Thank you for taking a minute or two to get to know more about me. It is important to me that you read my profile before contacting me.

My Story

I came to kink and PERs later in life. Years ago, I didn't know that PERs (Power Exchange Relationships) actually existed. That was in the dark days before the internet when you truly had to know someone...who knew a guy...who knew someone, etc

Since then, I had the good fortune to find exactly what I have always longed for - someone strong enough, trusted enough, and respected enough that I could willingly submit, handing over authority and control. It was SO much more than I ever imagined. The depth of intimacy was intoxicating. Submission is something that feeds my soul in a way nothing else does. As it turned out, that relationship did not go the distance, but I learned a lot from it.

Being of service is important to me - since I don't currently have a person to serve, I serve the local community.

People have different reasons to get into BDSM and different things they want out of it. My reasons are roughly:

• 60% PowerAuthority Exchange (submission)
• 30% Kinky Play (rope, impact, etc), and
• 10% sex (generally as a part of submission or scene)

The right person will find my sense of humor charmingly bratty (I am an expert in smartassery). I have been told that I have the vocabulary of a well-educated sailor. I am very much a hands-on project. I am mildly ND (neuro-divergent) and have ADHD - both of which I have learned to use to my favor. I am also mobility impaired. If you can't tell, I am pretty straightforward and believe sugar coating is best left to bakeries.

My Connections

• I am happily married to Mr Vanilla - Our relationship allows for ENM
• I am looking for a PEx relationship with a Dom/Master
• I am blessed to have found a wonderful companion (poly) on my journey for the Little me 😺
• I am open to play partners (nonsexual)

To a potential D-type: The roles of Gabrielle, Yar, and Troi call to me, each for their own reasons. (Yes, I am both old and a nerd.) Find me at the place where those three intersect. I strive to be as transparent as possible and freely share my vulnerability. I generally can communicate my needs and desires (and know the difference between the two). I am realistic about my flaws and weaknesses. A Service CV is available after we meet in person. If you contact me, please mention the word pumpkin so I know you actually read my profile :)

🚫 No: HU, NSA, FWB, LDR No response if age < 45

Vanilla Top 5 lists

Making a list of your favorite anything is a challenge. In my case, I asked the question: if I could only have 5 ____ for the rest of my life, to the exclusion of all others, what do I not want to live without? In part, these lists also reflect a breadth of interests

Top 5 Movies: Rashomon, The Holiday, Charade, Soul, Quiet Man

Top 5 Authors: Heinlein, Asimov, Lexi Blake, JD Robb. Grisham

Top 5 TV: Discovery, NatGeo, true crime, HGTV, Biography

Top 5 Musicians: CSN, Eagles, Buffet, Freddie Jackson, Melissa Ethridge