These past few months I have had a craving that has needed to be addressed. I found myself irritable at times, short of temperament with my wife for not good reasons and a few times I had to take a deep breath and relax.

Most of the time I am a Daddy Dom-like dominant: nurturing, patient, understanding, accommodating. I take into consideration the needs of my wife or my sub, their desires and develop scenes that best suite the mood of the moment. I find this fulfilling to give pleasure to those I am with, providing a need that they have. But we all have different needs at different times and as a Dominant, I have a need sometimes to take control - absolute control. I want obedience - do what I say because I fucking say so moments.

My Lily is a submissive type, but a brat. She is absolutely adorable, love of my life, been married for nearly 17 years and I would not have her any other way than the special person she is. She finds it difficult to give over completely - to just fucking obey, lol. I have discussed this in the past with her and it usually comes to a little quarrel about her needs as well, etc. It is hard to change a dynamic that is so long established. We have our conceptions about each other, how we talk, treat and make love. We see each other as caring husband and loving wife - so how do you change to Dominating Sir and obedient little one?

Recently I have been on edge, the need increasing to have what I want and she could tell. So I sat down again and shared my needs with her, my desires. We came to an accommodation - one evening a week she would be mine, wholly, completely, without snark or hesitation and obey me (except shark week). Her focus would be on me, not her needs, but mine, and hopefully find pleasure and peace in doing so.

So with that agreed upon, this last Thursday, she would begin her experience, her training to be a SUB, not a brat, not a vanilla loving wife, but a submissive serving her husband, her Sir, eagerly and with love and lust. Of course I was open to her concerns and could tell if I was pushing too far - I can see it in her eyes, so with a bit of caution, especially on this first night, I was going to take it a bit slow.

I sent her an email about what I desired - it would be about elegant service and positive attitude, respectful in her responses, graceful in how she performed. I would not do anything harsh, there would be no floggings or paddling - her role was simple: beautiful, complete service. I told her I would be home at a precise time with dinner on the table and a pillow for her to kneel on beside me so I could feed her from my plate.

I described how she should present herself when I came home - nude with specific makeup - was told to her in detail. How she greeted me, presented her collar, and other rituals would be enforced and focused upon. I made certain she understood my expectations and let her ask all the questions she wanted.

The day went quickly for me and I was more eager to go home than any Thursday night in recent memory, but I worked some OT and arrived at my home precisely when I said I would. She had all in order, had dinner ready and had presented her body as I desired.

Our evening started with the rituals that will become regular for us, I collared and leashed her, fed her from my plate as she knelt on the floor beside me, showed her delicate affections and all my attention as we talked a little about the day. From there, I took her to the bedroom to use her. I could tell she was getting into it a lot faster than usual and was much more pliable and willing - perhaps our rituals served as the foreplay she desires so much.

My lovely little one was fucked hard and we were both satiated from the experience. She was then cuddled and cleaned and then sent to clean dishes. We both went to bed very happy that night.

We will continue this every week, exploring, learning and I could not be happier! My little one made her Sir very happy and we are excited to start this new little step in our experience and relationship.

I would love to hear from other couples if they have had similar situations and their experiences.