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A Mission or a Need?
I remember reading somewhere; I think it was in a book about time management. That there are only two problems in life:

“You know what you want and you don’t know how to get it; or you don’t know what you want.”

I remember something about the author proposing only two possible solutions, but discussing them here would be considered boring.

Let me say I don’t really understand what I want and I don’t know how to get. Let me elaborate. For some time now I’ve been having all sorts of sexual fantasies both dominate and submissive, ranging from simple once; such as been caught masturbating by an unknown female and more complex plots, involving blackmail and rape.  Let me say now that I don’t believe every fantasy should be acted out, but!

I have a deep need to investigate these feelings, so my goal(s) is to chat make friends with both experienced and inexperienced people, like minded and to find a female partner, may She’ll understand these feelings better than me. I believe life’s too short to procrastinate for too long so this is the first step in finding out what I need and how to get it.

A little about me:

I’m young at heart, love and enjoy life although I try not to take it too seriously. I like to think that I’m smart but there are times. Reminds me of that quote:

“See the happy moron, He doesn’t give a damn. I wish I were a moron- My God, perhaps I am!”

I respect and love women love being around them. I try to look after myself mind and body. Depending on your perspective I’ve been lucky or unlucky enough to travel for a large portion of my working life, living for the moment. I say unlucky because moving from place to place makes it difficult for relationships of all types and even trickier to make a home. On the plus side I’ve worked in a lot of different cities and countries spanning diverse cultures. Work has played a large part in my life and I’ve enjoyed every minute of it.

I’d be interested in hearing from like minded people especially if you’re living in the Netherlands but that doesn't really matter.

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9/13/2009 3:48:16 PM
I find this collarme site soul destroying; do you?

Is this the right site?  Is this a site for people looking for long term meaningful relationships or just a place to advertise or solicit sex? (I’d love some feedback) Should I subscribe to a vanilla dating site?

I'm asking myself these questions because my experience on here so far has been frustrating you might even say soul destroying.  It's understandable that people are looking for different things but why can't they be truthful and clear about their goals. I'm sure there's a large number of people whose behaviour is not within the ethos of this site.


I don't have much respect for the human race our nature is inherently floored even the bible says we need saving.

It's sad, there's a general feeling of mistrust on here and unfortunately it is a reflection from our society as a whole. This suspicion of everyone is growing every day, we're becoming more and more frighten and dare I say paranoid. For examples of this you don't have to look too far. In the UK the government is now purposing the introduction a vetting scheme, this scheme says that


"Under the vetting and Barring Scheme anyone taking part in activities involving 'frequent' or 'intensive' contact with children or vulnerable adults must register with the Home Office's Independent Safeguarding Authority"*


The governments assuming that everyone's morally corrupt, since the statistics regarding abused in such situation are very very low, I find this proposal odd. The only conclusion is that the government believes that human nature on a whole is depraved. It's better to be safe than sorry I hear you saying especially when it concerns our children; I cannot really argue with that, I'd have to agree! Although, I think there’s a big BUT, the message that society is being given  is, do not to trust your neighbour, friends and be suspicious of everyone. I cannot help but believe this message is socially destructive. Worse still, this message and messages like it in the longer term are likely to be even more damaging to our children and society.

This also got be thinking, what if it's discovered that you have a profile on a site like collarme, will it be seen as morally wrong.  Maybe it could even be a reason that you could fail the vetting process.

My thought have gotten a little of topic here but I don’t apologist.
(smiles)
 
* BBC News -  http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/8251143.stm

9/1/2009 6:54:07 AM
I like to think of myself as young at heart, albeit in my mid-forties.  Leaving aside the realisation of being mortal the dying bit, it’s not my age that bothers me, it’s other people’s perception and by that I guess I mean women.  I’ve just realised if I was reading someone blog that started this way I’d think they were having a mid-life crisis. Maybe I am?
 
I’ve never been married and although I’ve always had long-term relationships and in my heart been true to one woman at times my brain and other parts have had different ideas.  Like most men I love my penis, the thought of not waking up in the morning with an erection scares me more than dying.  Although that said I’ve learnt maybe late in life that the biggest and best sex organ is the brain.
 
I guess if you’re reading this then sex plays an important part in your life too else why be looking on Collerme, you’d be on some other vanilla dating-site not here.

I was reading a blog posted by a woman in her late 30’s, she was complaining that men only fancy younger women, this got me thinking (I admit at a slight tangent).  Life, well relationship between the sexes is just one big dichotomy.  Boys do better in a mixed gender school whilst girls do better in an all girl school , sexually males are in their prime around 17 whilst females it’s around 30, We can only afford things in later life that we’d appreciated more when we were younger, I’m thinking of old guys in sport cars. Do men go for younger woman because they now appreciate and understand the female form better?   I don’t think it’s always solely about sex or should that be lust, its deeper in the psyche it more related to a quest for youth

Adding to the dichotomy list, we use our brains differently, men being more visual creatures, but that doesn’t mean we cannot use our brains.  I can hear some of you saying "yes"; but there’s not enough blood to drive both heads” I cannot refute that there’s some truth in that, after all we all human and both sexes have their faults.   But I ask the question what’s wrong with being visual, if we’re not rude and disrespectful, there can be both good and bad reasons/motives for the same action, most people are too quick to judge.
 

(Back on topic) Well I guess I’d have to place myself in the age group of men that this woman was probable referring to. Do I look at young girls? Yell yes. Do I fantasise about young girls? No.  My fantasies are more about situations than being with a particular person.  I will admit to dating younger girls, having long-term relationship (4years +) with girls more than 10 years younger. In general,  I like to look at younger females,  it can make you believe there is a god.  I don’t want sex with them let alone a relationship. I guess what I’m trying to say is that it's how we perceive ourselves that really matters. It’s the inside not the outside that matter, casually glances  and a little flirting is all part of a healthy fulfilled life.


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