Folks Please note the Journal entry below this one is about the Movement here STATE Side and does NOT include the roots of the European or Asian Lifestyle nor does it Include Gorean roots that came about from a set of Books written in the 60's Later on.

 Where we came from, Are and Going.

Allright I will start off with the fact I am sure this will piss off more than a few Others in mass will ignore but just maybe and I do mean MAYBE a few might go wow I learned something.

What does HONOR and RESPECT have to do with the lifestyle.

Ok where we all started I get oh so tired of who started first so hear goes and some of this is very easy to follow. American version of the lifestyle I am not going deeper because the European and Asian lifestyle groups have kept track of thier histories mainly I would say because they are not quite as arrogant as to think they can not learn from history. At any rate the Start was at the end of WWII. There were a large number of soilders returning home angry and tired from the war. Angry because they after haveing been through what they had found themselves changed tired because they no longer seemed to fit in. Now before I hear someone in my head yell HA you mean Old Guard/ Original Houses. NO I mean BOTH One of or problems today between Gay and Straight lifestyle communities is the fuss of who started what who was first. They Both were the Veterans returning home were both Straight and Gay mixed. BOTH groups being used to a certain level of Protocol, Hierarchy, HONOR and RESPECT formed groups the Gay side of things today being called Old Guard and the Straight side of things being the Original Houses. Centering around both the military style they fit into and the very very TABOO things they had picked up while in Europe. They formed very secretive groups on both sides groups that you did not tell anyone about unless you wanted to be thrown out groups that you did not know of unless they approached you first. I once asked my Mentor why was such a need for secrecy something in my youth I did not understand when he replied to keep out the fakes (wannabes). So you see Honor and Respect something these veterans held high and close was a very LARGE part of the lifestyle. Oh on an off hand note to piss some more folks off MASTER was not a title you gave yourself it was a Title given by the group for repeated consistant actions and knowledge of the lifestyle and there was also one other title that held usually by only one in the group of Grand Master.

That brings us to Where we ARE today. Well the Old Guard and Houses pretty well total broke and went quite in the early part of the 80s. They saw what was comeing with the advent of the Internet and the leaks that try as they might had gotten out here and ther. They new that there was going to be an influx of individuals that would not hold to Protocol and Hierarchy that would not understand the reason for them. They were right for today we have all these little Munch groups that spring up here and there and within them you have little clics it is really really like watching a playground full of children. You either accept them and thier ways or you find yourself being either covertly or openly talked bad off. You either attend them or OH OH your not going to the local munch then shesh you must have something to hide you must be a bad Dom. Whats really funny is if you sit back and watch most of the Drama in the lifestyle springs forth from one munch group or another. Oh and in case your wondering NO I do not attend my local munch group seeems those that plan the meeting times pick days I am scheduled to work and therefore I do not go. Sorry but the ole job is more important to me it flat keeps me from going stir crazy when doing nothing but sitting at home. The Drama is usually over someone haveing a Power trip or gain more of it within the group. I once attended a munch group as a protector of a submissive that had never been to one. She wanted the experiance so so bad to see if she liked it and would enjoy herself at one. We arrived and I knew several of the folks there so I introduced her around. She started to mingle and was happy till about 30 min. later when she came to me in tears wanting to go home. Sorry but I told her not till she told me what happened. Well come to find out she had been respectful like I had instructed her and had refered to a Dom as Sir which set him off on a lecture to her on the fact that she had to call him Master. Hearing this and not knowing the Wannabe I was a bit miffed I get very protective over females just a bad habit. I walked up and said excuse me Sir but just who the F are you. He puffed his chest up and I am sorry I was a sniper in the army so puffing your chest at me does not Impress. He procedes to tell me how he is the Munch leader. I looked at him and said really and why did you chew this young lady up for might I ask. He explained that she had refered to him as Sir and not Master and that all had to call him Master. I looked up with a grin and said really and how much experiance in the lifestyle do you have pray tell. He smiles at me and explains he has 4 years online and 2 years real time. I laughed and said when you can talk about 20 years real time then he might have something to say to me till then he was nothing but a wannabe. I found out later that another friend one that I had Mentored had the same run in with the fella. Needless to say I was not welcome to return now go figure. Mind you I have not even touched on the fact that Hollywood for the most part makes us all out to be mass murders and serial killers 90% of the time. Or the fact that the influx of fakes and wannabes that are as I like to say Just squirrels trying to get a Nut is tearing us more and more apart and away from what we were.

That brings me to Where we are Going. Well to hell in a hand basket fast I would say. I hear more and More folks saying Honor and Respect has nothing to do with the lifestyle. I watch and see as Protocols on the simple side are ignored or tossed away. I watch as folks act like kids on a playground with no care as to what is to come. So yea Hell in a hand basket fast. Folks need to stop bickering and power tripping and come together. We need to educate to present and to represent what the true lifestyle is and get rid of the squirrels trying to get a nut folks. Or you can always just stick your head back into the sand and say what the hell.

Dom-Vs-Master

Those just entering the BDSM world will find the abundant
usage of both of these words by members of the online community.
This is primarily due to the rapid growth of access and the
restrained attainability of quality texts to correctly
interpret what these words mean within the community itself.
Up to a few years ago the BDSM world was a tightly closed and
almost secret society. Membership in this society was
kept totally private and hidden with significant effort.
Entree into the community was by referral and accompaniment
only. Protocols or rules of conduct were strict and strongly
enforced, not from some control standpoint but because
those rules emerged from bitterly hard lessons in survival.

A Dominant is a person with a dominant aspect in their personality.
A Master is a Dominant with significant real life BDSM experience.
They are not the same. It can be fairly said that all Masters
are Dominant. It cannot be said that all Dominant's
have earned the title of Master. The Dominant person will
range from lightly, moderately and heavily dominant.
They may desire to engage in a relationship, which is infrequent
and strictly limited by rules, boundaries and limitations.
These light Dominant's will generally have a very
limited desire to have a significant D/s relationship,
this is sometimes due to conflicting life events. There
is a second group of light Dominant's or persons with
a desire to control without the adequate understanding
or tools to do so. I sometimes call these people low level
Dominant's. Their range or sphere (their world) is
small, they can be somewhat narrow minded and may be subject to 'dominant
bursts', or uncontrolled violent outbursts. These
low level Dominant's are often abusive and are generally
bullies or victims of abuse as children. They may be full
of justifications for their 'actions' often
assigning 'blame' or directing by means of fear,
intimidation or threat of pain. They are often without
honor, courage and veracity as individuals and when encountered
in the BDSM world should be avoided or not sought out to be
in a relationship with.

The moderate Dominant is the most common Dominant and will
characteristically be interested in a 'relationship',
though often they may not desire a full time relationship
when they are fairly new to the community. They tend to have
a broader range and more committed style than the light
Dominant and the submissive will find them to be more stable.
They will tend to be decently educated, interested in their
outer world. They may tend to control through
a blending of thought and the accentuating of traditional
type disciplines. They are most likely to have 'sides',
wishing and desiring their submissive to 'sham'
in decision-making choices. The heavy Dominant can be
distinguished primarily by a clear, strong and compelling
desire to live in a 24/7 relationship with one submissive.
This Dominant will generally have been in the community
for a long time or be seasoned, will have explored the 'abundance'
of many D/s events, meetings, scenes and partners. They
can be more tolerant and stricter than any other Dominant.
A high percentage of heavy Dominant's will have spent
some portion of their BDSM life as a submissive, learning
from the inside. These Dominant's often allow few
limits and believe that their submissive must trust in
them to direct them in a safe, sane manner. They are generally
well rounded and quite stable. Holding to simple, firm
rules with a strong desire to maintain the health and Well-being
of their chosen mate. One of the most significant traits,
which identifies or distinguishes a member of this community,
is the basic 'desire to serve for the pleasure of another'.

This aspect trait is shown by both Dominant and submissive
though manifested in entirely different ways. When 'in
scene' the Dominant is 'serving' the needs
of the sub missive by giving and/or directing that sub missive
in a manner, which is pleasurable to the core being of the
submissive. In those terms the Dominant is the giver, the
sub missive the receiver. In a good or well-rounded relationship
this flows back and forth between both Dominant and sub
missive. The submissive is 'giving' obedience
and consent to the Dominant, the Dominant is 'giving'
direction and control to the sub missive. Additionally
you have those who go by the name of Top. This person is generally
an individual who enjoys scening from the Top position.
He may or may not have a strong dominant aspect.

Many Tops’ will openly indicate that they do not consider
themselves to be a Dominant; they generally have little
desire to be in a controlling position of another person's
life. Many see themselves in dual roles and may identify
themselves as switches, or having the ability to switch
from Top to bottom role. I also need to mention the Sadist
here. A Sadist may or may not be a Dominant, in much the same
way as a Top. Often a true Sadist will openly identify themselves
as a Sadist. They scene because the inflicting of pain upon
another being brings them pleasure. In many cases the Sadist
has no desire to live in a controlling position over another
person. Also the true Sadist is very attuned to 'scene
limits', they can and may be a stickler for very precise
identification of what is permissible and what is not.
In general terms they am not oriented toward 'serving
the pleasure' of the person they scene with though
often they are very skilled, very intelligent and very
careful. A Dominant may be sadistic and will often have
a strong sadistic side which allows them the ability or
range to interact with the sub missive in an intense sensory
stimulation way. A multiple partner Dominant can be any
of those above mentioned.

The individual's stability can best be judged by the
duration of those poly-relationships. Also there are
those that take on or desire to take on 'stables'
of submissives. In most cases this is a fantasy wish fulfillment
type of ego stroking. Functionally, the more people within
a relationship the harder it is to manage. It is quite difficult
to manage a single relationship Well; every division of
time, energy and focus reduces the overall quality to everyone.

THE MASTER

The Master is beyond the last level of the Dominant. They
are generally very experienced, often having lived as
a full time slave for up to several years as part of their
training. This title used to be given within the local communities
in a ceremonial way when the individual had earned this
title by the estimation of a majority consensus agreement
of the Dominant's within that local community. It
was considered to be a high honor and carried with it a measure
of instant respect by all those so encountering it. In addition
there is a further title of Grand Master. This title is awarded
even more rarely and should you encounter any individual
with this title, you should offer extreme respect and understand
that this title was awarded for demonstrable and long-term
consistent actions.

Sub-Vs-Slave

The difference between a submissive and a slave is not always clear cut and is often the subject of controversy within the lifestyle.  In general, a submissive maintains a certain distance from her Master and retains some freedoms and a slave gives her all as well as her freedoms to her Master.

This discussion is about what elements make a submissive or a slave.  They may not necessarily agree with what a person calls themselves.  Often one finds individuals that call themselves a slave, when a submissive would be a better title and sometimes one sees a person described as a submissive that is more akin to a slave.   I am not sure that the term Total Power Exchange (TPE) can be applied to a consensual slave.  In normal cases, it seems impossible to have a TPE in a real world non forced slavery relationship and it is unusual in forced slavery cases.  TPE seems to involve fantasy more than reality.  In a true TPE relationship, it would mean that any order a Dominant could think of would have to be obeyed by the slave without question.   For example, A Master could say, "I hate my neighbor, go get a gun and shoot him".

Like it or not in the real world there are restrictions on TPE.  Very often the following restrictions, what some would call ethical boundaries,  are a reality of a Master/slave relationship and are often documented in the slave contract.

The slave does not have to obey commands that:

a. conflict with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution of the slave

b. may cause extreme damage to slave's life, such as losing her job, causing family stress, etc

c. may cause permanent bodily harm to the slave

d. may cause psychological trauma to the slave, such as a rape scene for a slave that has been raped in the past

In my opinion, these restrictions placed on the authority of a Master do not weaken the Master/slave relationship, but reflect the reality of modern life.  This is not a new concept in slave ownership because in the past many societies that endorsed slavery had restrictions on how a slave could be treated by the owner.  One can look in the Bible to see examples of these restrictions.  In the 1850’s a famous case in Polk County, TN involved the prosecution of a Master that mistreated his slaves. So the concept of TPE is not necessarily realistic in the modern concept of consensual slavery or in forced slavery.

Today, slavery within the lifestyle has NO relationship to the forced slavery of the past.  Any slave can, if she chooses, execute her free will and leave the relationship, this is a reality.  Yes, the objective is to train the slave to where she emotionally needs her Master and is attached to him and her slavery to a point where leaving her Master is unthinkable, but many Master/slave relationships end.  Many end at the slave's request instead of the Master's request.   So, any discussion of slave vs. submissive must be within the framework of the above restrictions imposed by modern life.

A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will.  A slave initially makes a choice to obey her Master at all times and then submits to the will of her Master at all times.

A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.

In my opinion, a submissive retains freedom of choice and a slave gives her freedom of choice to her Master.  A submissive makes a choice to give her submission in a limited fashion, for a defined period of time and under certain conditions.  A submissive can have a long-term relationship with a Master, but still retains certain controls.  However, many are satisfied with casual role-play without any long-term goals.  Training may or may not be involved between a Dominant and a submissive.

A submissive often has a list of conditions, rules, and limits that a Dominant is required to agree to before entering a session or relationship.  These conditions, rules and limits usually define time, place and activity.  It is not unusual for a submissive to start the relationship with rules and limits and release some or all of them as trust, respect and love for her Master grows.   In fact, it’s a good practice when starting any new relationship. One should enter the relationship by giving only the amount of power that she feels safe in giving. The decision to become a slave should be postponed until both the Dominant and submissive know each other and trust each other.

A submissive can and often does role-play during an agreed to period of time with a Master. During this period the Master may have total control, then once the period is over, control returns to the submissive.  The Master only borrows control of the submissive and to the extent the submissive wishes and she controls her submission.

One definition of a slave vs. a submissive is based upon the focus of the submissive.  If the focus is on self then you are a submissive, if the focus is on your Master, then you are a slave.   I am not sure that this is a complete definition for each one, however it is one dividing line between the two.

Being a submissive does not always involve:

1) A long-term commitment

2) Devotion to a Master

3) Obedience

4) Focus on the needs and desires of a Master

Again, there is no need to rush into slavery.  One should start out as a submissive and get to know and trust her Master first.   slavery is not for all submissives.   If a submissive is unable or unwilling to accept slavery, for what ever reason, that is no great crime.   Each person has to determine their needs and focus within the lifestyle.

slavery calls for a higher level of commitment and of serving, obeying and pleasing than submission.   slavery is the complete commitment of a slave’s body, mind, soul, and spirit.   She submits to the will of her Master.   His choices become her choices.   Obedience is a major focus in her life.

A slave has made a "choice decision."  The "choice decision" she makes is to give her choices to her Master.   Consent and obedience are always assumed to be part of slavery.  Communication, mutual understanding and trust grow to the point to where it is no longer play but part of her life.  A slave is owned all the time by her Master regardless of time, place or activity.  She is owned by her Master when she is out of his presence.  Trust in her Master and surrender to him is the starting point to slavery.

slaves enter into this relationship of their own free will.  This is slavery by choice, not forced slavery.  She decides to give her freedoms to her Master.  She becomes a slave because she needs, desires and wants to serve, obey and please her Master at all times and in all ways, not because she is forced into slavery.  Of course, there will be times when a slave will be forced to do some things, but it will not be something that goes against who she is as a person.   Master’s often push limits and expand obedience in order to help a slave grow and increase her service to him.  slaves become accustom to obedience and find joy and peace in it.  A successful Master/slave relationship always involves happiness.

Being a slave means you are willing to be molded to fit her Master’s needs and to serve him.  A slave is re-socialized and re-educated by her Master to serve, obey and please him. Her attention is on his happiness.

A Master is responsible for the needs and happiness of a slave.  She gives him authority over her needs and happiness.  However, a slave is responsible to communicate those needs and feelings.  The limits of the Master become the limits of the slave.  This does not happen overnight, it is a process of growing into slavery.

A slave does NOT give up thinking and reasoning and become mindless.  This is the biggest misconception of slavery.  It is a false charge that has been leveled at slaves mostly by cyber-subs and part time players as self-justification for their lack of total commitment.   If a cyber-sub can make a slave look mindless then she can justify why she is better than a totally committed slave and supplies a reason why she calls herself a submissive.  She reasons that "Naturally a good Master would not want a mindless slave, they surely would want a thinking cyber-sub instead."  It’s a late addition to lifestyle thinking and only stated by some submissives.  Generally, well informed submissives that feel secure in the lifestyle don’t try to blast slaves.  It’s usually "wannabes."

One never hears a knowledgeable Master refer to a slave as mindless, because he knows better.  He also knows that she is more straightforward and much more useful than any cyber-sub.

Often a slave is given great responsibilities within the relationship. They are given a general framework of limits and direction and expected to act within them using their own resources and abilities.  A slave is often asked to express her thoughts on issues or problems, but realizes that the final decision is always her Master’s. The decision made by her Master becomes absolute for her.

Most slaves use their skills and talents within the Master/slave relationship to advance it and the wellbeing of their lifestyle.   Most Master’s encourage this.  Often Masters feel more at ease in using a slave to manage a project than they  would a submissive. Throughout history slaves have been given responsibilities that require thought, planning and decision making, there is no reason to discontinue this practice in modern times where there is consensual slavery instead of forced slavery. Consensual slavery involves devotion, caring and obedience, why not take advantage of these traits in a slave as well as her knowledge and skills.

As stated above, the word "doormat" is often used by wannabes and cyber-subs to describe slaves.   My definition of "doormat" would be that of  a person that is used by another person for their own benefit without regard for that persons feelings, growth, or well being.  A Master assumes responsibility for his slave’s body and well-being and is always concerned about the development and mental well being of his slave.  She is his property and he has no reason to destroy his property.   In fact,  he has a great interest in her development.  Percentage wise, who is more likely to be used as a "doormat", a slave or a submissive that has a casual meeting with a Dominant?

One often hears "A slave has NO voice in the relationship."   This is another misconception of slavery.  Often, a Master with common sense will seek the opinion of a slave before making a decision in many areas.  It’s impossible to find a slave that does not have more knowledge in some areas than does her Master.  In areas where she has experience, knowledge and training, it would be foolish for him not to seek her advice before reaching a decision.  In addition, it’s often better to bounce your ideas off someone else before reaching a final decision.  A good slave will welcome the chance to aid her Master by offering an intelligent opinion.  A slave has input into many of the decision making processes that are required in life, but the Master makes the final decision.

slavery is NOT an escape from life.   Past, present and future problems don’t magically disappear into the night never to be seen again.  For example, past credit card debts don’t disappear, but a Master may plan repayment and place his slave on a budget.  slavery is a completion of a slave’s natural feelings and needs, not an escape.

A slave enjoys submission and, over time, that submission becomes deep enough to elicit feelings of being owned or fully controlled by her Master.  Not all submissives become slaves, but all slaves are submissive.

slavery always requires a long-term commitment by the slave to her Master and she is owned at all times.  slavery always requires obedience.   A friend in response to reading a draft of this article stated in an email to me that she didn't know how many people start out as slaves, but in her opinion it is a process of "becoming a slave."  One starts as a submissive and over time grows into slavery.  I fully agree with this statement.

There appears to be no right or wrong way,  one can be a slave or submissive.  It depends on the needs and desires of the individuals involved.  Some Masters don't want a slave and some don't want a submissive.  In addition, depending on the personality of the person, some submissives will never be a slave and some slaves would never be happy as a submissive. It is a choice that one must make in their life.

I have been in the shadows for some time cut off from feelings shed of the desire to play. A wonderful creature has made me aware that even though I thought the beast was gone it was only asleep. Last night at work I had a few moments of a break and my thoughts wandered to the first time the beast made its self aware to me and I thought I would take a moment to tell everyone something I have told very very few.

It was a time of youth and my Mentor within the Lifestyle felt I was ready for my first true play in front of a group of folks. He informed me of the coming night and to be ready for a very different treat that he thought I would enjoy. He had molded me from a individual that knew and enjoyed bondage to a full fledged Dom. He Knew my desires for darker than normal play and he had a Treat that I would never forget according to him. Great Spirit he was right, through the week I had kept myself busy with anything and everything that could keep my mind off what was to come. I called him about the middle of the week to ask who I was to play with for as of yet I had no one of my own. He said not worry I have a unattached slave that is a delight for you to taste and that she was looking forward to the play.

The night arrived and I showed up two hours early as requested to get ready. I had played quite a bit but to say the least was nervous because other Doms would be watching and well I am sure all you Doms remember that first time you played to a audience. My mentor was right to say the least, the woman was brought in while I was having a small drink to calm me and she was simply put beautiful. She kneeled down at my feet and looked up into my eyes and smiled. She looked over at my mentor and said that she was ready when I was. My mentor informed me then that I did not have to worry about going easy with the flogger that I could press hard and that she would love it which left her grinning like a cat that had eaten the canary. She asked for permission to speak and I told her to she could. She looked me in the eyes again and stated that she had been told that I enjoyed seeing tears and that she wished to please me with them. About 20 min.s before time to play my heart and mind racing with thoughts we were taken to the play room by my mentor and a friend. Please take note here for the squeamish or easly offended this is where you should stop reading.Also note this was a time before aids brought a strong fear of edge play and even though I did not know it at the time but my mentors friend was a Doctor. I watched puzzled as she with the help of mentor and his friend made a cut on two of her fingers and about a half shot of her blood was dripped into a wine glass and set into a small fridge off to the side.

The lights lowered a bit and I was told to enjoy. That I did, I love the senses. I smelled her neck and felt a slight tremble. I took her wrists into my hands and shackled her wrists and attached them to a chain hanging above her. I restrained her ankles and then walked around her as I tightened the chain stretching her up onto her toes. I walked around her again breathing in her sent deeply. I licked her neck and she tasted wonderful, I started to warm her with a light flogger that was there and as I walked around her and watched the flogger stick home our breathing became almost as one. Then I switched to a feather and spent some time watching her dance away as much as she could to stay away from it.

I walked over and picked up a heavy solid flogger and put it over my shoulder and reached down for my favorite gag a nice red ballgag. I placed the gag between her teeth and buckled it in place lifted the flogger from my shoulder and held it under her nose looked her deep in the eyes and whispered is this what you want my sweet. She moaned and gurgled through the gag yes Sir. I kissed her lightly on her forehead and began with short light strokes feeling her out. She began to moan after a few moments and spurred me into heavier strokes. I could smell her as if I was inside her. She started to drool through her gag and her moans had gotten deeper and stronger with each stroke to the point that there were red welts all over her legs, back and front torso. We were one and there was nothing else in the room but the two of us. I finally came to a stop right in front of her my shoulder afire from all the swinging I had done my breathing deep I could feel the blood coursing through my veins. She looked up almost grinning and gurgled through her gag thank you Sir this whore loves it. Call it my upbringing or just strange but I have never liked the word whore being used. I reached up with my hand and slapped her across the cheek hard. She moaned hard and looked at me as the tears started to flow from her eyes and she gurgled now. My Mentor walked over with the wine glass pouring wine into and and handing it to me. I heard him say drink and I did. Looking deep into her eyes I drank the wine mingled with her blood and felt the beast roar to the point that I thought I would be deaf. My mentor smiled and ushered everyone out turned to me and said enjoy the night Sir Dragon. I will in honor of her go no further with what happened that night between us.

All I can tell you is that night I discovered the Beast within me and have enjoyed that beast until I thought I had put him to rest. He again is awake thanks to this wonderful creature and I wait with great Patience for what might come.

Open your Mind and let me start your dark journey of discovery. Open your Heart and let me show you the true nature of love. Open your Soul and allow me to bind you to myself for eternity.

Lord William Master Draconis

I am a dominant. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all Submissives. Yet to you, I am Master/Mistress.

I am your Master/Mistress only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor.

You are a Submissive. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you. You are a Submissive and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts.

We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We compliment each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally Submissive. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong and proud in your Submissiveness. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a Dominant to stand strong and be a Dominant. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a Dominant. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you.

What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and the rarest gift a Submissive could give a Dominant. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind. I dominate you only because you have allowed it. I dominate only because you have allowed me to and when I see your body kneel before me, in my mind and heart you are raised above all other men/woman, and all the treasures of the earth. What you give freely can not in reality be bought.