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Dom/Switch Couple, 53/48,  San Jose, California
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 5' 8"

 190 lbs



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 5' 3"

 140 lbs



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I see the Journal feature of this site disappeared.

So, I wonder how the pandemic will affect kinksters on Collarspace. Will a bunch of displaced workers, unable to pay rent, sick of sheltering in place with current roommates or family suddenly be more desperate to find partners? Given the ratio of fakes and frauds to real folks on this site, would any such change be more than a blip?

I guess well see.

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Journal Entries:
10/2/2017 4:25:47 PM
Where she's concerned, I have a soft spot in my heart ...
... and feel some hardness south of

(Just a stray thought I expressed to my wife about a friend of ours).


12/29/2012 3:05:48 AM

If you're chatting with someone from here over IM (perhaps because you got their Yahoo IM s/n from their profile here, but even if they've included it in a message to you) ... one very simple and quick way to sort out the scammers from someone you might want to talk with ... just ask "her" to read your profile and explain why "she" wants to talk with you over all the others who are responding to "her" profile.

It's simple and surprisingly effective.  For some reason the Nigerians, Ghanaians, and other scammers and spammers here seem to be incapable of doing something as simple as reading your profile and saying anything about it.


When someone hits me up on Yahoo, claiming to be from CM and asks me "where are you?" or any other a/s/l BS ... I simply tell them to go read this profile here.  Try it.

(Sure, some of they may eventually figure out that they have to put a little effort into the game ... but it'll still probably be over 95% effective for the foreseeable future).



11/6/2012 10:41:27 PM

Omo oro

I think I've learned a new phrase in Swahili today.  A certain party here, who shall of course remain nameless due to the CM ToS, was trying to scam me for a $150 "moneypak" (basic Nigerian slave scam).  I played along for a bit and when I'd toyed with "her" (it) long enough I pointed out the obvious tells (praising the technique for weeding out those mugu who aren't quite dumb and desperate enough by using a poor quality JPEG image, and a pattern of bad grammar which is characteristically foreign (and seems to be distinct to those from Northwestern Africa).

Last I heard from "her" was "omo oro."

Searching for that in Google I found some lyrics to a song, and pasting a whole line of that into Google Translate with "Language Autodetect" set I get back a plausible translation for the whole line in which the words "omo oro" apparently translate to something like "am in turmoil."

I'm guessing that, idiomatically, means something like "I'm fucked."  (In this case it as also "her" farewell.  Followed by a disconnect).
Perhaps Mitt Romney would like to learn that phrase for his concession speech. A little homage to the "Kenyan" in the White House?

(BTW: Congratulations, President Obama.  I'm glad we've prevailed against all that filthy lucre).


9/25/2012 11:36:50 PM

Another musing scammer foiled tonight.  "She" posts her phone number: 213-416-xxxx right in her profile (which, of course, I don't call, as it might be a trick to harass some poor schmuck who has never heard of CM).  When I write to "her" I get back a text message on my number from that same number.  Of course we can't talk voice (for unspecified reasons).  Calling just leads to a voice mail bot.  (I'm guessing it's a hacked or forgotten mailbox at some company somewhere ... used only for SMS/text messaging redirection or whatever).


After a little small talk "she" tells me that she's a model and wants to come visit me.  However, of course, she need to get "permission" from her "manager" (which, of course, costs some unspecified amount of money, to someone in the Phillippines).

How can anyone be ham-handed enough to fall for these?  It simply boggles the mind.

7/5/2012 2:21:34 AM

If this site were ever to add the rather obvious features (show my profile only to those who have indicated that they're looking for someone like me --- a couple in our case and show me only the profiles of people who have clicked on "Actively seeking" button(s) that match my profile ... if they set it up so that I didn't see any profiles for women who are "not interested in men" or "not interested in couples" ...


... well that would be easy.  (They're just different sides of the same coin, limiting who my profile is visible to --- gay men and dominants of any gender don't benefit from seeing my profile here --- and limiting which profiles I see (I don't need to see profiles for women who are not interested in men, not interested in couples, or just not looking for a dominant for any other reason).


It would also mean that practically no real profiles show up.  Only the scammers would show up for most men looking here.


(Of course getting rid of the spammers would also be relatively easy.  That would make about 90% of the female profiles disappear).


Sigh.  They'll never add features like those.  It would severely cut into their ad revenues.

Remember folks, you are not collarme's customers.  You are their product.  Their customers are the advertisers.  Every time one of you successfully finds what you're looking for (by way of a real-life playmate, slave, master, submissive, dominant, etc) then they lose a set of revenue generating eyeballs --- at least for a time.




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