I can't even begin to describe how much I despise chastity. Wait? I just did.

Okay, so let's just say that my best attempts at describing my loathing for chastity will be a far cry from how much exactly I truly hate the idea of not letting me get off.

I know, it might sound strange coming from a submissive guy. Aren't we all (submissive men) craving and begging to be locked up and denied long term or even castrated? Where did this come from? I'd love to know who is responsible for making this one of the most common kinks out there so I could give them a right good kick in the balls.

Let me be clear before I continue too far. When I say chastity, I mean long term sexual abstinence or very infrequent opportunities for orgasm. I am not talking about orgasm control or saying that I'm against a little tease and denial. It's just the ratio of tease and release should be somewhat balanced. I really think the lowest possible number I could find myself agreeing to would be one orgasm per week, but even that would be the extreme not the average. I am completely okay with having my orgasms under the control of you. I don't mind having to ask for permission, or being told what the circumstances or requirements will be. I am not saying that my getting off is what I think the focus of a D/s relationship should be. I just don't think that whether I'm allowed to ejaculate should be the price of admission.

I can understand why a dominant woman might like chastity. It involves suffering and sacrificing something to show your dedication to her desires. I get that part of it, and that is why I have agreed to it in the past. I've been told that having me on the brink of sexual torment at all times is immensely satisfying to some women. The problem is that this is not what typically happens with long term denial. It takes about four days before I've built up enough pressure to be in a state of almost constant arousal. It continues to escalate from there and then peaks around seven days. By the seventh day I am almost out of my mind with lust and desire. My testicles are double their normal size and they begin to ache fiercely. I am so horny at this point that almost anything turns me on and I see sex everywhere. After the seventh day the amount of pain begins to increase to the point where sexual arousal begins to be something I see not as pleasure but instead as pure torture. By the tenth day the pain is almost unbearable but I am starting to learn to not think of anything that will cause arousal. The pain ebbs a bit everyday from there until it all but vanishes about two weeks in. By the three week point my testicles have shrank to half their original size and I find it takes a lot more stimulation to get me aroused or to even keep me that way for long. Once I get to the one month point I am much more interested in reading books or anything else that allows me to spend a significant time alone. I could care less about serving the needs of someone else.

I'd like to have it almost the opposite way. Where are the forced orgasm type ladies out there? How many times do you think you can make me come in a day? I don't think that's any more of a ridiculous desire than wishing to be permanently denied but I never see someone (submale or femdom) looking for that.

I love being a male that loves, worships and adores women. I just wish I could find one who didn't require that I extinguish the engine that fuels that desire.   

I feel I have a lot give. I’m not submissive because I think that I have less talent or abilities than other people. I just realize that my best talents, and my strongest abilities, lie in areas of support rather than the lead. In fact I can be far more effective if my tasks are laid out for me, and expectations are assessed to them. I think too much, I am able to imagine too many possibilities, and I need someone, to help set and define which problems, or projects that I’ll be working on or concentrating on for the time being.