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I am looking for a DomDaddy Dom... For local play only.. I dont entertain out of town men.. please dont waist my time or yours. Read the whole profile before contacting me

The rabbit hole, its always there. Always lurking around the dark corners of my everyday life. It doesnt just come out to play every now and then... Its the way Im hard wired..

For me, it isnt just about kinky sex and enhancing your sex life, its about a dynamic built between two people, one of whom happens to be Dominant and the other submissive.

I am cute, and sometimes inhibited, until helped along the path of depraved deviance. Drinkbtjis it will make you smaller. I am a bit of a masochists. And a professional by day, with an inner wild child begging to escape by night. I enjoy those who are intelligent, possess a sense of humor, have a firm hand yet balance it with patience and kindness.

I have a wicked sense of humor and love the same in friends.

Having been in the life style for over 20 (wow) years now, I am tuned to what I need. Sometimes I can be a downright pain in the ass...with that said, a solid butt swatting from a good and trusted friend is always welcome and often needed! (Endorphins are a great stress reliever! )

My ultimate dream Dom is someone who lets me be who I am and cherishes me for ME, yet recognizes that each connection is unique and wonderful. I am intellectual and find it difficult to submit unless he is stronger both mentally and physically. He should have the self-confidence to where the Im a Dom and the in your face attitude is not needed... lets think about it. If you cant control with a whisper, do you really have control?


Now if you managed to get to the bottom of my profile I will NOT respond to messages from people that are NEW on the site with NO profile ination.

I dont want the world to see me Cause I dont think that theyd understand When everythings made to be broken I just want you to know who I am Iris. by Goo Goo Dolls Cheers! Aislinne

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11/21/2017 6:11:50 AM
This one is going to be different. I can promise you that. But I can also promise that you won?t ever be uninspired or bored - this is the girl who will change you, she won?t ever take your shit, and you?ll be a better man because of it. She comes across as a paradoxical mix of outgoing but introverted, very social but seldom out. When you?re so used to not needing anyone, you know exactly who you are, and she?ll never fake anything because of it. This makes maintaining relationships a constant struggle for her. She?ll connect with many, and they?ll quickly feel comfortable with her, but it takes her a while to feel fully comfortable, so she can only take being around others incrementally. This might frustrate you. There seem to be so many walls to break down. Just when you start to feel like you?re figuring her out - you find another piece to the puzzle that throws everything off. Be patient. She?s this tough because she had to be. Something happened that taught her to never need anyone. Someone she needed left before she was done needing them. But none of this will spill out easily. She?s extremely uncomfortable with other people seeing her vulnerable or in pain. Her emotions and pain are hers, and this is what she?s used to. She?ll tell herself she doesn?t need you. She?ll make situations worse by trying to suppress her feelings about them. When you fall for the girl who?s used to not needing anyone, believe that she has more feelings and layers than she knows what to do with. Her instinct will be to try to compose herself. When she does open up to you, it?s everything. Being emotionally naked with someone is how she expresses her love. She?ll know exactly who she is and what she wants. When you?re used to not needing anyone, you do what you want, when you want, and without asking permission or informing anyone. She loves this part of her identity, but she secretly wants you to confront her. She?s hoping that sometimes, you?ll put your foot down, and challenge her stubborn ways. She?s strong, maybe even too strong for you at first. Don?t let this fool you. This is her outer shell. Her armor. She is so used to taking care of herself that it's going to be hard for her to let someone else in. It took a lot of work to get to where she is: Independent, taking no shit and being happy on her own. She's afraid to let you in because she's afraid of what will happen if you might leave.

11/17/2017 5:29:41 PM
Rule #1 Stop being a fucking asshat. The world doesn't owe you anything. Just because you sent a message, doesn't mean she has to friend you. Just because you're a Dom, doesn't mean someone you don't know should serve you. Just because you have rope, doesn't mean people want to be tied by you. If nobody wants to play, maybe that dish you're trying to shove in their face tastes like shit. The most desired dominants I know are contributors to their community, to the people that serve them, to their craft, and to their own character. Rule #2 Read You know those squiggly lines on a page that tries to communicate things to you. "Hey, what do you like?" You could have read their fetish list. Read the entire profile before asking dumb shit that's already typed out for you. You may catch important things like, contact my master first, or not looking for play partners, or owned and collared. This is elementary school shit you're missing and it makes you look incompetent. Rule #3 Friend DOES NOT = fucking Accepting your friend request doesn't mean she wants you to fuck her. Rule #4 Dick pics DOES NOT = fucking Sending her a shot of your penis doesn't mean you'll get to stick it in her. Rule #5 Sub, Little, Slut DOES NOT = your sub, little, slut She may love cock, unicorns, or domination, but that doesn't give you the right to do those things to her. She's NOT yours. She submits to who she chooses, she plays with who she wants, and she sure as hell fucks whatever dick she wants in her. It's something given to who she chooses, not demanded by some random person. Rule #6 Quantity of time DOES NOT = Quality of Domination Just because you've been a dom since the dinosaurs roamed the planet, does not mean she should be gushing waterfalls out of her pussy for you. The best doms I know don't throw a shit fit when a woman doesn't pay attention to them and they sure as hell never proclaim how domly they are. They don't need to tell anyone because you can feel it in their actions and how they carry themselves. Rule #7 Give a shit Pay attention to her as a person, you know, a human being that has feelings and thoughts. There is a deep and complex individual that deserves to be understood underneath that label/role next to their screen name. Don't just shove your dick in her face and assume that your penis is God's gift to all women. Rule #8 Learn and Practice The more things that you have in your dominance toolbox, the more you can tantalize the women around you. Get good at something, learn something new, refine your skills until you are so good that people line up to have you tease them. Trust me, they seriously make a line. Rule #9 Personalize Want to drive a woman wild? It's pretty simple...do things just for her. Flavor your dominance to her desires, build that all important trust. That way she can be deeply connected to the person that paves the way to live out her darkest fantasies. Rule #10 Follow Through It's a RELATIONSHIP. Don't just fuck her and leave her. Get to know her, let her get to know you. Grow, experiment, explore, and pay fucking attention. The more that a person trusts you, the more you can terrorize their world and the farther you can take them toward the edges of their fantasies. Why fuck someone once, when you can fuck them over and over again? Bonus #11 (omg a freebie) It takes TIME Honing your skills, developing relationships, building trust, growing yourself. All of that takes time and effort. It doesn't happen overnight, you can't demand it, it simply has to grow. Telling someone to serve you without putting in the time is like yelling at a seed because it isn't a tree yet. Water it, tend to it, nurture it. Your journey takes time and timing....and yes, sometimes it's a bitch.

8/14/2017 8:09:09 PM
UPDATE 8/13/17 💋💋 Newly diagnosed with Hashimoto's desease and lupus all related in some way with fibromyalgia.. no more Advil I can't tolerate the side affects . Its always there but, I didn't used to mention my pain. It used to be easy to hide and I find that's usually the best plan. I've lost 80 pounds and I am drug free, other than Tylenol on occasion but most everyday is a bad day. That choice is due to bad reactions to meds. The pain happens about five or six days a week and is terrible. When it strikes every movement is ungodly painful. Sometimes just lying down and being perfectly still makes me feel like I'm going to shatter. A few months ago I met a woman that asked me why my pain tolerance is so high when dealing with chronic pain. I laughed i don't think its all that high, sometimes it about takes me to my knees. She asked about what the appeal is in being spanked if i am in such pain all the time, I explained to her I hurt everyday. Almost every moment of everyday is painful. Those spankings... they are like my drugs. it takes me awhile to get warmed up at first I want to jump right out of my skin. But the spankings take some of that away because when I'm being spanked the right things hurt and it's a distraction from the real pain. Some random bits of me that are just going haywire and the spankings seem to be a welcome distraction. It actually works as a stress releaver from the real pain issue. It's almost like you can't feel two hurts at the same time. It's almost as if my body is old. I am not. It's so very annoying sometimes. It makes me sad, knowing that as I age it only gets worse. Being able to stand up for ten minutes doesn't necessarily mean that I can stand up for twenty minutes, or an hour. Just because I managed to stand up for thirty minutes yesterday doesn't mean that I can do the same today. With a lot of diseases you're either paralyzed, or you can move. With chronic pain it gets more confusing everyday. Finally I hope to be getting the medical attention needed to get some relief. Just in a nick of time. Lately the pain has been so sever. A dr has been prescribing several different medications in hopes of finding something that will provide relief. So far out of the 9 prescribed medications I have had some sort of reaction to each one, wether migraine or skin crawling so bad I want to peel my skin off. It can be like a yo-yo. I never know from day to day, how I am going to feel when I wake up. In most cases, I never know from minute to minute. That is one of the hardest and most frustrating components of chronic pain. From what I have been reading fibromyalgia seems to be the culprit but the dr said there is no test to determine diagnosis of fibromyalgia so now I am waiting for the approval of a MRI. This has been going on for several years but getting to an unbearable level most recently in the past few months. No official diagnosis yet. Hopefully soon... The pain causes stress, lack of sleep, poor diet, higher levels of depression... They all are triggers or warning signs that I'm going to have a day like that. Today, that's settling in. I'm praying it passes over night but chances are tomorrow morning I'll be crawling to the shower to try and soak out some of the stiffness. Having chronic pain means many things change, and a lot of them are invisible I appear normal at times, but when I move from the position I am in when we meet it is obvious something is terribly wrong. Please understand that being in pain doesn't mean I'm not still a human being. I have to spend most of my day in considerable pain and exhaustion, sometimes I may not seem like much fun to be with, but I'm still me, stuck inside this body. I still worry about work, my family, my friends, and I'd still like to hear you talk about yours, too. When you've got the flu, you probably feel miserable with it, but. I can't be miserable all the time. In fact, I work hard at not being miserable. So, if you're talking to me and I sound happy, it means I'm happy. that's all. It doesn't mean that I'm not in a lot of pain, or extremely tired, or that I'm getting better, or any of those things. If I look ok that's because I am doing a better job of coping. There I feel better finally putting that out there. MissB

6/13/2017 7:21:16 AM
Being alone is not scary, or bad, or a curse, or any other bullshit thing that people make it out to be. Being alone is also not lonely, unless you make it lonely. Being alone is better than settling for a bunch of shitty dates that make you feel horrible about yourself or waking up next to some dude who thinks your name is Whitney when it?s not even close. Being alone is the time you have to get comfortable with yourself and that time is so important. People get so stressed and worked up about being alone when there is no reason for it at all because being alone is as good or as bad as you make it. Be alone until you find someone who doesn?t just say they will show up but actually shows up and shows up excited to see you. Be alone until you find someone who doesn?t make endless excuses and actually wants to spend time with you doing the things you want to do. Be alone until you find someone who talks about you and who talks you up to their friends, or family, or coworkers, or the homeless dude on the street corner ? literally anyone. Be alone until you find someone who is proud as hell to show you off because anything less than that is bullshit Be alone until you find someone who can?t wait to see you but not in an overbearing pushy, controlling manner but in an ?I care about you? manner because yes, there is a difference between the two. And no, being with someone who controls you is not cool. Be alone until you find someone you actually want to spend your free time with not someone you?re convincing yourself you like or worse ? someone you have to convince to like you. Someone whose attention you have to beg for is not someone who is worth your time. If someone likes you, you will know otherwise it?s time to let them go and focus more on yourself. Be alone until you find someone who misses you when you?re not around, not someone who forgets you exist on the weekends unless they?re drunk and lonely. Be alone until you find someone who actually gives a shit about the way you feel. Not someone who says ?oh well, you?ll forgive me later? or just expects you to get over it. Be alone until you find someone who doesn?t ghost you or leave you hanging more often than not. Be alone until you find someone who is proud of you, who inspires you, who wants you to be better and wants to help you get there. Be alone until you find someone who erases your insecurities and makes you feel good in your own skin. Be alone until you find someone who puts you first and makes you feel like a priority because you don?t have time to be an option. Be alone until you find someone who actually gives a shit about you. So many people settle for mediocre relationships with lame ass people ? don?t be one of those people. Love is the one thing you should never, ever settle for. Until then ? be alone. You will thank yourself for doing so.

5/31/2017 9:50:36 PM
8 Things Us Women Are Tired of... 1. Not reading our damn profiles that we mostly meticulously put together. 2. Sending us copy pasted messages. You're not fooling anyone, even when you put our name into the blank spot you left to make it sound personal. 3. Sending obscenely lewd and presumptuous messages unsolicited. That goes for submissive and dominants alike. We don't fucking know you, stop throwing your fantasies in our faces. 4. Throwing a pity party or cursing us out when we turn you away impolitely or otherwise. We don't need a very pathetic and whiny apology nor do we deserve to be called a whore because we didn't fall for your pathetic attempt at earning (YES you have to earn it) attention. 5. Throwing your contact information to us outright with like no message? What is this? Tindr? I think not. 6. Thinking you're special when you are not. Take a look around. We know you only pay attention to users marked as female but take a gander at the successful and unsuccessful male profiles here on Collar Space or . You'll quickly notice that your 5 pictures of your penis, empty writing and about section, as well as vanilla and basic fetish section, is the equivalent to a cup (not even a cone) of the most bland vanilla frozen yogurt around. Most of us women get messages every day from y'all and we definitely don't need you. 7. Ignoring ALL of the Seeking groups specifically tailored to help you find people that meet your specifications and WANT your boring ass messages in their PM's. Seriously, stop with the copy paste and go to the group's. 8.We aren't your personal customer reps, learn to use the damn website like every other person does. Spend more than the bare minimum of time on this site looking at photos and learning how to find all the female users in your state. The people who need this most will not read this, but now I have a link to send them when I get their ridiculous messages in my inbox. Tired of this website being treated like Tindr by boring ass people. I know I do not speak for everyone but damn do I hear a majority of people complaining about these things.

4/30/2017 3:54:16 PM
if your not interesting quit looking at my profile. You should change your profile to say exactly what it is that you're looking for. Which I truly do believe is just yourself .

11/20/2016 4:55:43 PM
Someone said this to me today. I just want to put it out there. To make a point to a person I met this morning. I think there is also a flaw with thinking there is something wrong with hooking up. Every relationship I've ever been in has started with a hook up. I never once thought "oh this is going to be my partner for the rest of my life" even after 5 or 6 dates. A relationship has to evolve organically. If the same pressure were applied to friendships you would see how dysfunctional it sounds. "Oh I'm not going to meet this new person for coffee because she's not interested in finding a bff". I would be very suspicious of someone who said after the first date "we're going to be together forever" Why would anyone want to make a long term decision based one brief meeting.

11/13/2015 8:07:09 PM
A question was recently asked ... 'With such a great profile,... why am I still searching at this point?' I am sure many may think it is easy to find the right person here but for those of us who have been here awhile and have had a few relationships and meetings realize that it isn't. As for myself I have a very high sexual drive and interest in many different subjects. Some in which people would not approve of for themselves. I am comfortable with that part of my private life and the level in which I am at. I find the experience wonderful. My love and passion is for a Dominate male who is also at that level and is comfortable with himself. Inside he has felt it, needs and wants that experience. This is not easy to find. He needs a woman who knows how to love the slut, whore etc inside herself. I know I am a woman who knows how to love the Dominate who wants and needs that slut/whore for himself. My feelings, words and intentions are much higher than what those words mean to the ordinary society. Those words are meant for a deeper level of enticement and I am one who appreciates it. Maybe I am more comfortable with him than any other . It takes comfort to know and comfort to accept. It is difficult to find someone adult enough to be a good person and know how to enter what is considered by society... a bad place. But then again it is due to bad people that the experience receives bad press. I know we all go to these places in our minds and want to feel these things on the surface. I need a partner who I can mesh with perfectly in this sense. The comfort that I have established in myself is the comfort they have in them self. Once you have had this it is almost impossible to go backwards. So I find this to be my greatest challenge.

10/12/2015 6:52:15 PM
Do you want your submissive to feel owned? It's all about making them feel secure. Take ownership of them and create a dynamic so rich in love, structure, understanding and constant communication of expectations, that they'll feel so secure in the relationship, that sense of security and structure will spawn a tranquil feeling of being owned through a natural progression of the exchange of power that will be defined by you both. It'll be born out of that feeling of security that comforts and creates and sustains confidence. Without them feeling secure, they'll never feel owned. For someone to relinquish their power that extends outside of the play over to another, takes a leap of faith that one will only do if they feel secure. Not only in the person, but in the dynamic itself. All the other elements of the relationship will be cultivated through the unique exchange between the both of you. There are no ten steps because each dynamic needs are unique. You'll write each need together and when you both execute them while maintaining your specified roles, then the owned will truly meet their owner. If you want your submissive to feel owned, make them feel secure. In their submission, in your domiance and in the relationship itself..

7/26/2015 6:42:45 PM

We need rules. I get it. Oh. You want Him to give them to you, or at least an example... Sure. He can do that. I meanThere's always rules, right? I mean that's just what you might expect Doms to do, right? They give us rules to follow. Structure. Something to strive for. It's inevitable, if it's not in your profile that you need rules, it's often casually tossed into the breeze with one of your first messages to us as we start to make playful banter and subtly size each other up.
 
So here ya go, here's my Daddy Dom's Rules:
 
2) Love yourself. All of you. Because I has opened my life up to you. I will love you, and I will love all of you. If you don't, then you won't properly allow me to. You are valuable, and I need you to believe me when I tell you that, so I need you to believe it yourself.
 
3) Believe in yourself. I will have confidence in you to be by your side, to push you just a bit further, because I know you can do it. Find the confidence within to stand proud and believe it too.       
 
4) Forgive yourself of past mistakes. You are not broken. You are not unworthy. It's OK to make mistakes. Handle them with grace, and learn what you can as you take the next step forward.
 
5) Remember that bad things that have happened to you, do not define you. Nobody has the power to take 'you' away from you, and I'm not going to let you convince yourself they did.
 
6) Know your limits. Your limits are not "whatever I want to do with you". Not yet anyway. I will help you discuss them if needed, but I will not dictate them for you. I don't want to push you past your limits until your ready, therefore, I need your help in determining where they are.
 
7) Value your own happiness. You can't expect to make me happy if you don't even value your own happiness. Sure, making me happy can and probably will be an important part that makes you happy in return - but ultimately you can make or break your own happiness, so you need to value it.
 
8) Have some goals. You are not a blob to mold as I see fit. You don't necessarily have to know all the steps from A to Z to reach your goals, but you do need to have some. I will help push you in the right direction, but I need to know which direction to push and how hard.
 
9) Recognize that this is not a game for me. I don't need to prove I'm powerful or better than anyone or prop my ego up. I am not here just for a power trip or to get my rocks off (well sometimes - that's a different context!). I will actually care about you immensely in our dynamic, and I'm not just playing with your emotions for shits and giggles. I might like being in control, but it's not because I need to feel better about myself by bossing someone around.
 
10) Understand that respect is earned. I don't need you to blindly respect me. I will earn it just fine thank you. Don't just give it away to anyone with a strong personality, they might not deserve it from you. Respect is valuable, treat it as such.
 
Not quite what you were expecting? Good. You might have noticed I skipped rule #1. That's cause rule #1 is never make assumptions. Communicate with Him. He might be pretty damn good at figuring me out, what I want, what I might need and adjusting... but He's not a mind reader and He wants to get it right, so yeah... talk to Him. He don't bite. Not hard. Well, maybe sometimes. When you need it.
 
Now that is out of the way we can work on building something good... and get to the "fun" rules as they are needed... but they need a good foundation to thrive from first., I suppose it's a part of what we do here.... I Love you Daddy.

4/10/2015 6:44:36 PM
He said "You are a delight to hang out with...a woman who can go from getting aroused sniffing belts in a Scottsdale store, to chasing butterflies at an exhibit, to lounging on a sex shop couch talkin toys, to taking whisky shots. And then back home matching my kink drive squirt for squirt...You're a special lil girl, and your Sir can't wait to see you :)"

2/4/2015 6:39:13 PM
Are you my Daddy? A Daddy Dom for me is a man who is mature, loving and caring. He sees himself as a caregiver, an alpha protector. He worships his little girl from above, not from below. He gets to know her so deeply that he can tell when she is good to herself and when she?s not. Then he steps in and corrects, puts up rules and regulations. Only when it?s good for his little girl.

He spoils her with love and affection and is never cheap with words or other proof of his affection. He is a true father figure. He likes to take care of others and find satisfaction in seeing his little girl blossom. He finds personal pleasure in making his little girl into the best person she can be.

He is a dominant which means that he takes charge in sexual situations as well as in situations of danger or need. He knows that spanking and other BDSM-related activities strengthen their bonds to each other and gives his little girl pleasure, comfort and other emotionally valuable results. He takes pleasure in seeing his little girl light up at his presence but also her dark glittering eyes as he controls her in bed.

A Daddy Dom is very proud of his little girl. Often she is a leader or strong career women outside of their relationship. But within the walls of their private space, she is his little girl. Free to be little as well as have sexual cravings without boundaries.

12/20/2014 7:21:29 AM
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12/19/2014 7:13:50 AM
I do not cam without first getting to know you a little, do not ask for my yahoo ID within the first three or so messages. If your profile is blank and your are new to the site I WILL NOT respond to your messages.

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MelindaObeys
 
 Age: 36
 Secaucus, New Jersey