feelings. and if you don't enjoy it, then ask why, and find the "path", position, or kink that "floats your boat". Maybe you are that rare individual who just enjoys plain, old sweaty sex.
What ever it is, enjoy it, have fun, that's what it is all about. There is no mystical or mysterious "why?" it just is. The more you question, the less time there is to enjoy.
Once a submissive finds the right kind of Dominant man/woman..ie, a "Master", "Mistress", a "Trainer", or an "Owner"..they must decide on the rules that they will live by. Limits are set and when the collar is placed, (be it a training tool, or a symbol of submission) then the learning really begins..the sub learns to trust and obey..the Dom/Domme learns the limits and how far the sub is willing to stretch.
Punishment is only a training tool, never an end unto itself. The Dom/Domme must be able to stretch the sub's limits, a bit at a time, since in most cases the sub really doesn't know herself how far she can go, or what really makes her boat float.
The Dom/Domme and the sub are both in this for the pleasure. I have known some Dom/sub couple where sex is not a part of the equation. She gets off on the humiliation and degradation, and he gets off on having her obey and punishing her when she doesn't, and by the way, they are married. but not to each other.
We, boys and girls, are in this for two reasons: First, because there is something that drives us to dominate or submit. The other is for the pleasure that we derive from these actions.
Any one who demands.."no limits"..complete submission..or complete control over mind, body and soul, is either insane ( in which case, run don't walk to the nearest exit), or doesn't really have a clue as to what this is all about. (teenagers who have just read De Sade come to mind)
To "own" a person, to be totally responsible for her actions, her health, her well being is an awesome responsibility, and should not be taken lightly. To look into her eyes as she lays naked in a tattoo parlor while a stranger places your mark on her body is a most moving, and precious moment.
Experiment with the roles you have chosen. Is she only into pain?, or does she like the humiliation?, or does she just relish the control over her?
Set the rules for day to day living, what are her duties and responsibilities? What does she wear around the house ( my favorite "uniform" is heels, thigh highs (seamed in the back of course) man's white dress shirt, pressed with all but the bottom three buttons removed, and nothing else except her collar. A wrap around skirt is kept near the front door in case of an emergency.
Do you punish her for infractions every night, or do you keep a "tally" board and do it all on Friday or Saturday night? Each black mark indicates a stroke of the whip/crop/cane/belt/lash/hand on the chosen part of the body-ass, breasts, thighs, belly, p*y, soles of her feet? When I started out in this lifestyle, I would have given odds that the worst place to strike a female was her pussy. Turns out that the inside of the thighs are more sensitive on most of the females I have encountered. I guess John Norman was right.
If she pleases you in an extra ordinary way, a blue or green mark is put on the tally board as well. 3 "good" marks cancel out one black mark.
I have a card & dice game for doling out punishments if anyone is interested.
Then there is the reward side, if she is good and does all she is required to, do you reward her? How would she be rewarded? Do you tie her to the bed with blindfold, ear plugs, and insert vibrating butt plug and dildoes, with brand new extra strength batteries, then go watch reruns of MacGyver? (That man is a God, ten thousand uses of Duct Tape, and a Swiss Army knife!)
The vision of the man slapping a riding crop against his highly polished knee high leather boots, yelling "KNEEL B*" maybe the image some have of us, but that isn't us.
This is not a game..it is a way of life that has very heavy consequences... Remember, we are in this because we feel the need, and it feels ..good!
Sir Stephen,
Count Magnus de la Gardie
The Dragoncount
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Looking for a Mother/Daughter, or a pair of sisters, submissives. Aiming to photograph them to illustrate adult stories and to help as models of Gorean slave positions. |
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Age: 26 |
NJ,
New Jersey |
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